Ukukhwabanisa ngokuzigwaza ngecala: incazelo, izibonelo, kanye nendlela yokukugwema

Incazelo: Ukuzibeka icala kuhilela ukusebenzisa amaphutha—angempela, eqile, noma asunguliwe—njengesizathu sokulawula abanye. Esikhundleni sokucela noma ukuphoqa, umuntu okhohlisayo ukwenza wenze lokho akufunayo. ngoba uzizwa unecala Ukungenzi kanjalo. Lesi yisikhali esithandwa kakhulu yilowo ophambukile othanda ukuzikhukhumeza: okungabonakali, okwenqatshwayo, futhi okusebenzayo ngokumangalisayo kubantu abanozwela.

Indlela yokusebenza: unembeza wakho wokuziphatha uphendukele kuwe

Umsuka wecala uwumzwelo onempilo: uyasixwayisa lapho silimaze othile futhi usishukumisela ukuba silungise. Umkhohlisi usebenzisa kabi lo msebenzi. Udala, agcine, futhi avuselele umuzwa wecala ukuze athole izinto ezintathu: ukulalela kwakho (“ukube ubungithanda, ubungenza lokhu”), ukuthula kwakho (“ngemuva kwakho konke engikwenzele kona”), kanye nokungenzi lutho kwakho (“ungikweleta lokhu”).

Imisho okufanele uyiqaphele ngokushesha

• “Ngemva kwakho konke engikwenzele kona…” — isikweletu esingokomzwelo asikaze sikhokhwe.
• “Uma uhamba, ngeke ngilulame” — ukungisongela ngeshwa.
• “Kungenxa yakho ukuthi nginje” — ukuguqulwa komthwalo wemfanelo.
• “Izingane zizohlupheka” — ukusongela abantu besithathu abangenacala.
• “Ngikuxwayisile” — icala elivela emuva ezinqumweni zakho.
• “Wonke umuntu ukhathazekile ngami ngenxa yakho” — inkantolo engokomfanekiso.

Okumangalisayo ngalezi zigwebo ukuthi ziyi akunakuphikwaNoma iyiphi impendulo enengqondo iguqulwa ibe ubufakazi obengeziwe bobugovu bakho. Uzothola ezinye izindlela ekuhlaziyeni ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo ngobukhulu.

Kungani izisulu ezinozwela ziyizisulu ezifanele

Ukuzilahla ngecala kusebenza kuphela kubantu abanonembeza wokuziphatha wangempela. Lapho unomthwalo wemfanelo, ukhathalela, futhi uqaphela kakhulu, kulapho isu liba namandla khona. Lokhu akulona ubuthakathaka; kuyimfanelo esetshenziswa kabi. Ngokuvamile, isisekelo sibekwa ebuntwaneni, ikakhulukazi ngothando olunemibandela—iphethini evamile ezinganeni [zesigaba/isimo esithile senhlalo]. umama onama-narcissistic.

Indlela yokugqashula emuzweni wecala ophoqelelwe

• Ukuhlolwa kokulingana zibuze ukuthi wena Ungakusho lokhu kumuntu omthandayo. Uma kungenjalo, akulona uthando, kungukulawula.
• Amaqiniso nemizwa ehlukile Ukuthi “ngiyaxolisa ukuthi uzizwa ngale ndlela” akufani nokuthi “ngenze iphutha.” Umuntu angazwelana naye ngaphandle kokuvuma icala.
• Ukubuyisela imithwalo yemfanelo endaweni yayo Imizwa yomuntu omdala ingeyakhe. Awunawo umthwalo wenjabulo yomunye umuntu.
• Imikhawulo ebhalwe kusengaphambili : Lungisa izimpendulo zakho emazwini ashaqisayo, ukuze ungazenzi izinto ngendlela exakile ngenxa yemizwa.

Ukuqhubeka okuqhubekayo: indlela yokuyeka ukuzizwa unecala imininingwane ngendlela, kanye Uhlelo lwezinyathelo ezi-6 lokushiya i-PN hlanganisa lo msebenzi kusukela esigabeni sokulungiselela ukuhamba.

Incazelo evela ku- isichazamazwi sokuhlanekezelwa kokuzikhukhumeza.