Ukuqonda i-narcissism: itshe eliyisihluthulelo sobunkulunkulu / udeveli okithi

I-Narcissism yisihloko esiyinkimbinkimbi esingathinta kakhulu ubudlelwano bethu. Ake sihlole lesi simo futhi sithole ukuthi ungabuyisela kanjani ukulawula impilo yakho.

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Iyini i-narcissism?

I-Narcissism yisici sobuntu esibonakala ngesidingo eseqile sokutuswa, ukungabi naluzwela, kanye nombono omkhulu ngawe. Abantu be-Narcissistic bavame ukukhohlisa labo ababazungezile ukuze banelise izidingo zabo, ngokuvamile okulimaza abanye.

Inganekwane kaNarcissus: umsuka wegama

Igama elithi “narcissism” lisuka ezinganekwaneni zamaGreki, ngokuqondile enganekwaneni kaNarcissus. Ngokwenganekwane, uNarcissus wayeyinsizwa enobuhle obungavamile. Ngolunye usuku wabona umfanekiso wakhe emanzini esiphethu futhi wawathanda kabi, wangakwazi ukususa amehlo akhe emfanekisweni wakhe. Njengoba ayengakwazi ukusuka lapho ayecabanga, wagcina ebuna onqenqemeni lwamanzi, washintsha waba imbali ebizwa ngegama lakhe.

Le ndaba ikubonisa kahle ukuzithanda ngokweqile kanye nesidingo esiqhubekayo sokutuswa okuwuphawu lwe-narcissism. Kusikhumbuza nangezingozi zokugxila kakhulu kithina, okulimaza ubuhlobo bethu nabanye.

I-narcissism eyisisekelo neyesibili: izici ezimbili okufanele uziqonde

Emkhakheni wezengqondo, kunezinhlobo ezimbili ze-narcissism: eyinhloko neyesibili. I-narcissism eyinhloko ibhekwa njengesigaba esivamile sokukhula kwengane. Lesi yisigaba lapho ingane ingakahlukanisi phakathi kwayo nezwe langaphandle, izibona iyisizinda sayo yonke into. Lesi sigaba sibalulekile ekuthuthukiseni ukuzethemba okunempilo.

I-narcissism yesibili, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ivela kamuva empilweni futhi ingaba yinkinga. Kubonakaliswa ukubuya kokunaka nokuba nesithakazelo kuye, ngokuvamile ngenxa yokulimala noma ukudumazeka. Yilolu hlobo lwe-narcissism olungakhula lube yi-narcissistic personality disorder. Ukuhlanekezela kwe-narcissistic ongase uhlangane nakho empilweni yakho ngokuvamile kubonisa lokhu ku-narcissism okweqile okwesibili.

Ukuqonda lo mehluko kungakusiza ukuthi uqonde kangcono ukuziphatha komuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic.

I-narcissism eyinhloko: isigaba esibalulekile sokuthuthuka

I-narcissism eyinhloko yisigaba sokuqala sokukhula kwengqondo yengane, kusukela ekuzalweni kuya cishe ezinyangeni eziyisi-6. Ngalesi sikhathi, usana aluhlukanisi phakathi kwakhe nezwe langaphandle. Uzibona eyinkaba yendawo yonke, esesimweni sokucatshangelwa ukuba namandla onke lapho zonke izidingo zakhe zaneliswa ngaphandle kokuba yena aqaphele ukungenelela kwabanye.

Lesi sigaba sibalulekile ngenxa yezizathu eziningana:

1. Ukwakheka kwe-Ego : Kungalesi sikhathi lapho izisekelo ze-ego ziqala ukwakheka.
2. Ukuthuthukiswa kokuzethemba : I-narcissism eyisisekelo yenza isisekelo sokuzethemba okunempilo.
3. Ikhono lokuthanda : Kuyaxaka ukuthi kungokuzithanda wena kuqala lapho ingane izofunda khona ukuthanda abanye.
4. Ukuzizwa ulondekile : Lesi sigaba sisiza ukudala umuzwa oyisisekelo wokuphepha enganeni.

