I-Alexithymia kuma-narcissistic perverts: ukuqonda

I-Alexithymia, isici esivamile phakathi kwabahlukumezi be-narcissistic, ingaba nemiphumela elimazayo kuzisulu zabo. Lesi sihloko sihlose ukusiza abesifazane abathintwe yile nto ukuthi bayiqonde kangcono futhi bazivikele kuyo.

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Iyini i-alexithymia?

I-Alexithymia, igama elethulwa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uPeter Sifneos ngo-1973, libhekisela ebunzimeni bokukhomba, ukuveza, nokuchaza imizwa yomuntu. Abantu be-Alexithymic babonisa izici eziningana ezihlukile:

• Ukungakwazi ukubona nokuqamba eyabo imizwa
• Ubunzima bokuhumusha imizwa yabanye abantu
• Ukuthambekela kokudida imizwa nemizwa yomzimba
• Indlela yokucabanga eqinile, egxile ngaphandle
• Impilo empofu, ecatshangwayo, nemnandi
• Kunzima ukusho imizwa yabo

Lesi sici sobuntu sithinta cishe u-5 kuya ku-10% wabantu abaningi, kodwa ukusabalala kwayo kuphakeme kakhulu phakathi kwabantu abanezinkinga zobuntu, ikakhulukazi labo abane-narcissistic.

Imvelaphi ye-alexithymia

Nakuba izimbangela eziqondile ze-alexithymia zingaqondwa ngokugcwele, izici eziningana zibonakala zinomthelela ekuthuthukisweni kwayo:

1. Izici zofuzo: Ezinye izifundo zisikisela ukuthambekela kofuzo.
2. Izici ze-Neurological: Ukungajwayelekile ekusebenzeni kwezindawo ezithile zobuchopho kungaba nendima.
3. Izici zokuthuthuka: Ukuncishwa ngokomzwelo kusenesikhathi noma ukuhlukumezeka ebuntwaneni kungakhinyabeza ukuthuthukiswa kwamakhono angokomzwelo.
4. Izici zesiko: Amanye amasiko akwazisa kancane ukubonakaliswa kwemizwelo angase akhuthaze i-alexithymia.
5. Izindlela zokuzivikela ngokwengqondo: I-Alexithymia ingaba isu lokubhekana nesimo ekuphenduleni okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu okungokomzwelo.

Endabeni yokuhlanekezela kwe-narcissistic, i-alexithymia ngokuvamile ibonakala ibangelwa ukuhlanganiswa kwalezi zici, ngokugcizelela ngokukhethekile okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu kwangaphambi kwesikhathi kanye nezindlela zokuzivikela ezingokwengqondo.

Izixhumanisi phakathi kwe-alexithymia kanye ne-narcissistic perversion

I-Alexithymia idlala indima ebalulekile ekwakhiweni kwe ubuntu we-narcissistic pervert. Ivumela ukuthi:

• Ukwenqaba imizwa yomuntu eyakhayo, ebhekwa njengobuthakathaka noma ubuthakathaka
• Ukugcina isithombe sokuphelela nokulawula okuphelele
• Ukugwema ukubhekana namaphutha namanxeba omuntu siqu
• Ukuzivikela ezinhlungwini ezingokomzwelo, ehlazweni, nasekwesabeni ukulahlwa
• Ukuthethelela ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo ngokucabangela okuphakeme okucatshangwayo

Lokhu kungakwazi ukuzwa nokuveza imizwa enempilo kuvimbela ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane obuseduze bangempela. Ngakho-ke i-alexithymic narcissist ayikwazi uzwela lwangempela nokuvumelana ngokomzwelo, okubhebhezela iphethini yabo yokuziphatha enobuthi ebudlelwaneni.

Imithelela ye-alexithymia kusisulu

Kuzakwethu we-alexithymic narcissist, imiphumela miningi futhi ijulile:

1. Ukungakwazi ukwakha ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kwangempela: Isisulu sihlangana nodonga lwemizwa, singakwazi ukwabelana ngemizwa yaso nomlingani waso.
2. Umuzwa wokungeneliseki njalo kanye nokuntula ngokomzwelo: Izidingo ezingokomzwelo zomuntu ohlukunyeziwe azihlangatshezwa, okudala ukukhungatheka okuhlala njalo.
3. Ukugunyazwa okuphindaphindiwe kwemizwa nezidingo zomuntu siqu: Umphendukezeli we-narcissistic, ongakwazi ukuqonda imizwa, uyayilulaza ngokuhlelekile noma uyayiphika.
4. Ukudideka nokungabaza: Ebhekene nokusabela okungafanele okuvela kumlingani, isisulu sigcina singabaza ukuba semthethweni kwemizwa yaso.
5. Ukukhathala ngokomzwelo: Imizamo eqhubekayo yokufinyelela ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo nozakwethu we-alexithymic idla amandla futhi iyize.
6. Ukulahlekelwa ubunikazi: Ngokuhlala uzivumelanisa nezidingo zomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, isisulu silahlekelwa ukuthintana nemizwa nezifiso zaso.
7. Ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka: Ukungakwazi ukwabelana ngemizwa yomuntu kanye nokuntuleka kokusekelwa ngokomzwelo kungaholela ekuphazamisekeni kwengqondo.

Ngakho isisulu sincishwa ukusekelwa okungokomzwelo okubalulekile ebuhlotsheni obunempilo nobulinganiselayo, obungase bube nemiphumela ehlala njalo empilweni yaso engokwengqondo nenhlalakahle.

