Pangani Wopotoza Narcissistic kugwa m’chikondi – Kodi N’zotheka?

Ngati mutagwa m’manja mwa munthu wopotoza wamatsenga, simukuzindikira, koma ndithudi simudzatuluka osavulazidwa! Pn imakonda kunyozetsa ena kuti adzilemekeze. Kodi wopotoza wankhanza angathe kukukondani? Kodi mungamupangitse bwanji kuti azikondana? Mizere yotsatirayi ikuwonetsa izi.

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Kodi narcissistic angapotoze chikondi?

Amuna ndi omwe amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi matendawa. Munthu wopotoza ndi nsanje, amadziwa kunama mosavuta ndipo samadzifunsa yekha. Iye ali pamwamba pa zonse egocentric ndipo kawirikawiri amasonyeza maganizo ake. Ubale ndi munthu wamtunduwu ndi a ubale woopsa ndi zowononga. Ngati muli mumkhalidwe woterewu, mwina mungadzifunse ngati amakukondani kapena ngati ndi chinyengo chenicheni.

Muyenera kudziwa kuti wopotoza wankhanza sangathe kukonda wina aliyense kupatula iye mwini. Paubwenzi angamve kukondedwa, kulemekezedwa ngakhalenso kuyamikiridwa. Komabe, iye sangathenso kukonda bwino. Zowonadi, zosowa zanu nthawi zonse zimakhala zoyamba kuwononga thanzi lanu ndi ufulu wanu. Popeza samakuwonani ngati munthu, koma ngati chinthu, amakulamulirani ndikukulamulani kumusirira. Kukunyengererani kumamupangitsa kumva bwino ndipo, kudzera mwa inu, amadzikonda yekha.

Paubwenzi ndi munthu wopotoza wamatsenga: ubalewo umayenda bwanji?

Ubale ndi wopotoza wa narcissistic ndizovuta kwambiri kupirira tsiku ndi tsiku. Kumayambiriro kwa nkhani yanu, zonse ndi zokongola ndipo amakuyamikirani pa chirichonse. Koma zimawonongeka msanga ndi mikangano, kusinthana ndi mabodza omwe amapezeka mofulumira kwambiri. Paubwenzi, PN nthawi zonse imatsata njira yomweyo.

1. The idealization gawo

Panthawi imeneyi, amakugulitsani maloto ndipo amakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu apadera. Gawo ili ndilowopsa kwambiri, chifukwa wopotoza wamatsenga amakupangitsani kuti muzimukonda. Kenako amadziwonetsera yekha ngati chibwenzi chabwino. Amakuvumbitsani ndi chikondi, mphatso ndi chisamaliro chamtundu uliwonse. Panthawi imeneyi, zizindikiro za matenda ake zimayamba kuonekera, koma mumapereka zifukwa kwa iye.

2. Gawo lotsitsa

Zonse zomwe ananena kuti amakukondani mwadzidzidzi zimakhala zolakwika. Amakuchotserani ulemu ndipo amayesa kusokoneza kudzidalira kwanu. Amakupatulani kwa abale anu ndi anzanu kuti akuperekeni bwino. PN imatha kukhala yaukali komanso yachiwawa (chiwawa chakuthupi ndi psychological). Pamene akuwonjezera chikondi ku khalidwe lake, mumapitiriza kumuchitira zifukwa.

3. Gawo lokana

Gawo ili ndi limodzi mwa magawo ovuta kwambiri kwa munthu amene wazunzidwa chifukwa cha nkhanza. Mukasiya kuwapatsa chilichonse, adzakusiyani. Kenako mutha kuvutika maganizo kapena kukumana ndi vuto… nkhawa ndi nkhawa.

4. Gawo lotha

Ngati NP wa narcissistic wakukanani ndipo akumva kuti mwavutika mokwanira, akhoza kukusiyani nokha. Kumbali inayi, ngati munatha kusiya chibwenzi pagawo lachitatu, akhoza kuyesa kukubwezerani. Kuti athe kulamuliranso, PN sadzazengereza kulira kapena kukupemphani. Ino ndi nthawi yabwino yomupangitsa kugonja ku zithumwa zanu ndikumupangitsa kuti azikondana nanu.

Kupangitsa munthu wopotoza wamatsenga kugwa m’chikondi: magawo amasewera achikondi

Njira yabwino yopangira munthu wopotoza wankhanza kugwa m’chikondi ndikumuthawa. Kuti mukafike kumeneko, pali masitepe angapo oti muwatsatire.

1. Kupambana ndi kuchita bwino

Pambuyo pake kupasuka ndi PN, chitani chilichonse kuti mupambane pa chilichonse chomwe mumachita. Mutsimikizireni kuti muli bwino popanda iye. Panthawi imeneyi, pali mwayi woti ayambe kukuderani nkhawa.

