Narcissistic wopotoza ndi mowa – PN ndi chidakwa?

The Narcissistic Pervert ndi Mowa: Kale mowa wokha ukhoza kukhala woopsa, kuphatikizapo umunthu wa narcissistic wopotoza malo ogulitsa ndi owopsa kwambiri. Khalidwe lapadera la wopondereza lidzaonetsetsa kuti kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso kudzatsogolera ku kuipa kwina. Kusakhutira ndi kufooka kwa thanzi la munthu, kungalimbikitsenso kusokonezeka maganizo.

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Narcissistic wopotoza ndi mowa: Kusakaniza kophulika

Kuphatikiza uku zoopsa kwambiri kwa wozunzidwa ndi wopotoza wankhanza. Womalizayo amatha kugwiritsa ntchito chizolowezi ichi ngati chida kuti akwaniritse zolinga zake. Adzatha kukulitsa chikoka chake pang’ono pobisa zolinga zake zenizeni.

Ndipotu akhoza kumwa mowa ngati chowiringula cha kuledzera kwake chiwawa, kutukwana kapena khalidwe lina lililonse losayenera. Wopotoza wa narcissistic anganene kuti kuthawa kumeneku ndi chifukwa cha vuto lake la mowa. Ndipo kuti akangomwa, sakhalanso yekha.

Kuphatikiza apo, wopotoza wa narcissistic adzasewera kadi ya lusa lwandi lwa kupāna bukwashi bwandi. Adzagwiritsa ntchito kumvera kupangitsa munthu kudzimva wolakwa Mnzake adzaona kuti ndi udindo wawo kumuthandiza kuthana ndi poizoniyu. Wozunzidwayo adzatsekeredwa m’mbuyo chifukwa cha kudziona kuti ali ndi udindo komanso kuchititsidwa khungu ndi chilakolako chofuna kupulumutsa womuzunzayo.

Kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa wopotoza

Njira ya narcissistic yodalira mowa ndiyopita patsogolo. Ngati akugwiritsanso ntchito ngati a njira yopulumukira, ndiye kuti aipitsa mlandu wake. Adzakana zake kumwa mopitirira muyeso, akutsutsa kuti izi ziribe kanthu pa mkhalidwe wake. Makamaka popeza sitingakhale otsimikiza ngati wopotoza samasewera pa ife. Ndipo kuti kuledzera ndi dziko lomwe limangokhala ngati chophimba.

N’chifukwa chiyani Wosokoneza wankhanza angakonde mowa?

Momwe munthu wopotoza wankhanza amawonekera ndi wosiyana ndi chidakwa chosavuta. Kwa wopotoza, mowa uli ndi ntchito ziwiri zomwe zimakwaniritsa zolinga zake bwino.

• Choyamba, iye amalola wopotoka kuthawa zenizeni ndi kuchepetsa nkhawa yake. Wopotoza wa narcissistic amagwidwa ndi mantha osiyanasiyana. Nthawi zonse amadziona kuti ali pampanipani, chifukwa nthawi zonse ayenera kusintha maganizo ake mabodza kupusitsa iwo omwe ali nawo pafupi. Chifukwa chake mowa umamupatsa pothawirako ku kukhumudwa ndi kupsinjika maganizo, makamaka umamumasula m’maganizo. Zotsatira zake, mwachitsanzo, zingathandize munthu wopotoza wa narcissistic kupeza tulo ndi mawonekedwe amtendere.

• Kupatula izi, amakonda mowa chifukwa cha ntchito yake ya alibi. Ndi chida chomwe chimamuthandiza kukhala ndi njira yopulumukira kuti asakumane ndi zochita zake. Angathe kudzichotseratu mlandu wake mwa kuimba mlandu mowa. Ndipo angagwiritsenso ntchito mwayi wake kuti alimbikitse kugwira kwake posewera khadi lozunzidwa ndi mnzake.

Mkhalidwe wamaganizo wa chidakwa chosokoneza bongo

Ndizofala komanso zachisokonezo. Chifukwa chake ndikuti kuyang’ana kwa wopotoza wa narcissistic kumayenda mosiyanasiyana kutengera dziko lake. Nthawi zina amakhala wodekha komanso wooneka ngati wamtendere. Kapena mupse mtima mukamamwa mowa. Ngati achitapo kanthu pa nthawi yake, akhoza kumwa mowa kuti abise zoipa zake. Kumbali ina, kwa gawo lopumula adzagwiritsa ntchito mowa pofuna zosangalatsa.

Koma chotsimikizirika nchakuti moŵa udzakhala ndi chiyambukiro chachikulu cha kukulitsa mkhalidwe wa wopotokayo. Adzakhala woopsa kwambiri kwa wozunzidwayo ndipo adzakhala ndi zovuta zochepa kwambiri.

Zowopsa zomwe zimaperekedwa ndi wozunzidwa ndi wopondereza woledzeretsa komanso woledzera

Mnzake wa munthu wopotoza wankhanza nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi zoopsa kwambiri. Zowopsa zomwe amakumana nazo zimatha kukhudza mbali zosiyanasiyana za moyo wawo.