Kancane kancane, umntwana uqala ukuqaphela ukuthi umhlaba ukhona ngaphandle kwakhe. Lokhu kuqaphela, ngezinye izikhathi okubizwa ngokuthi “ukulimala okuyinhloko kwe-narcissistic,” kuphawula ukuphela kwe-narcissism eyinhloko kanye nokuqala kobudlelwane bezinto.

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela lokho I-narcissism eyinhloko ibhekwa njengento evamile futhi edingekayo.

Amandla E-Narcissism Eyisisekelo: Amandla Okuphila Okuyisisekelo

Amandla e-narcissism eyinhloko angamandla abalulekile abalulekile ekuthuthukisweni komuntu. Ibonakala ngokushuba okuthile kanye nekhwalithi eyingqayizivele eyihlukanisa nezinye izinhlobo zamandla emilingo.

Izici zamandla we-narcissism eyinhloko:

1. Ingqikithi : La mandla ahlanganisa indawo yonke yosana. Ayinamingcele futhi ayenzi mehluko phakathi komuntu siqu nokungeyena.
2. Amandla Onke : Inikeza ingane umuzwa wokuba namandla onke. Ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe, izifiso zakhe zaneliswa ngokushesha njengokungathi ngomlingo.
3. Ukugcwala : Kungamandla okuphelela ngokuphelele. Usana luzizwa lugcwalisekile, ngaphandle kokuntula noma ukunganeliseki.
4. Ukuzanelisa : Amandla e-narcissism eyinhloko wukuzicabangela yena yedwa futhi uyazenzela. Alidingi ingaphandle ukuze libe khona.
5. lokusungula : Lawa mandla ayisisekelo sobuciko besikhathi esizayo bomuntu ngamunye. Kuthuthukisa umcabango kanye nekhono lokuziveza esikhathini esizayo.
6. Ubungqabavu : Kungamandla empilo amsulwa, angaboshiwe yizingqinamba zeqiniso langaphandle.
7. Uketshezi : Ijikeleza ngokukhululeka, ngaphandle kwezithiyo noma ukuvinjelwa, kuso sonke isikhathi sosana.
8. Ukunwetshwa : Lawa mandla ngokwemvelo athambekele ekukhuleni futhi ahlanganise yonke into engena emkhakheni wolwazi wengane.

Umdwebo owangibuyisela ku-narcissism yami eyinhloko

Ngezinye izikhathi ngangiba nokukhanya kwasebuntwaneni bami kanye nezindwangu ezinamachashazi anjengalawo adala kimi umuzwa wokuzola nokuphelele, okuthile okuhlukile, okuphelele nokuphelele. Ngicabanga ukuthi ngesikhathi sokuqwashisa NGAMI, lelilineni lechashazi le-polka kwakuyinto yokuqala engayibona lapha kulo mhlaba.

Impela unezinkumbulo ezinjengalezo, zama ukuxhuma kula mandla, yiwo angakusiza ukuthi uphole esilondeni sokuqala se-narcissistic.

Ukuzivocavoca: Xhuma kabusha ngamandla akho ayinhloko empilo

Lo msebenzi uzokusiza ukuthi uxhume kabusha ngamandla ahlanzekile futhi alungile we-narcissism eyinhloko, ngaphandle kokuwela ngokweqile kwe-pathological narcissism. Umgomo uwukuvuselela ubungqabavu bakho obuzelwe kanye nokudala.

