Kodi PN ikuvutika ndi Kuphulika?

Ngati muli mu a ubale woopsa ndi munthu wodzikonda kwambiri, mukudziwa kale khalidwe la PN. Ngati mukuona kuti vutolo n’losapiririka komanso kuti ndi nthawi yoti mudzipezere kutali, nkhaniyi ingakhale yothandiza kwa inu. Funso apa ndilakuti kodi PN amavutika ndi kupasuka ? Kodi kutha kwa PN kumawoneka bwanji?

PN ikuvutika chifukwa yataya “nyama” yake.

• Ngati kukhala ndi PN kungakhale vuto lalikulu, kuthetsa PN ndizovuta kwambiri. Ngakhale titaganiza kuti PN sichingakhudzidwe ndi kutha kwa chikondi, yankho siliri lovomerezeka kwathunthu. Inde, monga enawo, PN ikhoza kuvutika ndi kupatukana.
• Komabe, iye alibe malingaliro ofanana ndi munthu wamba amene amachita ndi ubwenzi. Idzakhudzidwa mwanjira ina. Monga samamva chikondi, sikuli kusakhalapo kapena munthuyo mwa iye yekha amene amaphonya, ndiko kungomva kumene anamva kwa munthu ameneyu, amene kwenikweni ali “nyama” yake.
• Adzakhumudwa, chifukwa anataya munthu amene anali ndi mphamvu pa iye, kuwongolera kwake ndi mphamvu zake zamatsenga. Savutika chifukwa amakukondani, amangovutika chifukwa cha kutaya chinthu chomwe chinali chamtengo wapatali komanso chothandiza kwa iye. Umunthu wake ndi woti amangodziganizira yekha osati za wozunzidwayo.

 

Kodi PN ikuvutika ndi kupuma?

Pamene PN ikukumana ndi kupasuka, samavutika kwenikweni ndi kulekana kumeneku. N’zoona kuti adzadzimva kuti wamusiyidwa komanso wonyozeka kumbali imodzi, koma si chifukwa chakuti amakonda munthu amene waphedwayo. Amangovutika ngati alibenso aliyense woti awonetsere matenda ake a narcissistic.

Kumbali ina, ngati ali ndi nyama kale kapena munthu amene akwanitsa kukwaniritsa kufunikira kwake kosilira komanso kudzikonda, adzangopitirira ndi kuyang’ana pa nyama yake yatsopano. Zowonadi, ngati PN ipeza munthu yemwe ali naye yemwe angathe kukwaniritsa zilakolako zake zankhanza, sangakhale ndi chidwi ndi kutha. Pankhaniyi, zimakhala zosavuta kuti wozunzidwayo adzimanganso ndikuchoka osabwereranso ndi PN. Chovuta kwambiri chimabwera pamene wopotoza wa narcissistic amayesa kugwiritsitsa wozunzidwayo ndikupewa kupatukana.

PN idzayesa kubwezeretsanso mphamvu zake

Ngati PN sakufuna kutaya wozunzidwayo, adzachita zonse kuti amusunge ndikulumikizananso naye. Pachifukwa ichi, adzachitanso chimodzimodzi monga pachiyambi cha chiyanjano. Adzayesa kukunyengererani, kudziwonetsa yekha m’njira yake yabwino komanso inu kupangitsa munthu kudzimva wolakwa kotero kuti mwasankha kukhala. Muyenera kusamala, chifukwa zonse ndi moto. PN sikusintha, imakhalabe ndipo idzakhalabe momwe ilili.

Ngakhale atalonjeza kuti asintha, sizingatheke. Iye angoyesera kuti agwirenso pa inu. Kuti achite izi, amatha kugwiritsa ntchito zidule zonse zomwe angathe ndipo amatha kusewera masewerawo kwa nthawi yayitali kwambiri. Komabe, tsiku lina kapena lina, khalidwe lake la PN lidzalanda ndipo adzabwera monga analili nthawi zonse. Choncho, musanyengedwe!

Momwe mungakhalire ndi PN? 5 masitepe

1. Vomerezani kuti kupatukana n’kofunika

Gawo loyamba lofunikira kuti muthetse bwino PN ndikuvomereza kuti ubale ndi poizoni ndi kuti kulekana ndi chinthu choyenera kuchita. Mukakhala paubwenzi ndi PN, sikophweka nthawi zonse kuvomereza kuti mukuvutika. PN imakonda kusintha kaonedwe kanu ka zinthu kuti muziganiza kuti ndinu amene mumayambitsa zomwe zikuchitika. Ngakhale kuti zenizeni ndi zosiyana kwambiri, iye ndiye vuto lokhalo muubwenzi wanu ndipo palibe vuto lanu.

