Ukuba sebudlelwaneni nomuntu ohlukumezayo ozithanda ngokweqile kungaba yinto enzima kakhulu futhi ephazamisa ukuzinza. Enye yezimpawu ezivame kakhulu zalolu hlobo lokuhlukumeza… ubuntu obunobuthi Lokhu ukuziphatha kwendoda ekhungathekile. Ukuqonda izindlela ezingemuva kwalokhu kuziphatha kungakusiza ukuthi uzivikele kangcono. Kulesi sihloko, sizohlola ngokuningiliziwe izimpawu ezibonisa ukuthi indoda ekhungathekile inobuhlobo nomhlukumezi oqhoshayo.
Izimpande zokukhungatheka ku-narcissistic pervert
Ukukhungatheka ku-pervert ye-narcissistic ngokuvamile kuthola imvelaphi yakho umuzwa ojulile wokungafaneleki nokungavikeleki. Ngokuphambene nokubukeka, laba bantu bahlushwa ukuzenyeza abahlale befuna ukukunxephezela ngokubusa kanye ama-manipulators. Ukukhungatheka kwabo kubangelwa ukungakwazi kwabo ukuthola ukutuswa nokuqinisekiswa njalo abakudingayo ukuze balondoloze ubuso babo bokuphakama.
Ukuhlambalaza: isikhali esizikhethele sona se-narcissist
Okunye okusobala kakhulu kokuziphatha kwendoda ekhungathekile ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi ukusebenzisa inhlamba njalo. Njengoba uDkt. Romney ebonisa kulo mbhalo, ukuthuka “kuwulimi lothando lobudlelwano bokuxoxisana. Lokhu kuhlaselwa ngamazwi kuhloselwe ukululaza ozakwabo, ukugcina ukulawula, nokugwema noma yiluphi uhlobo lokusondelana kwangempela olungasongela i-façade yabo.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
Isidingo sokubusa: uphawu lokukhungatheka okujulile
Umphendukezeli we-narcissistic okhungathekile uzohlala efuna ukubusa uzakwabo. Lokhu kubusa kungathatha izinhlobo ezahlukene:
- Ukulawulwa kwezimali
- Ukuzihlukanisa emphakathini
- Unilateral izinqumo
- Ukugxekwa njalo kokukhetha nezenzo zozakwethu
Lesi sidingo sokubusa siyindlela yakhe yokuvala imizwa yakhe yokungabi namandla nokungafaneleki kwangaphakathi.
Ukwehla kwenani okuhlelekile: ukuziphatha okujwayelekile kwamadoda akhungathekile
Ebudlelwaneni nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, ukwehla kwenani kuvame ukuba ngohlelo. Indoda ekhungathekile izohlasela njalo amakhono, ukubukeka, noma impumelelo yomlingani wayo. Lokhu kuziphatha kuhloswe ukugcina ukungalingani kwamandla ebudlelwaneni futhi kuqinise umuzwa womuntu ohlukunyeziwe wokuzibona uphansi.
Ukushintshashintsha kwemizwa: ukubonakaliswa kokukhungatheka kwangaphakathi
Ukuguquguquka kwemizwa okungazelelwe nokungabikezeli kuwulunye uphawu olubonisa ukuziphatha kwendoda ekhungathekile ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi. Lokhu kuguquguquka kwemizwa kungase kuthuntubeze kakhulu uzakwethu, ozithola eqaphile, engakwazi ukubikezela ukusabela komngane wakhe.
Ukwenqaba kwesibopho: indlela yokuzivikela ngokumelene nokukhungatheka
Indoda ekhungathekile ebudlelwaneni nomuntu ohlanekezela u-narcissistic izovame ukusola abanye ngokuhlelekile, ikakhulukazi umlingani wayo. Lokhu kwenqaba ukuthwala isibopho ngezenzo kanye nemizwelo yomuntu kuyindlela yokuzivikela ehloselwe ukulondoloza isithombe somuntu sokuphelela nokugwema ukubhekana nokuntula kwakhe siqu.
Umona owedlulele: ukuveza ukungalondeki endodeni ekhungathekile
Umhawu we-pathological uvame ukuba khona ekuziphatheni kwendoda ekhungathekile ebuhlotsheni nomuntu ohlanekezelekayo we-narcissistic. Lo mhawu owedlulele awulona uphawu lothando, kodwa kunalokho ukubonakaliswa kokungavikeleki kwakhe okujulile nokwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukulawula umlingani wakhe.
