Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthi i-PN ibuye?

Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthi i-PN ibuye? Izisulu zama-narcissistic perverts zivame ukuzibuza lo mbuzo lapho zishiya ubuhlobo bazo nabo. Impendulo yalo mbuzo ikulesi sihloko nakho konke odinga ukukwazi ngale ndaba. 

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Ukubuya kwe-narcissistic pervert: umjikelezo ongabikezelwa?

Kujwayelekile ukuthi izisulu zomuntu ohlanekezelwe yi-narcissistic bazibuze ukuthi uzobuya futhi nini. Iqiniso liwukuthi asikho isikhathi esinqunyiwe, kodwa amaphethini athile ayabonakala.

Izigaba ezijwayelekile zokubuyiselwa kwe-PN

1. Isikhathi sokuthula
   • Ingathatha izinsuku ezimbalwa ukuya ezinyangeni ezimbalwa
   • I-PN ihlola isimo bese ihlela isu layo
2. Imizamo yokuqala yokuxhumana
   • Ngokuvamile kucashile: ukuthandwa ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, imilayezo engenacala
   • Umgomo: hlola imikhawulo yakho kanye nokwamukela kwakho
3. Ukwenyuka kwezindlela
   • Imilayezo eqondile eyengeziwe, izingcingo, imizamo yemihlangano “yethuba”.
   • Ukusetshenziswa kwamaqhinga ahlukahlukene: ukukhanga, icalaizithembiso zoshintsho
4. the ” ukuhova »
   • Imizamo ejulile “yokukuncela” ubuyele ebudlelwaneni
   • Kungenzeka izinyanga noma ngisho neminyaka ngemva kokuhlukana

Izinto ezinomthelela ekubuyiselweni kwe-PN

• Ukusabela kwakho: Uma enomuzwa wokuthi uyamamukela, uzophikelela okwengeziwe
• Isimo sakhe siqu: Uma ebhekene nesikhathi esinzima, angase afune ukubuyela kuwe ukuze athole ukwesekwa
• Imithombo emisha yokuhlinzeka: Uma ethole ezinye izisulu, angase athathe isikhathi eside ukubuya
• Imicimbi eqalayo: Amaholide, izinsuku zokuzalwa, noma izikhathi zokuba sengcupheni zingamcindezela ukuthi axhume kabusha

Ungazivikela kanjani?

1. Gcina “ungathintani” kakhulu ngangokunokwenzeka
2. Kuvimbele kuzo zonke iziteshi zakho zokuxhumana
3. Zilungiselele ngokwengqondo ukubuya kwakhe okungenzeka
4. Qinisa inethiwekhi yakho yosekelo
5. Gxila ekwelapheni kwakho nasekukhuleni komuntu siqu

Khumbula: ukubuya kwe-PN akukhona ukubonakaliswa kothando, kodwa umzamo wokubuyisela ukulawula. Unelungelo lokuvikela ukuthula nenhlalakahle yakho.

Kungani i-PN ihlezi ibuya?

Ngemva kokuhamba isikhashana, i- i-narcissistic pervert njalo ugcina ebuyele kulowo osuke ehlukumezekile. Kodwa yiziphi izizathu zalokhu kubuya? Impendulo yalo mbuzo ikule ngxenye.

1. I-Ego Yakhe

Izinga le-ego ye-PN lihlala limcindezela ukuthi abuyele kulowo ohlukunyeziwe. Kodwa, kufanele uqaphele kakhulu ngoba ayibuyi ngenxa yokuthanda inyamazane yayo. Ubuya ngoba uzophinde abhubhise isisulu sakhe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, yilobu bugovu obuvusa i-narcissistic iphenduke isifiso sokuvimbela injabulo yesisulu sakhe. Kulokhu, laba bakamuva kumele babhekane ne-PN ukuze babe nempilo ejabulisayo ngoba kumfanele.

2. Ukucasulwa

Intokozo enkulu ye-FN ukubona isisulu sakhe sihlupheka. I-narcissistic pervert ayizange ibe nempilo evamile kusukela ebuntwaneni bakhe. Ngakho-ke, wazi kuphela imvelo enobuthi ngakho-ke ufuna ukufaka lokho akubekezelele kulowo ohlukumezekile. I-PN ithola ukwaneliseka okuthile lapho ibona omunye umuntu ebhekene nobunzima obufana nalolu ahlala ebhekana nalo. Yingakho ecasula abanye.