Izimpawu eziyisixwayiso okufanele uzibukele

Ukukhomba uzakwethu we-alexithymic kanye ne-narcissistic akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi, ikakhulukazi ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Nazi ezinye izimpawu eziyisixwayiso okufanele uzibukele:

• Ubunzima bokuveza imizwa ngaphandle kokusebenzisa izinto ezijwayelekile
• Ukuthambekela kokuqonda izimo zemizwa
• Ukusabela okungafanele emizweni yabanye (ukunganaki, ukucasuka)
• Ukugxila ngokweqile emininingwaneni esebenzayo ngokulahlekelwa izici zemizwa
• Ukuntula uzwela nokungakwazi ukunikeza ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo
• Ukuthambekela kokusola abanye ngobunzima bomuntu siqu obungokomzwelo
• Inkulumo enengqondo kakhulu, enqanyuliwe emizweni
• Ukungakwazi ukuphatha izingxabano ngendlela eyakhayo
• Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokulawula nokuphelela

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ukuba khona kwalezi zimpawu akusho ukuthi umuntu i-alexithymic narcissist, kodwa kufanele baphakamise ukukhathazeka mayelana nobunzima obungase bube khona ebudlelwaneni.

Ungazivikela kanjani futhi wakhe kabusha impilo yakho?

Uma ubhekene nozakwethu we-alexithymic kanye ne-narcissistic, kubalulekile ukusebenzisa amasu okuvikela nawokwakha kabusha:

1. Ukuqaphela inkinga: Ukuhlonza izimpawu ze-alexithymia kanye ne-narcissism kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuzivikela.
2. Qinisekisa imizwa yakho: Ungavumeli umlingani wakho enze imizwa yakho ingasebenzi. Imizwa yakho isemthethweni futhi ibalulekile.
3. Ukubeka imingcele ecacile: Ukumisa nokugcina imingcele enempilo engokomzwelo kubalulekile ukuze uzivikele.
4. Funa ukwesekwa kwangaphandle: Abangane, umndeni, amaqembu asekelayo noma umelaphi angakunikeza ukulalela nokuqinisekisa okudingayo.
5. Ukusebenzela ukuzethemba: Ukuzakha kabusha isithombe esihle sakho siqu kubalulekile ekuzikhululeni ekubanjweni kwempetha ye-narcissistic.
6. Zijwayeze i-ukuzihawukela Yiba nomusa kuwe futhi uzivumele uzizwe futhi uveze imizwa yakho.
7. Cabangela ukushiya ubudlelwano: Uma lungekho ushintsho olungenzeka futhi ubudlelwano buhlala bunobuthi, kungase kudingeke ukuba uhlukane.
8. Xhumana nochwepheshe: Ukwelashwa kungakusiza upholise amanxeba angokomzwelo futhi uthuthukise ubudlelwano obunempilo.

Izikhombo ze-Bibliographical on alexithymia

Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa ze-bibliographic esihlokweni se-alexithymia:

1. U-Luminet, O., & Vermeulen, N. (2013). I-Alexithymia. EBrussels: De Boeck Supérieur.
2. Corcos, M., Pirlot, G., & Loas, G. (2011). Iyini i-alexithymia?. EParis: Dunod.
3. Pedinielli, J.-L. (2019). “I-Alexithymia: Psychology Clinic kanye Neuroscience.” Izazi Zengqondo Nezengqondo, 2019/1 (No. 260), 10-17.
4. Maillard, B., & Frick, E. (2019). “I-Alexithymia: umlando, ucwaningo kanye nemibono ye-psychopathological”. I-Clinical Psychology, 2019/2 (No. 48), 16-28.
5. Langevin, R., Laurent, A., & Lavoie, É. (2019). “I-Alexithymia, isici sobuntu okufanele sicatshangelwe ekuzuzweni kwamakhono ezenhlalo nezomzwelo phakathi kothisha abangabafundi abaphothula iziqu.” Ijenali ye-psychoeducation, 48 (2), 333-346.
6. Beresnevaité, M. (2000). “Ukuhlola izinzuzo ze-psychotherapy yeqembu ekunciphiseni i-alexithymia ezigulini ze-coronary heart disease: isifundo sokuqala”. I-Psychotherapy kanye ne-Psychosomatics, I-69, i-117-122.
7. Bausseron, E., Luminet, O., & de Groote, J. (2012). “I-Alexithymia kanye nokulawulwa kwemizwelo”. Ku-M. Mikolajczak & M. Desseilles (Eds.), Ukwelapha Ngokulawulwa Kwemizwa (amakhasi 301-314). EBrussels: De Boeck.

Lezi zikhombo zinikeza umbono ojulile nge-alexithymia, ohlanganisa izici zethiyori, ezokwelashwa, nezokwelashwa.

Isiphetho

Ukwelapha kuhilela ukuxhumanisa imizwa yakho, ukuthuthukisa…ubuhlakani bemizwa kanye nokwakhiwa kobudlelwano bangempela nobukhulisayo.

Ngokuqonda kangcono i-alexithymia kanye nendima yayo ku- ukuguqulwa kwe-narcissisticAbesifazane abake bahlukunyezwa bangakwazi futhi ukulawula izimpilo zabo ezingokomzwelo. Le nqubo idinga isikhathi, isineke, kanye nesibindi, kodwa ibalulekile ekubuyiseni ukulingana komuntu siqu nobudlelwane. Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe ubudlelwano lapho imizwa yakho yaziswa, ihlonishwa, futhi kwabelwana ngayo.

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