Kuopa kusiyidwa m’malo opondereza: Kusokoneza maganizo

Wopotoza wa narcissistic, yemwe nthawi zambiri amawoneka ngati wosokoneza komanso wowerengera, kwenikweni amabisa chiwopsezo chachikulu: kuopa kusiyidwa. Mantha amenewa, ozikidwa m’mikhalidwe yovuta yogwirizana, amakhudza kwambiri makhalidwe a munthu ndi maubale. Kumvetsetsa kusinthasintha kumeneku ndikofunikira kuti muchepetse kukhumudwa kwapathological ndikufufuza njira zomwe zingathe kuchira.

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The Narcissistic Relationship Cycle: Chigoba cha Vulnerability

Les relations avec un pervers narcissique suivent généralement un schéma prévisible : idéalisation, dévaluation, rejet, et retour en force (kukwera). Ce cycle donne l’illusion d’un contrôle total de la part du narcissique. Cependant, il s’agit en réalité d’un njira yachitetezo élaboré contre une peur primordiale : celle d’être abandonné.

The zobisika fragility wa narcissist

Mosiyana ndi mawonekedwe, wopotoza wa narcissistic ali pachiwopsezo chosiyidwa. Chiwopsezo ichi chimachokera ku masitayelo osokonekera, omwe nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nkhawa, osalongosoka kapena opewa. Njira zolumikiziranazi, zomwe zimapangidwa paubwana, zimasokoneza luso la narcissist kukhazikitsa ubale wolimba komanso wotetezeka.

Mantha a narcissist osiyidwa ndi odabwitsa. Kumbali ina, amawopa kwambiri ubwenzi womwe ungamupangitse kukhala pachiwopsezo. Kumbali ina, amawopa kwambiri kukhala yekha ndi kukanidwa. Mkangano wamkati uwu umakulitsa khalidwe lake losasinthika komanso lotsutsana mu ubale wake.

Zochita za narcissist pakusiyidwa

Mnzanu akachoka paubwenzi wosokoneza, zimayambitsa kuyankha kwamphamvu kwamalingaliro opotoka a narcissistic:

1. Mkwiyo wa Narcissistic: Kuphulika komwe kumafuna kuyambiranso kuwongolera ndikulanga mnzake chifukwa cha “kusiya”.
2. Kusayanjanitsika: Njira yodzitetezera yotetezera ego yake yofooka, poyesa kuti kutayika kulibe kanthu.
3. Hoovering: Kuyesera mwachinyengo kubweretsanso mnzanuyo muubwenzi, nthawi zambiri kudzera m’malonjezo akusintha kapena kuwopseza kosawoneka bwino.
4. Kuzunzidwa: Kudziwonetsera nokha ngati wosiyidwa kuti mupange chifundo ndikupewa udindo.
5. Kutsika kwambiri: Kunyoza kwambiri mnzake wakale kuti asunge ulemu wawo.

Zochita izi, ngakhale zimasiyanasiyana, zimagawana cholinga chimodzi: kuteteza narcissist ku zowawa zamalingaliro zomwe zasiyidwa.

Vuto losiyidwa: Chochitika choyambirira

Chiyembekezo cha kupatukana, ngakhale kwakanthawi, kungayambitse vuto lenileni la kusiyidwa mu wopotoza wa narcissistic. Chokumana nacho chimenechi, chomwe nthaŵi zambiri sichigwirizana ndi mmene zinthu zilili, chimasonyeza kuzama kwa mantha ake. Narcissist ndiye amatha kukwiya, kutsutsa, kapenanso, kukhala wachikondi modabwitsa poyesa kusungitsa kulumikizana.

Mizu Ya Mantha: Malingaliro Ophatikiza

Kafukufuku wokhudzana ndi chiyanjano amapereka chidziwitso chofunikira pa mantha a narcissist osiyidwa. Makhalidwe osagwira ntchito omwe amawonedwa mwa narcissists nthawi zambiri amakhala chifukwa cha kunyalanyazidwa koyambirira, kuzunzidwa, kapena kulera kosagwirizana.

• Thekuda nkhawa pousse le narcissique à craindre constamment l’abandon, tout en cherchant paradoxalement à maintenir une distance émotionnelle.
• Kusagwirizana kosagwirizana kumapangitsa kuti pakhale kusamvana kwakukulu pakati pa kufunikira kwa kuyandikana ndi kuopa kukhala pachibwenzi.
• Kupewa kulumikizidwa kumapangitsa kuti narcissist apewe kuyanjana kwamalingaliro kuti adziteteze ku zowawa zomwe zingasiyidwe.

Kusagwira ntchito kwa maubwenzi awa kumapangitsa kuti pakhale machitidwe oopsa mu ubale wa narcissist.

Hoovering: Kusonyeza kuopa kusiyidwa

” kukwera“, mchitidwe woyesera kubweretsanso mnzawo wakale mu ubale, ndi chiwonetsero chachindunji cha kuopa kusiyidwa kwa narcissist. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri kumawoneka ngati njira yopusitsira, kugwedezeka kumawonetsa kuopsa kwamphamvu kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto losowa komanso kusungulumwa.

