Momwe mungagwirire manipulator? Malangizo kuti muchepetse

Kukhala ndi munthu wonyenga n’kovuta kwambiri. Ndi chosankha chilichonse chopangidwa, ndi lingaliro lililonse loperekedwa, nthawi zonse amakhala ndi zonena zake ndipo nthawi zonse amafuna kuti omwe ali pafupi naye azichita momwe iye akufunira. Koma mukamazindikira misampha ya wonyengayo, mungamupangitse kuti achite zimenezo mwanzeru. Ngati mukufuna kuti mupambane pa iye, apa pali njira zothandiza pa momwe mungagwirire narcissistic manipulator.

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Malangizo 8 ogwiritsira ntchito manipulator

Sikophweka nthawi zonse kuyang’anizana ndi zowona ndikudzimasula nokha ku chikoka cha munthu wankhanza. Kukuthandizani, nazi njira 8 zochitira kutsutsana ndi munthu wonyenga :

1. Musanyalanyaze wonyenga

Njira imodzi yosavuta yothanirana ndi manipulator ndikungochitaamanyalanyaza. Zoonadi, mukamasiya kumukonda, m’pamenenso amaona ngati akutha mphamvu. Amadana ndi kusakhala pakati pa dziko lapansi ndipo chifukwa chake adzasokonezeka ngati simumunyalanyaza. L’kusasamala kungakhale kothandiza kwambiri kudzimasula nokha kwa wonyenga, makamaka akamayesa kuyika misampha m’moyo wanu. Mukaphunzira zambiri musanyalanyaze kupotoza kwa narcissistic, m’pamenenso mudzakhala ndi mphamvu yolimbana nayo ndikudzimasula nokha ku chikoka chake.

2. Lambalalani zokambiranazo ndipo pewani msampha

The manipulator ndi katswiri wa luso la kulamulira iwo akuzungulirani ndikuwatsogolera chisankho chawo kuti atembenuze chilichonse kuti chikhale chopindulitsa. Nthawi zambiri amayamba ndi kufotokoza nkhani ndi kupereka maganizo ake pa izi kapena zochitikazo. Kenako, amakwanitsa kutsimikizira womufunsayo kuti agwirizane ndi malingaliro ake. Njira yabwino yopeŵera kugwera mumsampha wake ndiyo kupeŵa kukambitsirana. Ngati muwona kuti akuyamba masewera ake aang’ono, pewani nkhaniyo ndipo mwamsanga kambiranani zina kuti adzidziwe.

3. Perekani yankho lanu osati kufotokoza kapena kudzilungamitsa

Nthawi zina wonyenga amangokufunsani funso lomwe limakukayikitsani. kupangitsa munthu kudzimva wolakwa ndipo dziwani kuti ndi funso lomwe lingakutsogolereni ku nkhani ina komanso kukambirana komwe kungakukoleni, njira yabwino yodzitetezera ndiyo ingoperekani yankho losavuta osadzilungamitsa. Pamene akuumirira kuti amve maganizo anu, mukhoza kungoyankha ndi mawu osavuta monga: “Ndilo lingaliro langa chabe! “kapena” ngati mutero … “.

4. Osavomerezanso kupusitsidwa

Tsiku lomwe mwavomereza kuti simudzakhalanso wozunzidwa maganizo manipulator, sipadzakhalanso kupusitsa. Uku ndi kupanga chisankho chodzimasula nokha ku chikoka chake. Mukasiya kugonjera, ndipamene ufulu wanu umayamba. Dzipangireni zisankho osati zotengera ena. Zikutanthauzanso kuti musalole kutengeka ndi malingaliro anu, mawu anu opweteka ndi zitonzo zanu.

5. Gwiritsani ntchito njira ya chifunga (khalani osadziwika, osanena maganizo anu)

Izi ndi za osawonetsa malingaliro anu kwathunthu pa funso kapena mutu. Lolani kukayikira kupitirire pa nkhaniyo kotero kuti sikungazindikire chowonadi ndi kukunyengererani moyenerera. Pamene wolamulira akudzikayikira yekha, adzakhala ndi vuto kusokoneza wozunzidwayo. Mukhozanso kuyankha ndi mafunso okhudza nkhani. Mwachitsanzo, mutafunsidwa maganizo anu pa chinthu chonga, “Sarah ndi mkazi wodzisunga,” mungayankhe kuti, “Wosungidwa kwambiri?” ” ndipo tsatirani ndi “mwina” kapena “ngati mukunena choncho” kapena “ndilibe lingaliro pankhaniyi”.

