Momwe mungathandizire wozunzidwa ndi Narcissistic Pervert?

Momwe mungathandizire wogwidwa ndi munthu wopotoza wankhanza : Kufunika kothandiza wozunzidwa ndiko kumverera kozama kwaumunthu. N’chifukwa chake timaona kuti m’pofunika kuthandiza munthu amene akuvutika. Nawa maupangiri abwino kwambiri otulutsira wokondedwa wanu kuchokera m’manja mwa munthu wopotoza wa narcissistic.

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Kodi mungathandizire bwanji wozunzidwa ndi wopotoza wa narcissistic? 6 malangizo

Nazi njira zosiyanasiyana zothandizira a wogwidwa ndi munthu wopotoza wankhanza :

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1. Tsegulani maso a wozunzidwayo
2. Sankhani kukambitsirana modekha kuti amukhulupirire
3. Kukumbutsa zowona zenizeni
4. Khalani oleza mtima ndi kuzindikira
5. Pewani kuweruza wozunzidwayo
6. Limbikitsani ndi kuthandizira wozunzidwa panthawi yomanganso

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1. Tsegulani maso a wozunzidwayo

Wozunzidwayo nthawi zambiri amapita kufuna kukhalabe ndi wopotoza wankhanza. Ali kutali ndi kuzindikira mbali yapoizoni ya wokondedwa wake. Ichi ndichifukwa chake mawonekedwe akunja ndi othandiza. Mudzatha kusanthula momwe zinthu zilili ndi kukumana ndi wozunzidwayo za mkhalidwe wake weniweni. Za izo, kupeŵa njira zachiwawa, umunthu wake ukufooketsedwa ndi PN.

2. Sankhani kukambirana modekha kuti amukhulupirire

Muyenera kupeza nthawi yolankhula ndi wokondedwa wanu. Imeneyi ndi njira yopezera chikhulupiriro chawo kuti akuuzeni zakukhosi. Mtima wake ukatseguka, m’patseni kukambitsirana za mkhalidwe wake kotero kuti azindikire mkhalidwe umene iye alidi. Osathamangira ndikusankha mawu oti mugwiritse ntchito mwanzeru.

3. Kukumbutsa mfundo nthawi zonse

Zimenezi zimaphatikizapo kukhala maso m’maganizo mwanu. Muyenera kudziwa kuti ngakhale mutha kutsegula maso a wozunzidwayo, izi sizokwanira. Iye akhoza kukayikira ngakhale kuti mfundo zake zili pamaso pake. Akhoza kuyamba kudziimba mlandu ndikudzikhulupirira kuti ndi wolakwa ndi PN. Ichi ndichifukwa chake muyenera kumukumbutsa zomwe adakumana nazo ndi narcissist. Mukhoza kumusonyeza chifukwa chake wonyenga wankhanza amadana ndi munthu amene amamuzunza.

4. Khalani oleza mtima ndipo tsimikizani

N’zotheka ndithu kuti thandizo limene mumapereka kwa wozunzidwayo lidzalandiridwa mosiyana. Chochita chake choyamba chidzakhala kusamala za inu, akufuna kukhalabe akukukanani. Choncho muyenera kuyimirira ngakhale mawu ena angakhale opweteka. Wozunzidwayo adzayesa kupereka ngongole kwa wowazunza osati inu.

5. Peŵani kuweruza wochitiridwayo

Osafulumira kupita patsogolo ndipo musaweruze wokondedwa wanu. N’zosavuta kugwera mumsampha umenewu n’kunena kuti wozunzidwayo ndi wopusa kwambiri. Kumbukirani kuti wozunzidwayo ndi munthu wosweka maganizo. Kuti tiyenera kukhala ndi chifundo ndi kuleza mtima kwa iye.

6. Limbikitsani ndi kuthandizira wozunzidwa panthawi yomanganso

Pamene wozunzidwayo wamasulidwa ku zolakwa za wopotoza wa narcissistic, musataye khama lanu. Panthawiyi, chithandizo chanu chidzafunikabe ndi wozunzidwayo. Inde, akhoza kutembenukira kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo kapena psychotherapist, ayeneranso kumva thandizo ndi kupezeka kwa munthu wapafupi naye.

Kodi mungazindikire bwanji wozunzidwa ndi wopotoza wa narcissistic?

Kupotoza kwa Narcissistic kumachita mochenjera, nthawi zonse pamithunzi. Wopotoza adzawoneka bwino pagulu. + Iye adzabisa mdima wake ndi kuchita zoipa mumthunzi. Chigoba chake chimavala bwino kwambiri kotero kuti wovulalayo sangathe kuboola masewera ake kwa nthawi yayitali. Nazi mfundo zomwe muyenera kuzidziwa:

• Wozunzidwayo adzakhala kutali kwambiri ndi okondedwa ake. Choncho ufulu wake wachepetsedwa kwambiri.
• Umunthu wake umachulukira kufufutika. Pang’onopang’ono amasiya kudzidziwika.
• Kusintha kwakukulu kwa umunthu kudzachitika, amakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri.
• Matenda a nkhawa, kukhumudwa kapena matenda a psychosomatic akhoza kuwonekera mwa munthuyo.
• Matenda ena a m’maganizo kutsatira kugwiritsa ntchito njira zina monga kuyatsa gasi kuchokera ku PN ikhoza kuwoneka.

Osadikirira kuti SOS yachindunji kuchokera kwa wozunzidwayo achitepo kanthu.

