Ukuba yisisulu somuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kungaba isipiliyoni esibuhlungu kakhulu esibekela inselele indlela esizibona ngayo ngathi. Kulo mongo ophazamisayo, abanye besifazane bayazibuza: sazi kanjani ukuthi siyi-HPI (High Intellectual Potential)? Lo mbuzo usemthethweni ngoba abantu abanamandla aphezulu bavame ukuba nokuzwela okuphakeme okungabenza babe sengcupheni yokukhohliswa. Lesi sihloko sizokusiza ukuthi uqonde kangcono izici ze-HPI.
Izimpawu ezibonisa amandla aphezulu obuhlakani
Ngaphambi kokubhekana nokucaciswa kwe-HPI kumongo wobudlelwano obuhlukumezayo, kubalulekile ukwazi izici eziyinhloko ezibonisa le phrofayela:
- Ngaphezulu kwesilinganiso sobuhlakani, nge-IQ ngokuvamile engaphezu kwe-130
- Ilukuluku elikhulu lobuhlakani kanye nesidingo esiqhubekayo sokufunda
- Ukucabanga okusekelwe esihlahleni, okukwazi ukwenza ukuxhumana phakathi kwemiqondo ekude
- a hypersensitivity ngokomzwelo nangokwemizwa
- Umuzwa oqinile wobulungiswa nozwela oluqinile
- Ukunqamula ukuxhumana njalo nezinkambiso zomphakathi kanye nomuzwa wokwehluka
- Ukufuna ukuphelela okungaholela ekuzinyezeni
- Ukudala okuchichimayo nomcabango
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi lezi zici zingahluka kumuntu nomuntu nokuthi I-HPI zizibonakalisa ngokuhlukile kumuntu ngamunye.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
I-Hypersensitivity: i-asethi noma ubungozi ebusweni be-narcissistic pervert?
Esinye sezici ezigqama kakhulu zabantu be-HPI ukuzwela kwabo ngokweqile. Lokhu kukhethekile kungahle kuphindwe kabili ebudlelwaneni nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic:
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kungenza umuntu onesiphiwo abe sengozini enkulu yokuphathwa kabi ngokomzwelo. Uzwela lwabo olukhulu kanye nokuthambekela kwabo ekufuneni ukuqonda abanye kungabaholela ekutheni bathethelele ukuziphatha okunobuthi kanye nokuhlala ebudlelwaneni obungenampilo.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lokhu kuzwela okwenyukile kungase futhi kube yimpahla yokuthola ukungqubuzana kanye nokukhohlisa kwe-narcissistic pervert. Abantu be-HPI bavame ukuba nomuzwa othuthuke kakhulu ongabaxwayisa ngokushesha ngezinhloso zeqiniso zozakwethu.
I-Impostor syndrome: umphumela we-narcissism noma isici se-HPI?
Izisulu eziningi zabahlanekezeli be-narcissistic ziba nomuzwa ojulile wokungafaneleki futhi zihlale ziwangabaza amakhono azo. Le imposter syndrome ingaba umphumela oqondile wokukhohlisa okwenziwe.
Kodwa-ke, kuyathakazelisa ukuqaphela ukuthi abantu be-HPI nabo bathambekele kulesi sifo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bahlangene kangakanani. Ukufuna kwabo ukuphelela nokuthambekela ekuzigxekeni kungase kubenze bawabuke phansi amakhono abo naphezu kwempumelelo yabo.
Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa phakathi kokuntula ukuzethemba okuvela ebuhlotsheni obuhlukumezayo kanye nemibuzo ejulile ehlobene namandla aphezulu.
Ukuqina kwemizwelo: isici se-HPI noma umphumela obuhlungu?
Abantu be-HPI bavame ukuzwa imizwa yabo ngomfutho omkhulu. Lokhu kukhethekile kungadidaniswa nokusabela okwedlulele kwemizwa okuvame ukubonwa kuzisulu zama-narcissistic perverts.
Umehluko usemsuka walokhu kuqina:
- Kumuntu we-HPI, ingaphakathi futhi izibonakalisa kuzo zonke izici zokuphila, hhayi nje ubudlelwano.
- Kumuntu ohlanekezelwe yi-narcissistic, kuvame ukuxhunyaniswa nezibangeli ezithile futhi kungadamba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nomsebenzi wokwelapha.
Ukufuna incazelo: isidingo esiyisisekelo se-HPI noma ukuzama ukuphulukisa?
Abantu abanamandla aphezulu banesidingo esibonakalayo sokunikeza incazelo yobukhona babo nokuqonda umhlaba obazungezile. Lesi sicelo kwesinye isikhathi singaphanjaniswa nokuseshwa kwencazelo okwenziwa izisulu zama-narcissistic perverts emzamweni wokuqonda ukuthi kwenzekeni kubo.
