Yini i-Scapegoating? Yenza uma ubhekene Nempetha YeNarcissistic

I-Scapegoating, noma ukweba othile, kuwukuguquguquka okuvamile ebudlelwaneni ne-narcissist. Lo mkhuba uhlanganisa ukusola nokuphatha kabi umuntu ngezinkinga noma izimo abangenacala kuzo. Izisulu zokujeziswa, ngokuvamile abesifazane abaneminyaka engu-35 nangaphezulu, bahlukunyezwa kakhulu ngokwengqondo, okubashiya nomuzwa wokungabi nabulungisa nokudideka. Lesi sihloko sihlola lesi simo, ukubonakaliswa kwaso namasu okusinqoba.

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Yini i-Scapegoating?

I-Sscapegoating iyindlela lapho umuntu ohlanekezela ama-narcissistic eveza khona ukungavikeleki kwakhe, intukuthelo nokukhungatheka kumuntu ohlukunyeziwe oqokiwe. Lo muntu uba yindawo yokwamukela yonke imizwa engalungile ye-narcissist, esebenza njengembuzi yokwehluleka nokudumazeka kwabo.

I-Scapegoat: Isisulu Se-Narcissistic Pervert

Ebudlelwaneni be-narcissistic, imbuzi ye-scapegoat ivame ukuba ngumuntu i-narcissist embona njengosongo noma obuthakathaka. Lo mbono ungase usekelwe ezimisweni ezinqumayo ezinjengokuzwela, ukuba sengozini noma impumelelo yomuntu ohlukunyeziwe. I-narcissist isebenzisa i-scapegoating ukuze igcine umuzwa wokuba phezulu nokulawula.

Imibhikisho yokweqa

I-Scapegoating izibonakalisa ngezindlela ezahlukene kuye ngezimo zobudlelwano nezomphakathi. Nazi izibonelo ezijwayelekile:

• In the umndeni

Emndenini onomzali othanda inzondo, ingane ingase kuthiwe i-scapegoat. Le ngane ihlale igxekwa, isolwa ngezinkinga zomkhaya, futhi ivame ukufaniswa kabi nezingane zakubo.

• Kwezithandani

Ebudlelwaneni bombhangqwana, umlingani onozwela futhi onothando angaba isisulu sokuxoshwa. Umphendukezeli we-narcissistic angakwazi ukululaza, ahlukanise futhi akhohlise lo uzakwethu ukuze agcine ukulawula kwakhe.

• Emsebenzini

Endaweni yokusebenza, isisebenzi singaba yisisulu sokusolwa uma sibhekwa njengesisongo kumuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza esesikhundleni samandla. indlela yokuzivikela kusiza ukuhlambalaza isisebenzi nokulondoloza igunya lomuntu ozithanda ngokweqile.

Imiphumela ye-Scapegoating

Nansi imiphumela eyinhloko:

• Ukuwohloka kwempilo yengqondo : Ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, ukudangala kanye nokulahlekelwa ukuzethemba kuvamile phakathi kwabantu okuhlosiwe, okungaholela ezinkingeni ezimbi kakhulu.
• Ukuzihlukanisa emphakathini : Ukwenqatshwa yiqembu kuvame ukuholela emizweni yokuhlukaniswa, okungaba kubi kakhulu ukucindezeleka kwengqondo.
• Yehla ekusebenzeni : Ukugxila ekusoleni nasekucindezelekeni komphakathi kunciphisa ukusebenza kahle emsebenzini noma kweminye imisebenzi, kube nomthelela ekusebenzeni komuntu siqu.
• Ukucwaswa okungapheli : Isithombe somuntu singase sihlale singcolile, ngisho nangemva kokuphela kwengxabano, okwenza kube nzima ukuphinde uhlanganise nezinye izindawo zomphakathi noma zomsebenzi.

Indlela yokunqoba i-Scapegoating?

Kubalulekile ukuthi izisulu ze-scapegoating zibone ukuhlukumeza futhi zithathe izinyathelo zokuzivikela. Nawa amasu okufeza lokhu:

• Misa Imingcele

Ukubeka imingcele ecacile neqinile nomuntu ohlukumezayo ngokuzikhukhumeza kubalulekile. Lokhu kungafaka phakathi ukunciphisa ukuxhumana noma ukwamukela ” idwala elimpunga “ukunciphisa ukusebenzisana ngokomzwelo.”

• Funa Ukusekela

Ukuthola ukwesekwa kubangani, umndeni noma amaqembu okusekela kubalulekile. Ukukhuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho nokuthola iseluleko kungasiza ukwakha kabusha ukuzethemba futhi wenze izinqumo ezinolwazi.

• Ukwelashwa

Ukubonana nomelaphi onguchwepheshe ekuxhashazweni kwe-narcissistic kunganikeza amathuluzi namasu okuphulukisa ukuhlukumezeka kanye nokuthuthukisa amasu okubhekana nawo asebenzayo.

Izikhombo ze-Bibliographic

Nazi izikhombo zebhayibheli eziyisikhombisa endikimbeni ethi “scapegoating”:

1. Bonazi, G. (1980). Ukuze uthole i-sociology ye-scapegoat ezinhlanganweni eziyinkimbinkimbi. I-Sociology of Work, 22 (2), 300-323.
2. Djabi, M., & Sitte de Longueval, O. (2020). I-Scapegoating Enhlanganweni: Yiziphi Izindlela Zokulawula? M@n@gement, 23 (2), 1-27.
3. Perera, S.B. (1986). I-scapegoat complex: Ibheke kunganekwane yesithunzi nomuzwa wecala. I-Toronto: I-Inner City Books.
4. Girard, R. (1982). Imbuzi yomhlatshelo. Paris: Grasset.
5. Douglas, T. (1995). Imbuzi yomhlatshelo: Ukudluliselwa kwecala. I-Paris: Éditions du Seuil.
6. Pillari, V. (1991). I-Scapegoating Emindenini: Amaphethini Ezizukulwane Ezihlukahlukene Zokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. EParis: Editions L’Harmattan.
7. UWilcox, C.W. (2009). Imbuzi yomhlatshelo: Kuqondiswe kuso icala. I-Paris: Izinguqulo ze-Payot.

Lezi zincwadi nezindatshana zinikeza umbono ojulile mayelana nesenzakalo se-scapegoat ezimweni ezehlukene, ezihlanganisa inhlangano, umndeni kanye nezenhlalakahle.

Isiphetho

I-Scapegoating isikhali esinamandla kuzikhali ze-narcissistic pervert, esidala umonakalo omkhulu ngokwengqondo kuzisulu zakhe. Ngokuqonda la masu okuvikela ashukumisayo futhi awamukelayo, izisulu zingaqala ukuphulukiswa futhi zigqashule ekubanjweni kwe-narcissist. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukwenza i-scapegoal akuchazi ukubaluleka komuntu nokuthi kungenzeka wakhe kabusha impilo eyanelisayo engenabo lobu buthi.