Ukuba sebudlelwaneni nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kungaba yinto ezama kakhulu futhi elimazayo. Laba bantu abakhohlisayo bahamba phambili ocingweni lokudicilela phansi ozakwabo ngokuziphatha okunobuthi okuningi. Lesi sihloko sihlose ukukusiza ukuthi ubone ukuziphatha okuyinhloko okunobuthi okusetshenziswa abahlanekezeli be-narcissistic kanye nokukunikeza izindlela zokubhekana nakho.
Ukukhanyisa igesi: ukukhohlisa kwengqondo okucashile
Enye yezindlela ezithandwa yi-narcissistic pervert ukukhanya kwegesi. Lolu hlobo lokukhohlisa luhlose ukukwenza ungabaze owakho umbono weqiniso. I-narcissist izophika amaqiniso ngokuhlelekile, ibuze izinkumbulo zakho futhi ikwenze ukholelwe ukuthi ucabanga izinto.
Ngokwesibonelo, angase athi akakaze asho amazwi athile alimazayo, nakuba uqiniseka ukuthi uwazwile. Noma uzothi uhlanekezela iqiniso lapho umhlambalaza ngokufanelekile. Umgomo uwukukwenza ungahlali uzinzile futhi ulahlekelwe ukuzethemba ekwahluleleni kwakho.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
Ukuphikisa i ukukhanyisa igesi, bhala phansi izenzakalo ezibalulekile ukuze ugcine umbhalo obalulekile. Themba imizwa yakho futhi ungangabazi ukukhuluma ngakho nobathandayo othembekile ukuze uqinisekise umbono wakho.
Ukuqagela: ukubonakaliswa kwamaphutha omuntu
Umphendukezeli we-narcissistic uvame ukufaka amaphutha akhe kanye nokuziphatha okuyinkinga kumlingani wakhe. Isibonelo, uzokubeka icala ngobugovu, ukukhohlisa noma umqambimanga, kuyilapho lokhu kuwukushiyeka kwakhe.
Le nqubo imvumela ukuthi azikhulule kuwo wonke umthwalo futhi abeke icala kuwe. Ube usuzithola njalo kufanele uziphendulele futhi uzivikele ekumangaleleni okungenasisekelo.
Ukuze ubhekane nakho, funda ukuqaphela lezi zibikezelo ngalokho eziyiko: ukubonakaliswa kwamaphutha e-narcissist. Ungazivumeli ukuthi uphazamiseke futhi ngokuthula wehlisele kuye umthwalo wemfanelo wezenzo zakhe.
I-blackmail engokomzwelo: isikhali sokuba necala
Le ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo Lesi esinye isikhali esinamandla somhlukumezi oqhoshayo. Ngeke angabaze ukudlala ngemizwa yakho nozwela lwakho ukuze akulawule. Isibonelo, angase asongele ngokuzilimaza uma umshiya, noma akusole ngokuthi unecala lokungajabuli kwakhe.
Umgomo uwukuthi… ukwenza umuntu azizwe enecala futhi akugcine ungaphansi kolawulo lwakhe. Ube usuzizwa unesibopho sokuhlala ukuze “umsindise” noma “umlungise”.
Ukuze uzivikele, khumbula ukuthi awuyena obangela injabulo noma ukungajabuli komlingani wakho. Izinsongo zakhe ziyinkohliso emsulwa futhi elula. Ungangabazi ukubeka imingcele ecacile futhi ucele usizo uma kunesidingo.
Ukuziphatha kukaJekyll noHyde: ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo
I-narcissistic pervert ingashintshana ngendlela edidayo phakathi kwabantu ababili abaphikisanayo, njengoDkt. Jekyll kanye noMnu Hyde. Ngolunye usuku uzobe ethandeka futhi enakekela, ngakusasa ebanda futhi eba uphendukezela ize narcissistic.
Lokhu kuguquguquka kwemizwelo okungalindelekile kunomphumela wokukuthuntubeza ngokuphelele. Ngeke wazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela futhi uphile ngokukhathazeka njalo. Ukwengeza, izikhathi zethenda zikwenza ube nethemba loshintsho oluhlala njalo, ngaleyo ndlela ugcine ubuhlobo obunobuthi.
