Iqiniso Ngemizwa Yomuntu Ophendukezela Narcissistic Lapho Umshiya

Ukushiya i-narcissistic pervert Ukuhamba kuyisinqumo esinesibindi esiphawula ukuqala kokuphulukiswa kwakho. Kodwa-ke, kungokwemvelo ukuzibuza ukuthi umuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza uzizwa kanjani ngempela ngokuhamba kwakho. Lesi sihloko sikhanyisa imizwa efihliwe yomhlukumezi othanda ukuzikhukhumeza ngemuva kobuso bakhe obungenamizwa.

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Ukusabela Kokuqala Kwe-Narcissist Ekuhlukaneni

Ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile, ama-narcissists awavikelekile ekuhambeni kwakho. Ukusabela kwabo kokuqala kuvame ukubonakaliswa yilokhu:

• Ukushaqeka okujulile
• Ukuphika iqiniso
• Ukungakholwa ngesinqumo sakho

Bakuthola kunzima ukukholelwa ukuthi ungabashiya, njengoba sebekujwayele kakhulu ukulawula wena.

Isivunguvungu Semizwa Se-Narcissist Ngemva Kokuhamba Kwakho

Nazi izibonelo ezimbili:

1. Intukuthelo Nokusola

Ngemva kokushaqeka kokuqala, imizwa ye-narcissist ngokuvamile ishintshela esigabeni sentukuthelo enkulu. Angase:

• Ekusola ngokuthi awukaze umthande
• Ukungabaza ukwethembeka kwakho
• Ukukusola ngokumlahla “njengabo bonke abantu”

Le ntukuthelo ivame ukuvala inxeba elijulile le-narcissistic.

2. Ukucindezeleka nokuthatheka

Ngemuva kwe-facade yabo yokunganaki, ama-narcissist amaningi adlula enkathini:

• Ukucindezeleka
• Ukuthatheka ngawe
• Imizamo enzima yokukunqoba futhi

Kubalulekile ukungaphambanisi lokhu kusabela noshintsho lwangempela noma ukuzisola okuqotho.

Amasu okukhohlisa ngemva kokuhlukana

Kunamasu amabili:

Ukungathembeki ngokomzwelo

Amanye ama-narcissists awangabazi ukusebenzisa i-crisis yemizwa ukuze ubuyele emuva. Bangase:

• Zisabise ngokuzilimaza
• Ezenza ukucindezeleka okukhulu
• Bazizwa benecala ngesimo sabo

Ungawi ngala maqhinga. Ukuphepha kwakho nenhlalakahle yakho kufanele kuhlale kuseza kuqala kuwe.

Ukusesha “inyamazane” entsha

Kuyaxaka ukuthi ama-narcisists amaningi afuna ngokushesha ubudlelwano obusha ngenkathi ezama ukukubuyisela. Lesi simo sengqondo siveza:

• Ukwesaba kwabo ukuhlala yedwa
• Ukudinga kwabo njalo ukunakwa
• Ukungakwazi kwabo ukulawula imizwa yabo ngaphandle komthombo wangaphandle

Kungani kubalulekile ukugcina ikhefu?

Ukugcina ukuhlukana nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kubalulekile ngezizathu ezimbalwa ezibalulekile:

1. Ukuvikela imizwa: Ubudlelwano ne-narcissist ngokuvamile bunobuthi futhi buqeda amandla. Ukuhlukana kukuvumela ukuthi uzivikele futhi uqale ukuphulukisa.
2. Ukuphela kokukhohlisa: Ama-Narcissistic perverts ahamba phambili ekudambiseni. Ukugcina ukuhlukana kuqeda ukubamba kwabo kanye nemizamo yokulawula.
3. Ukubuyiselwa kokuzethemba: Lobu budlelwano buvame ukuqeda ukuzethemba. Ukwehlukana kuvumela ukwakhiwa kabusha kancane kancane.
4. Ukuvimbela umjikelezo wokuhlukumeza: Abantu abaphambene nobuntu bavame ukushintshashintsha phakathi kwezigaba ” thanda amabhomu “nokwehla kwenani lezinto. Ukuphula lokhu kuyawuchitha ngokuphelele lo mjikelezo obhubhisayo.”
5. Ukusetha kabusha imingcele yomuntu siqu: Ukuhlukana kukusiza ukuthi uqinisekise imingcele yakho futhi uphinde ukwazi ukulawula impilo yakho.
6. Ithuba lokuphinde ugxile kuwena: Ngaphandle kwethonya eliqhubekayo le-narcissistic pervert, umuntu angagcina egxile ezidingweni zakhe nasezifisweni zakhe.
7. Ukugwema ukuphinda: Ukugcina ukuhlukana kubalulekile ukuze ugweme ukubuyela emuva ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi, okuyingozi yangempela nabahlanekezeli be-narcissistic.
8. Ukuvikelwa kwabaseduze nawe: Ukuhlukana akuvikeli isisulu kuphela, kodwa futhi okungenzeka ukuthi abathandekayo babo ekusetshenzisweni kwe-narcissistic pervert.

