Inxeba likamama lomdukisi we-narcissistic: Zivikele

Izisulu ze-narcissistic pervert zivame ukuzithola zivaleleke ku-dynamics enobuthi nelimazayo. Ukuqonda umsuka walokhu kuziphatha, ikakhulukazi isilonda sikamama esihlanekezelekayo, kungaba isinyathelo esibalulekile sokuphola kanye nenkululeko.

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Siyini isilonda sikamama somuntu ohlanekezelwe yi-narcissistic?

Isilonda sikamama sibhekisela ekuhlukumezekeni okujulile okubangelwa ubuhlobo bomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic nomama wakhe ngesikhathi sobuntwana. Lokhu kulimala, ngokuvamile engazi, kuba nomthelela omkhulu ekuziphatheni kwakhe lapho esekhulile, ikakhulukazi ebudlelwaneni bakhe obuseduze. Kungaba umphumela ovela kumama yena othanda i-narcissistic, ongekho ngokomzwelo, noma ngokuphambene nalokho ohlasela kakhulu.

Lokhu kulimala ngokuvamile kubonakala ngokuntula uthando olungenamibandela nokuqinisekiswa ngokomzwelo ngesikhathi sobuntwana. I-narcissistic pervert yesikhathi esizayo kungenzeka ukuthi yenziwe izithixo ngenxa yemidlalo yayo noma yehliswa njalo, ngaleyo ndlela idale iphethini yobudlelwano engasebenzi. Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kwasekuqaleni kuphazamisa ukuthuthukiswa kokuzethemba okunempilo kanye namandla okuzwela, izici ezimbili ezibalulekile ekwakhekeni kobuntu be-narcissistic.

Ukulimala komama kubonakala kanjani ekuziphatheni kwe-narcissist?

I-narcissistic pervert, ephawulwe ngalokhu kulimala, ingaba nokuziphatha okuningana okuyinkinga:

1. Ukuvela kwentukuthelo yakhe: Udlulisela eyakhe rancor kunina kanye nomlingani wakhe.
2. Ukukhuliswa Kwezingane: Angase aziphathe njengengane, alindele umlingani wakhe ukuba adlale indima kamama.
3. Ukulawula ngokweqile: Ukuvala umuzwa wakhe wokungabi namandla ebusweni bukanina, ufuna ukubusa umlingani wakhe.
4. Isidingo esidlulele sokutuswa
5. Ukungabi nozwelo
6. Kunzima ukusungula ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo okuyiqiniso.

Kungani u-narcissistic ehlanekezela ukulimala kwakhe kumlingani wakhe?

I-projection mechanism imaphakathi nokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic pervert. Ngokungazi, udlulisela ubuhlungu bakhe nokungazethembi kumlingani wakhe, okumenza abhekane nokuhlupheka kwakhe okungaxazululiwe.

Umuntu ohlanekezela u-narcissistic uvame ukujezisa umlingani wakhe ngamaphutha angawenzanga. Lesi sijeziso empeleni sibhekiswe kuye umama onama-narcissistic, kodwa wadluliselwa kumlingani wakhe. Kuyi- indlela yokuzivikela ukungaqondi okubizwa ngokuthi “ukudluliselwa”.

Yiziphi izimpawu zokulimala komama ku-FN?

Imikhondo eminingana ingaxwayisa:

• Ubiza umlingani wakhe ngokuthi “mama” noma asebenzise amagama ayizingane
• Ulindele ukuthi umlingani wakhe athathe yonke imithwalo yemfanelo
• Ushintshana phakathi kwe-devaluation eyeqisayo kanye nokwehliswa kwamanani.

Ukulimala komama kubuthinta kanjani ubuhlobo bombhangqwana?

Umthelela walokhu kulimala ebudlelwaneni ungaba mkhulu kakhulu:

• Ubunzima bokusungula ukusondelana ngokomzwelo
• Ukulawula nokuziphatha okukhohlisayo
• Ukushintshana phakathi kwe-idealization kanye nokwehla kozakwethu
• Ukungakwazi ukuqaphela izidingo ezingokomzwelo zabanye.

Uyini umthelela walokhu kulimala komama kulowo ohlukumezekile?

