I-vampire yangempela yomzwelo, i i-narcissistic pervert idinga ukuba yisizinda sokunaka kwesisulu sakhe. Uma ubhekene nomuntu onjalo, kuvame ukuba nzima ukuhlala uwena. Yini okufanele uyenze uma usebudlelwaneni obunobuthi nesilwane esizingelayo? Imigqa elandelayo ibheka lokhu.
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Yini i-narcissistic pervert?
I-narcissistic pervert ngumuntu oveza ukuphazamiseka kobuntu okubonakala ngokuziphatha okuningana okukhethekile:
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Ukukhohlisa kwengqondo
- Ukusetshenziswa kwamanga nokuqeda ukuzinzisa
- Icala ngakolunye uhlangothi
- Ukushintshana phakathi kokulinganisa nokwehliswa kwamanani
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I-Pathological narcissism
- Ukuzizwa uphakeme nokuba namandla onke
- Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokutuswa
- Ukungabi nozwelo
- Ukuxhaphaza abanye ukuze kuzuze yena
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Amasu obudlelwano obunobuthi
- Ukuhlukaniswa okuqhubekayo kwesisulu
- Ukukhanyisa igesi (ukwenza abanye bangabaze umbono wabo weqiniso)
- Ukungathembeki ngokomzwelo
- Ukuthotshiswa okucashile noma okuqondile
Kungenzeka yini ukubamba i-narcissistic pervert?
Abaphendukezeli be-Narcissistic bavame ukuqala ukubukeka, kodwa ukuba nobudlelwano nabo kungaba yingozi kakhulu. Uma kungenzeka ukubenza bangazinzi, ukuhlasela umhlaseli onama-narcissistic akuhlali kunengozi encane. Njengoba eyingcweti kwezobuciko bokuxhaphaza nokucekela phansi isisulu sakhe, ngeke angabaze ukukuhlasela. Nokho, kungenzekaube namandla kunomkhohlisi we-narcissistic.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
1. Yazi kahle i-narcissistic pervert
Isinyathelo sokuqala sokudicilela phansi isiphendu se-narcissistic uku qonda i-pathology yakho. Umuntu okhohlisayo uyisisulu sokuphazamiseka kokuziphatha. Uyakwazi ukubonakala ejwayelekile futhi ngisho ephelele ekuqaleni.
Phakathi nesigaba sokuyenga, uheha isisulu sakhe futhi lesi samuva siyamyeka. Khona-ke uvame ukulawula isisulu sakhe futhi asebenzise ubuqili nokuhlakanipha ukufeza lokhu. Ukuze afeze izinjongo zakhe, uyehlisa isithunzi, enze abantu bazizwe benecala futhi acekele phansi ukuzethemba kwezisulu zakhe..
2. Qinisa ukuhlanekezela umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic
Ingabe uyafuna ukuba nobudlelwano obunobuthi nomhlaseli onama-narcissistic? Kuyadingeka ukwazi indlela yokuwuqeda amandla ukuyisekela nsuku zonke. Okokuqala, qiniseka ukuthi uhlala ulawula imizwa yakho. Lapho ekuhlasela, hlala uzolile futhi usebenzise iphimbo elipholile lapho uphendula. Ukuntuleka komzwelo ohlangothini lwakho kuzomkhungathekisa.
Khona-ke, gwema ukuzithethelela ngazo zonke izindlela futhi ugweme izingxabano. Uma ekusola, gwema ukuzivikela, ngoba ukuthethelelwa kuyisango lakhe lokudala umuzwa wecala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, khumbula ukuzungeza umndeni wakho, abangani bakho noma ozakwenu. I-narcissistic pervert ivame ukuhlukanisa isisulu sakhe ukuze asilawule kangcono, ngoba sizoba sengozini kakhulu. Ukumthunaza, kuyancomeka ukuthi ungavezi impilo yakho yangasese kuye. Londoloza ubudlelwano obukha phezulu ukuze uzivikele.
Amanye amasu okuxhumana kangcono ne-narcissistic pervert?
Ayikho indlela yangempela yokuxhumana (ngomqondo weqiniso wegama) nomuntu okhohlisayo. Uma ufuna ukugcina ubuhlobo obuzinzile nobunempilo, kuhle ukumshiya. Impela, okungcono kakhulu ongakwenza nge-narcissistic predator iwukubafunda ukuyiphusha ukuze kancane kancane ikukhulule ethonyeni layo. Ngakho-ke umgomo uwukuvikela ekuhlukunyezweni ngokokuziphatha nasekuhlaselweni ngamazwi okuvela kumhlukumezi wakho.. Kulokhu, kunconywa amasu ambalwa:
1. Bhekana ne-narcissistic pervert, zigomele
Ukuze ungaweli ngaphansi kwethonya le-narcissistic pervert, njalo ubeke imingcele yakho futhi wazi ukuthi cha lapho eweqa. Unganqikazi ukwenza kabusha umlayezo ofisa ukuwukhuluma ube unembe ngangokunokwenzeka.
2. Buza imibuzo
Ukuqamba amanga iyithuluzi eliyintandokazi le-narcissistic manipulator ukukulawula. Mbuze imibuzo ezomphoqa ukuthi akutshele iqiniso. Yibeke odongeni ukuze uyisuse ngokuphelele.