3. Isithakazelo

Lapho umuntu ohlanekezela e-narcissistic elahlwa isisulu sakhe, uzokwenza konke ukumthinta futhi. Ngokolunye uhlangothi, akakwenzi ngoba emthanda kodwa ufuna ukwanelisa izidingo zakhe. Ku-PN, isenzo sakhe siyaphumelela lapho ebona isisulu sakhe asisazizwa injabulo ekuphileni. Umuntu ohlukunyezwayo kumele aqaphe kakhulu ngoba uzosebenzisa amasu afanayo kusukela ekuhlanganeni kwabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isisulu kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi i-narcissistic pervert ayisoze yashintsha.

Imiphumela Yokuhamba Kwe-PN

• I-PN ayikunaki ukugqashuka – Ukuze umuntu ophendukezela narcissistic, lapho eyakhe isisulu umtshela ukuthi uyabushiya ubudlelwano babo, ukuthatha njengento nje ewusongo. Ucabanga ngempela ukuthi umlingani wakhe akacabangi ngempela ukumshiya.
• Uhlala ekhululeke kakhulu – U-PN ucabanga ukuthi ubudlelwano babo buyaphela uma sekunguyena osefuna ukubuqeda. Ngokombono wakhe, ungumholi ebuhlotsheni babo, ngakho isisulu asikwazi ukwenza isinqumo sokuhlukana.
• I-narcissistic pervert yenza ngendlela exakile – Okwesikhashana, i-PN ishintsha ngokuphelele isimo sakhe sokuzola. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uzozama ukukholisa umlingani wakhe ukuthi ushintshile futhi wenza futhi njengomnumzane wangempela owaphupha kakhulu.
• Uhlala ekhona – I-narcissistic pervert iqala ukwenza sengathi ayikwazi ukuphila ngaphandle komlingani wayo. Uzokwenza konke ukuze aphinde akhulume ne-ex yakhe futhi azame noma yiziphi izindlela ezidingekayo ukuze afike lapho. Kwesinye isikhathi kuba lapho umlingani wakhe wangaphambili eya khona: emsebenzini, endaweni yokudlela, ekhaya, njll.

Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthi i-PN ibuye ngemva kokwehlukana?

Ngokuvamile, ngemva kokuhlukana, umuntu owanquma ukuhlukana nobuhlobo akabuyi. Kodwa, lokhu akunjalo ukuhlukana kwe-narcissistic pervert. Ngisho noma bekunguye owenza isinqumo noma ngabe umlingani wakhe onqume ukuqeda ubuhlobo babo, i-PN ihlale ibuya. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukushiywa kuyinto engamukelekile kumuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic.

Kodwa, ngemva kwesikhathi esingakanani ebuyela kumlingani wakhe wangaphambili? Kunzima ukuchaza isikhathi esimthathayo ukuthi abuye, kodwa okuqinisekileyo ukuthi ubuya ngokushesha okukhulu. Kuye, uma kuthatha isikhathi eside ukubuya, isisulu sinesikhathi esiningi sokucabanga ngobuhlobo babo. Ucwaningo lubonise ukuthi i-PN ihlala ibuya phakathi kwezinsuku ezingu-7 zokuhlukana kwabo. Ngempela, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi ukubuya kwakhe kuwukuziphindiselela okumsulwa hhayi uthando.

I-Narcissistic Pervert ivamise ukubuya nini?

• I-narcissistic pervert ebudlelwaneni – Kumbhangqwana, lapho u-PN nozakwabo behlukana, umuntu ohlanekezela e-narcissistic ubuya lapho nje owayekade eshade naye eseqala ukuqeda ukuhlukana kwabo. Lapho nje eqala ukuqonda ukuthi umlingani wakhe wangaphambili unempilo ejabulisayo ngaphandle kwakhe nokuthi ucabanga ngempilo yabo ubuhlobo obunobuthi.
• I-PN emsebenzini – Uma isisulu sihlangane ne-PN emsebenzini, kuba nzima ukumgwema. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi isisulu siyakwazi ukuphunyuka esandleni saso. Umuntu ohlanekezelwe yi-narcissistic akahlali lapho ngoba ubuya ngaleso sikhathi lapho isisulu sakhe sangaphambili siqala ukuchuma emsebenzini wakhe.
• I-narcissistic manipulator emndenini – Kwesinye isikhathi i-narcissistic pervert isekhaya lethu. Kube nzima-ke ukuphunyula ukuphila kwakho konke. Kodwa, ngokushesha nje lapho isisulu sakhe sifuna ukusuka ku-PN, sihlala sibuya. Ukubuya kwakhe ngokuvamile kwenzeka ngesonto ngemva kokuba isisulu sinqume ukuthi singabe sisathintana naso.