Isisulu sizithola sisesimweni esingenakwenzeka:

• Uzizwa enesibopho “sokwelapha” umlingani wakhe
• Ujeziselwa amaphutha angawenzanga
• Ulahlekelwa ukuzethemba lapho ebhekene nokuziphatha okungqubuzana komlingani wakhe.

Umama nokulimala komama okunobuthi

Isixhumanisi phakathi kukamama onobuthi nesilonda sikamama se-Narcissistic Pervert siyinkimbinkimbi futhi sijulile. Iziveza kanje:

• Umsuka: Umama onobuthi udala indawo engazinzile ngesikhathi somntwana wesikhathi esizayo, ebonakala ngokuthi:
  • Ukuxhaphaza imizwelo
  • Ukungabi nozwelo
  • Ukungavumelekile kwemizwa yengane
• Imiphumela: Lokhu kuguquguquka kudala isilonda sikamama esijulile, okuholela kulokhu:
  • Ukuhlukumezeka ngokomzwelo
  • Umuzwa wokulahlwa noma wokunganakwa
  • Ukuzenyeza
• Izindlela zokuzivikela: Ukuze zizivikele, ingane ihlakulela izici ze-narcissistic:
  • Ukwakheka komuntu ongamanga
  • Ukusesha okuqhubekayo kokuqinisekisa kwangaphandle
  • Ubunzima bokusingatha ukugxekwa noma ukwenqatshwa
• Njengomuntu omdala: I-NP ivame ukuqhubekisela phambili lawa maphethini anobuthi ebudlelwaneni babo, ifuna ngokungazi ukugcwalisa isikhala esingokomzwelo esishiywe yilobu buhlungu obungaxazululiwe.

Lesi sakhiwo sigqamisa izici ezibalulekile zesixhumanisi phakathi komama onobuthi nokuthuthukiswa kwe-PN, kuyilapho kugcinwa ifomethi emfushane.

Ungazivikela kanjani ku-narcissistic pervert enenxeba likamama?

1. Yazi ukuthi akulona iphutha lakho
2. Ukuqonda ukuthi awukwazi “ukukulungisa”.
3. Misa imingcele ecacile
4. Funa usizo lochwepheshe uma kudingeka
5. Cabangela ukuqeda ubudlelwano uma buba yingozi kakhulu

Izinkomba ze-bibliographic ngesilonda sikamama se-narcissistic pervert

Nalu uhlu lwezikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibhili ngokulimala komama:

1. Racamier, P.-C. (2012). Ukuguqulwa kweNarcissistic. I-Paris: I-Payot.
2. Benjamin, B. (2022). I-Narcissistic perversion kanye nento kamama. I-Psychic Notebook.
3. Joli, M. (2024). I-Sociology of narcissistic perversion: I-Sociogenesis, ukusetshenziswa komphakathi kanye nemizabalazo yokuhlukanisa. Inyuvesi yaseVersailles.
4. Desjardins-Begon, D. (2019). Ukwehluleka kwe-Narcissistic kanye nokuphazamiseka kokuzethemba ekuziphatheni okuluthayo: Ukubuyekezwa kwezincwadi kanye nesifundo secala lomtholampilo.. Inyuvesi yaseLyon.
5. Sarembaud, D. (2020). Ukulimala kwe-Narcissistic kanye nomuntu ongamanga: Ukwakhiwa kobunikazi obubhekene nomama okhohlakele. I-Sophia Analysis Institute.
6. Calonne, C. (2021). Ukuhlukumezeka okupholisayo okubangelwa i-narcissistic pervert: indima yabazali ekusunguleni ukuziphatha okulimazayo.. Ama-Editions Ellipses.
7. Lambert, S. (2021). Amanxeba e-Narcissistic: Imiphumela yengqondo namasu okuphulukisa. I-Paris: SOSPN.

Le mithombo inikeza isisekelo esihle sokujulisa ukuqonda kokuguquguquka kwe-narcissistic okuxhunywe kusibalo sikamama ezimeni zokuhlanekezelwa kwe-narcissistic.

Isiphetho

Sengiphetha, ukuqonda isilonda sikamama somuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kungasiza ukuqonda kangcono ukuziphatha kwakhe okulimazayo. Nokho, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi akuwena obangela ukululama kwakhe. Okuhamba phambili kwakho kufanele kube inhlalakahle yakho kanye nendlela yakho yokwelapha.