Incazelo: Ukungabi namandla okufundayo yisimo lapho umuntu—ngemva kokuqaphela ukuthi izenzo zakhe azishintshi lutho—eyeka ukwenza okuthile, ngisho noma isenzo sesiphinde senzeke. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uMartin Seligman sabonisa lokhu ngokuhlola ngawo-1960: izilwane ezibhekana nokushaqeka okungenakugwenywa kamuva ziyeka ukubaleka, ngisho nalapho indlela yokuphuma ivulekile. Zifundile ukuthi akukho lutho olusebenzayo.
Kusukela kokuhlangenwe nakho kuya egumbini lokuhlala lomndeni
Uma kusetshenziswa kumongo wokulawula, ukungabi namandla okufunda kuchaza imfihlakalo labo abamzungezile abangayiqondi: “Kungani engahambi?” Ngoba usefundile—hhayi wacabanga, wafunda, kanye nesimiso sayo sezinzwa — ukuthi ukubhikisha akufezi lutho, ukuthi ukubaleka kuholela emuva ekuqaleni, ukuthi ukucela kwandisa inkungu. Ngemva kweminyaka eminingi i-microtrauma futhi imikhawulo ephindwe kabiliUkucabanga nje ngokuhamba kubangela ukukhathala okufanayo nokuzama kwangaphambili. Umnyango ungase uvuleke kakhulu, kodwa inqubo yokufunda ingaphakathi.
Izimpawu ezintathu zokungabi namandla okufunda
- Ukungakhathali bebhekene nezinkinga, ngisho nezincane futhi ezingaxazululeka.
- Ukudabuka nokuhoxa : amaphrojekthi ambalwa, izifiso ezimbalwa ezivezwayo.
- Ukunciphisa ukufunda : “Noma kunjalo, ngeke ngiphumelele” ngisho nangaphambi komzamo.
Izindaba ezinhle: lokho okufundwayo kungafundwa.
USeligman nozakwabo bathole okufana ncamashi: ulwazi lobuciko. Ngezinye izikhathi okudingekayo nje…a Ukunqoba kokuqala okutholwe—umkhawulo ohlangatshezwayo, i-aphoyintimenti igcinwa yodwa, ibhokisi lithuthwe—kuvumela ubuchopho ukuthi buphinde bubhalise ukuthi isenzo siwusizo. Ngakho-ke kunengqondo yokunqoba okuncane, okuboshwe ngezibopho:
- Khetha izimpi ongazinqoba bese uzinqoba — hhayi impi yokugcina enkulu.
- Bhala phansi ukunqoba ngakunye: ukufunda kudinga ubufakazi obuphindaphindwayo.
- Zivumele ukufuna ukwesekwa: umelaphi, iqembu, noma ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile, ukusheshisa ukuphinda kwakhiwe amandla okwenza okuthile.
Yilokho kanye ukwakheka kwesakhiwo Uhlelo lwezinyathelo ezi-6 lokushiya i-PN Isinyathelo ngasinye siwukunqoba kobungcweti okulungiselela okulandelayo. ukuphulukiswaNayo, yakhiwa ngobufakazi obuncane, obuphindaphindwayo.
Incazelo evela ku- isichazamazwi sokuhlanekezelwa kokuzikhukhumeza.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.