Uma usebenzisana ne-narcissist empilweni yakho, uyazi ukuthi lobu budlelwano bungaba inselele kangakanani. Kodwa kwenzekani uma uqala ukubona ngomdlalo wabo? Noma uma i-narcissist yazi ukuthi usutholile? Lesi sihloko sizokuqondisa kulesi sigaba esibalulekile sohambo lwakho.
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Isikhathi sokuqwashisa
Ukuqwashisa kuyiphuzu loshintsho empilweni yakho maqondana nge narcissist. Yilapho uqala ukuqonda amaphethini abo okuziphatha, ukukhohlisa, namaqhinga okulawula. Ungase uzizwe unamandla, unekhanda elicacile, futhi mancane amathuba okuba uwele ezingibeni zabo.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
Nokho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izinguquko zakho zingaba zicashile kangakanani, i-narcissist izozibona. Laba bantu bazwela kakhulu izinguquko endaweni yabo, ikakhulukazi uma lezo zinguquko zisongela ukulawula kwabo.
Ukusabela kwe-narcissistic pervert ekuvukeni kwakho
Uma i-narcissist yazi ukuthi umtholile, ukusabela kwakhe kungaba okukhulu futhi kuhluke:
- Ukuqiniswa kokukhohlisa : Angase ayiphindaphinde imizamo yakhe yokukukhohlisa, esebenzisa amaqhinga anamandla noma acashile.
- I-tantrums : Ekhungathekiswe ukulahlekelwa ukuzilawula, angase abe nokufutheka kaningi nokushubile.
- Imizamo yokuqeda uzinzo : Angase azame ukukwenza uzingabaze, ukwahlulela kwakho, noma ukusangana kwakho kwengqondo.
- Ukwanda kokuyenga : Abanye abahlanekezeli be-narcissistic bangase bazame ukukubuyisela ngokuziphatha okuthandeka ngokweqile noma ukunaka.
Indlela yokuphatha lesi sigaba esinzima?
Ukusebenzelana ne-narcissist owaziyo ukuthi ubatholile futhi uzizwa esongelwa kungaba nzima kakhulu. Nawa amasu okusiza:
- Hlala uqinile ekuqondeni kwakho : Ungavumeli ukungabaza kungene. Themba ukwahlulela kwakho kanye nombono wakho ngesimo.
- Zijwayeze ” I-Grey Rocking« : Le ndlela yokwenza ifaka phakathi ukungathakaseli “njengedwala elimpunga” kuphendukezeli we-narcissistic, ngokunciphisa ukusabela kwakho ngokomzwelo.
- Qinisa imingcele yakho : Beka imingcele ecacile futhi uyigcine, ngisho nalapho ubhekene nengcindezi noma ukukhwabanisa.
- Funa ukusekelwa : Zizungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo abasiqondayo isimo sakho futhi abangakusekela ngokomzwelo.
Lungiselela ukungqubuzana okukhulayo
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi uma i-narcissist izwa ukuthi ilahlekelwa ukulawula, isimo singase sibe sibi kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba sibe ngcono. Zilungiselele ngokwengqondo lesi sigaba futhi khumbula ukuthi ngokuvamile kuwuphawu lokuthi usendleleni eyiyo eya enkululekweni.
Ukubaluleka kokuzinakekela
Kulesi sikhathi esinzima, kubalulekile ukuzinakekela:
- Prakthiza iukuzihawukela : Yiba mnene kuwe. Ubhekene nesikhathi esinzima.
- Gcina isimiso esinempilo : Ukudla okunomsoco, ukuvivinya umzimba, nokulala ngokwanele kuzokusiza uhlale uqinile.
- Hlola ukwelashwa : Uchwepheshe angakunikeza amathuluzi abalulekile wokuzulazula kulesi simo futhi uphulukise.
Sibheke Enkululekweni Nokwelapheka
Nakuba lesi sigaba sinzima, ngokuvamile siphawula ukuqala kwenkululeko yakho. Ngokuqonda izindlela ze-narcissistic pervert, uthola futhi ukulawula impilo yakho.
Isiphetho: Sibheke esahlukweni esisha empilweni yakho
Ukuqonda kanye nokubona ukuziphatha kwe-narcissist kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile ekukhululweni nasekuphulukisweni. Nakuba isikhathi esilandela lokhu kuqaphela singase sibe nesiyaluyalu futhi sibe inselele, siphawula isiqalo soshintsho oluhle empilweni yakho.
Khumbula ukuthi inhlalakahle yakho ibalulekile. Ngokuhlala uthembekile kuwena, ugcine imingcele yakho, futhi ufune ukwesekwa okudingekayo, ungadlula kulesi sigaba esinzima. Isinyathelo ngasinye esincane sikususa ekukhohlisweni futhi sikusondeze empilweni enokuthula nenelisayo.
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