Ukunganaki I-Narcissistic Pervert – Ukuziphindiselela Okungcono Noma Cha?

Ama-Narcissistic manipulators abantu okunzima kakhulu ukubhekana nabo. yakha ubudlelwano obunempilo. Uma ufuna ukuphinde ulawule impilo yakho, enye indlela iwukuziba i-narcissistic pervert (noma i-NP). Nokho, ukuziphatha kwalaba bamuva kungase kubangele inkinga lapho kunganakwa. Qhubeka ufunda ukuze uthole okwengeziwe.

Yiziphi izici ze-narcissistic pervert?

La ukuguqulwa kwe-narcissistic ibonakala ngokuzikhukhumeza, ukuziphatha kobugovu nokuntula ukucabangela nozwela kwabanye. Bathanda lesi sithombe sabo futhi baphila ngokuphika ngoba sibasiza ukuba bafihle umuzwa ojulile wokungazethembi.

Ama-PN angathandeka kakhulu ekuqaleni kobudlelwano. Nokho, bayakhohlisa, bayaxhaphaza, banobugovu, bafuna ngenkani futhi bayehlisa. Lolu hlobo lokuziphatha lube seluthinta yonke imikhakha yempilo yomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, kusukela ebudlelwaneni bothando nomndeni kuya emsebenzini, okuhlanganisa nendilinga yabo yabangane.

Yisiphi isikhathi esingcono kakhulu sokuziba umuntu ohlanekezela ama-narcissistic?

Kuyenzeka ungamnaki umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Kuyindlela ezokusiza ukuthi uphinde ulawule, uhloniphe futhi ukuqeda ubuhlobo obunobuthi nomuntu okhohlisa abanye i-narcissistic. Lesi sinqumo ngesakho futhi kuzodingeka wenze umzamo wokunamathela kuso. Unalokhu engqondweni, uzodinga ukuchaza izisusa zakho.

Ngokwesibonelo, ingabe ukuziphindiselela? Uyathemba ukuthi i-PN izoxolisa futhi yenze imizamo yokuguqula ukuziphatha kwabo? Noma ufuna ukumcasula nje?

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyini umgomo wakho, kudingeka ulindele izinto ezingokoqobo. Ngoba i-narcissistic manipulator izokwenza imizamo kuphela ngentshisekelo yayo. Ngeke kushintshe kuwe. Ngisho noma ubona izinguquko ezinhle ekuqaleni, ubuhlobo bakho buzobuyela esimweni sabo sasekuqaleni ngemva kwesikhashana. Ngaphandle kwalapho eqaphela ngempela ukugula kwakhe futhi elashwe nodokotela wokusebenza kwengqondo, kuzodingeka ukuthi uqhubeke ungamnaki lo muntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic.

Ingabe ukuziba i-narcissistic pervert ukuziphindiselela okungcono kakhulu?

Ngokungangabazeki ufunde ukuthi i-PN inekhono kwezobuciko bokulimaza imizwa yabanye kanye nokuqeda ukuzethemba. Kuvamile ukucabanga ngokuziphindiselela. Kodwa, ngenxa yenhlalakahle yakho yomuntu siqu, ukuziphindiselela akufanele kube umgomo wakho oyinhloko. Udinga ukucabanga ngokulinganisela kwakho kwengqondo.

Ukuze uzibe umkhohlisi we-narcissistic, sebenzisa umthetho wokungathintani futhi uhlale kude naye (noma kuye). Uma uyibona emgwaqeni ixwayise ngokuthi ayikho, ungayinaki ngokuphelele. Noma ngisho ukunyakaza, uma ungakwazi.

Njengoba ama-narcissists ekuzonda ukunganakwa, ukuwashaya indiva kungaba uhlobo lokuziphindiselela. Kepha okubaluleke kakhulu lapha ukwenza isinqumo sokuyeka abantu abanobuthi empilweni yakho, noma ngabe kunzima kangakanani.

Benzani ama-narcissistic perverts uma ungabanaki?

