Ungakubona kanjani futhi ulwe nokunqunywa icala kwe-narcissistic pervert?

“Ukukhubeka ngecala”, noma icala NgesiFulentshi, kuyisu le- ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo Leli qhinga livame ukusetshenziswa ngabahlukumezi abazikhukhumezayo ukuze balawule abalingani babo. Njengowesifazane obhekene nokuziphatha okunjalo, kubalulekile ukukwazi ukukubona nokukulungisa. Lesi sihloko sizokusiza ukuthi uqonde kangcono lesi simo futhi uzivikele kuso.

Kuyini ukukhubeka kwecala nokuthi ungakubona kanjani?

Ukukhubeka kwecala kuhlanganisa ukwenza omunye umuntu azizwe enecala ngendlela eyeqisayo nengenasizathu. Ebudlelwaneni nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, lokhu kungase kuthathe izinhlobo ezahlukene:

• Ukukusola ngokuba nobugovu noma ukungazweli uma uveza izidingo zakho
• Ukusole ngokungamthandi ngokwanele uma engakutholi akufunayo
• Ukwenza uzizwe unesibopho sokungakhululeki noma ukwehluleka kwabo
• Lingisa ngokweqile imiphumela yezenzo zakho kuye
• Ukukusola ngokumlahla uma uzama ukuziqhelelanisa nawe

Umgomo uwukugcina usesimweni sokuba necala unomphela ukuze uzilawule kangcono. Funda ukubona lawa maqhinga ukuze ungaphinde uwele ogibeni.

Izindlela ezivame ukusetshenziswa zokuqunjelwa icala

Umphendukezeli we-narcissistic uvame ukusebenzisa amasu ahlukene ukuze alawule umlingani wakhe:

• La ukuhlukunyezwa : 

I-narcissistic pervert izethula njengesisulu sezenzo zakho, yenza ihaba ngokuhlupheka ombangela kona. “Ungayenza kanjani lento kimina emva kwakho konke engikwenzele kona? ” ibinzana elijwayelekile.

• Ukuqhathanisa okungathandeki: 

Uqhathanisa ukuziphatha kwakho nokwabanye abantu ukuze akwenze uzizwe ungafaneleki. “Umngane womshado wangempela akasoze akwenza lokho” noma “Bheka indlela usbanibani amnaka ngayo umkakhe.”

• Ukungathembeki ngokomzwelo: 

Usabisa ngokuthi uzohoxisa uthando lwakhe noma ukwesekwa kwakho uma ungavumi ukulalela izimfuno zakhe. “Ukube ubungithanda ngempela ubuzongenzela lokhu. »

• Isicelo samabhondi: 

Ucela imisebenzi yakho noma izibopho zakho ukuze akwenze uzizwe unecala. “Umama/unkosikazi omuhle kufanele…”

• Isikhumbuzo esiqhubekayo “sezikweletu”: 

Uhlale ekukhumbuza ngalokho akwenzele kona esikhathini esidlule, sengathi umkweleta okuthile.

Yiziphi izimbangela zokukhubeka kwecala?

Icala liwuhlobo lokuxhaphaza imizwa. Izimbangela zayo eziyinhloko yilezi:

1. Ukulawula: Ukusebenzisa umuzwa wecala ukuze ube nomthelela ekuziphatheni kwabanye.
2. Ukungazethembi: Umuntu ozizwa enecala angase angabi naso ukuzethemba.
3. Ukuntuleka kokuxhumana: Ukungakwazi ukuveza izidingo zomuntu ngendlela enempilo.
4. Ukufunda: Ukuziphatha okufundwe ebuntwaneni noma ngemvelo.
5. Ukugwema umthwalo wemfanelo: Ukusola abanye.
6. Isidingo sokunakwa: Ukuheha ukunaka ngokuhlukumezeka.
7. I-Narcissism: Ukungakwazi ukucabangela imizwa yabanye.
8. Ukukhathazeka: Ukuzama ukulawula izimo ngecala.
9. Izinkinga ezingaxazululiwe: Ukusebenzisa icala ukuveza izikhalo zesikhathi esidlule.
10. Ukukhohlisa: Ukuthola okufunayo ngokudlala ngemizwa.

Imiphumela edabukisayo yokuba necala ekukhubekeni ukuzethemba

Ukusolwa njalo kungaba nemiphumela emibi ngokwengqondo:

• Ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba kuwena kanye nokwahlulela kwakho
• Umuzwa unomphela wokungabi muhle ngokwanele
• Ukukhathazeka nokudangala
• Ubunzima bokuqinisekisa izidingo kanye nemikhawulo yomuntu
• Ukulahlekelwa ubuwena ngokugoba izimfuno zabanye

Ukuqaphela le miphumela eyingozi kubalulekile ekulondolozeni impilo yakho yengqondo.