Ukucekelwa phansi kwempumelelo: iqhinga lokugcina ukungalingani
Indoda ekhungathekile ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi izovame ukucekela phansi impumelelo namathuba omlingani wayo. Lokhu kuziphatha kuhloswe ngakho ukugcina isikhundla somuntu esivelele futhi kuvimbele umlingani wakhe ekutholeni ukuzethemba nokuzimela.
Ukusetshenziswa kokukhanyisa igesi: indlela ecashile yokukhohlisa
Le ukukhanyisa igesi iwuhlelo lokukhohlisa kwengqondo oluvame ukusetshenziswa abaphendukezeli be-narcissistic abakhungathekile. Kuhlanganisa ukwenza isisulu singabaze umbono waso weqiniso, ngaleyo ndlela kuqiniswe ukulawula komkhohlisi futhi kubhebhethekise ukukhungatheka kwaso kwangaphakathi.
Ukushintshana phakathi kwe-idealization kanye nokwehla kwenani: umjikelezo onobuthi
Ukuziphatha kwendoda ekhungathekile ebudlelwaneni nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ngokuvamile kubonakala ngokushintshana phakathi kwezigaba ze-idealization kanye nokwehla kwenani. Lo mjikelezo, othunaza isisulu, ubonisa ukushintshashintsha kwemizwelo kanye nokukhungatheka kwakhe.
Ukungabi naluzwelo: isici esiyisici somlandi okhungathekile
Ukungakwazi ukuzwela kungenye yezici ezivelele zokuziphatha kwendoda ekhungathekile ebuhlotsheni obunobuthi. Lokhu kuntuleka kozwela kuzibonakalisa njengokunganaki imizwa nezidingo zomlingani, okuqinisa umuzwa wesisulu wokuzihlukanisa nokucindezeleka.
Ukuqagela: ukubeka amaphutha akho kwabanye
I-Projection iyindlela yokuzivikela evame ukusetshenziswa ama-narcissists akhungathekile. Kuhlanganisa ukukhomba amaphutha omuntu, ukungazethembi kanye nokuziphatha okungekuhle kumlingani wakhe. Leli qhinga livumela i-narcissist ukuthi ikhiphe ukukhungatheka kwayo futhi igcine isithombe sayo sokuphelela.
Ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo: ukusizakala ngokuba sengozini kwabanye
Indoda ekhungathekile ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi izovame ukuxhaphaza ubuthakathaka obungokomzwelo bomlingani wayo kanye nokuba sengozini. Lokhu kuxhashazwa kungase kwenzeke ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene, njengokungathembeki ngokomzwelo noma ukuxhaphaza ukungazethembi kwabanye ukuze bathole abakufunayo.
Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokunakwa: ukufuna okunganeliseki
Ukuziphatha kwendoda ekhungathekile ebudlelwaneni nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ngokuvamile kubonakala ngesidingo esinganeliseki sokunakwa. Lesi sidingo esiqhubekayo sokuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle siwukubonakaliswa kokungabi nalutho kwakhe kwangaphakathi kanye nokukhungatheka kwakhe okuqhubekayo. Akasoze enze izinto eyedwa. Indoda ekhungathekile ihlale ifuna ukuhlupha abanye.
Isiphetho: Qaphela ukuziphatha kwendoda ekhungathekile ukuze uzivikele
Ukuqonda nokuhlonza izimpawu zokuziphatha kwendoda ekhungathekile ebuhlotsheni nomuntu oyinarcissist kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuzivikela kanye nokulawula kabusha impilo yakho. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi lokhu kuziphatha okunobuthi akulona iphutha lakho futhi ufanelwe ubudlelwano obunempilo, obulinganiselayo.
Uma ubona lezi zimpawu kubudlelwano bakho, ungangabazi ukufuna usizo kochwepheshe noma abantu obathembayo. Khumbula ukuthi unamandla okunqoba lesi simo esinzima futhi wakhe kabusha impilo eyanelisayo, kude nobuthi nokukhungatheka kwe-narcissistic pervert.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.