Ukuntula ukuzethemba ebudlelwaneni: 7 izimpawu

Ukuzethemba ebudlelwaneni kubalulekile. Abanye abantu bavame ukukhuluma ngenhlonipho, uthando, ukuxhumana nokusondelana, kodwa ukuzethemba nobudlelwano nakho kuyahambisana. Ukuzinyeza kuthinta ikakhulukazi ubudlelwano. Nakhu okudingeka ukwazi ngakho.

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Izimbangela ezinkulu zokungazethembi kwabashadile

Ukuzihlonipha kanye nesayikholoji yobudlelwano kuxhumene ngoba kuthinta ukunamathela komuntu. Ukuze uqonde isibopho sabo kanye nomthelela ukuntula ukuzethemba okungaba nawo kumbhangqwana, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kuvelaphi.

Njengoba impilo ihlukile kuwo wonke umuntu, kungaba nemicimbi engashintsha ukuzethemba kwakho. Nazi izibonelo:

• ukuba nokulindela okungenangqondo kobuhle ngenxa yenkundla yezokuxhumana, omagazini kanye nezikhangiso;
• ukuhlukumezeka okuvela ebuhlotsheni bangaphambili;
• ukuziphatha kozakwethu;
• ukucwaswa ngokwebala, ukwahlulelwa kanye nokucwaswa emphakathini;
• ukuhlukunyezwa nokuhlukunyezwa;
• izimo zezokwelapha noma zomzimba;
• ukwehlukana noma isehlukaniso;
• ukungatholi iziqu noma ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi wakho;

Abanye abantu bangakwazi ukubhekana nalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho futhi bakwazi ukukunqoba. Ngokuqondene nabanye abantu, babhekana nakho, kodwa ngaphandle kokwazi, ukuzethemba kwabo kuyathinteka.

Yiziphi izimpawu zokungazethembi ebudlelwaneni?

Kungenzeka ukuthi umuntu othandana naye ongazethembi unayo izimpawu okulandelayo:

Uphawu #1: Isidingo sokuqinisekiswa ngemizwa yakho

Ebudlelwaneni, enye yezimpawu esingazibona kumuntu ongazethembi isidingo sokuqinisekiswa. Lesi sakamuva sisetshenziselwa ukucela ubufakazi bothando noma ukuzibophezela. Kodwa-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi lobu bufakazi abanele futhi awusakwazi ukuthi wenzeni ngesikhathi esithile.

Uphawu #2: Isidingo sokuqinisekiswa ngokubaluleka kwakho

Kumbhangqwana, umlingani ongenakho ukuzethemba ngokuvamile uzodinga ukuqinisekiswa ngokubaluleka nezimfanelo zabo. Ungase ube nomuzwa wokuthi umbono wakho ubalulekile ukuze uqinisekise ukuzethemba kwakhe. Ngokuqonda izidingo zomzwelo zomlingani wakho ukucindezeleka, ungamsiza azizwe ephephile futhi eqiniseka ebudlelwaneni.

Uphawu #3: Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokuqinisekisa

Olunye uphawu olungakutshela ukuthi owakwakho akazethembi ukuthi akanaso isiqiniseko sokuthatha izinqumo. Angase abuze umbono wakho ngaso sonke isikhathi kukho konke okumkhathazayo.

Uphawu #4: Ukuthambekela kokuzibeka phansi

Umlingani ongenakho ukuzethemba naye uzothambekela ekuzibukeni phansi. Lokhu kungase kubangelwa iqiniso lokuthi uzama ukuziqinisekisa ngezimfanelo zakhe, ikakhulukazi ngokulindela ukuthi umncome. Ukuthambekela kokuzibeka phansi kungase kudalwe nawukuthi uphathina ngokungazithembi uzizwa engafaneleki kukho konke akwenzayo, okuhlanganisa ukuba sebudlelwaneni bezothando.

Uphawu #5: Ukuthambekela emoneni

Kubantu abashadile, kuvamile ukuba nomona. Nokho, uma omunye wozakwethu evame ukuveza umona ogulayo, esinye sezizathu zalokhu kungase kube ukuntula ukuzethemba. IKungenzeka ukuthi uyazwela ngenxa yokwesaba ukungamanelisi umlingani wakhe futhi lo wakamuva uyengwe ngumuntu ongcono kunaye..

