Ulimi lwemizwa: Ukuzikhulula kuhlanekezela le-narcissistic

Njengowesifazane isisulu somuntu ophendukezela i-narcissisticUkuqonda ulimi lwemizwa kubalulekile ekwelapheni nasekuphileni kahle kwakho. Lesi sihloko sizokuqondisa ngezindlela ezicashile zokuxhumana ngokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi futhi sikunike amathuluzi okubuyisela ukulawula impilo yakho yothando.

Uyini umzwelo?

Imizwa yindlela yokusabela engokwengqondo neyomzimba eyinkimbinkimbi kusivuseleli noma isimo. Nawa amanye amaphuzu abalulekile ukuze uqonde ukuthi uyini umzwelo:

1. Ukusabela kwengqondo: Kuyisimo sengqondo esihilela imizwa ethile, imicabango, nokuziphatha.
2. Ingxenye yePhysiological: Imizwa ivame ukuhambisana nokusabela komzimba okufana noshintsho ekushayeni kwenhliziyo, ukuphefumula noma isimo sobuso.
3. Qalisa: Imizwa ngokuvamile ibangelwa isenzakalo sangaphandle noma umcabango wangaphakathi.
4. Umsebenzi we-Adaptive: Zidlala indima ebalulekile ekusindeni kwethu nasekuhlanganyeleni komphakathi, zisisiza ukuthi siphendule ngokushesha ezimweni.
5. Izinhlobonhlobo : Kunemizwa eminingi eyahlukene, njengenjabulo, ukudabuka, intukuthelo, ukwesaba, ukumangala, ukunengeka, njll.
6. Kucimeke: Imizwelo ingaba nomuzwa omnene iye ekuphenduleni okukhulu.
7. Isikhathi esinomkhawulo : Ngokungafani nemizwelo, imizwa ngokuvamile ihlala isikhashana.
8. Umthelela ekuziphatheni: Zingashukumisa izenzo zethu futhi zibe nomthelela ezinqumweni zethu.

Ukuqopha ulimi lwemizwa ye-narcissistic pervert

I-narcissistic pervert isebenzisa ulimi oluthile oluthinta imizwa, ngokuvamile olusekelwe ekukhohliseni nasekulawuleni. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ungayibona kanjani ukuze uzivikele kuyo:

• Ukuxhumana okukhohlisayo okungakhulumi: Umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic angase asebenzise izimpawu zothando noma isimo sobuso esifudumele ukuze afihle izinhloso zakhe zangempela.
• Amagama amnandi anobuthi: Angakhuluma amazwi othando ngenkathi ekubeka phansi ngobuqili.
• Ukuthula okujezisayo: Ukuntuleka kokuxhumana kungasetshenziswa njengesikhali sokukuthuntubeza.
• Ukuqhuma kwentukuthelo okungenakulinganiswa: Lezi zinkinga zivame ukukwesabisa futhi zikwenze ungabaze.
• Izaba ezingamanga: Angase axolise ngokungazenzisi, ukuze nje abambelele kuwe.

Bona eyakho imizwa lapho ubhekene ne-narcissistic pervert

Ebudlelwaneni nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, imizwa yakho ingathinteka ngokujulile. Nazi ezinye izimpawu ongazibukela:

• Ukudideka ngokomzwelo: Awusazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngempela.
• Icala unomphela: Uzizwa unecala kuzo zonke izinkinga ebudlelwaneni.
• Ukwesaba ukushiywa: Uhlala ukhathazeka ngokuthi umlingani wakho uzokushiya.
• Intukuthelo ecishiwe: Awulinge ukuveza ukukhungatheka kwakho ngenxa yokwesaba imiphumela.
• Ukudabuka okungachazeki: Umuzwa we-melancholy uza phezu kwakho ngaphandle kwesizathu.

Ukufunda ukuhlonza le mizwa kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokwelapha.

Izindlela zokukhohlisa zemizwa ze-narcissistic pervert

I-narcissistic pervert isebenzisa amasu ahlukahlukene ukuze ilawule imizwa yakho:

1. Le ukukhanyisa igesi : Kubekela inselele umbono wakho weqiniso, kukwenze ungabaze imizwa yakho.
2. Uthando lwamabhomu: Ukucindezela ngothando ekuqaleni kobudlelwane kuphela ukuze akulawule kangcono kamuva.
3. Ukuqagela: Ukubeka icala ngamaphutha akhe noma ukuziphatha okungalungile.
4. Le ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo : Usabisa ngokuthi uzokushiya noma azilimaze uma ungavumi ukulalela izimfuno zakhe.
5. Unxantathu: Wethula umuntu wesithathu ebudlelwaneni ukuze avuse umona nokungazethembi kwakho.

Ukuqonda lezi zindlela kuzokuvumela ukuthi uzivikele kangcono.