Ukuze ubhekane nakho, gxila ezenzweni kunamazwi. Izinkulumo ezinhle ziyize uma zingalandelwa ukuziphatha okungaguquki ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Unxantathu: ukudala ukuncintisana ukuze kubuse kangcono
I-triangulation ihlanganisa ukwethula umuntu wesithathu ebudlelwaneni ukuze kuvuse umona nokungazethembi. I-narcissist ingase, isibonelo, idlale ngokukhululekile nabanye besifazane, noma idumise umlingani wakhe wangaphambili.
Umgomo uwukwenza uzizwe usongelwe njalo futhi ungashintshwa. Ube usuzithola njalo kufanele ukhombise ukubaluleka kwakho nothando lwakho.
Ungangeni kulolu gibe. Khumbula ukuthi ukubaluleka kwakho akuncikile embonweni we-narcissist. Beka imingcele ecacile mayelana nokuziphatha okungamukelekile nabanye abantu.
Ukuqhuma kwamabhomu kothando: iqhwa lothando olukhohlisayo
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic angaba nokunakekela kakhulu futhi abe nothando. Ukuthela ngezipho, izincomo kanye nokunaka. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi thanda amabhomu.
Le nqubo ihlose ukukwenza uthande futhi uncike ngokomzwelo ngokushesha. Uma “usuxhumekile,” imaski iyawa bese kuqala ukuziphatha okunobuthi.
Qaphela izimemezelo ezivuthayo zothando nezithembiso ezinkulu ekuqaleni kobudlelwano. Uthando olunempilo lwakhiwa kancane kancane, ngokuhloniphana.
“Impatho buthule”: ukuthula njengesikhali sokukhohlisa
Uma ungamjabulisi umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, angakwenza ukuthi ubhekane nalokho okubizwa ngokuthi ukuthulisa. Lokhu kubandakanya ukukuziba ngokuphelele amahora noma izinsuku, ukwenqaba noma iyiphi inkhulumomphendvulwano.
Le nqubo inonya ikakhulukazi ngoba ikuphuca noma yiziphi izindlela zokuxazulula ukungqubuzana. Uzithola usezinhlungwini, ucela ngisho nezwi elilodwa.
Ungaweli kulolu gibe lwemizwa. Nakekela imisebenzi yakho futhi uzungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo. Mkhombise ukuthi ukuthula kwakhe akukuphazamisi.
Ukucekelwa phansi kokuzethemba kwakho: ukuziphatha okunobuthi kwe-narcissistic pervert
I-narcissistic pervert izohlala ifuna ukubukela phansi ukuzethemba kwakho. Ngokwesibonelo, angase agxeke ukubukeka kwakho, angabaze amakhono akho noma ahlekise ngamaphupho nezifiso zakho.
Umgomo uwukwenza uthembele ekwamukeleni kwakhe futhi akwenze ukholelwe ukuthi awulutho ngaphandle kwakhe. Kancane kancane, ulahlekelwa ukholo kuwena namakhono akho.
Ukumelana nalokhu, zizungeze nabantu abalungile abakholelwa kuwe. Zibekele imigomo yomuntu siqu futhi ubungaze impumelelo yakho. Khumbula ukuthi ukubaluleka kwakho akuncikile embonweni womuntu oyedwa.
Isiphetho: thola kabusha amandla phezu kwempilo yakho
Ukubona ukuziphatha okunobuthi kwe-narcissistic pervert kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuzikhulula kuzo. Ungangabazi ukucela usizo kochwepheshe noma izinhlangano ezikhethekile. Awuwedwa futhi unelungelo lokujabula ebudlelwaneni obunempilo nobulinganiselayo.
Khumbula ukuthi uguquko oluhlala njalo olusuka ku-narcissistic pervert luyivelakancane kakhulu. Isixazululo esingcono kakhulu ngokuvamile siwukuqeda ubuhlobo, noma kunzima kangakanani lokho. Ufanelwe okungcono kunempilo yokukhohlisa nokuhlupheka ngokwengqondo.
Zinakekele, uzungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo futhi ufunde ukuzethemba futhi. Indlela ingase ibe yinde, kodwa inkululeko nokwaneliseka kusekupheleni. Ngaphakathi kwakho unazo zonke izinsiza zokuzakha kabusha futhi uphile impilo ekufanele, kude nokuziphatha okunobuthi kwe-narcissistic pervert.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.