Lolu hlu lugqamisa ukubaluleka kokubamba ukuhlukana ngokuqinile ukuze kwakhiwe kabusha futhi kuqhubekele phambili.

Ukuzivikela Ebudlelwaneni Obunobuthi Esizayo Ngemva Kokuhlukana

Uma usuqalile ukuzakha kabusha, kubalulekile ukufunda ukubona izimpawu eziyisixwayiso ze-a ubuhlobo obunobuthiThuthukisa intuition yakho futhi ungangabazi ukwethemba umuzwa wakho wemvelo. Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe ubudlelwano obunempilo nobulinganiselayo.

1. Nquma bonke othintana nabo

Indlela “yokungathintani” ibalulekile ekwelapheni kwakho. Kubandakanya:

• Vimba zonke izindlela zokuxhumana
• Gwema izindawo ongahlangana naye kuzo
• Melana nesilingo sokumhlola

2. Lungiselela ukuphepha kwakho

Kwezinye izimo, i-narcissist ingaba yingozi. Zilungiselele ngokuthi:

• Ukwazisa obathandayo ngalesi simo
• Ukuba nohlelo oluphuthumayo uma kunesidingo
• Ungangabazi ukuxhumana neziphathimandla uma kunesidingo

3. Zinakekele

Inhlalakahle yakho kufanele ibe yinto eza kuqala kuwe. Gxila ku:

• Ukuphulukiswa kwakho ngokomzwelo
• Ukuqinisa ukuzethemba kwakho
• Ukwakha kabusha Impilo Yakho Ngaphandle Kwe-Narcissist

Ireferensi yebhayibheli yokwazi iqiniso ngemizwa yomuntu ohlanekezela uma umshiya

Nali uhlu lwamareferensi e-bibliographic endikimbeni yemizwa ye-narcissistic pervert ngesikhathi sokuhlukana.

1. Miller, A. (1990). Ukwesaba Ukuba Nguwe: Ukuhlanekezelwa Kobuntu (2nd ed.). Izinguqulo ze-Atelier.
2. Mathieu, C. (2010). Ama-Narcissistic Perverts: Bangobani? Editions de l’Homme.
3. Goleman, D. (1996). Ubuhlakani bemizwa. Robert Laffont Editions.
4. I-Lemoine, D. (2016). Ama-Narcissists: Ungazibona Kanjani Futhi Uzivikele Kubo. Dunod Editions.
5. I-Leroux, M. (2018). I-narcissistic pervert: Umhlaseli wemizwa (3nd ed.). Izinguqulo ze-Atelier.
6. Baker, M. (2017). Ukuhlala Nempetha YeNarcissistic: Umhlahlandlela Osebenzayo Wokuzikhulula. Izinhlobo ze-Eyrolles.
7. Roussel, F. (2014). Ubudlelwano Obunobuthi: Ukuqonda kanye Nokuthatha Isinyathelo. Editions de l’Homme.

Lezi zithenjwa zizokunikeza isiqalo esihle sokuhlola imizwa ye-narcissist ngesikhathi sokuhlukana.

Isiphetho

Ukwakha kabusha ngemva kobudlelwane nomuntu onama-narcissist kuyinqubo ethatha isikhathi nesineke, kodwa ukuqonda imizwa yabo ngesikhathi sokuhlukana kungakusiza ukuba ume uqine esinqumweni sakho. Khumbula ukuthi unamandla, uqinile, futhi ufanelwe uthando, futhi ubuhlungu be-narcissist, nakuba bungokoqobo, abuthetheleli ukubuyela ebuhlotsheni obunobuthi. Isibindi sakho sokushiya lobu budlelwano sifanele ukuhlonishwa ngokuzibophezela enjabulweni yakho nasekwelapheni kwakho.