Kumasuka ku Kuzunzidwa – Malangizo 5 Otsatira

Kutuluka kwa kuzunzidwa ndi njira yayitali komanso yotopetsa. Ndipo komabe ndi gawo lofunikira lomwe liyenera kutengedwa kuti lipindule inu nokha ndi omwe akuzungulirani. Ndiye, kodi ndinu wozunzidwa? Nkhaniyi ikuthandizani kuti mutuluke paudindowu.

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Njira 5 zochotsera kuzunzidwa

Nawa masitepe oti mutuluke pakuzunzidwa.

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1. Dziwani zambiri za Karpman Triangle
2. Vomerezani kuti tili mumkhalidwe wodziwononga
3. Bweretsaninso zingwe za moyo wanu
4. Landirani chowonadi cholandira chithandizo chakanthawi
5. Yambani kudzilimbikitsa

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1. Dziwani Triangle ya Karpman

Muyenera kumvetsetsa mkhalidwe womwe muli. Kupambana pakulozera vuto ndilo gawo loyamba la kulithetsa. Makona atatu ochititsa chidwiwa ndi omwe amagwirizanitsa wakupha ndi wophedwayo. Mukhoza kuyambira pa udindo wozunzidwa ndiyeno n’kupita kwa wozunzayo. Bwalo loipali likupitilira, chifukwa chake tiyenera kufunafuna momwe mungasiyire munthu wopotoza wankhanza ngati ndi chikhalidwe cha wozunza inu.

2. Vomerezani kuti tili mumkhalidwe wodziwononga tokha

Kupambana kuvomereza kuti tili ndi umunthu wapoizoni womwe umatiwononga ndikofunikira. Mukapambana kuvomereza zofooka zanu, mudzatha kuchepetsa kuzunzidwa. Iyi ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yopezera kukhazikika kwamkati.

3. Bwezeraninso zingwe za moyo wanu

Inu makamaka muli ndi udindo pa moyo wanu. Zomwe zikukuchitikirani ndi chifukwa choti mwalola kuti zichitike. Zimachitika kuti tikakumana ndi vuto kapena chopinga chovuta kwambiri, timachoka pakuzunzidwa. Koma ngati simutenga udindo wa wozunzidwayo, mutha kukhala pachiwopsezo. Choncho, njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli ndikukhala ndi maganizo okhazikika kuti mubwererenso pamapazi anu.

4. Landirani chowonadi cholandira chithandizo chanthawi yochepa

Kuti muthane bwino ndi kudzizunza, chithandizo chingafunike. Kulowererapo kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo kapena akatswiri amisala kungafunike. Komabe, izi siziyenera kusungidwa kwa nthawi yayitali. Chithandizocho chidzakhala chachifupi, sichikuthandizani kuti musunge nthawi yayitali.

5. Yambani kudzilimbikitsa

Mukamasulidwa, muyenera kupita patsogolo. Osadikirira thandizo kuchokera kunja. Ndi wanu pulogalamu yatsopano yamakhalidwe, muyenera kudzisunga nokha pa zabwino zanu. Chilimbikitso chabwino kwa inu chimakhalabe pamwamba pa malingaliro anu onse ndipo koposa zonse kuti mumenye mwamphamvu kudzida.

N’chifukwa chiyani timalolera kuzunzidwa?

Nthawi zambiri, palibe munthu safuna kukhala ulalo wofooka. Kaŵirikaŵiri amakakamizidwa kuchoka pa umunthu wake weniweni ndi kuchitiridwa nkhanza. Njira yabwino kwambiri yochitira izi ndi kuwopseza kapena chiwawa. Mwa kuthyola maganizo a munthuyo, iye adzakhala nkhosa wamba yopanda chochita.. Apa ndi pamene amakhala wozunzidwa weniweni.

Kodi zomwe zimayambitsa kuzunzidwa ndi chiyani?

Zinthu zomwe zimakankhira munthu kudzizunza ndizo zambiri.

• Zoona kukhala nazo kusadzidalira. Mudzayamba kukhala chopondapo cha aliyense. Pamene mumadzichepetsera nokha, zimakhala zosavuta kuti ena azikulamulirani pa chilichonse chimene mukuchita.
• Mumakonda kuona ena kukhala apamwamba kwa inu m’zonse muchita. Mukatero mudzakhala ndi chizolowezi chotembenukira kwa ena pakavuta pang’ono.
• Kukhala ndi malo opondereza. Ngati omwe ali pafupi nanu amakukhumudwitsani nthawi zonse, mudzakhala wovutitsidwa bwino kwambiri. Izi ndizochitika makamaka kwa ana a m’banja la anthu opondereza.

Kodi zotsatira za kuzunzidwa ndi zotani?

Kuti timvetse kufunika kochokera ku kuzunzidwa, tiyenera kuona zotsatira za izi pa moyo wa wozunzidwayo.

• Wozunzidwayo adzadzipatula ndi kuchotsedwa kwa iwo amene ali pafupi naye.
• Adzataya chikhulupiriro podandaula kwambiri. Ndipo amene ali pafupi naye adzakwiya kwambiri.
• Munthuyo angayese kubisala chifukwa chakuti wachitiridwa nkhanza.

Zizindikiro zodzizunza

Malinga ndi buku la psychology lomwe likunena za kuthekera kotuluka m’mavuto, pali zizindikiro zosiyanasiyana kuti muwone ngati munthuyo akukhudzidwa ndi chizolowezichi.