Yini okufanele uyenze uma i-PN ibuyela kuwe?

• Ungalinge uvume ukumbona futhi ngoba uzothi uyakukhumbula. Kodwa, ingabe i-PN ingaphuthelwa ? Impendulo ithi CHA.
• Kodwa, esimweni lapho kufanele umbone futhi, ungahlali wedwa naye, vumela omunye umuntu akuphelezele.
• Uma ekufonela ungalubambi ngoba uzophinde akwazi ukukukhohlisa.
• Mvimbe kuzo zonke izinkundla zokuxhumana ukuze angakwazi ukuxhumana nawe.
• Gwema konke ukuxhumana nabantu obathandayo futhi ungalokothi uze ezindaweni ezikukhumbuza ngabo.
• Zizungeze nabantu abaqondile ukuze bakuholele empilweni engcono.

Kungani ufisa ukubuya kwe-narcissist?

• Umthelela wezibopho ezibuhlungu – Isibopho esibuhlungu esakhiwe phakathi nobuhlobo singahlala sinamandla, ngisho nangemva kokuhlukana. Lesi sixhumanisi singakwenza ufise ukuthintwa, ngisho nabangalungile.
• Ithemba lokuqinisekiswa -Ungahle ufune ukuthi i-narcissist ibuye izofakazela ukubaluleka kwakho noma uthole ithuba lokulahla yena.
• Isidingo sokulawula – Ngemuva kokuzizwa ngingenamandla ebudlelwaneni, umbono wokuba nokulawula ukubuyisela okungenzeka ubonakale ukhanga.

Izingozi zalesi sifiso

• Ingozi yokubuyela emuva  – Ukufisa “ukuhamba ngezinyawo” kungakushiya usengozini uma i-narcissist izama ngempela ukubuya.
• Ukugcinwa kwamathemba amanga – Lesi sifiso singakuvimbela ukuthi uqhubekele phambili futhi uzivulele ebudlelwaneni obusha, obunempilo.

Indlela yokubhekana nesifiso “sokuhamba”?

• Zijwayeze ukuzizwela – Ungazahluleli ngale mizwa. Zivamile futhi ziyingxenye yenqubo yokuphulukisa.
• Hlola izidingo zakho ezingafinyeleleki – Cabangela ukuthi lesi sifiso sembulani ngezidingo zakho ezingokomzwelo. Ungasabela kanjani kubo ngendlela enempilo?
• Qinisa ukuzethemba kwakho – Gxila enanini lakho langaphakathi, ngaphandle kokuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle.

Ukwakha kabusha ngaphandle kokuthi “hoovering”

• Dala ukuxhumana okusha – Faka imali ebudlelwaneni obunempilo nabangane, umndeni noma abantu obajwayele.
• Chaza kabusha ukulandisa kwakho komuntu siqu – Bhala indaba yakho ugxile emandleni nasekuqineni kwakho, hhayi ukungabikho kwe-narcissist.
• Hlola ukwelashwa – Uchwepheshe angakusiza ukuthi uzulazule le mizwa eyinkimbinkimbi futhi aqinise ukuzimela kwakho ngokomzwelo. Khumbula: Ukufisa ukubuya kwe-narcissist akukwenzi ube buthakathaka noma uncike. Kuyindlela evamile yokusabela esimweni esingavamile. Okubalulekile wukubona le mizwa, uyiqonde, futhi uyisebenzise njengesisekelo sokwelapha kwakho.

Unamandla kunalokho okucabangayo, futhi zonke izinsuku ngaphandle kwe-hoovering kuwukunqoba. Gubha isibindi sakho nokuqina. Ikusasa lakho eliqhakazile likulindile, likhululekile ethonyeni elinobuthi le-narcissist.

Kungenzeka yini ukuthi i-PN Ingalokothi Ibuye?

Isikhathi esiningi, umuntu ohlanekezela ama-narcissistic uhlala ebuyela isisulu sakhe ngemva kokuhlukana. Kodwa, akuvamile ukuba angabuyi nhlobo. Inhloso a i-narcissistic manipulator kuwukubhubhisa isisulu sayo ngokuphelele. Uvame ukuhamba ngemva kokubeka isisulu sakhe ngaphansi komgodi. Ngakho, uma engasatholi sithakazelo kumlingani wakhe wangaphambili, uhamba unomphela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abanye abahlanekezeli be-narcissistic ngokushesha babheka inyamazane entsha ngemva kokuqeda ubuhlobo babo nomunye.