Balekela ogibeni lokungunxantathu nge-narcissistic pervert

Uzizwa ulahlekile, udidekile, uhlukanisiwe ebudlelwaneni bakho nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic. Naphezu kwemizamo yakho, uzizwa sengathi uhlale uqhudelana nabanye abantu, awukaze ulinganise. Umlingani wakho unaleli khono eliyinqaba lokukwenza uzingabaze, ubuze ukubaluleka kwakho. Lesi simo sinegama: i-triangulation. Lesi sihloko sizokuqondisa isinyathelo ngesinyathelo ukuze uhlonze izimpawu zikanxantathu futhi uphule lo mbuthano ononya. Ndawonye, ​​masibuyisele emuva ukulawula impilo yakho!

Ukuqonda amandla anobuthi e-triangulation

I-triangulation ingenye yezikhali eziyinhloko ze-narcissistic pervert ukugcina eyakhe ubambe kuwe. Lo mdlalo okhohlisayo ubandakanya ukubandakanya umuntu wesithathu ebudlelwaneni bakho, ukuze udale uqhekeko, umona kanye nesiphithiphithi. Umgomo ophendukezelwe ulula: ukwenza buthaka isikhundla sakho futhi uqinise ukulawula kwakhe.

Ngendlela eyisisekelo, unxantathu kwenzeka lapho umlingani wakho ekuqhathanisa nomunye umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yi-ex, osebenza naye, noma umngane. Kanjalo uqokomisa lokho okuthiwa izimfanelo zalo muntu wesithathu ukuze akwenze uzizwe ungelutho futhi ungafaneleki. Ube usuzithola usulwa nesipoki, isithombe esihle esenziwe umlingani wakho.

Kodwa i-triangulation ingathatha izinhlobo eziyinkimbinkimbi. Umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic angase, isibonelo, athembele emibonweni yomndeni wakhe noma abangani ukuze alulaze izidingo nemibono yakho. Noma sebenzisa izinkundla zokuxhumana ukuze uvuse isikhwele sakho ngokuphawula kwezinye izincwadi zabesifazane.

Noma ngabe injani, unxantathu unomphumela wokukwenza ungabaze wena, ukubaluleka kwakho kanye nendawo yakho ebudlelwaneni. Ikuhlukanisa kancane kancane, ikuvimbele ekutholeni ukwesekwa kwabasondelene nawe.

Khomba izimpawu zikanxantathu

Ukuze uzivikele kunxantathu, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuziphatha komlingani wakho. Nawa amafulegi abomvu okungafanele awazibe:

1. Ukuqhathanisa okululazayo: Umlingani wakho uhlala eqhathanisa izimfanelo zakho, ukusebenza kwakho noma ukubukeka kwakho nokwabanye abantu, njalo kukubi kakhulu. Isibonelo, angadumisa amakhono enhlangano osebenza naye noma amandla omngane wezemidlalo.

2. Ukubandakanywa kwabantu besithathu: Umlingani wakho ubandakanya kaningi abangani, umndeni noma ozakwenu ebudlelwaneni bakho, noma ngabe ukuthola umbono wabo noma ukubika imininingwane ngawe.

3. Ukwehlukana nokungathembani: Umlingani wakho utshala ukungezwani phakathi kwakho nalabo osondelene nabo, ngokusabalalisa ulwazi oluphikisanayo noma ukubhebhethekisa amahlebezi. Ugcina ungabethembi abaseduze kwakho.

4. Isimo sokuthi “intandokazi”: Enye yezingane zakho noma ilungu lomndeni womlingani wakho libonakala lithola impatho ekhethekile, elilimaza abanye. Lesi “silwane esifuywayo” esiguqukayo siwuhlobo lwakudala lokuhlanganisa unxantathu.

5. Ukungathembeki: Uma umlingani wakho ethandana ngaphandle komshado, bahilela umuntu wesithathu ebudlelwaneni bakho, okudala isimo somzwelo futhi ngezinye izikhathi unxantathu womzimba.

Uma ukhomba lawa maphethini ebuhlotsheni bakho, qiniseka ukuthi uyisisulu sesu likanxantathu. Ungazizwa unecala, akulona iphutha lakho.

Ukunqamula umjikelezo kanxantathu

Uma ubhekene ne-narcissistic pervert, i-triangulation ingase ibonakale ingenakugwenywa. Kodwa zikhona izixazululo zokuzikhulula kukho uphinde ukwazi ukulawula impilo yakho.

• Yenqaba ukungena emdlalweni: Uma umlingani wakho ezama ukukubandakanya esimweni esingunxantathu, ungathathi isiyengo. Hlala uqinile futhi uzihlukanise, ngaphandle kokudonseka ekucasuleni noma ekuqhathaniseni kwakhe. Kwenze kucace ukuthi awufuni ukubamba iqhaza kulolu hlobo lokuguquguqukayo.
• Misa imingcele ecacile: Beka imingcele eqinile mayelana nokubandakanyeka kwabantu besithathu ebudlelwaneni bakho. Chazela umlingani wakho ukuthi ngeke ukubekezelele ukugxekwa, ukwethenjwa noma ukucela izeluleko emndenini noma kubangani.
• Thuthukisa ukuxhumana okuthembekile: Uma kuvela ukungezwani, ungangabazi ukuxoxa ngakho ngokukhululekile nomlingani wakho, ngaphandle kokumsola noma ukuzithethelela. Gxila emizweni yakho nasezidingweni zakho, ugweme ukungena emdlalweni kanxantathu.
• Yakha inethiwekhi yosekelo eqinile: Zizungeze nabantu obathembayo, kungaba umndeni, abangani noma ochwepheshe (umelaphi, umqeqeshi, njll.). Bazokwazi ukukusekela futhi bakusize ugcine umbono ocacile ngalesi simo.
• Zimisele ukuzimela kwakho: Thuthukisa ukuzimela kwakho ngokomzwelo, kwezezimali kanye nezenhlalo. Ungavumeli umlingani wakho alawule zonke izici zokuphila kwakho. Hlakulela izinkanuko zakho, umsebenzi wakho kanye nobungane bakho.
• Cabangela ukuhlukana: Uma naphezu kwayo yonke imizamo yakho, umlingani wakho ephikelela kweyakhe ukuziphatha okunobuthi, ungangabazi ukucabanga ngokuhlukana. Ukuphepha kwakho nenhlalakahle iza kuqala.

Ukwakha kabusha ukuzethemba kwakho

Inhloso kanxantathu iwukwenza ungabaze wena kanye nokubaluleka kwakho. Ukuze uzikhulule kukho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kubalulekile ukusebenzela ukuzethemba kwakho.

Zinike isikhathi sokuphinda uthole izimfanelo zakho, amandla akho kanye nezifiso zakho. Lalela izwi lakho elingaphakathi, ngaphandle kokuzivumela ukuthi uthonywe izahlulelo zomlingani wakho. Zizungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo abakwazisa lokho oyikho.

Ngesineke nokuzimisela, ungakwazi ukunqamula umjikelezo wokuba unxantathu uphinde uthole ukuzimela kwakho. Ufanelwe ubuhlobo obunempilo, obusekelwe ekuhloniphaneni nokwethembana. Ungalokothi ukukhohlwe.

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