Ukusinda Kumama Onobuthi: Umhlahlandlela Wezisulu Zabazali Abanama-Narcissistic

Ubudlelwano bomzali nengane buhloselwe ukuba bube umthombo wothando, ukwesekwa nokuzinza. Ngeshwa, ukukhula nomama onobuthi noma onama-narcissistic kungaba nemiphumela elimazayo yesikhathi eside. Lesi sihloko sihlola izinselele eziyingqayizivele ezibhekene nezingane zomama abane-narcissistic futhi sinikeza amasu okuphulukisa nokuqhubekela phambili.

Izimpawu zenganekwane zikamama othanda i-narcissistic

Lezi omama abane-narcissistic ngokuvamile ziba nezici ezilandelayo:

• Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokunakwa nokutuswa
• Ukuntula uzwela ezidingweni ezingokomzwelo zezingane zabo
• Ukulindela okungenangqondo nokucindezela ngokweqile ezinganeni zabo
• Ukuziphatha okukhohlisayo nokulawulayo
• Ukuthambekela kokusola nokululaza izingane zabo
• Ukungakwazi ukuvuma amaphutha noma ukuxolisa
• Umona ngempumelelo yezingane zabo

Uma uqaphela lezi zimpawu kumama wakho, kungenzeka ukuthi ukhulele endaweni enobuthi.

Umthelela ohlala njalo wobuntwana nomama onobuthi

Ukukhula nomama we-narcissistic kungaba nemiphumela eminingi engemihle lapho usumdala:

• a ukuzenyeza futhi ukungazethembi
• Ubunzima bokusungula imingcele enempilo ebuhlotsheni
• Ukuthambekela kokufuna ukuphelela kanye nokuzigxeka ngokweqile
• Izinkinga ngeukukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka noma ukulawula ngokomzwelo
• Ingozi eyengeziwe yokulutha (utshwala, izidakamizwa, ukudla, njll.)
• Ubunzima bokwethemba abanye
• Umuzwa ongapheli wokungabi nalutho noma ukuntula ngokomzwelo

Izingane eziningi zomama abanobuthi zilwa nale miphumela engokomzwelo kukho konke ukuphila kwazo.

Isixhumanisi phakathi kukamama onobuthi nokuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic

Ukuxhumana phakathi kukamama onobuthi nokuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic kuvame ukusondele futhi kuyinkimbinkimbi. Umama onobuthi obonisa izici zokungalawuleki angalimaza kakhulu ngokomzwelo ezinganeni zakhe ngokuziphatha okuhlukumezayo okuhlukahlukene:

• Ukuxhaphaza imizwelo: Umama usebenzisa umuzwa wecala, amahloni noma ukwesaba ukulawula ingane yakhe.
• Ukuntula uzwela: Akakwazi ukubona noma ukuqinisekisa imizwa yengane yakhe.
• Izidingo ezingenangqondo: Kubeka ukulindela ngokweqile, kudala umuzwa oqhubekayo wokuhluleka enganeni.
• Unxantathu: Kuxabanisa amalungu omndeni ukuze agcine ukulawula.
• Ukukhanyisa uphethiloli: Kuphika iqiniso elitholwa ingane, kumenza angabaze imibono yakhe.
• Ukungavumeleki Okuqhubekayo: Ngokuhlelekile ululaza izimpumelelo nemizwelo yengane.

Lezi zindlela zokuziphatha ezinobuthi zifana nokuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic, okubonakala ngesidingo esidlulele sokunconywa, ukungabi nozwela, nokuthambekela kokuxhaphaza. Ingane ibe isiba isandiso se-narcissistic sikamama, isebenzela ukufeza izidingo zayo ezingokomzwelo kube yingozi ekukhuleni kwayo.