Uphawu No. 6: Ukusabela okuba sengozini

Ukuntula ukuzethemba kuhlotshaniswa nokusabela ekubeni sengozini. Lapho umuntu enokuzethemba okuntekenteke kakhulu, uba nobunzima bokwamukela ukungapheleli kwakhe okungaholela ekulahlweni abanye. Akakwamukeli ukugxekwa nokuphawula, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyakha futhi kunesisekelo esihle noma cha.. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ucasuka kalula.

Inombolo yesi-7: Ukulawula ukungqubuzana okunzima

Ebhekene nezimo zokungqubuzana, umuntu ongenakho ukuzethemba angase alimale ngokomzwelo noma aphelelwe ukuzinza. Angakwazi nokuzivala futhi azithole esesimweni sokucindezeleka okukhulu. Okwenza ukuxhumana kube nzima kwabashadile.

Iyini imiphumela yokungazethembi ebudlelwaneni?

Ukuzethemba okuphansi kuthinta ikakhulukazi ubudlelwano futhi kungabangela izingxabano, ukungavikeleki, ukungalingani, nezinye izinhlobo zobunzima bobudlelwano. Nazi ezinye izibonelo zemiphumela yokuntula ukuzethemba okungathinta umbhangqwana:

Ukwesaba ukubeka izidingo zakho kuqala

Umuntu ongazethembi angase abe nobunzima bokucela usizo kwabanye. Lokhu kusho ukuthi angase angazitholi izidingo zakhe ebudlelwaneni ngoba esaba ukubuza.

Ukwanda kokuzwela ngokomzwelo

Umuntu onezinkinga zokuzethemba angase athathe ukuphawula noma ukugxeka yena. Ngokwesibonelo, angase azizwe enqatshiwe noma ephatheke kabi lapho umlingani wakhe ephawula ngezingubo zokugqoka. Kungase kubangele ingxabano.

Umona nokungazethembi

Ukuzinyeza kungabangela umona nokungazethembi ebudlelwaneni. Othile ontula ukuzethemba angase angabaze ukubaluleka kwakhe kumlingani wakhe futhi akholelwe ukuthi kuwumshoshaphansi ukuthi uyamthanda. Ngakho-ke, kujwayelekile ukuthi lezi zinhlobo zabantu zesabe ukuthi abalingani bazo bazokhangwa omunye umuntu noma besabe ukuthi bazobushiya ubudlelwano.

Indlela yokunqoba ukuntula ukuzethemba ebudlelwaneni?

Ukuze ubuyisele i- ukuzethemba yomlingani wakho, nansi ezinye izinyathelo okufanele zithathwe :

• Bonisa ukwazisa kwakho ngisho nangezinto ezincane

Uma unokubonga ngezinto ezincane onazo, njengempilo enhle, nizokwenza izinqumo ezingcono ngomunye nomunye.

• Zincome njalo

Uma uzincoma futhi uzazisa izinto ozenzayo ebudlelwaneni bakho, indlela ozibheka ngayo wena nophathina wakho izothuthuka kakhulu nsuku zonke.

• Kwesinye isikhathi nikeza umlingani wakho udumo ngezinto ezinhle ezenzeka ebudlelwaneni benu

Ngezikhathi ezithile, zama ukunikeza udumo ngesimo esihle ozithola ukuso koshade naye.

• Yenzani izinto ezintsha ndawonye

Enye indlela yokwandisa ukuzethemba komlingani wakho futhi nithuthukise ubudlelwano benu iwukuba nizizwele izinto ezintsha ndawonye.

• Thola ukwelashwa

Uma ukuthola kunzima ukusebenzela ekuthuthukiseni ukwethembana ebudlelwaneni benu, mhlawumbe kungcono kakhulu ukubonana nomelaphi wabashadile. Lo chwepheshe uzokusiza ukuthi uxhumane kangcono futhi ubuyisele ukuzethemba.

👇 Ukuze ufunde kabanzi:

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