Ubudlelwano nomuntu ohlanekezelekayo we-narcissistic ngokuvamile buwumthombo wokuhlupheka nokudideka kwabahlukunyezwayo. Obunye bobunzima obukhulu laba besifazane ababhekana nabo ukungqubuzana kokwethembeka okungena ngobuqili. Lesi sihloko sihlola izindlela zalesi simo esiyinkimbinkimbi futhi siphakamisa izindlela zokuzikhulula kuso.
Ukuqonda Ukungqubuzana Kobuqotho Ebudlelwaneni Obunobuthi
Ukungqubuzana kokwethembeka kuvela lapho umuntu ezizwa ehlukene phakathi kokunamathela kwakhe kumhlukumezi oqhoshayo nonembeza wakhe. ukuziphatha okunobuthi Le nkinga yangaphakathi idala ukucindezeleka okukhulu ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo.
Kumongo wobudlelwano nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, lokhu kungqubuzana kushube kakhulu. Isisulu sishintshashintsha phakathi kwemizwa ephikisanayo: uthando esiluzwayo (noma akholelwa ukuthi luzwakaliswa) ngomlingani wakhe, kanye nokuhlupheka okubangelwa izenzo zakhe zokukhohlisa nezilimazayo.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
Izimpawu Ezikhulunywayo Zokungqubuzana Kobuqotho Kuzisulu Zabesifazane
Izinkomba ezimbalwa zingaveza ubukhona bokungqubuzana kokwethembeka:
- Ubunzima bokwenza izinqumo ngobudlelwano
- Ukuthambekela kokunciphisa noma ukuthethelela ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo kozakwethu
- Imizwa eguquguqukayo ishintshana phakathi kothando kanye ukucasuka
- Ukuhlala unecala ngokushiya ubudlelwano
- Ukwesaba okungenangqondo kokungathembeki ekuceleni usizo
Uma uzibona kulezi zimpawu, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi awuwedwa kulesi simo esiyinkimbinkimbi.
Izimpande Ezijulile Zokungqubuzana Kobuqotho Ebudlelwaneni Be-Narcissistic
Kubalulekile ukuhlola izimpande ezijulile zokungqubuzana kokwethembeka, ezidlala indima eyinhloko ekulawuleni imizwelo:
Umthelela wengqondo osetshenziswa yi-narcissistic pervert
Umphendukezeli we-narcissistic usebenzisa amasu ahlukene okukhohlisa ukuze agcine ukulawula kwakhe isisulu sakhe. Phakathi kwalokhu, sithola:
- Ukuqhuma kwamabhomu kothando: isigaba sokuqala sokuyenga okukhulu
- Ukukhanyisa igesi: ukwenza isisulu singabaze umbono waso weqiniso
- La ukuxolisa : dala izimo zomona nokuncintisana
- Imijikelezo yodlame elandelwa yizigaba zokubuyisana
Lawa maqhinga adala ukuncika ngokomzwelo futhi aqinise ukungqubuzana kokwethembeka.
Umthelela wesimo senhlalo kubantu besifazane
Umphakathi wethu usaphethe imibono eminingi ngeqhaza labesifazane ebudlelwaneni. Lezi zinkolelo zingakhulisa ukungqubuzana kobuqotho:
- Umqondo wokuthi owesifazane kufanele azinikele futhi adele inhlalakahle yakhe ngobuhlobo bakhe
- Ingcindezi yomphakathi “yokusindisa” ubudlelwano ngazo zonke izindleko
- Icala labesifazane abanquma ukushiya umlingani wabo
Kubalulekile ukufaka inselelo kulawa maphethini emicabango ukuze uzikhulule ekungqubuzaneni kokwethembeka.
Imiphumela edabukisayo yokungqubuzana kokwethembeka empilweni yengqondo
Ukuphila esimweni esihlala njalo sokungqubuzana kwangaphakathi kunemiphumela emibi kakhulu ekulinganiseni kwengqondo:
- Ukukhathazeka okungapheli kanye nezinkinga zokucindezeleka
- Ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba nokuzethemba ekwahluleleni komuntu
- Ukukhathala okungokomzwelo okungaholela ekutubekeni
- Ubunzima bokusungula imingcele enempilo ebuhlotsheni
- Ukwanda kwengozi yokuthuthukisa i-post-traumatic stress disorder
Njengoba sibhekene nale miphumela ethusayo, kubalulekile ukufunda ukuzikhulula ekungqubuzaneni kokwethembeka.