6. Mtengereni pamasewera ake

Kodi kusewera ndi manipulator? Chabwino, muyenera kutero sewera masewera anuanu. Njirayi imakhala ndi kukayikira zochita za wonyenga. Cholinga apa ndikutsutsana naye ndikuwunikira zolinga zake ndi zolimbikitsa zake. Mwachitsanzo, akamayesa kukunyengererani kapena kukupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa, mufunseni mafunso monga akuti, “Mukutanthauza chiyani pamenepa? »kapena “Mukutanthauza chiyani?” ” . Wonyengayo nthawi zambiri amabwerera kumbuyo chifukwa amawona kuti ali pachiwopsezo chowululidwa. Mwanjira imeneyi mudzadziwa kuti mwapambana pamasewera ake ndipo mwapambana masewerawo.

7. Mupangitseni kuti adikire

Nthawi zina njira yabwino yothanirana ndi kupusitsa ndiyo pangitsa woyendetsa kudikirirar. Nthawi zina, zimachitika kuti akufuna kuchitapo kanthu kapena kuyankha kuchokera kwa inu zomwe zimakuvutani kutsutsa. Pazifukwa izi, kumupangitsa kuti adikire ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri. Ndi za kupeŵa zofuna zosalekeza za wonyenga wanu ndi zidule kuti mugonje.

8. Kusamupatsa ulamuliro

Kuti mukhale wamphamvu kuposa wonyenga, simuyenera musamupatse konse iye ulamuliro. Zowonadi, monga wopotoza wonyenga, a narcissistic manipulator ayenera kulamulira chirichonse. Ngati mukhalabe olimba ndipo osamupatsa mwayi woti akumangirireni, sangathe kuchita nawo gawo lake ndipo adzataya chidwi ndi nyama yake. Zimakhudzanso kukuikirani malire komanso kudziwa kukana popanda kukayikira kapena kuchita mantha.

Kodi malo ofooka a manipulator ndi chiyani?

Wonyengayo amayenera kulamulira omwe ali pafupi naye ndi malo ake, chifukwa amamva mantha, kusowa kudzidalira komanso nkhawa. Ndi khalidwe loipa limene limamudya kuchokera mkati ndipo limamupangitsa kuti azivutika ndi omwe ali pafupi naye kuti amve bwino. THE malo ofooka a manipulator zagona mu izi mphamvu yakulamulira. Ndithudi, popeza kuti iye afunikira kulamulira chirichonse, iye adzataya mphamvu zake pamene ena satsatira zofuna zake.

Ngati mukufuna kupambana podzimasula nokha kwa munthu wonyenga, mupangitseni kuti amvetsetse kuti simulinso mphulupulu yake ndipo alibenso mphamvu yakukunyengani. Kenako adzadziwa kuti mwamugonjetsa ndipo simudzalola kuti zimenezi zichitikenso. Ndipo kutaya ulamuliro ndi chimodzi mwazo zifukwa zomwe zimapangitsa PN kuthawa paubwenzi. Kuzindikira kungakhale kovuta, koma sitepe iyi ikatengedwa, kumanganso kudzachitika palokha.

Chenjezo: Kodi mukufunadi kukhala wonyenga?

Ngakhale mukufuna kudziwa momwe amapinda manipulator, ganizirani koposa zonse ponena za chenicheni chakuti kugwiritsira ntchito wonyengayo kudzakuthandizani kuchita monga iye. Komabe, ngati simukukonda zomwe wonyengayo adakuchitirani, bwanji mukufuna kumutengera ndikugwera mumasewera ake? Ngati ganizoli likukuchititsani mantha, dziwani kuti n’kosavuta kuyala zinthu ndi kumveketsa bwino zinthu.

Komanso, kupanga zisankho zomveka bwino ndi ngongole yanu. Kumbukiraninso kuti njira zomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito pano sizinapangidwe kuti zimuvutitse, koma kuti alepheretse njira zake. Si funso lomutsogolera ndi mphuno, koma m’malo motsutsa zochita zake.

Ngati mukufuna chithandizo cha machiritso potsatira kusokoneza maganizo m’mbuyomu kapena mukukula, dziwani kuti mutha kupeza chithandizo kuchokera kwa katswiri kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo yemwe ndi katswiri pa ntchitoyi. Kuthandizidwa ndi katswiri kudzakuthandizani kwambiri kuti mudzipangirenso ndikuyambiranso kudzidalira.