Kodi ndi chithandizo chotani chomwe chingaperekedwe kwa wozunzidwa wankhanza wankhanza?

Ndiye, kodi mungathandize bwanji munthu amene wagwiriridwa? Kwa izi, pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana yothandizira:

• Mvetserani mosamala, muyenera kukhala womvetsera wabwino kuti mudziwe mkhalidwe wa wozunzidwayo. Otsatirawo akhoza kukhala ndi zovuta chifukwa nthawi zambiri amakhala osokonezeka kwambiri.
• Khalani omasuka monga momwe mungathere kuti musakokere chidwi cha narcissist kwa inu. Kudziwonetsa nokha ngati mukutsutsana ndi PN kumangowapangitsa kuti azikayikira.
• Perekani wozunzidwayo malo omwe angathe kudzimanganso. Kumuthandiza kutuluka m’khola sikokwanira, m’pofunika kuti mukhalepo kuti mumuthandize kudzuka.

Kodi munganene chiyani kwa wokondedwa yemwe wagwidwa ndi wopotoza wankhanza?

Munthawi yovuta ngati imeneyi, nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kupeza mawu olondola. Inde, muyenera kukhala osamala, chifukwa ozunzidwa ali ndi umunthu wawo. Choncho, momwe mungathandizire mkazi yemwe wagwidwa ndi narcissistic wopotoza adzakhala wosiyana ndi njira ya mwamuna. Koma apa pali ziganizo zingapo zoyambira kutembenuka ndi wozunzidwayo:

• Mukufuna kulankhula za chiyani, chomwe chikukudetsani nkhawa kwambiri panthawiyi?
• Kodi mukumva bwanji za “dzina la wopotoza”?
• Kodi mumapereka lipoti la kusintha kwa mkhalidwe wanu?
• Kodi ndinu osangalala?

Ndani angakhale mkhole wa wopotoza wankhanza?

Palibe mbiri yeniyeni yozunzidwa yomwe imafuna thandizo lapadera. Narcissist adzasankha wozunzidwa yemwe angakonde. Wonyengayo, komabe, adzakonda anthu omwe ali ndi njira zina.

• Anthu ndi aura wabwino ndi mphamvu wamphamvu.
• Iwo omwe ali okonda komanso odzipereka, makamaka omwe akhudzidwa ndi Savior syndrome (a kuyesa kwa Savior Syndrome). Manipulator atenga mawonekedwe a munthu wosalimba.
• Makhalidwe omwe ali paokha ndi kufufutidwa. Vuto lidzakhala lotsika kwambiri kwa narcissist pankhaniyi.

Kodi tingathe kusintha kapena kuchita zinthu zopondereza za narcissistic?

Kufunafuna kuchiza munthu wopotoza wankhanza ndi ntchito yowopsa. Tikukulangizani kuti musasankhe yankho ili. Kumbukirani kuti PN ndi umunthu wapoizoni choncho zowononga kwambiri. Pewani kugwirizana ndi wozunza uyu, mayankho monga momwe mungapangire munthu wopotoza wankhanza kuti ayambe kukondana? Ayenera kuchotsedwa mu malingaliro anu. Narcissist amadziwa chikhalidwe chake ndipo amasangalala nacho. Kulowererapo kokha kwa katswiri kungathandize.

Buku lothandizira anthu ozunzidwa ndi narcissistic pervert

Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri a m’mabukuwa pamutu wa “Kuthandiza wozunzidwa ndi wopotoza wankhanza”:

1. Olivier, J. (2016). Manipulators atsiku ndi tsiku: kumvetsetsa ndikuchita. Editions Eyrolles.
2. Grosjean, S. (2017). Narcissistic perverts: kumvetsetsa kuchitapo kanthu. Zolemba za l’Homme.
3. Dulac, M. (2019). Ozunzidwa ndi onyenga: kuswa chete. Zolemba za Larousse.
4. Cohen, M. (2015). Kutuluka muulamuliro: kalozera kwa ozunzidwa ndi onyenga. Zosindikiza Zoyamba.
5. Kern, M. (2018). Kuvutitsidwa ndi makhalidwe kuntchito: kumvetsetsa ndi kuchita. Dunod Editions.
6. Simeoni, J. (2020). Wopotoza narcissistic: kumvetsetsa ndi kuchiritsa. Zosintha za Marabout.
7. Binet, J. (2017). Ubale wapoizoni: zindikirani, mvetsetsani ndikumasula nokha. Zosindikiza za Solar.

Maumboni awa akuyenera kukupatsirani maziko abwino owunikira mutuwo ndikuthandizira ozunzidwa ndi opotoza olankhula.

Kutsiliza

Pomaliza, kuthandiza munthu woponderezedwa ndi wopondereza kumafuna kuleza mtima, chifundo ndi njira yosamalira. Potsegula maso a wokondedwa wanu kuti aone kuopsa kwa mkhalidwe wawo, kuwapatsa malo otetezeka kuti adziwonetsere okha, ndikuthandizira njira yawo yochira, mukhoza kupanga kusiyana kwenikweni. Kumbukirani kuti sitepe iliyonse ya ndondomekoyi ndi yofunika kwambiri ndipo kupitirizabe kumuthandiza n’kofunika kuti mumuthandize kukhalanso ndi mphamvu ndi chidziwitso. Pochita zinthu mwachifundo ndi mwaulemu, mumathandizira kuthetsa kusamvana ndikupereka chiyembekezo kwa iwo omwe akuchifuna kwambiri.