Ukubaluleka kobuhlakani bemizwa ukuze azakhe kabusha

Ukuthuthukisa ubuhlakani bakho bomzwelo kubalulekile ekwakhiweni kwakho kabusha ngemuva kobudlelwano nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic:

1. Ukuzazi: Funda ukuqaphela nokuqonda imizwa yakho siqu.
2. Ukuzilawula: Thola izindlela ezinempilo zokuphatha imizwa yakho ejulile.
3. Ukugqugquzela : Sebenzisa imizwa yakho njengamandla okushayela ukufeza izinhloso zakho.
4. Uzwela : Thuthukisa ikhono lakho lokuqonda imizwa yabanye ngaphandle kokukhungatheka.
5. Amakhono omphakathi: Thuthukisa ikhono lakho lokuxhumana nokuxhumana nabanye ngendlela eyakhayo.

Misa imingcele enempilo engokomzwelo

Ukuze uzivikele esikhathini esizayo, kubalulekile ukumisa imingcele ecacile yemizwa:

• Funda ukuthi cha: Yenqaba izicelo ezikwenza ungakhululeki.
• Hlonipha imikhawulo yakho: Ungangabazi ukuzikhipha esimweni esikuhlukumeza emoyeni.
• Xhumana nezidingo zakho: Veza ngokucacile okudingayo ebudlelwaneni.
• Themba intuition yakho: Uma okuthile kungahambi kahle, lalela umuzwa wakho wemvelo.
• Zinike isikhathi sakho: Zinike isikhathi uwedwa sokushajwa kabusha amabhethri akho.

Indima yokwelapha ekwelapheni ngokomzwelo

Ukwelashwa kungadlala indima ebalulekile enqubweni yakho yokuphulukisa ngokomzwelo:

1. Ukwelashwa kwengqondo-yokuziphatha: Ingakusiza ukuthi ubone futhi uguqule izindlela zokucabanga ezingezinhle.
2. I-EMDR: Le nqubo ingaba usizo ekwelapheni ukuhlukumezeka ngokomzwelo.
3. Ukwelashwa kweqembu: Ukwabelana nezinye izisulu kungakusiza uzizwe ungewedwa.
4. Ukwelapha ngobuciko: Ukuveza imizwa yakho ngobuciko kungakhulula.
5. Ukuqaphela: Ukucabangela kungakusiza ukuthi ulawule kangcono imizwa yakho nsuku zonke.

Zizwe ukhululekile ukuhlola izindlela ezahlukene ukuze uthole leyo ekusebenzela kangcono.

Ibheke ebuhlotsheni obusha obunempilo: ukuxhumana nemizwa yakho ngempumelelo

Uma usulungele ukucabangela ubudlelwano obusha, nawa amanye amasu okuxhumana nemizwa yakho ngempumelelo:

1. Thembeka : Ungesabi ukuveza imizwa yakho yangempela.
2. Hlala uzolile: Ngisho naphakathi kwezingxoxo ezinzima, zama ukuzibamba.
3. Lalela ngenkuthalo: Naka imizwa yomlingani wakho.
4. Gwema ukusola: Gxila emizweni yakho kunezenzo zomunye umuntu.
5. Vula ukuvumelana: Bheka izixazululo ezisebenzela izinhlangothi zombili.

Ireferensi yeBhayibheli “ngolimi lwemizwa”

Nazi izikhombo zebhayibheli eziyisikhombisa endikimbeni “yolimi lwemizwa”:

1. Rosenberg, M. (2003). Amagama angamawindi (noma kungenjalo ayizindonga). Izinguqulo ze-homme.
2. Scherer, K.R. (2005). Imizwa kanye nenkulumo yabo, e I-Psychology yemizwa (amakhasi 123-138). I-University Presses yaseFrance.
3. Goleman, D. (1996). Ubuhlakani bemizwa. Robert Laffont Editions.
4. Gélinas, M. (2010). Ulimi lwemizwa: phakathi kwamagama nokuthula. Ijenali yamazwe ngamazwe ye-Psychosociology, 16(3), 89-106.
5. I-Panchout, M. (2017). Imizwelo nokuxhumana: indlela ye-pragmatic. Editions L’Harmattan.
6. I-Damasio, AR (2003). Iphutha likaDescartes: Isizathu semizwa. Odile Jacob Editions.
7. Scherer, K.R., & Ellgring, H. (2007). Ukubonakaliswa kobuso komzwelo, e Umzwelo Ebusweni Bomuntu (amakhasi 267-295). I-Cambridge University Press.

Isiphetho

Sengiphetha, ukuqonda nokuphatha kahle ulimi lwemizwa kuyinqubo ende kodwa ebalulekile ukuze uzakhe kabusha ngemva kobudlelwane nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic. Zibekezelele, gubha inqubekelaphambili ngayinye, futhi ukhumbule ukuthi ufanelwe ubudlelwano obunempilo nokwanelisayo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nokuzijwayeza, uzofunda ukuxhumana nemizwa yakho ngendlela eyiqiniso futhi wakhe ubudlelwano obusekelwe ekuhloniphaneni nasekuqondeni ngokomzwelo.