2. Chotsani kuyanjana naye konse

Kuyimba mafoni, mauthenga, malo ochezera a pa Intaneti… pewani kukhudzana konse ndi anthu opotoza. Pofuna kumupangitsa kuti azikondana ndi inu, chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kupanga vacuum. Pochita izi, mumamuchotsa ku chidwi ndi chidwi chomwe amafunikira kuti amve bwino. Popeza amakopeka ndi zimene sangakhale nazo, ndithudi adzakhala chizolowezi kwa inu.

3. Pitani patsogolo

Pambuyo paubwenzi ndi munthu wopotoza wankhanza, bwererani ku moyo wanu. Amuna, makamaka onyenga, amakopeka ndi akazi amphamvu, odziimira okha komanso odzidalira. Kenako amakayikira luso lawo ndipo amatengeka nazo. Koma samalani, dziwani kuti kuyesa kuti munthu yemwe ali ndi matendawa ayambe kukondana ndi masewera owopsa.

Pokondana ndi munthu wopotoza wa narcissistic: momwe mungathanirane ndi vutoli?

Opotoza a Narcissistic nthawi zambiri amakhala amuna anzeru, achikoka komanso okongola. Ndiye zimakhala zosavuta kugwa pansi pa matsenga awo. Pakapita nthawi, mudzamva kuti msampha ukutsekereza inu ndipo aliyense wozungulira inu adzakuchenjezani za kuopsa kwa ubale wapoizoniwu.

Chitani kafukufuku wanu

Khalani ndi nthawi yodzifunsa ngati sikuli bwino kuti mukhale nokha. Ganizirani ubwino ndi kuipa kwa kukhala paubwenzi ndi munthu wonyenga. Kodi zimene mwalandira n’zofunika kwambiri?

Khalani owona mtima nokha

Lembani mndandanda wa zomwe mumakonda ndi zomwe simukonda za mnzanuyo. Kodi zabwino zimaposa zoyipa? Kodi mungalole makhalidwe amene simukuwakonda ndi kukuwonongani?

Mvetserani

Muubwenzi wanu, mumakhutitsidwa nthawi zambiri? Kapena mumakonda kudandaula kwa omwe akuzungulirani? Khalani ndi nthawi yomvetsera ndikuwunika momwe mukumvera pa ubale wanu. Izi zimakupatsani mwayi wofotokozera ngati kulidi koyenera kapena ayi.

Kunena zoona

Muziona zinthu moyenera poganizira za ubwenzi wanu. Nthawi zonse muzikumbukira kuti muli paubwenzi ndi wopotoza wamatsenga. Muyenera kusintha zoyembekeza zanu potengera umunthu wawo.

Ndi zoopsa zotani zopangitsa munthu wopotoza wankhanza kugwa m’chikondi?

Kupangitsa munthu wonyenga kuti ayambe kukondana kumabweretsa ngozi. Pamene ali m’chikondi ndi inu, mukhoza kukhala chizolowezi chake chatsopano. Mukamukana, mungautse mkwiyo wake. Mukatero mudzakhala chandamale chimene iye adzafuna kuwononga.

Ndiponso, mukakhala paubwenzi ndi munthu wotere ngakhale atakhala kuti akukukondani, simuli otetezeka ku khalidwe lake lowononga. Pakati pa zosokoneza, mabodza ndi kunyengerera, mumadziwonetsera nokha ku zovuta zenizeni tsiku ndi tsiku.

Maumboni a m’Baibulo

Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri a m’mabukuwa pamutu wa kupotoza kosokoneza komanso maubwenzi achikondi:

1. Racamier, P.-C. (1992). Zosokoneza za Narcissistic. Paris: Presses Universitaires de France.
2. Hurni, M., & Stoll, G. (2003). Kupotoza kwa Narcissistic mwa maanja. Magazini ya ku France ya psychoanalysis, 67 (3), 873-893.
3. Eiguer, A. (1989). Wopotoza wa narcissistic ndi mnzake. Paris: Dunod.
4. Hirigoyen, M.-F. (1998). Kuzunza: Kuchitira nkhanza tsiku ndi tsiku. Paris: Syros.
5. Sirota, A. (2017). Zopotoza za Narcissistic: kumvetsetsa, kuchenjera, kugonjetsa. Paris: Editions Le Manuscrit.
6. Bouchoux, J.-C. (2011). Opotoza Narcissistic. Paris: Eyrolles.
7. Pamodzi (2003). Kupotoza kwa Narcissistic. Magazini ya ku France ya psychoanalysis, 67(3).

Mabuku ndi zolemba izi zimapereka chidziwitso chakuzama kwa maubwenzi omwe amakhudza anthu omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zoyipa.

Kutsiliza

Pomaliza, kuyesa kupangitsa munthu wopotoza kugwa m’chikondi ndi bizinesi yowopsa ndipo nthawi zambiri imalephera. Ubale wamtunduwu ndi woopsa komanso wowononga, womwe umakhudza kwambiri moyo wa okondedwa. M’malo moyesa kunyengerera kapena kusunga wowongolera, ndikofunikira kuti mudziteteze, kudula maubale ndikumanganso moyo wanu pamaziko athanzi komanso okwaniritsa.