Kudzida nokha: zomwe muyenera kudziwa zokhudza kumverera kowononga uku

Nthawi ndi nthawi, ndi zachilendo kumva mawu olakwika m’mutu mwanu. Komabe, pamene afika poipa kwambiri, kudzida Zingakhale zovuta komanso zovuta kuzithetsa nokha. Izi ndi zomwe muyenera kudziwa zokhudza kudzida.

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Kudzida ndi chiyani?

Kudzida, kapena kudzida, ndiko kudzidzudzula kwambiri. Munthu amene amamva kumverera uku akuvutika kwambiri kusadzidalira wopsinjika maganizo. Angamve ngati palibe chomwe amachita chomwe chimakhala chabwino mokwanira kapena kuti sakuyenera kuchita zinthu zabwino zomwe zimamuchitikira. Kudzida nokha kungamve ngati kukhala ndi wina akukutsatirani tsiku lonse, kukudzudzulani ndi kukuuzani cholakwa chanu chilichonse, kapena kukuchitirani manyazi chifukwa cha zolakwa zanu zonse.

Chifukwa chiyani ndimadzida ndekha? 9 zizindikiro za kudzida

Kudzidzudzula ndi gawo lofunikira la chitukuko cha munthu. Zimakuthandizani kuti mukhale okhwima, luso kapena nzeru. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kuzindikira mzere pakati pa kudzidziwa bwino ndi kudzida. Makamaka ngati muwona kuti muli ndi malingaliro odzida omwe amabwerezedwa.

Pali zizindikiro zingapo zomwe muyenera kuzidziwa zomwe zingakuthandizeni kudziwa ngati zomwe mukumva zikugwirizana ndi kudzida nokha:

1. Malingaliro anu amakulepheretsani kukwaniritsa zolinga zanu kapena kuchita bwino m’moyo wanu.
2. Simungathe kuchotsa maganizo anu oipa.
3. Mumadziona kuti ndinu otsika kwambiri ndipo mumadziona ngati simuli bwino pazomwe mukuchita.
4. Nthawi zonse mumangoganizira zoipa, ngakhale pamene zinthu zabwino zikuchitika.
5. Malingaliro anu odzidetsa akuwoneka akubwera kwa inu popanda chenjezo.
6. Mumaona kuti ndinu wopanda pake komanso mumavutika maganizo.
7. Mumavutika kuvomereza zoyamikira.
8. Nthawi zonse mumafunafuna chivomerezo kuchokera kwa ena kuti mumve kuti ndinu ovomerezeka.
9. Mwakhala ndi maganizo ofuna kudzipha.

Ngati chimodzi mwazizindikiro zomwe zili pamwambapa zikufotokozera zomwe mwakumana nazo kapena zomwe mudamva posachedwa, ndi nthawi yoti mudziwe momwe mungaphunzirire kuthana ndi malingaliro anu.

Kodi zifukwa zodzida n’chiyani?

Kudziona ngati wodzidetsa kumapweteka kwambiri, koma kupeza chiyambi cha malingalirowa ndi sitepe yoyamba yopita ku machiritso. Ngati mukulimbana ndi maganizo oipa, ganizirani zomwe zinawayambitsa. Kodi munalakwitsa kuntchito? Kodi chibwenzi chinatha moipa? Kuzindikira choyambitsa kungakuthandizeni kuthana bwino ndi malingaliro anu odana nawo nthawi ina akadzabuka.

Kupatula zomwe zimayambitsa nthawi yomweyo, zomwe zimayambitsa kudzida zitha kukhalanso chifukwa cha zochitika zachilengedwe. Mwachitsanzo, pali makolo otsutsa kwambiri kapena mikhalidwe yaumunthu monga kufuna kulakwitsa zinthu. Pamene maganizo odziona ngati opanda pake ndiponso odziona ngati osafunika atayamba, zimakhala zovuta kuzisintha.

Kodi mungalimbane bwanji ndi kudzida?

