Uma kwenzeka usebudlelwaneni no- i-narcissistic pervert, uzobona ngokushesha ukuthi une iphethini yokulala engavamile. Futhi, ivele iphazamise ukulala kwakho ubusuku bonke noma njalo ebusuku. Ngakho, ngoba konke odinga ukukwazi mayelana nokulala kwe-PN, funda lesi sihloko.
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I-PN nokulala – izinto ezi-5 okufanele uzazi ngesigqi sayo
Ukuze phatha isisulu sakho, i-narcissistic pervert isebenzisa izindlela ezimbalwa ezihlanganisa nokulala. Ukuze enze lokhu, uyokwenza isisulu sakhe siqonde ukuthi kumelwe silale kancane ngoba senza okufanayo. Kule ngxenye, uzokwazi ukuthi i-PN iyincisha kanjani inyamazane yayo ukulala kahle.
1. Ebusuku uPN uvusa isisulu sakhe
I-narcissistic pervert inomkhuba othile wokuvusa isisulu sakhe ebusuku. Isikhathi esiningi, ukuvuka kwenzeka phakathi kuka-1 ekuseni no-4 ekuseni. Lapho umuntu ephapheme, uyokhuluma naye ngokungathi sína. Isihloko sengxoxo kwesinye isikhathi siphendukela ebudlelwaneni babo, iholo labo, njll.
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2. I-narcissistic pervert izobuza imibuzo enzima ukuyiphendula
Manje njengoba inyamazane isiyazi kahle, i-PN izoqala ukuyibuza imibuzo. Embuzweni wokuqala, umlingani wakhe uzophendula ngendlela efanele. Kodwa, uchungechunge lwemibuzo oluzolandela kuzoba nzima kakhulu ukuphendula ngoba noma ngabe iyiphi impendulo, ngeke kube yiyona efanele. Impendulo ngayinye izosetshenziswa ngokumelene naye ukuqala ingxabano entsha phakathi kwabashadikazi.
3. I-PN, ifuna ukuxolisa
Ngokushesha nje lapho ingxabano iqala, the isisulu bazoqala ukuzigxeka. Uzocabanga ukuthi wenze iphutha futhi kufanele axolise kumlingani wakhe. Ngakho, isisulu asisoze sawazi umsuka wengxabano yabo. Kodwa, usazokwethula ukuxolisa ngomlomo i-PN engeke yamukele. Ukuze axolelwe, isisulu kufanele sigcine ubuhlobo bobulili nesithandwa sakhe ngoba yilokho esikufunayo.
4. Ukuphela kokuphumula ebusuku
Ukukhathazeka kwesisulu kuya ngokuya kukhula ngemva kokuxoxa nomlingani wakhe. Isisulu sizocabanga ngale ngxoxo ubusuku bonke sizama ukuthola iphutha laso. Yingakho inyamazane ingeke isabuthola ubuthongo ngalobo busuku futhi ngisho nangezinsuku ezilandelayo ngeke ikwazi ukulala ngokuthula.
5. Ukuncisha isisulu ubuthongo ukuze simlawule kangcono
Lapho isisulu siqala ukuntula ubuthongo, i-PN ingasilawula kangcono. Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi i-narcissistic pervert ayiphindi le nqubo nsuku zonke ukuze isebenzise kahle isisulu sakhe.
Owokugcina ngeke azi nhlobo ukuthi lokhu kuzokwenzeka nini. Kodwa, iningi le-FN isebenzisa le ndlela yokulala kuyilapho ubudlelwano phakathi kwabashadikazi babo bungcono kakhulu.
Ingabe ukuhlanekezela kwe-narcissistic kubangela izinkinga zokulala?
Ngenxa yokomela kwabo ukuba ngumuntu ophelele phambi kwawo wonke umuntu, i-narcissistic pervert izifaka ingcindezi ethile. I-PN ihlale yesaba ukwenza amaphutha angadalula ubunjalo bayo bangempela.
Ukufuna ukuphelela kuwumsebenzi okhathazayo kakhulu we-PN. Ngenxa yalokhu, kuqinisekile ukuthi abantu abane-narcissistic badinga ukulala kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi lolu hlobo lomuntu alunazo nhlobo izinkinga zokulala.
I-narcissistic ihlanekezela kanjani ukulala ebusuku?
- Ukuze azibonise ukuthi ungcono kunabanye, i-narcissistic pervert yenza sengathi ilala kancane ebusuku noma ingalali nhlobo. Akulona neze iqiniso leli ngoba isikhathi esiningi uvuka ebusuku ukuze nje akhombise wonke umuntu ukuthi ubengalele.
