Wachiwawa Narcissistic Pervert – Kodi zikuwoneka bwanji?

Timalankhula zambiri za nkhanza za m’maganizo. Kunena mwachidule, izi ndi zikwapu zomwe siziwoneka, zosintha zomwe zimakhudza ubongo wanu. Vuto lalikulu tikamalankhula kwa anzathu, kupolisi, ku gendarmerie, palibe amene amawona zomwe zikuchitika chifukwa ndi dint of manipulating you, narcissistic pervert amawononga inu. Koma, kodi munthu uyu nayenso akhoza kubwera kudzawomba? kukuchitirani nkhanza? 

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Kodi wopotoza wankhanza angakhale wachiwawa?

Sikuti onse opotoza ankhanza amachita zachiwawa. Magazini ina ya ku America inafotokozanso za kafukufuku wokwana 437 wokhudza kugwiriridwa ndi chiwawa, okhudza anthu oposa 123. Narcissism yapezeka kuti ikugwirizana ndi kuwonjezeka kwa 000% kwachiwawa komanso kuwonjezeka kwa 21% kwachiwawa. M’maphunzirowa, awa ndi anthu omwe amakhala aukali akapsa mtima komanso amakhala aukali akapanda kukwiya.

Izi zitha kupangitsa kuti tisamvetse bwino.hypervigilanceNgakhale atasiya chibwenzi ndi anthu amenewa, pamakhala kuzunzidwa, kutukwana, nthawi zina miseche, kuopseza ena, kenako n’kumachita ngati wozunzidwayo. 

Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa munthu wankhanza ndi wopotoza wankhanza?

Inde, pali kusiyana pakati pa munthu wachiwawa ndi munthu wokonda zachiwerewere. Munthu wachiwawa amachita zachiwawa zakuthupi, pomwe munthu wokonda zachiwerewere amachita zachiwawa zamaganizo. Mu chiwawa chakuthupiWozunzidwayo akhoza kukhala ndi zipsera zokhalitsa: mabala, mabala, mabala osweka, ndi ma DNA otsalira pa milandu yogwiriridwa. Boma la chilungamo lili ndi umboni wochuluka woti liganizire. Kenako pali milandu yomwe mabalawo amatha ndipo mabalawo amatha patatha masiku angapo. 

Kumbali ina, pali mitundu ya nkhanza zamaganizo kumene kuzunzika sikumaganiziridwa. Ndi mkati ndipo ngakhale pamene pali chiwawa chakuthupi, kumbuyo kwake kumakhala kunyoza, kunyozetsa, kusokoneza. Imalemera ndipo imatha nthawi yayitali. Chochitika chowongolera ndi chowawa komanso chovuta kuchigonjetsa.  

Narcissistic wopotoza ndi nkhanza m’banja

Titha kulankhula za opotoza a narcissistic pakakhala kugwiritsiridwa ntchito kwakukulu kwa njira zopotoka za narcissistic. Pankhani ya nkhanza zapakhomo, zimayamba ndendende pomwe timaganiza kuti zimayambira. 

Kwenikweni, nthawi zambiri, sitingayerekeze kuika malire ndi munthu amene timamukonda chifukwa timaopa mkangano waung’ono kotero kuti sitiyika malire ndipo winayo akupitiriza. 

Nthawi zonse timayang’ana kunja: kodi ena amaganiza kuti ndizabwinobwino kapena ayi. M’pofunika kwambiri kudziganizira tokha zimene takonzeka kuvomereza. Kodi sitikufuna kuvomereza chiyani? Ndithudi sikuli kwa munthu wina kutiuza kumene malire ali. Choncho, aliyense ayenera kufotokoza kumene malire ake ali. 

Kodi nkhanza za munthu wopotoza wankhanza zimawoneka bwanji?

Chiwawa cha munthu wopotoza wankhanza chimabwera m’njira zosiyanasiyana:

1. Kupezerera anzawo

• wopotoza wankhanza amadziwonetsa kuti ndi wamkulu kuposa wozunzidwayo,
• ali patsogolo panu ndipo amakana kubwerera m’mbuyo: mulibe chochitira koma kudikirira kapena kubwerera kumbuyo ndikupirira zomwe wopotoza wamatsenga akunena. Sasuntha ndipo chifukwa cha mantha omwe ali mkati mwanu, mumakakamizika kubwerera m’mbuyo, 
• wopotoza wamatsenga amaponya ndikuphwanya zinthu: mokwiya, amatha kuponya zinthu ndipo nthawi zina, akakwiya kwambiri, amatha kukuponyera zinthu izi; 
• amatha kugogoda pamakoma, zitseko ndi mazenera,  
• wopotoza wamatsenga akhoza kuchita mantha kuti alandire kugonjera: amathyola zinthu ndi kunena kuti “izi ndi zomwe ndingathe”. Palibe kukhudzana kwakuthupi koma kuwopseza ndi zenizeni ngati kuti zidachitika.