Njira yabwino yothanirana ndi kudzida ndikudzikonda nokha komansophunzirani kuyambanso kudzidalira. Palinso njira zina zothandiza kukwaniritsa izi:

1. Funsani dokotala

Ngakhale kuti n’zotheka kukhala ndi zizoloŵezi zabwino zothetsa chidani, nthaŵi zonse ndi bwino kufunafuna thandizo la akatswiri. Kupita kuchipatala kumakupatsani mwayi wofufuza njira zosiyanasiyana kuti malingaliro anu odzidetsa azitha.. Popeza pali mitundu ingapo ya chithandizo, musazengereze kukaonana ndi dokotala wodziwa zambiri kuti mudziwe kuti ndi iti yomwe ili yoyenera kwambiri pa vuto lanu.

2. Sinkhasinkhani

Kwa munthu amene ali ndi malingaliro amdima, lingaliro la kusinkhasinkha lingawoneke ngati losapumula. Komabe, kusinkhasinkha sikufuna kuti mutseke malingaliro anu. M’malo mwake, imangokufunsani kuti muwapatse chisamaliro chowonjezereka.

Kukhala tcheru kwambiri ku malingaliro anu, ndikusankha mwanzeru momwe mungawayankhire, kaya kuwanyalanyaza kapena kuwavomereza, ndiko. njira yabwino yothanirana ndi malingaliro olakwika ndi malingaliro oyipa. Ngati mukuvutika ndi kusinkhasinkha, yesetsaniluso mankhwala ndi njira ina yosangalatsa yothamangitsira malingaliro anu oyipa.

3. Khalani ndi anthu abwino

Pofuna kukuthandizani pakuyesetsa kwanu, ndikofunikira kuti mudzizungulira ndi anthu omwe amakukondani ndikukulimbikitsani kuti mukhale odziyimira pawokha. Mwanjira iyi, liwu loipa m’mutu mwanu lidzakhala ndi mphamvu zochepa pa inu. Thandizo lochokera kwa omwe ali pafupi ndi inu likhoza kukupatsani chilimbikitso cholimbana ndi maganizo anu oipa kuti mukhale ndi moyo wosangalala.

Mauthenga a m’Baibulo kuti amvetsetse kudzida

Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri a sayansi pa mutu wa “kudzida”:

1. Alberto Eiguer. Kudzida wekha ndi ena: Psychoanalysis ya kusalana. Paris: Dunod, 2022.
2. Theodor Lessing. Kudzida kapena kukana kukhala Myuda. Paris: Pocket, 2011.
3. Eva Brabant-Gerö. “Kudzida, kudana ndi ena.” Tambala Heron, 2018/1 (No. 232), masamba 9 mpaka 16 .
4. Daniel Sibony. “Kudzida” ndi lingaliro loipa. Tambala Heron, 2018/1 (No. 232), masamba 17 mpaka 26 .
5. Francois Ladame. “Chidani ndi unyamata: ndani amadana ndi ndani?” “. Achinyamata, 2015/2 (T. 33 n°2), masamba 289 mpaka 300 .
6. Georges Gachnochi. “Kudzida: kuchokera ku liwongo kupita ku narcissism.” Tambala Heron, 2018/1 (No. 232), masamba 39 mpaka 47 .
7. Alain Ehrenberg. Watopa ndi kukhala wekha: kukhumudwa ndi gulu. Paris: Odile Jacob, 1998.

Maumboni awa amapereka chidziwitso chakuya pamalingaliro odzida, ndikuyika m’malingaliro, chikhalidwe cha anthu ndi chikhalidwe.

Kutsiliza

Kudzida kungawonekere kukhala kokulirapo, koma sikungapeŵeke. Pophunzira kumvetsetsa zomwe zimayambitsa ndikudzizungulira nokha ndi chithandizo, ndizotheka kusintha mawu olakwika amkatiwa. Dzisamalireni nokha ndipo, ngati kuli kofunikira, musazengereze kupempha thandizo. Mukuyenera kukhala ndi moyo wodzimvera chisoni ndikuyambiranso kudzidalira kuti ndinu ndani.

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