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1. Ukulungiselela:
   • Thola indawo ethulile lapho ungeke uphazamiseke.
   • Hlala noma ulale ngokukhululeka.
   • Vala amehlo akho bese uphefumula kancane.
2. Ukubona ngeso lengqondo:
   • Zicabange usanda kuzalwa, usongwe ngengubo ethambile.
   • Izwa imfudumalo ephelele nokuvikeleka okukuzungezile.
   • Bona ngeso lengqondo ukukhanya okusagolide okufudumele okuvela enhliziyweni yakho futhi kugcwalise umzimba wakho wonke.
3. Izwa:
   • Gxila ekuzizweni uphelele futhi uphelele.
   • Zivumele unqotshwe umuzwa wothando olungenamibandela ngawe.
   • Izwa ukuthi zonke izidingo zakho zihlangatshezwa kanjani kalula.
4. Ukunwetshwa :
   • Ake ucabange lokhu kukhanya kwegolide kudlulela ngale komzimba wakho.
   • Libone ngeso lengqondo ligcwalisa igumbi lonke, bese likhula libe ngokungapheli.
   • Izwa ukuthi uyingxenye yakho konke lokhu, ngenkathi usesikhungweni.
5. Ubuciko :
   • Kulesi simo sokunwetshwa, vumela izithombe, imibono noma imizwa ize kuwe.
   • Bamukele ngaphandle kokwahlulela, njengezipho zokusungula kwakho okungokwemvelo.
6. Iyaqinisa :
   • Kancane kancane, buyisela ukunaka kwakho emzimbeni wakho.
   • Gcina umuzwa wala mandla abalulekile ngaphakathi kuwe.
   • Vula kancane amehlo akho, ugcine lo muzwa wokugcwala.
7. Ukucabanga :
   • Thatha isikhashana ubhale phansi imizwa yakho kanye nemibono eyavela.
   • Cabanga ukuthi ungawafaka kanjani la mandla empilweni yakho yansuku zonke.

Zijwayeze lokhu kuvivinya umzimba njalo ukuze uqinise ukuxhumana kwakho namandla akho ayinhloko empilo. Lokhu kungakusiza uthuthukise ukuzethemba okunempilo futhi uzizwe unamandla lapho ubhekene nokuziphatha okunobuthi be-narcissistic.

Ubufakazi besipiliyoni se-narcissism eyinhloko: ukugcwala kobunkulunkulu

Ngolunye usuku ngezwa ukuthula okuphelele kukhuphuka esiswini sami. Kwakuwumuzwa omangalisayo, sengathi konke kwafezwa kulawo mandla. Kwakungekho okumele kwenziwe, lutho ukuqedela. Ngabona ukuthi kulapho ukhiye wethu, insindiso yethu ilele khona – ekuxhumaneni kwethu ne-narcissism eyinhloko.

Kungathi abalandiwe beza kimi ngobuningi. Ngikhumbula engangikuhlela. Kunjena: okokuqala, wena unguNkulunkulu. Bese uzitshela ukuthi awuyena, uyazazi, futhi ufuna ukuqinisekiswa. Bese uhamba ngendlela ephambene ukuze ubuyele kuNkulunkulu ongaphakathi kuwe.

Kulesi simo, awuntuli lutho. Ayiqhathaniseki ne-orgasm – idlulela kakhulu. E-ayahuasca, ephakeme kakhulu, ngezinye izikhathi ungafinyelela kuyo. Kufana nokuthi zonke izifiso zakho ziyafezeka, konke kuphelele. Kodwa ku-ayahuasca, kushubile kakhulu ngoba yonke into ikhulisiwe futhi iyanyakaza kakhulu, ngendlela ehlukile.

Nokho, Nkulunkulu wami, uma uxhuma kule nto yokuqala ngokwemvelo, okuwukuphela kwento ephumayo umoya waphezulu. Kuyisipiliyoni esiyingqayizivele, esijulile, esidlula noma yini ebengiyazi ngaphambili.

Lobu bufakazi bunikeza ukuqonda okujulile nokomuntu siqu kokuhlangenwe nakho kwe-narcissism eyinhloko. Ithwebula ukujula komzwelo nokungokomoya kwalokhu kuxhumana, kuyilapho ihlobanisa nomqondo ongokwengqondo we-narcissism eyinhloko.

Izici eziyinhloko ze-narcissism yesibili:

1. Ukubuya kwe-libido kuwena : Amandla angokomzwelo nokunaka okwakuqondiswe kwabanye kuqondiswe kuwena kabusha.
2. Ukusabela ekulimaleni : Ingathuthuka njengendlela yokuzivikela lapho ubhekene nokudumazeka, ukuhlukumezeka noma ukwehluleka kobudlelwane.
3. Isidingo esidlulele sokutuswa : Umuntu uhlale efuna ukuqinisekiswa nokugunyazwa kwabanye.
4. Iswela’uzwela : Ubunzima bokuqaphela noma ukucabangela imizwa nezidingo zabanye.
5. Ukuzizwa uphakeme : Ukuthambekela kokuzibona ukhethekile futhi ufanele ukuphathwa okukhethekile.
6. Amaphupho empumelelo engenamkhawulo : Amaphupho amakhulu wamandla, ubuhle noma impumelelo.
7. Ukuxhashazwa abanye : Ukusebenzisa ubudlelwano ukufeza izinhloso zakho, ngaphandle kokucabangela abanye.

