Ukulila kweNarcissistic: incazelo, izimbangela kanye nomthelela wengqondo

I-Narcissistic grief imele uhlobo oluthile lokuhlupheka kwengqondo okwenzeka ngemva kobudlelwane nomuntu othanda i-narcissistic. Ngokungafani nosizi oluvamile oluhlobene nokulahlekelwa othandekayo noma ubuhlobo obunempilo, lolu hlobo losizi lubonakala ngokulahlekelwa ukulandisa komuntu siqu, umuzwa wokungabi nacala, futhi ngokuvamile ikusasa elicatshangelwayo. Kuyinqubo eyinkimbinkimbi ethinta kakhulu ubunikazi kanye nombono wezwe womuntu obhekene nakho.

Kuyini usizi lwe-narcissistic?

Usizi lwe-Narcissistic luhlukile kwezinye izinhlobo zosizi ngesimo salo esiyingqayizivele. Akukhona nje ukulahlekelwa ubudlelwano, kodwa kunalokho a umlaza womndeni yokulahlekelwa okuningi:

• Ukulahlekelwa ukulandisa komuntu siqu
• Ukulahlekelwa ubumsulwa kanye nokukhohlisa
• Ukumosha isikhathi esitshaliwe
• Ukulahlekelwa amathuba aphuthelwe
• Ukulahlekelwa amathemba namaphupho ngekusasa
• Ukulahleka kombono wobulungiswa emhlabeni

Lolu hlobo losizi luyinkimbinkimbi ikakhulukazi ngoba luthinta izici ezibalulekile zobuntu bomuntu kanye nombono wezwe.

Ukubonakaliswa okuqondile kosizi lwe-narcissistic

Usizi lwe-Narcissistic luvame ukubonakala ngezindlela ezimangazayo nezingalindelekile. Isici esiphawulekayo ukuthi ingaqalwa kanjani izigcawu ezibonakala zingenacala kumamuvi noma uchungechunge lwethelevishini. Isibonelo, umuntu angase azithole egajwe umzwelo ngenkathi ebuka isigcawu esibonisa:

• Ukusebenzisana komndeni okunempilo
• Imiboniso yozwela lwangempela
• Ubudlelwano bomzali nengane obunokulinganisela
• Imiboniso yothando olungenamibandela

Lokhu kusabela kwemizwa okujulile kwenzeka ngoba lezi zigcawu zimelela lokho okulahlekile noma okungakaze kwenzeke ebudlelwaneni be-narcissistic.

Umthelela ojulile ongokwengqondo

Umthelela wosizi lwe-narcissistic empilweni yengqondo mkhulu futhi uzibonakalisa kumazinga amaningana:

1. Ukuhlanzeka kwengqondo

• Ubunzima bokuvumelanisa isithombe esiveziwe neqiniso
• Ukudideka phakathi kwezinkumbulo ezinhle nokuqonda ukuhlukumeza
• Ukuzibuza njalo umbono womuntu

2. Ukuhlukumezeka ngokomzwelo

• Ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba kuwena nakwabanye
• Ubunzima bokwakha ubudlelwano obusha
• Ukuqapha ngokweqile ngokomzwelo
• Umuzwa ophikelelayo wokungabi nabulungisa

Isixhumanisi esinokuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic

Usizi lwe-Narcissistic luxhunywe ngaphakathiukuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic, ngoba iwumphumela wayo oqondile. Lolu hlobo lokuhlukumeza lubonakala ngokuthi:

• a ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo constante
• Ukuntula uzwela okungapheli
• Imijikelezo yokwazisa nokwehliswa kwamanani
• Ukungenzeki kokuthola ukuqinisekiswa okuyiqiniso
• Ukungabi bikho kokuzisola noma ukuxolisa okuqotho

Lezi zici zokuhlukumeza zidala umhlabathi ovundile wenqubo yokudabuka eyinkimbinkimbi futhi ethatha isikhathi eside.

Ukungabikho kokuvalwa kosizi lwe-narcissistic

Esinye sezici zosizi lwe-narcissistic ukungabikho kokuvalwa njalo (isixazululo semizwa). Lokhu kungabikho kungachazwa yizici eziningana:

1. Ukungenzeki kokuthola ukuxolisa okuqotho

• Abantu be-Narcissistic abakwazi ukuvuma ngokugcwele umthwalo wabo wemfanelo
• Ukuxolisa, uma kukhona, kukha phezulu noma kuyakhohlisa.
• Ukuntula ukuqashelwa kwangempela kokuhlupheka okubangelwe

2. Ukuntuleka kokuziphendulela

• Ukwenqaba ukuvuma umonakalo owenziwe
• Ukuthambekela kokusola abanye
• Ukuntula ukuzisola kwangempela

3. Ukuqhubeka kokuziphatha okuyinkinga

• Ushintsho olusheshayo ebudlelwaneni obusha
• Ukugcina isithombe esihle emphakathini
• Ayikho imiphumela ebonakalayo yezenzo zabo

Umthelela womphakathi wosizi lwe-narcissistic

Usizi lwe-Narcissistic lubuye lube nengxenye ebalulekile yomphakathi:

• Ukuzihlukanisa ngenxa yokungaqondi kulabo ababazungezile
• Ubunzima bokuthola ukwesekwa okufanele
• Ukungavumeleki okuvamile kokuhlangenwe nakho okuphilayo
• Umuzwa wokuhlukaniswa nomphakathi

Lo mkhakha wezenhlalo wengeza ungqimba olwengeziwe lwenkimbinkimbi enqubweni yokulila, njengoba umuntu akumelwe abhekane nokulahlekelwa kwakhe kuphela, kodwa futhi azulazule endaweni yenhlalo engakhubaza noma engaqondakali.

Ireferensi yeBhayibheli ngosizi lwe-narcissistic

Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa ze-bibliographic esihlokweni esithi “narcissistic grief”:

1. Bowlby, J. (1997). Umbono ohlukile ngosizi: ithiyori yokunamathisela. Odile Jacob Editions.
2. Girel, J. (2006). Ukulila kanye ne-narcissism: indlela ye-psychoanalytic, e Ijenali yesiFulentshi yePsychoanalysis, 70 (4), 929-947.
3. Miller, J. (2010). Usizi lwe-Narcissistic: phakathi kokulahlekelwa nokwakhiwa kabusha, e Psychology kanye Psychiatry, 15 (3), 215-230.
4. Seligman, M. (2014). Usizi kanye ne-positive psychology. Izinguqulo zikaDe Boeck Supérieur.
5. Lemoine, P. (2012). I-Narcissism kanye nenqubo yokulila: izindaba ezingokwengqondo nezobudlelwano, e Izincwadi zokubhalela ze-Clinical psychology, 12 (2), 45-62.
6. Levi, J. (2008). Ithiyori yokulila: umbono we-psychoanalytic, e I-Psychology Bulletin, 61 (5), 351-360.
7. Kuthi, H. (1991). The Self and Nothingness: A Theory of Narcissism. Izinguqulo ze-Payot.

Lezi zithenjwa zinganikeza isiqalo esihle sokuhlola isixhumanisi phakathi kosizi kanye ne-narcissism.

Isiphetho

Ngakho-ke usizi lwe-Narcissistic lumelela uhlobo oluyingqayizivele lokuhlupheka kwengqondo okuhlanganisa ukulahlekelwa komuntu siqu, ukuhlukumezeka ngokomzwelo, nezinselele zomphakathi. Ukuwuqonda kubalulekile ekuboneni nasekuqinisekiseni ulwazi lwalabo abadlula kukho.