1. Kutaya mphamvu pa moyo wa munthu.
2. Kukhala ndi vuto lalikulu podziteteza.
3. Lolani moyo wanu kutsogozedwa kapena kusonkhezeredwa ndi ena.
4. Kudzimvera chisoni ndi zonse zomwe zimachitika m’moyo wanu.
5. Zitha kukhalanso chizoloŵezi, mpaka munthuyo amachigwiritsa ntchito ngati chowiringula cha zomwe zikumuchitikira.

Kuzunzidwa ndi Calimero Syndrome

Muyenera kudziwa kuti Calimero syndrome ndi mtundu wina wa kuzunzidwa. Zimaphatikizapo kuganiza kuti zonse zomwe mumachita sizikukomerani komanso kuti zonse zimachitikira inu nokha. Tikuwona kuti vutoli limayambitsa a kuwonjezeka kwakukulu kwa nkhawa zanu. Koma koposa zonse, zimakhudza kaonedwe kanu ka kukhala wochitiridwa nkhanza ndi ena kapena za choikidwiratu. Izi zikhoza kupita narcissistic victimization syndrome.

Chifukwa chake, anthu omwe ali ndi matendawa amatsekedwa kwathunthu. Sangakhale moyo wawo bwinobwino. M’maso mwawo, chilichonse ndi chopinga kapena magwero a mavuto atsopano.

Mgwirizano pakati pa kuzunzidwa ndi kuvulala

Zowawa nthawi zambiri zimakhala maziko a kuzunzidwa malinga ndi mabuku ambiri. Zowonadi, munthuyo adzasintha momwe adawumbidwira kuyambira ali mwana. Izi zikutanthauza kuti Chifukwa chake zowawa zam’mbuyomu zidzakhudza munthu pamlingo wamakhalidwe. Kuvulala koopsa kwambiri, m’pamenenso munthuyo amatsekedwa kwambiri ndipo motero amakhala pachiopsezo. Izi zikufotokozera chifukwa chake ali wovutitsidwa wamba.

Kuzunzika: chida chopondereza cha narcissistic?

Wopotoza wa narcissistic amatha kugwiritsa ntchito udindo wake kuti apusitse nyama yake. Podzibisa yekha kukhala wotero kumakhala kosavuta kwa iye kubisa chikhalidwe chake ndi zolinga zake. Zimenezi zingam’thandizenso, chifukwa akhoza kuchititsa nyamayo kukhala ngati wakuphayo pofuna kulimbikitsa gulu la wophedwayo kuti limuukira. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kudziwa momwe mungadziwire zolinga za munthu yemwe akuvutika ndi kudzizunza, zitha kubisala introvert narcissistic pervert.

Kodi mungayambire bwanji moyo wanu mutatuluka m’mavuto?

Pambuyo potuluka mwachisawawa, munthu nthawi zambiri ayenera kukhala osamala. Chinthu choyamba ndikupewa kukhudzana ndi a umunthu wapoizoni. Inde, ngakhale kuti anapambana nkhondo yake, ayenera kukhala tcheru. Akhoza kubwereranso ku zizolowezi zake zoipa kotero kuti akhalenso wozunzidwa kwa aliyense.

Maumboni a m’mabuku othawa kuzunzidwa

Nawa maumboni osankhidwa a m’mabukuwa pamutu wa “Kutuluka muzozunzidwa”:

1. Jodelet, D. (2015). Kuzunzidwa kumawonedwa kuchokera ku mbali ya psychology ya anthu: zopereka za Serge Moscovici. mu makampani, 2015/4 (n°130), masamba 23 mpaka 39 .
2. Grinshpun, Y. (2019). Mawu Oyamba. Kuyambira wozunzidwa mpaka kuchitiridwa nkhanza: kupanga chida chosokoneza.
3. Jacob, B. (2010). Kukhala wozunzidwa. mu Zipatala zaku Mediterranean, 2010/2 (n°82), masamba 199 mpaka 205 .
4. Belaygue, C., Crescence, A., Brandibas, G., & Sudres, J.-L. (2021). De victimisation en sichisinthasinthanso. mu Mabuku a Asset, 2021/3, masamba 179 mpaka 195 .
5. Prud’homme, D. (2011). Nkhanza zapakhomo: kuchitiridwa nkhanza kumawoneka ngati kudalira malingaliro!. mu Kulingalira, 2011 (vol.17, n°1), masamba 180 mpaka 190.
6. Arenes, J. (2020). Nkhani yamasiku ano komanso momwe anthu akuvutitsidwa. mu Kulandila pachiwopsezo: Njira zothandiza komanso mafunso anzeru, Toulouse, Érès, masamba 187 mpaka 205.
7. Chaumont, J.-M. (1997). Mpikisano wa ozunzidwa: kupha anthu, kudziwika, kuzindikira. Paris, The Discovery.

Maumboni awa amapereka malingaliro ozama pamalingaliro ozunzidwa ndi njira zowathetsera, ndikugogomezera njira zamaganizidwe, zachikhalidwe komanso zotsutsana.

Kutsiliza

Kutuluka mu kuzunzidwa ndi njira yovuta, koma yofunikira kuti muyambirenso kudziyimira pawokha. Potsatira njirazi ndikudziwa njira zomwe zikugwiritsidwa ntchito, ndizotheka kuthana ndi ntchitoyi kuti mukhale ndi moyo wokwanira. Kuyesetsa kulikonse kumafunikira kuti mukhale ndi mtundu wabwinoko.