I-narcissism yesibili ingazibonakalisa ngamazinga ahlukene. Ngendlela yayo eyedlulele kakhulu, kungaholela ekuphazamisekeni kobuntu be-narcissistic. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi i-narcissism yesibili ayiyona i-pathological njalo.

Amandla e-narcissism yesibili: amandla ayinkimbinkimbi futhi ambivalent

Amandla e-narcissism yesibili ahluke kakhulu kulawo we-narcissism eyinhloko. Ibonakala ngokuguquguquka okuyinkimbinkimbi futhi okuvame ukuphikisana.

Izici Zamandla E-Narcissism yesibili:

1. Amandla aguquguqukayo : Lawa mandla anganyakaza phakathi kweziqongo eziphakeme kanye nemisele ejulile.
2. Ukuma kwangaphandle : Nakuba egxile kumina, la mandla ancike kakhulu ngokuxakayo ekuqinisekiseni kwangaphandle.
3. Imvelo yokuzivikela : Ivamise ukusebenza njengesihlangu, ukuvikela umuntu obuthakathaka ekulimaleni okubonwayo noma kwangempela.
4. Ikhwalithi ekhokhelayo : La mandla ajwayele ukunxephezela imizwa ejulile yokungafaneleki noma yokuzizwa uphansi.
5. Umlingiswa webhayisikili : Ingalandela iphethini yomjikelezo wokwenza kahle nokwehla, kokubili wena kanye nabanye.
6. Isici sabathengi : Uvame “ekudleni” ukunakwa nokutuswa kwabanye ukuze azinakekele.
7. Imvelo engqubuzanayo : La mandla avame ukungqubuzana nawo ngokwawo kanye nemvelo yangaphandle.
8. Ikhwalithi yokusebenza : Ivamise ukuzibonakalisa “ngokusebenza” okuqhubekayo okuhloselwe ukuveza isithombe sokuphelela noma ukuphakama.
9. Ukubonakala kwe-vampiric : Ekubonakalisweni kwawo okwedlulele kakhulu, la mandla angabonakala “evampirize” amandla abanye ukuze azisekele.
10. Ukuqina okuguquguqukayo : Nakuba ekwazi ukuzivumelanisa nezimo ukuze athole elikufunayo, la mandla awanakho ukuguquguquka okudingekayo ekukhuleni komuntu siqu kwangempela.

Ukuzivocavoca: Ukulinganisa kanye Nokunciphisa Amandla E-Narcissism Yesibili

Lo msebenzi uhlose ukuqaphela, ukwamukela kanye nokulinganisa izici ze-narcissism yesibili kuwe, kuyilapho uhlakulela ukuzethemba okuzinzile nokuyiqiniso.