2. Kudzipatula

• Wopotoza wa narcissistic amalowa kumbuyo kwa gudumu ndikuyamba kuyendetsa mowopsa, amathamanga, amatengera zoopsa mosasamala. Simungathe kuchita kalikonse. 
• Watengedwa kapena kutsekeredwa kumalo akutali, 
• Mumanyoza munthu wopotoza wankhanza kunja kukugwa mvula yolimba chifukwa simungathe kutuluka, 
• Mukadwala, wopotoza wa narcissistic saitana dokotala.

3. Kudziletsa

• Wopotoza narcissistic akukulepheretsani inu
• Pamene mukuyendetsa galimoto, amapeza mpata wakukuwa kapena kukufuula, simungathe kutuluka mgalimoto kapena kudumpha mgalimoto, mumakakamizika kumumvera, 
• Wopotoza wa narcissistic adzakulepheretsani kulikonse: kutseka chitseko, gwira chitseko, kuba makiyi agalimoto, kutseka galimoto, kuthyola foni yako, gwira dzanja lako mwamphamvu, 
• Mumamva ngati muli m’ndende.

4. Ukali

• Wopotoza wa narcissistic adzakugundani,
• kukankha ndi kukhoma,
• gwedeza mkono,
• kukankha, 
• ndikumenya,
• kukukankhirani mozungulira,
• kuluma iwe,
• kukumenya mbama,
• kukumenyani ndi chinthu,
• kugwedezani,
• kutsina iwe,
• kukufowetsani,
• kokerani tsitsi lanu,
• kukukokani,
• kukuwotchani,
• kukudula, kubaya,
• wopotoza wa narcissistic nthawi zonse adzapeza chifukwa chotsimikizira nkhanza zawo. 

Potsirizira pake, kudzipatula ndi kuopsezedwa kumakhala kofala. Ndizofala kwambiri moti timakhala dzanzi kwa izo. Nkhanza zimayembekezeredwa ndipo sizikhalanso zododometsa. Wopotoza wa narcissistic ndi wovuta kwambiri kotero kuti sizodabwitsanso. Wopotoza wankhanza adzakulitsa ziwopsezo zake, ziwopsezo zake zolankhula motsutsana ndi iyemwini, banja, iwo omwe ali pafupi naye. Muyenera kuthawa nthawi yomweyo!

Maupangiri a m’mabukuwa pamutu wa ziwawa zosokoneza zachiwawa

Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri a m’mabukuwa okhudza zachiwawa zopotoza zachiwawa:

1. Hirigoyen, Marie-France. Kuvutitsa Makhalidwe: chiwawa chopotoka tsiku ndi tsiku. Paris: Editions La Découverte, 1998.
2. Racamier, Paul-Claude. Zosokoneza za Narcissistic. Paris: Presses Universitaires de France, 1992.
3. Eiguer, Alberto. Wopotoza wa narcissistic ndi mnzake. Paris: Dunod, 2010.
4. Sirota, André. Zopotoza za Narcissistic: kumvetsetsa, kuchenjera, kugonjetsa. Paris: Editions Le Manuscrit, 2017.
5. Hirigoyen, Marie-France. Azimayi okhudzidwa: zomwe zimayambitsa nkhanza m’banja. Paris: O! Zosindikiza, 2005.
6. Bouchoux, Jean-Charles. Opotoza Narcissistic. Paris: Editions Eyrolles, 2011.
7. Hirigoyen, Marie-France. Kupatukana ndi ana. Paris: Editions La Découverte, 2024.

Ntchitozi zimapereka chidziwitso chozama cha njira zoponderezedwa ndi narcissistic ndi chiwawa chokhudzana ndi nkhanza, zonse mwachidziwitso komanso zenizeni.

Kutsiliza

Pomaliza, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa kuti ziwawa za opotoza a narcissistic zitha kutenga mawonekedwe obisika, osawoneka, koma owononga kwambiri. Kuwongolera kwawo ndi kuwopsyeza kumagwira ntchito mpaka kalekale yomwe ndi yovuta kuisiya. Chiwawa chakuthupi chingakhalenso mbali ya chithunzicho, kupangitsa ngoziyo kukhala yeniyeni. Ndikofunikira kudziikira malire anu ndikuzindikira zizindikiro za nkhanza kuti mudziteteze ndikuchoka mumchitidwewu. Kuthawa mwachangu nthawi zambiri kumakhala njira yabwino kwambiri yodzitetezera ndi kudzimanganso.