• Choyamba pa zonse ndondomeko ya zachuma, wochitiridwa nkhanza akhoza kutha msanga. Ubale umene wopotoza wachinyengo ali nawo ndi ndalama si wofanana ndi wa munthu wamba. Adzawononga akaunti yake yakubanki pa uchidakwa ndipo motero adzakhala a katundu wolemera kwa bwenzi lake.

• La wovulalayo zidzathekanso kukumana ndi ziwawa zosiyanasiyana. Akaledzera, wopondereza adzaona zopinga zake zikugwa. Adzatha kumasula misala yake. Ndiyeno wochitiridwa nkhanzayo adzakumana ndi ziwawa zosiyanasiyana, zakuthupi ndi za makhalidwe abwino. Kuukira kwakuthupi kumatha kupha anthu nthawi zina.

• Pomaliza, wozunzidwayo angagwerenso m’chidakwa. Pokhala wodalira kwambiri maganizo pa wopotokayo, adzakopeka kuti agwirizane naye. Motero, iye adzaipitsa mlandu wake mwa kuwonjezera kulemera ndi mphamvu ku chisonkhezero cha wopotokayo.

Kodi Pervert wa narcissistic angafunedi kusiya uchidakwa?

M’pofunika kale kuti yotsirizira alidi ndi chidwi chofuna kusiya mowa. Komabe, monga taonera, munthu wochita zoipa akhoza kumangokhalira kumwa moŵa. Iye angakhaledi wozengereza kudziletsa yekha kuyamwa. Izi zikanamulepheretsa kukhala ndi chida chothandiza kwambiri posokoneza ena. Kungakhale pamenepo kuti sakuvomereza kutuluka m’chidakwa chake kuti ausunge monga chopindulitsa pa wogwiriridwayo ndi awo okhala pafupi naye. Kuti atulukemo, wolakwayo angaitane katswiri wa zamaganizo kuti amuthandize kuzindikira vuto lake.

Ndani Woyipa Kwambiri, Womwa Mowa Kapena Wopotoza Narcissistic?

Munthu anganene kuti choipa kwambiri mosakayikira ndi chidakwa narcissistic wopotoza Koma n’zoonekeratu kuti mtundu wina wa umunthu umakhala patsogolo kuposa unzake. Ndipo apa, mosakayikira ndi umunthu wodzikonda womwe ndi woopsa kwambiri. Zoonadi, umunthu uwu ndi woopsa kwambiri chifukwa cha zinthu zina.

• Kuledzera ndi koopsa kwa wolemba mwiniwakeyo. Zimenezi zimawononga kwambiri thanzi lake. Koma titha kuwona kuti imakhalabe yocheperako kwakanthawi. Munthuyo amakhala wowopsa kwa ena pokhapokha ataledzera.

• Wopotoza amabisa masewera ake bwino kwambiri. Zimakhalapo kuti zivulaze munthuyo. Ndipo amachita zimenezi akudziwa za kuipa kumene akuchitira ena. Amagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zake pa wozunzidwayo kuti awawononge. Pamene chidakwa chilibe mphamvu pa zochita zake ataledzera.

• Ngati zonse Ziwirizo ndi zikwapu kwa iwo akuzungulira mwa anthu awiriwa, mmodzi ndi wowononga kwambiri komanso wokhudza. Wopotoza wa narcissistic adzafuna kuwononga omwe ali pafupi naye, pomwe a zochita zoipa za chidakwa zimalunjikitsidwa kwa iye patsogolo. Akukhala woyamba kuzunzidwa ngati tiyang’ana pa dongosolo la thanzi.

Buku lofotokoza za “narcissistic pervert and alcohol”

Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri a m’mabukuwa pamutu wa “Narcissistic Pervert and Alcohol”, omwe amafufuza maulalo pakati pa anthu okondana, kusokoneza ndi kumwa mowa:

1. Lépine, J.-P. (2013). Anthu opotoka: Narcissism ndi chinyengo. Odile Jacob Editions.
2. Marty, P. (2015). The Narcissistic Pervert: Wopha anthu. Editions de l’Archipel.
3. Soudoplatoff, A. (2017). Kunyengerera: Kumvetsetsa ndi kuona munthu wopotoza wankhanza. Editions Eyrolles.
4. Kernberg, O. (2016). Personality pathologies. Zolemba za De Boeck Supérieur.
5. Chemla, L. (2019). Narcissism ndi zizolowezi: njira yamaganizidwe. Zolemba za L’Harmattan.
6. Narcisse, S. (2021). Narcissism ndi kuchuluka kwake: Pakati pa kudzikonda ndi kuwononga. Zosindikiza za Le Passeur.
7. Mayi, F. (2018). Anthu oopsa: Kumvetsetsa ndi kudziteteza. Editions Jouvence.

Maumboni awa akuyenera kukupatsirani maziko olimba owunikira maubwenzi pakati pa narcissism, chinyengo, ndi mowa.

Kutsiliza

Pomaliza, kuyanjana kwa mowa ndi umunthu wa munthu wopotoza wamatsenga kumapanga mphamvu yowopsa kwambiri. Mowa umakhala chida chachinyengo, kulimbikitsa wopondereza kulamulira wolakwayo, amene amadzipeza ali m’chizungulire cha liwongo ndi chiwawa. Ndikofunikira kudziwitsa anthu za zoopsazi kuti titeteze bwino omwe akuzunzidwa ndikulimbikitsa kuchitapo kanthu moyenera.