Ikusasa eliqanjiwe: lapho umuntu ozikhukhumezayo ekuthengisa ikusasa elingasoze laba khona

Incazelo: le faking esizayo (Ukuqamba amanga ngekusasa) kuqukethe ukuthembisa ikusasa eliqhakazile—umshado, indlu, uhambo, impilo ephelele—ngaphandle kwenhloso yokukulethela ngempela, ukuze nje uthole ukuthandwa ngomunye umuntu. Kuyisisekelo samaqhinga okuyenga abantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza: abadayisi ukuthi bangobani, bathengisa lokho abayikho. uyaphupha.

Indlela: ukukukwenza utshale imali esikhathini esizayo kunamanje

Ukuzenzisa kwesikhathi esizayo kusebenzisa amandla omuntu: ithemba. Ngokukhuluma “ngendlu yethu,” “izingane zethu,” “lapho sesigugile ndawonye,” umuntu ozicabangela ngokweqile ufaka ikusasa elihlanganyelwe emcabangweni wakho. Leli kusasa liba yimpahla ongafuni ukulahlekelwa yiyo—futhi liyisivikelo esifanele sokuzithoba kwamanje: “Bekezela ngalokhu, kungenxa yephrojekthi yethu.” Lapho utshale imali eningi ephusheni, kubiza kakhulu ukuvuma ukuthi ngeke kufezeke. Kuyisandiso semvelo se isibuko futhi uthando lokuqhuma ngamabhomu: kuqala kukubonisa, bese kukhombisa ikusasa lakho elifanele.

Izithembiso ezijwayelekile

• “Ngonyaka ozayo, sizothenga indlu ngasolwandle.”
• “Ngizoshintsha, uzobona, sizojabula.”
• “Ngizohlukanisa maduze, ngicela ubekezele.” (Isicelo asikaze sifakwe.)
• “Sizoba nomntwana uma ngingasenaso ingcindezi.”
• “Ngikuyisa ohambweni lwakho lokuzalwa lwama-40.” (Uhambo lusahlehlisiwe.)

Ukuhlolwa kwesikhathi: isithembiso ngokumelene nesenzo

Isiginesha sokuqamba amanga kwesikhathi esizayo yi-igebe phakathi kwezimemezelo nempumeleloUmlingani oqotho angase afike sekwephuzile ngezithembiso zakhe; umuntu ozikhukhumezayo, ngakolunye uhlangothi, akalokothi athathe isinyathelo sokuya phambili—ngenkathi izithembiso zakhe zikhula. Gcina ijenali elula: okwashiwo, okwenziwe. Izinyanga ezintathu zale jenali ngokuvamile zanele ukusho. Futhi, qaphela ukuhlangana ne- ukuqinisa ngezikhathi ezithile : isithembiso esigcinwayo ngezikhathi ezithile — kwanele nje — siqala kabusha wonke umshini wethemba.

Ukwelashwa ekusaseni lobuxoki

Ngemva kokuhlukana, isisulu sivame ukulila “impilo ebesingayiphila.” Luhlobo oluthile losizi: ulila into eyayikhona ngamazwi kuphela. Ukuvuma lokhu kuyabuhlungu, kodwa futhi kuyakhulula: awulahlekelwanga ikusasa lakho, uphunyukile esimweni esithile. ukwelashwa ngemva kwe-PN Kuhilela ukudlula kuleyo nqubo yokulila — nokufunda kabusha ukwahlulela abantu ngezenzo zabo, hhayi ngamazwi abo.

Incazelo evela ku- isichazamazwi sokuhlanekezelwa kokuzikhukhumeza.