- Ukuze ukholise abanye, i-narcissistic pervert izothatha izinyathelo ezinjengokushicilela okuqukethwe kumanethiwekhi omphakathi. Ukuze ngemva kokwenza lokhu, alale. Ngokwenza lokhu, i-PN inemigomo echazwe kahle.
- Lapho abanye beqiniseka ukuthi umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ulala kancane, bazocabanga ukuthi udabukile ngempela. Ukwengeza, usebenzisa le nqubo ukuze agweme ukwenza okuthile okufanele akwenze ngakusasa.
- Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi abantu abakhuluma i-narcissism abajabule neze uma abanye belele lapho bevukile. Ama-PN angase abeke phansi abalingani babo ngoba belala ebusuku. Bazozizwa benecala ngokulala ngokuthula ebusuku.
- I-narcissistic pervert ithanda ukusebenzisa le ndlela yokulala ngoba uma isisulu sikhathele kakhulu, kulula ukusisebenzisa. Ukuze afeze izinhloso zakhe, i-PN ingavusa isisulu sakhe ubusuku bonke.
Ingabe i-PN ayinakulala kahle?
Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi iningi labaphendukezeli be-narcissistic banokulala okubi kakhulu. Nazi ezinye izici ezibonisa lokhu:
- Ukulala okulula uma kuqhathaniswa – Ebusuku, i-PN ayilali kahle. Uyamuzwa umuntu wabo ukuthi uthini noma ehleba. Eqinisweni, i-narcissistic pervert iyalala kodwa ihlala iphapheme kakhulu ebusuku.
- Ubuthongo obungaphumuli neze – Ngenkathi ilele, i-narcissistic pervert akayeki ukunyakaza. Wayekwazi ukukhahlela ubambiswano lwakhe ubusuku bonke. Kodwa, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi akanayo inkinga yokulala ngoba angalala kalula.
Inkomba ye-Bibliographic ku-PN nokulala
Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa ezixoxa ngezixhumanisi phakathi kwe-narcissism, ukuphazamiseka kobuntu nokulala:
- “Ubudlova, i-narcissism kanye nemisebenzi ye-ego” nguJean-Michel Fourcade (2002).
- “Ucwaningo lwe-narcissism ngokombono we-psychosis evamile” ngu-Nayahra Fonseca Narciso Reis (2018).
- “Ukufundwa kwezisekelo ze-narcissistic in addictions” ngu-Hélène Krieger-Denou (2021).
- “Ubusha nokukhubazeka: izinkinga ze-narcissistic ngemuva kokuthomba” nguCatherine Bon (2009).
- “Ukuhlaziywa kwe-phenomenological and psychodynamic kokuhlangenwe nakho kokungaqiniseki kwentsha enomdlavuza nomama bayo” nguFlora Monraisin (2019).
- “Ukuxhumana okungcono ngezingozi ngokuklama ngokubambisana kwemishini yokuvimbela: isicelo sokulala nempilo yeselula” ngu-Élisa Wrembel (2023).
- “Izindlela zokulawula imizwa ngesikhathi sokulala: iminikelo evela ocwaningweni lwesistimu yezinzwa ezizimele” ngu-Roman Rutka (2020).
Lo msebenzi unikeza imibono eyahlukene ekusebenzisaneni phakathi kwe-narcissism, ukuphazamiseka kobuntu nokulala.
I-PN – ingabe ukulala kwakhe kuvuselela?
Njengoba sishilo ngenhla, i-narcissistic pervert iwubuthongo obulula kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungumuntu onokucindezeleka okukhulu, ukukhathazeka nokushuba kaningi, yingakho eba nobunzima bokulala kangcono. Naphezu kwalokhu, uyohlale ezibonisa ukuthi uphakeme kunabanye.
Ukuze i-PN ikhululeke kancane, ivame ukuphuza utshwala noma izidakamizwa kodwa futhi ingakwazi ukukhetha ezemidlalo njengendlela yokubalekela. Ebusuku, ngemva kokuvusa umlingani wakhe futhi baxabana, i-narcissistic pervert yenza sengathi ilele. Uyathanda ukubona isisulu sakhe sinyakazisa ubuchopho ukuze athole ukuthi benzani okungalungile. I-PN ivusa isisulu sakhe ebusuku ukuze anelise izidingo zaso zocansi.
Ngokuba ngumuntu we-Machiavellian, i-PN ihlasela ngokuqondile ubuthongo besisulu sakhe ukuze sicindezeleke nakakhulu. Ezinye zezisulu zalolu hlelo zicabanga ukuziphindiselela kodwa zizizwe zinecala ngemva kwalokho. Yingakho kudingekile kakhulu ukuzuza ngosizo lwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo ukubalekela ithonya le-narcissistic pervert.
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