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1. Ukulungiselela:
   • Thola indawo ethule, enethezekile.
   • Yiba nencwajana yokubhala nepeni eduze.
   • Thatha umoya omncane ukuze ubeke phakathi nendawo.
2. Ukuhlonza :
   • Vala amehlo akho bese ucabanga ngesikhathi sakamuva lapho uzizwe unesidingo esinamandla sokuqashelwa noma ukuqinisekiswa.
   • Qaphela imizwa engokomzimba ehambisana nalesi sidingo.
   • Qaphela le mizwa ngaphandle kokwahlulela, ukwamukele ngomusa.
3. Ingxoxo yangaphakathi:
   • Cabanga ukuthi le ngxenye yakho efuna ukuqinisekiswa iyi- ingane yangaphakathi.
   • Mbuze ngobumnene, “Yini ngempela oyidingayo?” »
   • Lalelisisa impendulo.
4. Ukuzizwela:
   • Beka isandla esisodwa enhliziyweni yakho nesinye esiswini sakho.
   • Tshela ingane yakho yangaphakathi, “Ngiyakuzwa, ngiyakubona, futhi ngiyakwamukela njengoba unjalo. »
   • Phefumula ujule, ucabange ukuthi umboza le ngxenye yakho ngothando nokuqonda.
5. Ukugxila kumanani akho:
   • Cabanga ngezimfanelo ezintathu noma izindinganiso owazisayo ngawe.
   • Kokunye, thola isibonelo esiphathekayo sendlela osibonise ngayo kamuva nje.
6. Ukubonisa ibhalansi:
   • Cabanga amandla akho njengokukhanya ngaphakathi kuwe.
   • Kubone ngeso lengqondo lokhu kukhanya.
   • Ibone ikhula kancane eduze kwakho, idala inkambu yamandla elinganiselayo futhi ezolile.
7. Ukuqinisekisa okuhle:
   • Dala isiqinisekiso esiqaphela inani lakho langaphakathi,
   • Phinda lesi sitatimende izikhathi eziningana, uzizwe ujulile.
8. Isenzo esibonakalayo:
   • Cabanga ngesenzo esisodwa esincane ongasenza namuhla ukuze uzinakekele, ngaphandle kokufuna imvume kwabanye.
9. Uthango :
   • Adonse umoya kancane.
   • Zibonge ngalesi sikhathi sokuzazisa kanye nokuzizwela.
10. Ukucabanga :
    • Ebhukwini lakho lokubhalela, bhala phansi imibono yakho ngalo msebenzi kanye nemininingwane onayo.

Zijwayeze lo msebenzi njalo ukuze wakhe ubudlelwano obunempilo nezici ze-narcissistic zobuntu bakho.

Ukuthuthukiswa kwe-narcissism yezingane kanye nobudlelwane bayo nobulili

I-narcissism yezingane ixhumene kakhulu nokuthuthukiswa kocansi ezinganeni. UFreud wethula umqondo we-narcissism eyinhloko ngo-1914. Lesi sigaba sisikisela ukuthi ingane ifaka wonke amandla ayo engqondo kuye. U-Otto Kernberg uphakamise ukuthi ukuthuthukiswa kwe-pathological narcissism kungase kuhlotshaniswe nokuphazamiseka ekuhlanganisweni kobudlova kanye ne-libido phakathi nezigaba zokuqala zokukhula kwengqondo.

Ukuthuthukiswa kwe-narcissism kuthonywa imikhuba namasiko omzali. Abacwaningi banamuhla baye baqaphela ukwanda kwezici ze-narcissistic emphakathini. I-narcissism yezingane iyinqubo eyinkimbinkimbi yokukhula efundwa ochwepheshe abaningi.

I-Narcissism ngokusho kukaLacan

Ku-Lacan, i-narcissism ayikona nje ukuzithanda, kodwa ubuhlobo obuyinkimbinkimbi phakathi kwesihloko nesithombe sakhe.

Izici:

1. Ukuhlukaniswa: isihloko sikhomba ngesithombe okungeyena ngempela
2. Inkohliso yokuphelela: isithombe sesibuko sinikeza umbono ongamanga wobunye
3. Ukungaboni kahle: isihloko asikunaki ukuhlukana kwakhe kwangaphakathi

U-Lacan ugcizelela ukubaluleka Komunye (abazali, umphakathi) ekwakhekeni kwe-narcissism.

I-Narcissistic pathologies – I-Lacan ne-narcissistic disorders: ukulungiswa esiteji sesibuko

I-Lacan inikeza umbono mayelana nokuphazamiseka kwe-narcissistic ngenxa yokulungiswa esiteji sesibuko. Ku-Lacan, isiteji sesibuko yisikhathi sokuqala ekwakhiweni kwemilingo. Ukulungiswa kulesi sigaba kungaholela ezinkingeni ze-narcissistic.