Chodabwitsa n’chakuti, anthu ena okonda zamatsenga amasankha kuchoka paubwenzi wawo kuti apitirize chinyengo. Njira imeneyi imawathandiza kuti adziteteze ku ululu wosiyidwa mwa kutsogolera.

Kugonjetsa Mantha Osiyidwa: Vuto Lovuta Kwambiri

Kuchiza mantha osiyidwa mu kupotoza kwa narcissistic ndi njira yayitali komanso yovuta. Pamafunika kuzindikira mozama ndi chikhumbo chowona cha kusintha, chomwe mwatsoka chimakhala chosowa pakati pa anthu omwe akudwala matenda a narcissism.

Kwa iwo omwe adapindula ndi maubwenzi abwino muubwana, kuthana ndi mantha osiyidwa kungakhale kofikirika. Komabe, kwa wopotoza wa narcissistic, izi zimafuna chithandizo chamankhwala chozama komanso kufunsa kofunikira pamikhalidwe yake.

Njira zochiritsira zochepetsera mantha osiyidwa

1. Chithandizo cha Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Kuzindikira ndikusintha malingaliro ndi machitidwe okhudzana ndi kuopa kusiyidwa.
2. Therapy yotengera mentalization: Kukulitsa luso lomvetsetsa malingaliro anu ndi a ena.
3. Schema Therapy: Kuchiza ma schemas oyambilira omwe amayambitsa narcissism komanso kuopa kusiyidwa.
4. Yesetsani kudzimvera chisoni: Kuti mukhale ndi ubale wosamala kwambiri ndi inu nokha, potero kuchepetsa kufunika kwa kutsimikizira kwakunja.
5. Kusamala: Kuphunzira momwe mungasamalire nkhawa zakusiyidwa ndikukhala munthawi yomwe ilipo.
6. Thandizo lamagulu kapena maanja mankhwala : Kugwira ntchito pa luso la anthu ndi chifundo m’malo otetezeka.

Njira yakuchira ndi yovuta ndipo imafuna kudzipereka kwambiri. Zimaphatikizapo kulimbana ndi mabala ozama amaganizo ndikumanganso maziko otetezeka.

Maumboni a m’Baibulo pamutu wakuti “kuopa kusiyidwa”

Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri a m’mabuku omwe amafotokoza za mutu wa kuopa kusiyidwa kwa wopotoza wa narcissistic:

1. Miller, J. (2008). Nkhope yeniyeni ya narcissism: kumvetsetsa wopotoza wa narcissistic. Editions Eyrolles.
2. Simeon, D. & Aboujaoude, E. (2001). Narcissism, kudzidalira, ndi mantha osiyidwa. Zolemba za Clinical Psychology, 57 (9), 1133-1144.
3. Moulin, J. (2012). Kusokoneza maganizo: kupotoza kwa narcissistic. Zolemba za Leduc.
4. Clerc, M. (2016). Opotoza Narcissistic: kumvetsetsa ndikuchita. Zolemba za l’Homme.
5. Lévy, M. (2013). Kudalira pamalingaliro: momwe mungadzimasulire nokha? Zosindikiza za Martinière.
6. Goldberg, G. (2006). Narcissism: nthano ndi zenizeni. Odile Jacob Editions.
7. Friedman, R. (2010). Ubale wapoizoni: Kuzemba msampha wa wopotoza wankhanza. Zolemba za Robert Laffont.

Maumboni awa akuyenera kukupatsirani poyambira bwino pakuwunika mutu wovutawu.

Kutsiliza: Kumvetsetsa mwakuya

Kuopa kusiyidwa mu kupotoza kwa narcissistic ndiko chinsinsi chomvetsetsa zovuta za umunthu uwu. Pozindikira kusatetezeka kofunikiraku, titha kukhala ndi malingaliro opitilira muyeso pa matenda a narcissism.

Kwa anthu omwe ali paubwenzi ndi narcissist, kumvetsetsa izi kungathandize kuthana ndi machitidwe osokoneza a narcissist ndipo nthawi zambiri amavulaza. Komabe, ndikofunikira kusunga malire abwino ndikuyika patsogolo moyo wanu wamalingaliro.

Kwa anthu okondana narcissists iwo eni, kuzindikira mantha awa osiyidwa ndi gawo loyamba lofunikira kuti muchiritsidwe. Ngakhale njirayo ndi yovuta, ndi kudzipereka koona mtima ndi chithandizo choyenera chamankhwala, n’zotheka kukhala ndi maubwenzi abwino komanso okhutira.

Pamapeto pake, kumvetsetsa kuopa kusiyidwa pa nkhani ya narcissism kumatikumbutsa zovuta za psyche yaumunthu komanso kufunika kwa chifundo, ngakhale titakumana ndi makhalidwe ovuta kwambiri.