Kodi mungatani ndi munthu wopotoza wa narcissistic muubwenzi wapoizoni?

Vampire weniweni wamalingaliro, ndi narcissistic wopotoza ayenera kukhala pakati pa chidwi cha wozunzidwayo. Kukumana ndi munthu woteroyo, nthawi zambiri kumakhala kovuta kukhala wekha. Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani ngati muli paubwenzi wapoizoni ndi chilombo chosokoneza bongo? Mizere yotsatirayi ikuwonetsa izi.

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Kodi kupotoza kwa narcissistic ndi chiyani?

Wopotoza wa narcissistic ndi munthu yemwe amapereka vuto la umunthu lomwe limadziwika ndi makhalidwe angapo:

1. Kusokoneza maganizo

• Kugwiritsa ntchito mabodza ndi kusokoneza
• Kulakwa kumbali ina
• Kusinthana pakati pa kuwerengera ndi kutsika mtengo

2. Pathological narcissism

• Kudzimva kukhala wapamwamba komanso wamphamvuzonse
• Kufunika kosilira nthawi zonse
• Kupanda chifundo
• Kudyera masuku pamutu ena kuti apindule

3. Njira zaubwenzi wapoizoni

• Kudzipatula kwapang’onopang’ono kwa wozunzidwayo
• Kuwunikira gasi (kupangitsa ena kukayikira momwe amaonera zenizeni)
• Zoyipa zamalingaliro
• Kuchititsa manyazi mochenjera kapena mwachindunji

Kodi n’zotheka kutchera msampha wopotoza wa narcissistic?

Opotoza a Narcissistic nthawi zambiri amayamba kukongola, koma kukhala nawo paubwenzi kumatha kukhala poizoni kwambiri. Ngati ndi kotheka kuwasokoneza, kulimbana ndi chilombo cha narcissistic sikukhala koopsa. Popeza iye ndi katswiri wa luso loyendetsa ndi kuwononga wozunzidwayo, sadzazengereza kukuukirani. Komabe, n’zothekakukhala wamphamvu kuposa munthu wonyenga.

1. Dziwani bwino za narcissistic opotoza

Chinthu choyamba cholepheretsa munthu wopotoza narcissistic ndi kumvetsetsa ma pathology anu. Munthu wonyenga amakhala ndi vuto la khalidwe. Amatha kuwoneka ngati wabwinobwino komanso wangwiro poyamba.

Panthawi yonyengerera, amakopa wogwiriridwayo ndipo womalizayo amasiya kumuyang’anira. Kenako amakonda kulamulira wozunzidwayo ndi kugwiritsa ntchito kuchenjera ndi luntha kuti akwaniritse izi. Kuti akwaniritse zolinga zake, amatsitsa, amapangitsa anthu kudzimva kukhala olakwa ndikuwononga kudzidalira kwa omwe akuzunzidwa..

2. Kusokoneza munthu wopotoza wankhanza

Kodi mukufuna kukhala paubwenzi wapoizoni ndi chilombo chanarcissistic? M’pofunika kudziwa momwe mungasokonezere kuthandizira tsiku ndi tsiku. Choyamba, onetsetsani kuti nthawi zonse mumayang’anira malingaliro anu. Akakuukirani, khalani chete ndipo muyankhe modekha. Kupanda kutengeka mtima kwanu kudzamukhumudwitsa.

Kenako, pewani kudzilungamitsa panjira iliyonse ndikupewa mikangano. Akakuimbani mlandu, pewani kudziteteza, chifukwa kulungamitsidwa ndi njira yoti apangire kudzimva wolakwa. Kuphatikiza apo, kumbukirani kudzizungulira nokha ndi banja lanu, anzanu kapena anzanu. Wopotoza wa narcissistic amakonda kudzipatula kuti azitha kuwasokoneza bwino, chifukwa amakhala pachiwopsezo. Pofuna kumusokoneza, ndibwino kuti musamuulule zachinsinsi chanu. Pitirizani kukhala ndi unansi wachiphamaso kuti mudziteteze.

Njira zina zolankhulirana bwino ndi munthu wopotoza narcissistic?

Palibe njira yeniyeni yolankhulirana (m’lingaliro lenileni la mawuwo) ndi wonyenga. Ngati mukufuna kukhalabe ndi ubale wokhazikika komanso wathanzi, ndi bwino kumusiya. Zowonadi, zabwino zomwe mungachite ndi chilombo cha narcissistic ndikuchitaphunzirani kukankhira kutali kuti pang’onopang’ono akumasuleni ku chikoka chake. Choncho cholinga chake ndi kukutetezani kuti musamakuvutitseni komanso kukunyozani ndi munthu amene akukuzunzaniyo.. Kwa izi, njira zingapo zimalimbikitsidwa:

1. Yang’anani ndi wopotoza wankhanza, dzitsimikizireni nokha

Kuti asagwere mchikakamizo cha munthu wopotoza wa narcissistic, nthawi zonse muziikira malire ndipo dziwani kukana pamene wadutsa. Musazengereze kukonzanso uthenga womwe mukufuna kuti mulankhule ndikulondola momwe mungathere.

2. Funsani mafunso

Kunama ndiye chida chomwe mumawakonda kwambiri ndi narcissistic manipulator kuti akulamulireni. Mufunseni mafunso kuti amukakamize kuti akuuzeni zoona. Ikani pakhoma kuti muchotse zida zonse.

