I-Violent Narcissistic Pervert – Ibukeka kanjani?

Sikhuluma kakhulu ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokomqondo. Kalula nje, lawa amagalelo angenakubonwa, ukukhohlisa okuthinta ubuchopho bakho. Inkinga enkulu uma sekumele sikhulume ngayo kubangani bethu, emaphoyiseni, ejenda, akekho obona ukuthi kwenzekani ngoba nge-dint of manipulating, i-narcissistic pervert iyakuqeda. Kodwa-ke, ingabe lo muntu uyakwazi futhi ukuhlasela? ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba kuwe? 

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Ingabe i-narcissistic pervert ingaba nodlame?

Akubona bonke abahlanekezeli be-narcissistic abaphendukela kubudlova. Umagazini waseMelika ubuyekeze izifundo ezingama-437 mayelana ne-narcissism kanye nobudlova ezibandakanya ingqikithi yabahlanganyeli abangaphezu kuka-123. I-Narcissism kutholakale ukuthi ihlobene nokwanda kodlame ngo-000% nokwanda kodlame ngo-21%. Kulezi zifundo, laba ngabantu abanolaka uma becasukile kodwa futhi abanolaka uma bengacasulwa.

Lokhu kungadala isimo sokungacaci kithi.ukuqapha ngokweqileNgisho nangemva kokuhlukana ngothando nalaba bantu, kuba nokuhlaselwa ngokomzimba, ukuxhashazwa ngamazwi, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nokuhleba, ukwesabisa abanye, bese kuba ukudlala isisulu. 

Ingabe ukhona umehluko phakathi kwendoda enobudlova kanye ne-narcissistic pervert?

Yebo, kukhona umehluko phakathi kwendoda enobudlova nomuntu ophambukile othanda ukuzikhukhumeza. Indoda enobudlova ibangela ubudlova obungokomzimba, kanti umuntu ophambukile othanda ukuzikhukhumeza ubangela ubudlova obungokwengqondo. Ku- ubudlova obungokomzimbaIsisulu singase sibe namabala ahlala isikhathi eside: imivimbo, amabala, ukwaphuka, kanye nemivimbo ye-DNA emacaleni okudlwengula. Uhlelo lobulungiswa lunobufakazi obuningi obuphathekayo okufanele bucatshangelwe. Bese kuba namacala lapho imivimbo iphela khona futhi ukulimala kunyamalale ngemva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa. 

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kunezinhlobo zobudlova obungokwengqondo lapho ukuhlupheka kungabhekwa khona. Kungaphakathi futhi ngisho nalapho kunobudlova obungokomzimba, ngemva kwakho kulele ukululaza, ukululazeka, ukuxhaphaza. Inesisindo futhi ihlala isikhathi eside. Isimo sokulawula sibuhlungu futhi kunzima ukunqoba.  

I-Narcissistic pervert kanye nodlame lwasekhaya

Singakhuluma ngabahlanekezeli be-narcissistic uma kukhona ukusetshenziswa okukhulu kwezindlela ezihlanekezelekayo ze-narcissistic. Mayelana nodlame lwasekhaya, luqala kahle lapho sinquma ukuthi luqala khona. 

Ngokuyisisekelo, kaningi, asilokothi sibeke umkhawulo nomuntu esimthandayo ngoba sesaba ingxabano encane ukuze singabeki umkhawulo futhi enye iqhubeke. 

Sihlale sibhekisela ngaphandle: ingabe abanye bacabanga ukuthi kuyinto evamile noma cha. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi sizicabangele lokho esikulungele ukukwamukela. Yini esingafuni ukuyamukela? Akukhona neze kumuntu wesithathu ukuthi asitshele ukuthi umkhawulo ukuphi. Ngakho-ke, wonke umuntu kufanele achaze ukuthi umkhawulo wabo ukuphi. 

Bubukeka bunjani udlame lomuntu ohlanekezelwe yi-narcissistic?

Udlame lwempetha ye-narcissistic buziveza ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene nezihlukile:

1. Ubuqhwaga

• umuntu ohlanekezela u-narcissistic uzibonakalisa ephakeme kunesisulu sakhe,
• uphambi kwakho futhi uyenqaba ukuhlehla: akukho okunye ongakwenza ngaphandle kokuthi ulinde noma ujike futhi ubekezelele lokho okushiwo yi-narcissistic pervert. Akanyakazi futhi ngenxa yovalo olungaphakathi kuwe, uphoqeleka ukuthi uhlehle, 
• i-narcissistic pervert ijikijela futhi ihlephule izinto: ngokuthukuthela, iyakwazi ukujikijela izinto futhi ngezinye izikhathi, uma ithukuthele kakhulu, ingakwazi ukuphonsa lezi zinto kuwe, 
• uyakwazi ukungqongqoza ezindongeni, ezicabheni nasemafasiteleni,  
• umuntu ohlanekezela ama-narcissistic angesaba ukuthola ukuzithoba: uzophula izinto futhi athi “yilokhu engikwaziyo ukukwenza”. Akukho ukuthintana ngokomzimba kodwa usongo lungokoqobo njengokungathi lwenzekile.

