Lekani kudziimba mlandu – Nawa malangizo 7

Mumaona kuti simuchita mokwanira, kuti mumangochita mopambanitsa ” zopitilira muyeso ” kapena zimene simuchita “osakwanira” , kungakhale bwino kudzifunsa ngati simukudziimba mlandu pa zinthu zing’onozing’ono. Kudziona ngati wolakwa kaŵirikaŵiri ndi chizindikiro chakuti munthu samadziona ngati wosafunika. Koma mungadziwe bwanji ngati mumadziimba mlandu?

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Kodi mungaleke bwanji kudziimba mlandu nthawi zonse? 7 malangizo

Nawa malangizo 7 oti muchepetse kulakwa komwe mukumva:

1.   Vomerezani kulakwitsa kwanu:

Nthawi zambiri amanenedwa kuti aliyense amalakwitsa, koma ena a ife timadzimva kuti ndife olakwa kwa nthawi yaitali kuposa ena. Ndipo kudziimba mlandu kumeneku ndi kumene kumatidya kuchokera mkati ndi kutilepheretsa kuchita bwino. Chifukwa chake kusadzidalira. Phunzirani ku cholakwika ichi, chikhale ngati phunziro lamtsogolo, koma chisamangidwe. Zidzakhala zosavuta kwa inu kuti musadzachite cholakwika chomwecho m’tsogolomu.

2.   Kulakwitsa sikungapeweke:

Timakonda kuganizira zolakwa zathu, ndipo izi zimatilepheretsa kukhala osangalala ndi kupita patsogolo. Lolani kuti muchite tchimo nthawi ndi nthawi. Moyo padziko lapansi pano si wangwiro ndipo sudzakhalaponso. Koma muyenera kupirira, phunzirani pa kugwa kwanu ndi kupita patsogolo. Zimanenedwa kuti “Ndi mvula ndi dzuwa zomwe zimakulitsa zomera” , kutanthauza kuti kupanda ungwiro ndi kulakwa ndi mbali ya moyo.

3.   Dziyikeni patsogolo m’moyo:

Maganizo odabwitsawa omwe timakula pambuyo pa tsoka la ena amatilepheretsa kukhala osangalala. Kulakwa kumatitsatira kulikonse ndipo timayiwala kuti chofunika ndi chimene timamva. Iwalani kudzudzula, kuponderezedwa ndi omwe akuzungulirani ngati alipo, ndikudziganizira nokha. Yesetsani kukhala ndi mtundu wabwino kwambiri tsiku lililonse. Izi zimapewa kudzida.

4.   Aliyense ali ndi udindo wa chisangalalo chake:

Ndikofunikira kuti chisangalalo chanu chichepetse kuyesetsa komwe mumapanga kwa omwe akuzungulirani. Aliyense ali ndi udindo pa kukhazikika kwake, m’maganizo ndi m’maganizo. Mumakonda kutero mlandu pamene ena akukumana ndi mavuto. Dziwani kuti izi sizomwe mumayika patsogolo, chofunika ndi inu ndi chitukuko chanu.

5.   Letsani malingaliro osafunikira:

Zinthu zina zingatifooketse, timadziimba mlandu ndipo zimawononga mphamvu ndi nthawi yathu. Awa ndi malingaliro chabe, koma samawonetsa zenizeni..

Yang’anani pa zomwe zili zofunika, wongolerani malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino ndikudzimva kukhala wolakwa.

6.   Kondwererani kupita patsogolo kwanu:

Nthawi zambiri timaganizira zolakwa zathu, kulakwitsa kwathu komaliza, koma nthawi yomweyo, timachitanso zinthu zazikulu. Timapeza zopambana zazing’ono nthawi ndi nthawi, popanda ife kuzindikira. SO ganizirani zinthu zabwino zimene munachita Ndithu, lero Zikuchitira zabwino.