Ukumisa Imingcele Enempilo Ngomama Onobuthi

Ukulondoloza ubuhlobo nomama onobuthi lapho usumdala kungaba inselele yangempela. Nawa amanye amasu okubeka imingcele enempilo:

• Chaza ngokucacile ukuthi yini eyamukelekile nengamukeleki ekusebenzelaneni kwakho
• Funda ukwenqaba ngaphandle kokuba necala
• Nciphisa imvamisa nesikhathi sokuxhumana uma kunesidingo
• Ungabelani ngolwazi lomuntu siqu angalusebenzisa ngokumelene nawe
• Zilungiselele ngokomzwelo ngaphambi kwakho konke ukuxhumana
• Yiba nohlelo lokusebenza uma kwenzeka ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo

Khumbula ukuthi unelungelo lokuzivikela, ngisho noma kusho ukuziqhelelanisa nomama wakho.

Ukuthola Ukusekelwa: Ukubaluleka Kobudlelwane Obunempilo

Ukululama ebuhlotsheni obunobuthi nomama wakho akudingekile ukuba kwenziwe uwedwa. Nakhu lapho ungathola khona ukwesekwa:

• Ukwelashwa komuntu ngamunye noma kweqembu
• AmaQembu Okweseka Ezingane Ezikhulile Zabazali BamaNarcissistic
• Abangane abaseduze nokuqonda umndeni onwetshiwe
• Imiphakathi eku-inthanethi ezinikele kulesi sihloko
• Izincwadi Nezinsiza Ezimayelana Nokufunda Kwabazali

Zizungeze nabantu abaqinisekisa ulwazi lwakho futhi bakusekele ekwelapheni kwakho.

Ukuvuselela Usuku Lomama: Ukuzinakekela

USuku Lomama lungaba nzima ikakhulukazi ezinganeni zomama abanobuthi. Nansi indlela yokudlula kulolu suku:

• Yazi ukuthi imizwa yakho exubile ijwayelekile futhi ivumelekile
• Dala amasiko akho ahlonipha uhambo lwakho lomuntu siqu
• Zizungeze nabantu abakuqondayo nabakwesekayo
• Nciphisa ukuchayeka kwakho ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ngalolo suku uma kunesidingo
• Zenzele okuthile okuhle
• Uma ungumzali, gxila ebuhlotsheni bakho nezingane zakho

Khumbula, ayikho indlela “elungile” yokuphila ngalolu suku – yenza okukulungele.

Ibheke kwikusasa elizolile: Ukuzikhulula kokwakudala

Nakuba amanxeba ebuntwaneni noma ukulimala komama nomama we-narcissistic angase abonakale engenakucimeka, kungenzeka ukuthi uzikhulule kuwo futhi wakhe ukuphila okwanelisayo. Nazi izinyathelo zokugcina:

• Yamukela ukuthi cishe ngeke ukwazi ukushintsha umama wakho
• Gxila ekukhuleni kwakho nasenhlalakahleni yakho
• Hlakulela ubudlelwano obunempilo nobunomvuzo
• Phishekela okuthandayo kanye nemigomo yakho siqu
• Zijwayeze ukubonga ngezici ezinhle zempilo yakho
• Qhubeka nokusebenza ngokwakho, kodwa yiba nesineke kule nqubo

Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuzisebenza, nokwesekwa, unganqoba ifa likamama onobuthi futhi udale ukuphila okujabulisayo, nokwanelisayo okufanele.

Ireferensi yezincwadi zokusinda komama onobuthi

Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibhulikhi ngendikimba ethi “Ukusinda kumama onobuthi”:

1. Levy, S. (2015). Omama abanobuthi: ungazikhulula kanjani kubo. Editions de l’Archipel.
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Lezi zithenjwa kufanele zikunikeze isisekelo esiqinile sokuhlola isihloko.

Isiphetho

Sengiphetha, ukukhula nomama onama-narcissistic kushiya izibazi ezijulile, kodwa ukuphulukiswa kungenzeka. Ngokuqonda umthelela walobu budlelwano, ukumisa imingcele enempilo, ukusebenza ngokwakho futhi uzizungezile ngokusekelwa, ungazikhulula esikhathini esidlule futhi wakhe ikusasa elinokuthula. Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe uthando, inhlonipho kanye nenjabulo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubuhlobo obunabo nomama wakho. Uhambo lwakho lokuphulukisa lungase lube nzima, kodwa lufanelekile.