2. Ukuzihlukanisa

• I-narcissistic pervert ingena ngemuva kwesondo futhi iqala ukushayela ngendlela eyingozi, iyasheshisa, ithatha izingozi budedengu. Ngeke wenze lutho. 
• Uthathwa noma uvalelwe endaweni eyedwa, 
• Uhlambalaza i-narcissistic pervert uma linetha kakhulu ngaphandle ngoba awukwazi ukuphuma, 
• Uma ugula, i-narcissistic pervert ayimbizi udokotela.

3. Ukuzithiba

• I-narcissistic pervert ikubambezele
• Uma ushayela, uthola ithuba lokumemeza noma ukumemeza, awukwazi ukuphuma emotweni noma uphume emotweni, uphoqeleke ukuthi umlalele, 
• Umdukisi we-narcissistic uzokuvimbela yonke indawo: khiya umnyango, ubambe isicabha, untshontshe okhiye bemoto yakho, ukhiye imoto, uphule ifoni yakho, ubambe ingalo yakho ngokuqinile, 
• Unomuzwa wokuboshwa.

4. Ulaka

• I-narcissistic pervert izokushaya,
• ukukhahlela nokushaya,
• nyakazisa ingalo,
• ukuphusha, 
• ngikushaye,
• ukuphusha ngapha nangapha,
• kukuluma,
• ngikushaye ngempama,
• ukukushaya ngento,
• ngikunyakazise,
• phuca wena,
• ngikuncishe umoya,
• donsa izinwele zakho,
• donsa wena,
• ngikushise,
• ukukuqoba, ukukugwaza,
• i-narcissistic pervert iyohlala ithola isizathu sokuthethelela unya lwabo. 

Ekugcineni, ukuzihlukanisa nokwesatshiswa kuba yinsakavukela. Sekujwayelekile ukuthi sibe ndikindiki kukho. Kulindelwe ulaka futhi alusathuki. I-narcissistic pervert inolaka kangangokuthi akusamangalisi. I-narcissistic pervert izoqinisa ukuhlasela kwayo, izinsongo zayo zamazwi ngokumelene naye, umndeni, nalabo abasondelene naye. Kufanele ubaleke ngokushesha!

Amareferensi e-bibliographic endikimbeni yokuhlanekezela kwe-narcissistic enodlame

Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibheli endikimbeni yokuhlanekezela kwe-narcissistic enodlame:

1. Hirigoyen, Marie-France. Ukuhlukunyezwa kokuziphatha: ubudlova obuhlanekezelwe nsuku zonke. I-Paris: I-Editions La Découverte, 1998.
2. Racamier, uPaul-Claude. Ukuguqulwa kweNarcissistic. I-Paris: Presses Universitaires de France, 1992.
3. Eiguer, Alberto. I-narcissistic pervert kanye nomlingani wakhe. EParis: Dunod, 2010.
4. Sirota, André. I-Narcissistic perverts: qonda, uhlakaniphe, unqobe. I-Paris: Editions Le Manuscrit, 2017.
5. Hirigoyen, Marie-France. Abesifazane abangaphansi kwethonya: izimbangela zobudlova kumbhangqwana. Paris: Oh! Izinguqulo, 2005.
6. Bouchoux, uJean-Charles. I-Narcissistic perverts. I-Paris: Éditions Eyrolles, 2011.
7. Hirigoyen, Marie-France. Ukwehlukana nezingane. I-Paris: I-Editions La Découverte, 2024.

Le misebenzi inikeza ukuqonda okujulile kwezindlela zokuhlanekezelwa kwe-narcissistic kanye nodlame oluhlobene, kokubili ngokwethiyori nangokungokoqobo.

Isiphetho

Sengiphetha, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi udlame lwabahlanekezeli be-narcissistic bungathatha amafomu acashile, angabonakali, kodwa acekele phansi kakhulu. Ukuphatha nokwesabisa kwabo kubamba okuhlala njalo okunzima ukukugqashula. Ubudlova obungokomzimba bungaba yingxenye yesithombe, okwenza ingozi ibe ngokoqobo nakakhulu. Kubalulekile ukuzibekela imingcele futhi ubone izimpawu zokuhlukumeza ukuze uzivikele futhi uphume kulolu gibe. I-Escape ngokushesha iba yindlela engcono kakhulu yokuzigcina futhi izakha kabusha.