“Izinkawu Ezindizayo”: Ukuqonda Nokusebenzelana Nama-Allies of Narcissistic Perverts

Ezweni eliyinkimbinkimbi lobudlelwane obunobuthi, kunesenzakalo esisodwa esiyingozi ngokukhethekile: “izinkawu ezindizayo.” Laba bantu, abavame ukuzikhohlisa, baba abangane abangaqaphile babaphendukezeli be-narcissistic. Ake sithole ndawonye lo mqondo, umthelela wawo, nendlela yokuzivikela kuwo.

Iyini “Inkawu Endizayo”?

Igama elithi “inkawu endizayo” livela ku-movie ethi “The Wizard of Oz,” lapho uMthakathi Okhohlakele WaseNtshonalanga eyala ibutho lezinkawu ezindizayo. Esimweni sobudlelwane obunobuthi, “izinkawu ezindizayo” abantu abathi, ngokuqaphela noma bengazi, benzela umgadli, benze “umsebenzi wabo ongcolile.”

Lezi zinhlangano ezingaziwa zingaba:

• Abangaziwa ku-inthanethi
• Uzakwethu omusha we-narcissist
• Amalungu omndeni
• Abangane abake babambisana
• Osebenza nabo

Kungani Uba “Inkawu Endizayo”?

Kufanelekile ukubuza ukuthi kungani noma ubani engamukela le ndima. Nazi izizathu ezivamile:

1. I-charisma ekhohlisayo ye-narcissist
2. Ukwesaba ukuziphindiselela
3. Isifiso sokuba sembuthanweni “onelungelo”.
4. Ukukhohlisa okucashile nokuqhubekayo

Umbono We-Narcissist We “Flying Monkeys”

• Umuzwa Wokuba namandla Onke – Ku-narcissist, ukuba “nezinkawu ezindizayo” kunikeza umuzwa odakayo wamandla. Cabanga nje injabulo abayitholayo ngokubona abantu begebenga othile ngoba nje bethathe izintambo.
• Ukuqinisekisa Okungenamsebenzi – AmaNarcisists athanda uma abantu bewavikela ngaphandle kokuthi babuze. Lokhu kuqinisa isithombe sabo futhi kubavumela ukuthi bagcine izandla zabo zihlanzekile.

Izinhlobo Ezihlukene Zezinkawu Ezindizayo

• I-Naive Enenhloso Enhle – Ngokuvame ukusetshenziswa, ucabanga ngobuqotho ukuthi uyasiza ngokungenelela esimweni.
• Umdidiyeli Ononya – Uyakujabulela ukusabalalisa amahemuhemu nokudala izingxabano.
• The Machiavellian Loyal – Ngezinye izikhathi i-narcissist ngokwakhe, uyaqonda futhi unamathela ngokugcwele ku-ajenda ye-narcissist eyinhloko.
• Isisebenzi Esisabekayo – Imvamisa ukuphoqwa ukuthi benze okuthile ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi noma isikhundla.

Zisebenza Kanjani Izinkawu Ezindizayo?

1. Aphindaphinda amanga kanokusho
2. Bazama ukukukholisa ukuthi unikeze i-narcissist elinye ithuba
3. Bangase bakuhlukumeze noma bakubukele phansi ngokuqondile
4. Kwesinye isikhathi benza sengathi bayakweseka ukuze bakulawule kangcono

Amaqhinga Ama-Narcissists Okudala “Izinkawu Ezindizayo”

• La Smear Campaign – Ama-Narcissists ahamba phambili ekuguquleni abantu ngokumelene nenhloso yabo. Basakaza amahlebezi futhi basebenzise ulwazi ukuze bathole ukusekelwa kulabo ababazungezile.
• Ukusebenzisa Inkathi “Ye-Honeymoon”. – Umlingani omusha, osangaphansi kwesipelingi se-narcissist, uvame ukuba ngumvikeli wakhe oshiseka kakhulu. Kunzima ukubaqinisekisa ngeqiniso njengamanje.

Amaqhinga AmaNarcisists kanye “Nezinkawu Ezindizayo” Zabo

• Umkhankaso Ukwehlisa isithunzi – Ama-Narcissists ahamba phambili ekuphenduleni abantu komunye nomunye. Ngokuvamile basebenzisa lezi ukusakaza amahlebezi noma ukudicilela phansi izinhloso zabo.
• Ukulawulwa kommeleli – Ngokusebenzisa ababambisene nabo, ama-narcisists agcina ukulawula kwawo ngaphandle “kokungcolisa izandla zawo.”

Ungazivikela Kanjani “Kuzinkawu Ezindizayo”?

• Ziqaphele Izimpawu – Funda ukuhlonza ukuziphatha okujwayelekile “kwenkawu endizayo”: ukuphinda amazwi e-narcissist, imizamo yokukwenza uzizwe unecala, njll.
• Gcina Ibanga Lakho – Nciphisa ukusebenzisana kwakho nalaba bantu, ikakhulukazi uma uphulukisa ebuhlotsheni obunobuthi. Gwema ukuzibandakanya ekubhekaneni ngqo nezinkawu ezindizayo. Lokhu kungase kuqinise ukuqiniseka kwabo.
• Hlala Uthembekile Ezimisoni Zakho – Ungazivumeli ukudonselwa ezenzweni eziphambene nezimiso zakho, ngisho nangaphansi kwengcindezi.
• Gxila Ekuphulukiseni Kwakho – Kunokuba uzikhathaze ngokulwa nezinkawu ezindizayo, gxila enhlalakahleni yakho nasekululameni kwakho.
• Londoloza Amandla Akho – Ungachithi isikhathi sakho uzama ukukholisa labo abangaphansi kwethonya le-narcissist.
• Hlala Ungenzi lutho – Ungabonisi ukuthi izenzo zabo ziyakuthinta. Ukunganaki kuyisikhali sakho esihle kakhulu.
• Shintsha Isihloko – Qondisa kabusha ingxoxo kubo. Izinkawu ezindizayo zivame ukuthanda ukukhuluma ngazo.
• Thethelela, kodwa ume Uqine – Ukuthethelela ngezinye izikhathi kungadambisa isimo, kodwa gcina imingcele yakho.
• Nquma Ingxoxo – Uma ingcindezi iba kakhulu, unganqikazi ukuqeda ukushintshana.

Isiphetho Sezinkawu Ezindizayo

Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi izinkawu ezindizayo ngokuvamile zigcina seziyizisulu ngokwazo. Umgilwa uyawalahla nje angabe esaba wusizo kuye.

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