3. Gwema ukuxolisa
Umkhohlisi uzozama ukukuthunaza ngokukusola ngamaphutha. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, gwema ukuxolisa, ikakhulukazi uma ungenacala. Uzibeka engcupheni yokuzibeka icala futhi ulahlekelwe ukuzethemba. I-manipulator izoba nawe ngaphansi kwethonya lakhe kalula.
4. Yiba kafushane
Ngisho noma uqinisile, akunakwenzeka ukukholisa i-narcissistic pervert. Gwema ukuphikisana futhi ube mfushane ezimpendulweni zakho. Umgomo awukona ukuthula noma ukuzithoba, kodwa hhayi ukunikeza ukubaluleka kwalokho akutshela kona. Ungabe usuphendula ngemishwana efana nokuthi: “umbono wakho”, “umbono wakho” noma “nguwe okushoyo”.
5. Gwema ukuzibonakalisa usengozini
Ukuze sikukhohlise, i-narcissistic pervert ihlolisisa ubuthaka bakho obuncane. Ukuze angakwazi ukufinyelela kuwe, zibonise ukuthi awungenwa lutho emehlweni akhe. Ngakho-ke, ungamceli umusa futhi ungamniki lutho. Kufanele futhi ugcine injabulo yakho yokuphila futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ukuzimela kwakho ngokwezimali.
Thola usizo oluvela kochwepheshe ukuze unqobe ubudlelwano nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic
Ukuba nobudlelwano nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kusinda. Ngempela, ukuxhumana nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kungaba yingozi kakhulu. Umuntu oyisisulu sesilwane esinama-narcissistic uvame ukuba nokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka noma ukuphazamiseka ngokomzwelo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unquma ukumshiya noma uhlale kulobu budlelwano obunobuthi, kuyatuseka ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isimo, kumelwe ukhumbule ukuthi ukuphila kwakho kungokwakho.
Ukuze ugweme ukuwela ngaphansi kwethonya le-manipulator futhi unqobe ubuhlobo bakho naye, udinga ukusebenza ngokwakho. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukwazi ubuthakathaka bakho futhi usebenze emanxebeni akho, ukuzethemba kwakho, izifiso zakho kanye namaphrojekthi akho. Ukufeza lokhu, ungangabazi ukufuna ukwesekwa kuchwepheshe ochwepheshe kulo mkhakha. Gwema ukuhlala uyisisulu se-narcissistic pervert futhi ulinge ukuthulula ukungabaza kwakho kuchwepheshe.
Indlela yokwenza ngemva kobudlelwane obunobuthi nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic?
Ngaphandle kochwepheshe, ungangabazi ukufinyelela obathandayo nabathandekayo bakho ukuze ugweme ukuhamba wedwa esimweni. Lokhu kukuvumela ukuthi uzithole, uzakhe kabusha futhi uphefumule. Ukuze unqobe lobu budlelwano, kufanele uqine futhi uqiniseke ngenkathi uhlala ngokwakho. Ngochwepheshe, uyaqinisekisa ukuthi uyasekelwa ukuze uthole izindlela zokuquleka. Uzofunda futhi ukuzithanda njengoba kufanele futhi uzikhulule ekuthembeleni ngokomzwelo kumhlukumezi wakho.
Ireferensi ye-Bibliographic yokwenza kahle lapho usebenza nomuntu ohlanekezela i-narcissistic
Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibheli ezikhuluma ngendikimba yokuhlanekezela kwe-narcissistic namasu okubhekana nazo:
- Brenner, I. (2017). Ukukhohlisa kwemizwa: Ukuqonda nokwenza ngokumelene nabahlanekezeli be-narcissistic. Editions du Rocher.
- Sénécal, J. (2015). Ama-Narcissistic perverts: ukuqonda nokuzivikela. Editions du Jardin des Livres.
- UMarty, A. (2016). Ukukhathazeka kwe-narcissist: Ukonakala nomphakathi. Izinhlelo ze-La Découverte.
- Mignot, M. (2014). Ubudlelwano obunobuthi: Ungazikhulula kanjani kubahlanekezeli be-narcissistic. Izinhlobo ze-Eyrolles.
- Lévy, J. (2018). I-Narcissistic perverts: ukuhlukunyezwa kokuziphatha kwansuku zonke. Editions du Seuil.
- Gagnon, M. (2013). Ukunqanda ukukhohlisa kwabaphendukezeli be-narcissistic: Umhlahlandlela osebenzayo. Izinguqulo Zokuqala.
- U-Fournier, F. (2019). Ukusinda ekuphendukeni kwe-narcissistic: Igayidi engumngane. Kira Editions.
Lezi zincwadi zizokunikeza ulwazi olujulile namasu asebenzayo okuqonda nokwenza ngokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic.
Isiphetho
Sengiphetha, ukuzulazula ebudlelwaneni ne-narcissist kuyinselelo enkulu engokomzwelo engaba nomthelela omkhulu enhlalakahleni yakho. Ukuqonda izindlela zabo zokukhohlisa nokusebenzisa amasu okuvikela kubalulekile ukuze ulondoloze ukuzethemba kwakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhetha ukushiya lobu budlelwano noma ufuna ukwesekwa kochwepheshe, khumbula ukuthi impilo yakho ingeyakho futhi ukwakha kabusha kungenzeka. Unganqikazi ukufuna usizo kobathandayo noma ochwepheshe ukuze uzikhulule kuleli thonya futhi uphinde uthole ibhalansi yakho.
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