Njengoba kushiwo ngenhla, abahlanekezeli be-narcissistic bazonda ukunganakwa. Ngakho-ke kunzima ekhuluma nomuntu ohlanekezela ama-narcissistic. Angase abe nokusabela okunobudlova nokudlulele ekungamnaki kwakho. Ngamanye amazwi, uzofuna futhi azame ukwenza isigcawu.

Cishe uzofuna uzizwe unamahloni noma udabuke, noma uthuke. Abenzi be-Narcissistic manipulators bafuna ukulawula futhi bazokwenza konke okusemandleni ukuqhubeka nokuzizwa besesimweni samandla. Bazosebenzisa amasu ahlukene ukuze baphinde babambe ukunaka kwesisulu sabo. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi uhlale uqinile esinqumweni sakho futhi bagweme ukuwela ogibeni lwabo.

Indlela yokungazinaki i-narcissistic manipulator?

Nawa amathiphu angu-4 azokusiza ukuthi uzibe umkhohlisi we-narcissistic:

1. Unganaki i-narcissistic pervert

Uma uzama ukuziba noma khohlwa i-PN, ngokuyisisekelo wenzela wena kanye nawe, hhayi ukubona ukusabela kwakhe. Ngakho, gwema ukusabela ekucasuleni kwakhe, noma lokho okuthiwa imizamo yakhe.

2. Ungafuni ukuziphindiselela

Kuwubuntu ukufuna ukubuyisela umuntu okuphathe kabi. Kodwa ukuziphindiselela ku-narcissistic pervert engcupheni yokukwenza umonakalo omkhulu kunokuhle. Ungayinaki i-PN ukuze ingasenayo indawo empilweni yakho. Mkhombise ukuthi awusenandaba naye futhi uphila kangcono ngaphandle kwakhe.

3. Ungamphikisi

Umkhohlisi we-narcissistic uthanda ukukhombisa ukuthi ubusa ukuhwebelana. Uyokucunula futhi akubeke icala ngazo zonke izenzo zakhe ezimbi. Into engcono kakhulu ongayenza: kuziba. Unganaki konke akushoyo ngawe nokuchukuluza kwakhe.

4. Ungamniki amandla akho ngoqwembe lwesiliva

Kufanele ufunde ukuthi ungalinge uchithe isikhathi sakho esiyigugu namandla kubantu abanobuthi abakwehlisayo. Zizungeze nabantu ababelana ngamaphupho akho, ingqondo yakho kanye nesimo sakho sengqondo.

Yiziphi izinto ongazenzi nge-narcissist?

Ezinye izinto zingadala izinkinga nge-PN, ngakho-ke kungcono ukuzigwema:

• ungaphikisani naye noma ubhekane naye;
• ungazami ukuzilawula;
• ungachithi isikhathi sakho ngokuchaza umbono wakho;
• ukuba nokukhulumisana okuqotho nokwethembeka kungabuyisela emuva;
• ungazami ukumenza avume amaphutha akhe.

Ingabe i-PN izokukhumbula?

Sengiphetha, kuvamile ukuba abantu abane-narcissistic personality disorder bazisole ngokungabe besathandana nothile. Kodwa uma bezisola, akukhona ukuthi bakuzwise ubuhlungu. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi balahlekelwa ukubamba isisulu sabo. Abanandaba nokuthi uzizwa kanjani, ngisho noma benza sengathi akunjalo.

Ngaphandle kwalaphoi-psychotherapy ephumelelayo yokwelapha ukuphazamiseka kobuntu bakhe, i-narcissistic pervert akazizwa enecala, enamahloni noma engabaza. Lapho ekugcineni unquma ukumshiya, kungaba okuhlangenwe nakho okukhululayo. Lokhu kungase kungabi umsebenzi olula, njengoba ukuziba umkhohlisi we-narcissistic kuzomthukuthelisa. Kodwa, ukuziba nokushiya i-PN kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuqeda ubuhlobo bakho futhi uqhubekele phambili.

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