Umehluko omkhulu wukuthi:
- Kumuntu we-HPI, lokhu kufuna incazelo kungunaphakade futhi kusebenza kuzo zonke izici zokuphila.
- Kumuntu ohlukunyeziwe osesigabeni sokuphulukisa, kugxilwe ekuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu futhi kuhlose ukuthola ibhalansi.
Umuzwa wokwehluka: ukuqhelelana kwe-HPI noma ukuhlukaniswa kwangemva kokuhlukumezeka?
Abantu be-HPI bavame ukuzizwa bengahambelani nalabo ababazungezile ngenxa yendlela yabo yokucabanga engavamile. Lo muzwa ungase ufane nokuhlukaniswa okuvame ukukuzwa izisulu zezisulu ze-narcissistic ngemva kobudlelwane babo.
Ukuze wenze umehluko:
- Umehluko we-HPI ukhona kusukela ebuntwaneni futhi uthinta izici eziningi zempilo yezenhlalo neyobuhlakani.
- Ukuzihlukanisa kwangemva kokuhlukumezeka kuvame ukuba kwakamuva kakhulu futhi kuxhunyaniswe ngqo nesipiliyoni ne-narcissistic pervert.
Uzwela oluthuthukisiwe: isipho se-HPI noma indlela yokusinda?
Uzwela luyikhwalithi evame ukuthuthukiswa kakhulu kubantu abanekhono eliphezulu. Kodwa-ke, izisulu zama-narcissistic perverts zingase futhi zibe nokuzwela kakhulu emizweni yabanye njengendlela yokuzivikela.
I-nuance icashile kodwa ibalulekile:
- Uzwela lwe-HPI lungokwemvelo futhi luboniswa ngendlela elinganiselayo kubo bonke ubudlelwano.
- Ukuzwela kwe-post-traumatic hypersensitivity kungaba ngokweqile futhi kubangele ukukhathazeka, kugxile ekutholeni izingozi ezingaba khona.
Ungayehlukanisa kanjani i-HPI emiphumeleni yangemva kobudlelwano obunobuthi?
Ukuze unqume ukuthi ingabe uyi-HPI noma umane ubonise izici ezifanayo ngenxa yokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho ne-narcissist, zibuze imibuzo elandelayo:
- Ingabe lezi zici zazikhona ngaphambi kobudlelwane bakho obunobuthi?
- Ingabe zizibonakalisa kuzo zonke izici zokuphila kwakho noma ikakhulukazi ebudlelwaneni bakho obuseduze?
- Ingabe ubulokhu uzizwa sengathi “uhlukile” noma ivele kamuva nje?
- Ingabe labo abakuzungezile (umndeni, abangani bezingane) bebehlale bekubona njengohlakaniphe kakhulu noma uzwela?
- Ingabe uzizwa unesidingo esiqhubekayo sokufunda nokuqonda, ngale kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okubuhlungu?
Uma uphendula ngoyebo eminingi yale mibuzo, kungenzeka ukuthi uyi-HPI ngempela. Kodwa-ke, uchwepheshe kuphela ozokwazi ukwenza ukuxilongwa okunembile.
Ukubaluleka kokusekelwa okufanele
Noma ngabe uyi-HPI noma cha, kubalulekile ukuphelezelwa uchwepheshe uma uke waba khona isisulu somuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo noma umelaphi angakusiza:
- Ukuhlunga izici zakho zomuntu siqu kanye nemithelela yangemva kobudlelwano obunobuthi
- Yakha ukuziqonda kangcono ngawe
- Qinisa ukuzethemba kwakho
- Funda ukubeka imingcele enempilo ebudlelwaneni bakho
- Sebenzisa amandla akho ngendlela eyakhayo negculisayo
Uma ngempela uyi-HPI, ukwesekwa okuqondile kungakuvumela ukuthi uqonde kangcono ukusebenza kwakho futhi uthole okuningi kukho.
Isiphetho
Sengiphetha, ukwazi ukuthi ngabe uyi-HPI yini ngemuva kokuba nobudlelwano nomuntu ohlanekezela ama-narcissistic akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Izici zamandla aphezulu zingadideka nemiphumela ethile yangemva kokuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo. Into esemqoka ukuthi uzinakekele, uzungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo futhi uthole ukwesekwa ukuze uphinde uthole ukuzethemba kuwe namakhono akho. Noma ngabe uyi-HPI noma cha, ufanelwe ukuphila impilo eyanelisayo nobudlelwano obunempilo.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.