3. Pewani kupepesa

Wonyengayo adzayesa kukusokonezani pokuimbani mlandu chifukwa cholakwitsa. Koposa zonse, pewani kupepesa, makamaka ngati mulibe mlandu. Mutha kudziimba mlandu ndi kutaya kudzidalira. The manipulator adzakhala inu pansi pa chikoka chake mosavuta.

4. Lankhulani mwachidule

Ngakhale mutakhala olondola, ndizosatheka kutsimikizira wopotoza wa narcissistic. Pewani kukangana ndipo muyankhe mwachidule. Cholinga sichikhala chete kapena kugonjera, koma osati kupereka kufunika kwa zomwe akukuuzani. Mukhoza kuyankha ndi mawu monga: “ndi maganizo anu”, “ndi maganizo anu” kapena “ndi inu amene mukunena”.

5. Pewani kusonyeza kuti ndinu otetezeka

Pofuna kukunyengererani, wopotoza wa narcissistic amafufuza zofooka zanu zazing’ono. Kuti asakufikireni, dziwonetseni kuti ndinu osatetezeka pamaso pake. Choncho, musamupemphe kuti akukomereni mtima ndipo musamupatse chilichonse. Muyeneranso kusunga chimwemwe chanu cha moyo komanso koposa zonse kudziyimira pawokha pazachuma.

Pezani thandizo kuchokera kwa akatswiri kuti muthane ndi ubale ndi munthu wosokoneza bongo

Kukhala paubwenzi ndi wopotoza wankhanza ndikolemetsa. Zowonadi, kukumana ndi munthu wopotoza wankhanza kungakhale kowononga. Wogwiriridwa ndi chilombo cha narcissistic nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nkhawa, kupsinjika maganizo kapena kusokonezeka maganizo. Kaya mwaganiza zomusiya kapena kukhalabe paubwenzi wapoizoni umenewu, ndi bwino kupempha thandizo kwa akatswiri. Mulimonse mmene zinthu zilili, muyenera kukumbukira kuti moyo wanu ndi wanu.

Kuti musagwere m’chisonkhezero cha munthu wonyenga ndi kugonjetsa ubwenzi wanu ndi iye, muyenera kudzikonzekeretsa nokha. Chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kudziwa zofooka zanu ndikuwongolera mabala anu, kudzidalira kwanu, zokhumba zanu ndi ntchito zanu. Kuti mukwaniritse izi, musazengereze kupempha thandizo kwa katswiri wodziwa bwino ntchitoyo. Pewani kukhala wovutitsidwa ndi wopotoza wankhanza ndipo yesetsani kufotokozera zakukayikira kwanu kwa akatswiri.

Kodi mungachite bwanji pambuyo paubwenzi wapoizoni ndi wopotoza wa narcissistic?

Kuphatikiza pa katswiri, musazengereze kufikira okondedwa anu ndi okondedwa anu kuti mupewe kupita nokha pamavuto. Izi zimakupatsani mwayi wodzipeza, kudzimanganso ndikupuma. Kuti muthane ndi ubalewu, muyenera kukhala amphamvu komanso odzidalira pomwe mukukhala nokha. Ndi katswiri, mumawonetsetsa kuti mukuthandizidwa kuti muzindikire njira zomwe munthu wakomoka. Mudzaphunziranso kudzikonda momwe mukuyenera ndikudzimasula nokha ku kudalira kwanu kwa wozunza.

Buku la Bibliographic lochita bwino pochita ndi munthu wopotoza wamatsenga

Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri a m’mabukuwa omwe amafotokoza mutu wa opotoza a narcissistic ndi njira zothana nawo:

1. Brenner, I. (2017). Kusokoneza maganizo: Kumvetsetsa ndi kuchita zinthu zotsutsana ndi anthu opotoza maganizo. Zolemba za Rocher.
2. Sénécal, J. (2015). Opotoza Narcissistic: kumvetsetsa ndi kudziteteza. Zolemba za Jardin des Livres.
3. Marty, A. (2016). Nkhawa za narcissist: Zoyipa ndi anthu. Zolemba za La Découverte.
4. Mignot, M. (2014). Ubale Wapoizoni: Momwe mungadzimasulire nokha kwa anthu opotoza ankhanza. Editions Eyrolles.
5. Lévy, J. (2018). Zosokoneza za Narcissistic: kuzunzidwa tsiku ndi tsiku. Éditions du Seuil.
6. Gagnon, M. (2013). Kulepheretsa zosokoneza za narcissistic perverts: Guide yothandiza. Zosindikiza Zoyamba.
7. Fournier, F. (2019). Kupulumuka pakupotoza kwa narcissistic: Companion Guide. Kira Editions.

Mabuku awa akupatsirani chidziwitso chakuya ndi njira zothandiza kuti mumvetsetse ndikuchitapo kanthu pa khalidwe la narcissistic.

Kutsiliza

Pomaliza, kuyenda paubwenzi ndi narcissist ndi vuto lalikulu lomwe lingakhudze kwambiri moyo wanu. Kumvetsetsa njira zawo zosinthira ndikutengera njira zodzitetezera ndikofunikira kuti musunge ulemu wanu. Kaya mwasankha kusiya ubalewu kapena kupeza chithandizo cha akatswiri, kumbukirani kuti moyo wanu ndi wanu ndipo kumanganso ndi kotheka. Musazengereze kupempha thandizo kuchokera kwa okondedwa kapena akatswiri kuti mumasuke ku chikokachi ndikupezanso bwino.