Umama othanda ukuzikhukhumeza: incazelo, imiphumela, kanye nendlela yokugqashula

Incazelo: Umama ozicabangela yena yedwa, esikhundleni sokusebenzisa indima yakhe ukusiza ingane yakhe ukuba ibe yiyo, uyisebenzisela ukondla isithombe sayo nokugcwalisa izikhala zayo. Ingane ayibonakali ngalokho eyikho, kodwa ibonwa ngalokho ekulethayo: ukuqhosha, ukuzithethelela, ukucasuka, noma ukunwetshwa kwayo. Lena enye yezindlela zokulawula ezihlala isikhathi eside, ngoba iqala ngisho nangaphambi kokuba ingane ibe namagama okuyibiza ngawo.

Ukubonakaliswa okuvamile

• Ingane enqobayo : ingane “ehlakaniphile” ikhona kuphela ngempumelelo yayo, iboniswa njengemiklomelo – futhi ijeziswa kukho konke ukunqotshwa.
• Imbuzi yomhlatshelo : ingane engashadile isolwa ngamaphutha omndeni; izidingo zayo ziyahlekwa noma azinakwa.
• Ukuguqulwa kwendima : ngumntwana oduduzayo, olalelayo, olawula imizwa yomuntu omdala — lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi ukukhulisa izingane.
• Umona ofihliwe “Ubukeka umuhle… kube kanye” — impumelelo yengane iphazamiseka ngendlela ehlelekile.
• Uthando olunemibandela : ububele busatshalaliswa ngokwesizotha, buhoxiswa ngokwemibono ehlukene.
• Ukuqhathanisa phakathi kwabafowabo nodadewabo, phakathi kwabazala, phakathi “kwendodakazi efanelekile” ecatshangelwayo kanye nengane yangempela.

Imiphumela yesikhathi eside ebudaleni

Ukukhula nomama ozithanda ngokweqile kushiya izimpawu ezithile: a ukuntula ngokomzwelo okungapheli, ubunzima bokuhlonza izidingo zakho, ukuzibona ujabule ngazo zonke izindleko, ukwesaba ukwenqatshwa ngokungavumelani okuncane—futhi ngokuvamile, ukuba sengozini yokukhohlisa abantu lapho usukhulile. Isizathu sinengqondo: ubuntwana busihlomisela ukufuna uthando lapho lunemibandela, kanyeumphumela wesibuko Ubuhlobo nomuntu oyengayo ngokumangalisayo bufana nothando “oluphelele” umuntu angakaze alubone. Ukuxhumana nomuntu ukuhlukumezeka kobuntwana kuxoxwa ngakho kwenye indawo kule sayithi.

Ukugqashula kumama ozithanda ngokweqile

Inkululeko ayihlali ifika ngokuqhekeka: iza kuqala… umbono ocacileUkubiza izindlela—ukukhubeka ngecala, ukuguqula indima, uthando olunemibandela—kusiza ukudlulela ngale kokudideka “komama omuhle/umama omubi”. Bese kuvela izindlela eziningana:

• Uhlaka oluqinile : ukuxhumana okufushane, izindawo zomphakathi, izihloko ezingathathi hlangothi, ukungabi nolwazi lomuntu siqu — uhlobo lwe Indlela ye-Grey Rock isetshenziswe kumzali.
• Umkhawulo wecala : awukweleti isikweletu sakho ebuntwaneni lapho unikele ngaphezu kwalokho owakuthola.
• Ukusekela : umsebenzi wokwelapha noma ukuqeqesha kuvumela ukulila kukamama “ofanele” umuntu angakaze abe nakho — ukulila okudingekayo ukuze abe ngumzali wakho.

Ukwakhiwa kabusha kulandela izinyathelo ezifanayo neze- ukuphulukiswa ebuhlotsheni obuhlukumezayo : ukuphepha, umzimba, ukuxhumana, incazelo. Kuyinqubo ende, kusemthethweni, futhi kungenzeka.

Incazelo evela ku- isichazamazwi sokuhlanekezelwa kokuzikhukhumeza.