Amasu okunqoba ukungqubuzana kokwethembeka kanye nokubuyisela ukuzimela
Ukungqubuzana kobuqotho kuvame ukuba nzima ukukunqoba. Nawa amasu angakusiza:
Thuthukisa ukuzazi nokuzihlola
Isinyathelo sokuqala ukuhlehla esimweni sakho:
- Gcina idayari ukuveza imicabango nemizwa yakho
- Khomba amanani akho omuntu siqu nokuthi yini ebaluleke ngempela kuwe
- Qaphela izikhathi lapho uzwa khona ukungqubuzana kokwethembeka futhi ukuhlaziye
Le nqubo yokuzihlola izokusiza ukuthi ucacise imizwa yakho nezidingo zangempela.
Yakha kabusha isithombe esihle sakho
I-narcissistic pervert cishe iguqule indlela ozibona ngayo. Isikhathi sokuyakha kabusha:
- Bhala izimfanelo zakho nempumelelo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zincane kangakanani.
- Zizungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo abakwazisayo
- Zijwayeze ukuzizwela ngokuziphatha ngomusa
Kancane kancane, uzophinde uthole ukuzethemba kuwe nasemandleni akho okwenza izinqumo ezifanele.
Funda ukubeka imingcele enempilo
Ukumisa imingcele ecacile kubalulekile ukuze uzivikele:
- Funda ukwenqaba ngaphandle kokuba necala
- Khomba izidingo zakho futhi uziveze ngokugomela
- Unganqikazi ukuziqhelelanisa ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo lapho kudingeka.
Ngokusetha le mikhawulo, uthola kabusha ukulawula impilo yakho futhi wehlise umthelela we-narcissistic pervert.
Funa ukusekela kwangaphandle okukhathalelayo
Ukuphuma engxabanweni yokwethembeka ngokuvamile kudinga usizo lwangaphandle:
- Bona umelaphi ogxile ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi
- Joyina iqembu losekelo lezisulu zama-narcissistic perverts
- Thulula isifuba kubangani noma amalungu omndeni owethembayo
Lokhu kusekelwa kuzokusiza ukuthi uhlehle futhi uqinisekise imibono yakho.
Ireferensi yezincwadi mayelana nokungqubuzana kokwethembeka
Nazi izikhombo zebhayibheli eziyisikhombisa endikimbeni “yokungqubuzana kokwethembeka”:
- Hirschi, T. (1995). Ithiyori yokunamathisela: isifundo sokungqubuzana kokwethembeka. Paris: Presses Universitaires de France.
- Chabrol, H., & Dufour, J. (2009). Izingxabano zobuqotho kanye nezinkinga zokuziphatha entsheni. Ijenali ye-Development Psychology, 17(2), 185-198.
- Tavani, J. (2012). Ukwethembeka ebudlelwaneni babantu: izindaba nezingxabano. Psychology and Society, 5(1), 24-38.
- Bourguignon, D. (2011). Izingxabano Zobuqotho Nobuqotho ku-Family Dynamics. Ijenali ye-Clinical Psychology, 25(3), 145-159.
- Levy, A. (2014). Ukungqubuzana kokwethembeka kanye ne-psychopathology: umbono womtholampilo. L’Encephale, 40(3), 223-229.
- Mérat, M. (2015). Izingxabano zokwethembeka kumongo wobudlelwano bomsebenzi. Ijenali Yomsebenzi Wezengqondo, 6(1), 65-78.
- Brown, J. (2018). Ukuphatha izingxabano zokwethembeka ezinhlanganweni. Cahiers de Psychology, 32(2), 95-112.
Lezi zithenjwa zibhekana nendikimba yokungqubuzana kokwethembeka okuvela ezinhlangothini ezihlukene, ikakhulukazi ezengqondo nezenhlalo.
Isiphetho: indlela eya enkululekweni yemizwa
Ukunqoba ukungqubuzana kokwethembeka ebuhlotsheni nomuntu onama-narcissist kuyinqubo ethatha isikhathi nokubekezela. Ngokuqaphela izindlela zokusebenza, ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba kwakho nokuzizungezile ngokusekelwa okukhathalelayo, ungazikhulula kuleli thonya elinobuthi.
Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe ubuhlobo obusekelwe ekuhloniphaneni nothando lweqiniso. Ngokunqoba lokhu kungqubuzana kwangaphakathi, uvula umnyango wempilo eyanelisa kakhudlwana, ehambisana namagugu akho kanye nezifiso ezijulile.
Khumbula: inhlalakahle nenjabulo yakho kuyigugu. Unelungelo namandla okukhetha impilo engenakho ukuxhashazwa okunobuthi. Indlela ingase ibonakale inzima, kodwa isinyathelo ngasinye sikusondeza ekuphileni okuzolile futhi okuyiqiniso.
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