Isikhumbuzo somqondo

• Isikhathi esiphakathi kwezinyanga eziyisi-6 neziyi-18
• Ingane izibona esibukweni futhi ihlotshaniswa nalesi sithombe

Ukubaluleka kokuthuthuka

• Ukwakheka kwe-Ego
• Ukuqala kokuhlukanisa phakathi kwakho nabanye

Ukulungiswa esiteji sesibuko

Ukulungiswa kwenzeka lapho ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo kuhlala “kubambekile” esigabeni esithile.

Izici zokubopha

• Ukutshala imali ngokweqile ekuzenzeleni isithombe sakho
• Ubunzima bokunqoba inkohliso yokuphelela
• Ukuphikelela kobudlelwane obuzicabangelayo nawe

Ukubonakaliswa kokuphazamiseka kwe-narcissistic ngokusho kuka-Lacan

Ubudlelwano nesithombe

• Ukukhathazeka ngokweqile ngokubukeka
• Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokuqinisekisa kwangaphandle
• Ubunzima bokwamukela ukungapheleli

Ubudlelwano nabanye

• Enye ibonakala njengesibuko noma isandiso sakho
• Ubunzima bokubona abanye
• Ukuthambekela kokuphikisa ubudlelwano

Ubuthakathaka be-ego

• Ukuzwela okukhulu ekugxekeni
• Ukushintshana phakathi kobukhulu nokuzizwa ungafaneleki
• Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokuvikela isithombe sakho esikahle

Ubunzima ngomfanekiso

• Izinkinga ekusetshenzisweni kolimi nezimpawu
• Ukuthambekela kokuhlala kurejista yomcabango
• Ubunzima bokwamukela ukuthenwa okungokomfanekiso (imikhawulo, umthetho)

Imithelela yomtholampilo nendlela yokwelapha

• Sebenza ebuhlotsheni bengqondo besiguli naso
• Ukukhuthazwa kwencazelo engokomfanekiso
• Ukuhlaziywa kokudluliselwa njengokubonakaliswa kobudlelwane be-narcissistic.

Umqondo kaJung wokwenza umuntu ngamunye

Ukuze siqonde indlela kaJung, kufanele siqale sikhulume ngomqondo wakhe wokuhlukaniswa komuntu ngamunye:

• Kuyinqubo lapho umuntu eba umuntu ohlukile ngokwengqondo
• Kubandakanya ukuhlanganiswa kwezici eziqaphelayo nezingazi lutho zobuntu.

Isimo sokuqala se-psyche ngokusho kukaJung

UJung wabona ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo njengokuqala esimweni sokuqala lapho:

• Awukho umehluko ocacile phakathi komuntu siqu nomhlaba wangaphandle
• Ingane ihlala esimweni “sokuhlanganyela okungaqondakali” nemvelo yakhe
• Lesi simo singaqhathaniswa nalokho abanye osolwazi abakubiza ngokuthi yi-primary narcissism.

Ukuphulukisa ngokombono we-Jungian

KuJung, ukuphulukisa i-narcissism kuhlanganisa:

• Ukuqashelwa kokuqagela kwengqondo
• Ukuhlanganiswa kwezici eziqulekile zobuntu
• Ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane obunempilo phakathi kwe-ego kanye ne-Self.

Individation, the saphezulu ngokwako kanye narcissism primary

Ithiyori ehlongozwayo ithola ugqozi kuJung noFreud kodwa idlulela ngalé, ibeka i-narcissism eyinhloko phakathi nendawo yokufezeka kwaphezulu. Sizalwa singcwele kodwa siyahlukana lapho singena kwisipiliyoni sasemhlabeni. Inhloso yokuphila ukuhlanganisa isithunzi sethu nokuhlanganisa izingxenye zethu ezihlukene. I-narcissism eyinhloko, eqondwa kahle, ibonakala njengendlela eya esimweni sethu sokuqala saphezulu.

Le nqubo ihlanganisa ukwamukela zonke izingxenye zakho ngothando olungenamibandela. Ukuphila kwethulwa njengesipiliyoni se-cosmic sokuhlukana bese sihlanganiswa. Le thiyori ibeka i-narcissism eyinhloko njengesihluthulelo sokubona ubunjalo bethu bobunkulunkulu emhlabeni.