Ungasabela kanjani ekugwetshweni kwecala kwe-narcissistic pervert?

Nawa amanye amathiphu okuphendula ngendlela efanele ekukhubekeni unecala:

• Funda ukubona imizwa yakho

Isinyathelo sokuqala siwukubona lapho uzizwa unecala. Thatha isinyathelo emuva futhi uzibuze ukuthi ingabe leli cala liyathetheleleka noma liwumphumela wokukhohlisa.

• Qinisekisa kabusha amalungelo akho nemikhawulo

Khumbula ukuthi uvunyelwe ukuba nezidingo zakho, imibono kanye nemingcele. Ungavumeli abanye babenze bangabi semthethweni ngenxa yecala.

• Yenqaba ukudlala umdlalo wokuzithethelela

Lapho uzithethelela ngokwengeziwe, yilapho uzogcina umjikelezo wecala. Funda ukwenqaba ngaphandle kokuzwa sengathi kufanele uzichaze.

• Shintshela umthwalo wemfanelo komunye

Uma ubhekene nokusolwa ngokungafanele, ungangabazi ukulibuyisela emuva ibhola: “Ngiyaqonda ukuthi uphoxekile, kodwa ukusabela kwakho kukuwe. »

• Sebenzisa ukucabanga kwakho okujulile

Hlaziya isimo ngobuqotho. Ingabe ukugxeka okwenziwa kuwe kusekelwe ngempela? Ingabe ziyahambisana nobuqiniso bamaqiniso?

Imishwana okufanele isetshenziswe ukulwa necala

Nazi ezinye izibonelo zezimpendulo ezigomelayo emizamweni yokusola:

• “Ngiyaqonda ukuthi ukhungathekile, kodwa anginacala ngemizwa yakho. »
• “Nginelungelo lokuba nezidingo zami kanye nemingcele. »
• “Angicabangi ukuthi kungifanele lokhu kugxekwa. Ukuziphatha kwami ​​kwakufaneleka. »
• “Ngiyenqaba ukuzizwa nginecala ngento engingayenzanga. »
• “Injabulo yakho ayincikile kimi kuphela. »

Ungangabazi ukuzivumelanisa nezimo futhi uzisebenzise ukuze uzivikele.

Ukubaluleka kokuqinisa ukuzethemba kwakho

Ukuze umelane ngempumelelo nokukhubeka, kubalulekile ukusebenzela ukuzethemba kwakho:

• Funda ukuzezisa futhi uqaphele izimfanelo zakho
• Zizungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo nabasekelayo
• Zibekele imigomo yomuntu siqu futhi ubungaze impumelelo yakho
• Zijwayeze ukuzizwela kunokuba uzisole
• Zithokozise ngezikhathi zobumnandi nokuphumula

Lapho ukuzethemba kwakho kunamandla, uzobe usengozini yokukhohliswa.

Nini futhi kanjani ukuqeda ubuhlobo obunobuthi?

Uma naphezu kwemizamo yakho, i-narcissistic pervert iphikelela ekuziphatheni kwakhe okukhohlisayo, kungase kudingeke ukuthi ucabangele ukuhlukana:

• Lungiselela ukuhamba kwakho ngasese ukuze ugweme ukuziphindiselela
• Qiniseka ukuthi unokwesekwa ngokomzwelo (abangane, umndeni, umelaphi)
• Nquma konke ukuxhumana ngemva kokuhlukana ukuze ugweme imizamo yokukhohlisa
• Zisebenzele ukuze upholise amanxeba angokomzwelo

Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe ubudlelwano obunempilo nokwanelisayo.

Izinsiza zokuqhubekela phambili

Ukuze ufunde kabanzi ngesihloko futhi uthole usizo:

• Xhumana nodokotela wezengqondo onguchwepheshe ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi
• Joyina amaqembu osekelo ezisulu zama-narcissistic perverts
• Funda izincwadi ezikhuluma ngokukhohlisa kanye nokuzethemba
• Landela ama-akhawunti e-Instagram noma iziteshi ze-YouTube ezinikezelwe kulezi zihloko

Ungangabazi ukusebenzisa zonke izinsiza onazo ukuze uzakhe kabusha.

Isiphetho

Sengiphetha, icala-tripping kuwuhlobo ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo okufanele uzivikele kukho ngokuphelele. Ngokufunda ukukuqaphela nokubhekana nakho, uyokwazi ukuphinde ukwazi ukulawula ukuphila kwakho nemizwelo yakho. Khumbula ukuthi awunasibopho ngenjabulo noma ukungajabuli kwabanye, futhi unelungelo lokuphila ngokukhululeka nokwaneliseka. Icala akufanele lisaba umthwalo wakho, kodwa libe yisisekelo esiholela enkululekweni yakho.