7.   Sinthani maganizo anuanu olakwa:

Kupewa kukhala wodziimba mlandu, onaninso tanthauzo lanu la kulakwa. Nthawi zina zinthu sizili bwino kukhala ndi malingaliro olakwika amenewo. 

Kodi tikudziwa bwanji kuti tili ndi mlandu?

M’pofunika kwambiri kuti mudziwe ngati mafunso a tsiku ndi tsiku amakuchititsani kuda nkhawa mpaka kufika podziimba mlandu.

Ngati mukukanthidwa ndi mafunso ngati “Ndikadachita bwino ngati …” , “Ndikadachita izi, zotsatira zake zikhala izi …” N’zosakayikitsa kuti mumadziimba mlandu. Inunso mukuganiza kuti inu “sindikuyenera bwino” kapena zosiyana, ndipo zimakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa.

Nkhawa ndiyo gwero lalikulu la liwongo, zimatilepheretsa kuwona bwino zolakwa zathu ndipo motero zimakhudza masomphenya athu. 

Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa manyazi ndi kudziimba mlandu?

“Njira imodzi yosiyanitsira maganizo aŵiriwa ndiyo kulemba zinthu zimene tinamva kukhala zoipa ndi kusiyanitsa zimene zimachitika chifukwa cha zochita zathu kapena kusachita kwathu kanthu ndi zimene zimadza chifukwa cha mmene anthu amationera komanso zimene zimatisokoneza,” akutero. akutero Yves-Alexandre Thalmann, katswiri wa zamaganizo.

Muyenera kudziwa kusiyanitsa manyazi chomwe ndi chiweruzo choperekedwa ndi iwo akuzinga kulakwa, zotsatira za zomwe mwachita kapena kusadziletsa kwanu pokhudzana ndi zenizeni. Lembani malingaliro anu a tsikulo ndikuyesera kuwalekanitsa kuti mudziwe zomwe mukumva ndikuwongolera mapazi anu.

N’chifukwa chiyani ndimangokhalira kudziimba mlandu?

Chifukwa choyamba ndi chakuti nthawi zina, timatengera zonse payekha, kuti mfundo zina ndi zipatso za zochita zathu. Aliyense chilango chimatipangitsa kumva kuti ndife olakwa. Kumvererako ndiye kumalowa m’maganizo mwathu ndipo kumasokoneza.

N’kuthekanso kuti tili nawo kusokonezeka pakati pa zomwe timafunikira komanso malingaliro athu. Mchitidwe womwe timawayenereza “kuchita cholakwika” angatikakamize kukayikira makhalidwe athu, okhazikika mwa ife kuyambira paubwana wathu.  

Kodi zolakwa zathu zimachokera kuti?

A priori, kumverera uku kumachokera ku ubwana wathu. Nthawi zambiri tinkaphunzitsidwa ndi mfundo zomwe, pambuyo pake, zidatsutsana ndi zomwe tikukhalamo. Makolo aulamuliro, zizolowezi ndi miyambo zachikale kungayambitse kudzimva wolakwa kosalekeza kumeneku.

Kusazindikirika ndi anthu otizungulira kungatipangitsenso kudziimba mlandu pa zochita zathu.

Kodi tingathe kuchiza kudzimva wolakwa kumeneku?

Yankho ndi lakuti inde. Aliyense amakumana ndi zochitika zake koma kumverera kumakhala kofanana. Chofunika ndi mmene timachitira ndi mmene tikumvera, kuti zisatilepheretse. Mukhoza mwamtheradi letsani zotsatira zobisika zakumverera uku kuwona zinthu momwe zilili, musayese kusintha kalikonse kuti musagwe m’chimo.

Polemba malingaliro anu a tsiku ndi tsiku, mudzadziwa zimenezo sungathe kuwongolera chilichonse, pangani zonse kukhala zangwiro. Zosayembekezereka zimatha kuchitika kwa aliyense ndipo kudziimba mlandu sikukhala ndi malo m’moyo wanu.

Sungani zabwino zomwe mudachita masana, mudzapumula.

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