2. Dziwani wopotoza wankhanza ndipo zindikirani chomwe ali kwa inu

Gawo lachiwiri ndi ku zindikirani PN m’moyo wanu ndipo zindikirani kuti sali yemwe anena kuti ali. Ameneyu si munthu amene mumamufuna pamoyo wanu kapenanso munthu amene amakukondani. Muyenera kuvomereza kuti iye ali pomwepo kuti akuvutitseni komanso kuti khalidwe lake lachipongwe ndi vuto lenileni lomwe likuwonongani inu monga munthu.

3. Yambani kudziyimira nokha ndikutsutsa PN

Mukangodziwa kuti PN si munthu woyenera kwa inu, pang’onopang’ono kuyamba kutsutsa izo , osagonjeranso ndi kumudziwitsa kuti simulinso mdani wake. Kutha mwadzidzidzi si njira yabwino yothetsera vuto ndi anthu oopsa monga FNs. Muyenera kupita modekha, osati kokha akwanitsa kudzimasula okha ku mphamvu zawo, komanso kuti mutsogolere machiritso anu amkati.

4. Kudula kwathunthu kukhudzana ndi PN

Chisankhochi chikhoza kuchitika nthawi iliyonse. Chofunika kwambiri ndi kuti mudziwe ngati mwakonzeka kuchoka. Pamene mukumva mkati kuti nthawi yafika, khalani olimba mtima m’manja mwanu ndikusiya kukhudzana ndi PN. Ichi ndi chisankho chofunikira chomwe sichiyenera kutengedwa mopepuka.

5. Pewani kubweza ndalama zilizonse

Inde, a PN adzayesa kubwerera kapena kukunyengererani kuti mukhalebe. Adzakuyitanani, adzasewera bwenzi lapamtima lomwe likusowa, adzakhala woleza mtima nanu ndipo adzakhala nanu kuposa kale lonse. Chofunika kwambiri ndikukumbukira kuti munthu uyu si yemwe ali kwenikweni.

Ngati mukuganiza kuti: Ndi woyendetsa nthawi zonse amabwerera ? Yankho ndi lakuti inde. Nthawi zonse amayesetsa kubwerera ndipo adzachita bwino ngati mutamupatsa mwayi. Tsiku lina adzakhalanso wonyenga, choncho musabwerere mmbuyo pa zomwe mwasankha.

Kodi PN amachita bwanji tikamusiya?

• Sikophweka kuti aliyense aziona kuti wanyanyalidwa kapena kuti watayidwa. Koma, pa nkhani ya PN, kodi wonyenga amakumana bwanji ndi kupasuka? Monga wina aliyense, adzamva kuti wasiyidwa. Koma ego yake idzakhudzidwa kwambiri ndipo adzakhala ndi zovuta kuzizindikira.
• Zingakhale kuti iye amakhudzidwa kwambiri, chifukwa monga ayenera kuyamikiridwa ndi kukondedwa nthawi zonse, makhalidwe ake ndi otsika kwambiri. Kenako adzachita chilichonse kuti aliyense asamusiye. Adzayesa kusunga wozunzidwayo. Angagwiritse ntchito chithumwa chake, mawu okoma kapena mabodza.
• Ngati zoyesayesa zake sizigwira ntchito, adzakhala misala ndi ukali ndipo mkwiyo udzalanda. Mudzawona khalidwe lachiwawa ndi lowononga likuchitika.

Kodi PN angasiye wozunzidwayo?

Inde, zimachitikanso nthawi zina kuti PN ikuganiza zothetsa ubale. Adzasiya wophedwayo pamene aona kuti salinso wogwiriridwa. Pamene walephera kulamulira mnzake, pamene wozunzidwayo akupanduka ndipo pang’onopang’ono amadzimasula yekha ku ulamuliro wake wa narcissistic, ndiye PN akhoza kupanga chisankho chomusiya.

Zimachitikanso muzochitika zina kuti PN imasweka mwadzidzidzi. Chifukwa chiyani PN ikusweka mwadzidzidzi? Mosavuta, chifukwaamakonda kukuvutitsani. Amafuna kuti akuoneni mukuvutika ndipo adzasewera ndi malingaliro anu. Amakusiyani ndikubwerera ngati palibe chomwe chinachitika pambuyo pake. Izi ndizofala kwambiri zopotoka za narcissistic.