Maupangiri Okhudza Makolo Achikondi – Malangizo 5 Owongolera

Makolo Okhudzidwa ndi Maganizo: Imeneyi ndi njira imene makolo ambiri amagwiritsira ntchito kuti ana awo amvetsere ndi kuchita zimene akufuna. M’nkhaniyi, muwona momwe mungasamalire, zotsatira zake mwa ana, malangizo oletsa ana, ndi zina zotero.  

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Zokonda Zamtima – Ndi Chiyani?

Un maganizo oipa ndi chinyengo chimene makolo amachitira ana awo powauza kuti achite zimene akufuna. Nthawi zina makolo amauza ana awo kuti ngati satsuka m’kamwa sangawakumbatire madzulo. Uku ndi kunyozedwa kale.

Nthaŵi zambiri, makolo amasankha njira imeneyi pofuna kuletsa khalidwe loipa la ana awo. Koma, amagwiritsanso ntchito kuti apeze chikondi pang’ono kuchokera kwa ana. Otsatirawo amaona kuti ayenera kulabadira zopempha za makolo awo kuti asawaone achisoni.

Kodi Mungasamalire Bwanji Kukhumudwa Kwa Makolo?

• Khulupirirani ana – M’malo mowaopseza kuti achite zinazake, ndi bwino kuwanyengerera kuti achite. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito ziganizo: “pambuyo pake tidzakhala ndi nthawi yosewera, ndi zina zotero”.
• Chitani machitidwe – Powalola kuzolowera zizolowezi, adziwa kale zomwe akuyenera kuchita tsiku lililonse popanda inu.
• Afotokozereni anawo zifukwa za pempho lanu – Ana amavomereza zimene makolo amawapempha mosavuta ngati akudziwa ubwino wochita zimenezo. Mwachitsanzo, muyenera kugona panthawiyi kuti mukhale wathanzi.
• Onetsani chifundo – Dziike nokha mu nsapato za ana kuti muwamvetse. Ngati makolo adziŵa mmene akumvera, amalolera mosavuta.
• Perekani zosankha kwa ana – Ana akakhala ndi mwayi wosankha zochita, amagwirizana bwino. Ndi izi, amatha kudzimva kuti ndi ofunika chifukwa malingaliro awo ndi ofunika.

Mtima Waukali Wamakolo – Kodi Zotsatira Za Ana Ndi Chiyani?

• The maganizo blackmail wa makolo okonda kudzikuza (amayi ou Pere) zimayambitsa kusatetezeka kwa ana.
• Adzakhala opsinjika kwambiri m’moyo wawo.
• Ana amangochita zimene makolo awo amawapempha kuti aziwakonda ndi kuwakonda.
• Sadzamvetsetsa kufunika kochita ntchito monga kukonza zipinda zawo, zoseweretsa, ndi zina.
• Ana akachitiridwa chipongwe m’maganizo, amazigwiritsanso ntchito ndi ena.
• Ana adzakhala ndi mavuto ndi nkhawa ndi kusadzidalira pambuyo pake.
• Amagonjera ku ziyembekezo za ena ndipo samaika malire.

Chifukwa chiyani Parental Emotional Blackmail Ndi Yopanda Ntchito?

Kukhumudwa kwa makolo, apongozi ndi agogo sikuthandiza. Ziwopsezo sizidzachitika pakanthawi kochepa, kwapakatikati kapena kwakanthawi. Makolo adzapitirizabe kukonda, kukumbatirana, kupsompsona ana awo ngakhale ngati sakuyeretsa chipinda chawo, zidole zawo mwachitsanzo.. Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti narcissistic wopotoza imagwiritsanso ntchito kusokoneza maganizo ndi nyama yake.

Ngati makolo amagwiritsa ntchito mtundu uwu wachinyengo, ana sangamvetse ubwino wokhala ndi zipinda zaudongo, kutsuka mano tsiku lililonse, kusagona mochedwa, ndi zina zotero. Chotero, m’zaka zoŵerengeka, iwo sadzachitanso ntchito zosiyanasiyana zimenezi chifukwa chakuti adzakula ndipo sadzafunanso chikondi kwa makolo awo.

Pomaliza, kusokoneza maganizo si njira yophunzitsira ana, kumangothandiza kuti atuluke m’mavuto.

N’chifukwa Chiyani Makolo Amagwiritsa Ntchito Zolaula Zamaganizo?

Makolo akamalankhula ndi ana awo mwachipongwe, ndi bwino kuti muzikonda ana anu kapena kuti azigwira ntchito zapakhomo. Izi ndizochitikanso za ozunzidwa ndi anthu opotoka mwankhanza. N’zosakayikitsa kuti makolo sangawasiye ana awo ngati sachita zimene akufuna. Blackmail nthawi zonse imakhazikika pa bodza osaganizira zomwe zingapange ana mtsogolo.

Mwa kuopsezedwa paubwana wawo, ana ameneŵa mosakayikira adzachitanso chimodzimodzi kwa ana awo amtsogolo ngakhalenso kwa makolo awo. Kuyenera kudziŵika kuti banja la makolo amene amachitira nkhanza maganizo limakonda kukumana ndi mavuto a makolo ndipo ngakhale makolowo akhoza kupatukana. Kuphatikiza apo, kukhumudwa kwamalingaliro kumapangitsa makolo kukhala owopsa.

Malangizo Opewa Kusokoneza Maganizo Mwa Ana

Nthaŵi zambiri, ana amene ali ndi makolo amene amachita zachipongwe amakula akakula. Kumbali ina, ikhoza kubwera kwa iwo mwachibadwa. Njira yabwino yopulumukiramo ndiyo kulankhulana kosatha ndi kugawana ndi ana.

Nazi zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti inu kapena ana anu mukuchitiridwa chipongwe:

• Munthuyo nthawi zonse amafunikira chivomerezo cha ena asanachite kanthu.
• Iye akuwopa kwambiri kukhumudwitsa anthu omwe ali pafupi naye.
• Nthawi zonse kufunafuna chilimbikitso pamene adzipeza ali mumkhalidwe wovuta.

Pomaliza, kuti ana asamagwiritse ntchito mwano, tiyenera kulimbikitsa kutembenuka pakati pa makolo ndi ana.