Incazelo: umphumela wesibuko, noma isibukoUkuzikhukhumeza kuwumkhuba wemvelo womuntu wokulingisa—ngokungazi noma ngamabomu—izenzo, ulimi, ukunambitha, kanye nemizwa yomuntu axhumana naye ukuze akhe uxhumano. Ebudlelwaneni obunempilo, kuyinto evamile futhi ehambisanayo. Ebudlelwaneni nomuntu ohlukumezayo oziqhenyayo, kuba yisikhali esisebenza kahle kakhulu sokuyenga.
Indlela yokusebenza: kungani ukulingisa kusikhanga kangaka
Ubuchopho bethu buthanda ukufana. Uma umuntu ebonisa amazwi ethu, izindinganiso zethu, izindaba zethu, amahlaya ethu, sizizwa sixhumene ngokushesha: “Sesizazane isikhathi eside.” Izazi zengqondo zibiza lokhu ngokuthi ukufana okubonwayo, esinye sezisekelo eziqine kakhulu zokukhanga. Inkinga akuyona ukulingisa ngokwako—sonke siyakwenza kancane. Inkinga iwukuthi uma uhlangothi olulodwa, olunesu kanye noluphelele.
Indlela umuntu ophambukile oziqhenyayo asebenzisa ngayo umphumela wesibuko
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwano, umuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza akahlangani nawe: yena uyacabangaUyazithanda izintaba? Naye uyazithanda, “ngengozi.” Uke wabhekana nokushonelwa? “Ulahlekelwe othile futhi.” Uke waphupha ngomlingani onakekelayo, othembekile, ogxile emndenini? Uziveza kanjalo impela—hhayi ngoba enguye, kodwa ngoba efunde kuwe isithombe sendoda noma owesifazane ofanele. Lesi sigaba, esivame ukuchazwa ngokuthi thanda amabhomu, ithembele kakhulu ekubukeni ngezibuko.
Isibonakaliso esibonakalayo siza kamuva: ukuzindla kuyanyamalala. Uma ukubamba sekuzinzile, ukulingisa kuyaphela futhi kuvumele ukugxekwa—kokuthanda kwakho, lokho “ayekuhlanganyelene nakho” ekuqaleni. Lokhu kuguquka akukhona ukushintsha kwesimo sengqondo: ukuphela komkhuba.
Umphumela wesibuko onempilo vs. isibuko esikhohlisayo: umehluko o-3
- Ukubuyisana Esibukweni esinempilo, bobabili abantu bayajwayelana. Esibukweni somuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza, umuntu oyedwa kuphela obonakalisayo—futhi omunye uyabonakalisa.
- Ukuzinza Ukufana kwangempela kuyaqhubeka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ukuzindla kwamasu kuyawa ngemva kokunqotshwa.
- Izindleko Isibuko esinempilo asiceli lutho. Isibuko somuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza silungiselela isikweletu esingokomzwelo: “Akekho owake wakuqonda njengami.”
Ungazivikela kanjani kukho
Uma uhlangana nomuntu obonakala sengathi ungumlingani wakho ophelele emasontweni ambalwa okuqala, yehlisa ijubane. Buza imibuzo evulekile ongazazi izimpendulo zayo, qaphela ubudlelwano bakhe bangaphambilini, umndeni wakhe, ozakwabo. Ubuqiniso buyambulwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nangokuphikisana; ukuzindla, ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuhlala kuphelele—futhi yilokho kanye okufanele kuphakamise ifulege elibomvu. Futhi uma uphuma ebudlelwaneni lapho uzizwe “uqondwa ngendlela ongakaze uyibone ngaphambili” bese ubhujiswa, uqonda izindlela… ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo isinyathelo sokuqala; umhlahlandlela ku ukwelashwa ngemva kwe-PN kuzokusiza ukuhlukanisa phakathi kokukhohlisa kanye neqiniso.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.