Ubudlelwano phakathi kwe- i-narcissistic pervert kanye nemali kuvame ukubonakala ngamasu okulawula nokulawula. Njengowesifazane isisulu somuntu ophendukezela i-narcissisticUkuqonda lezi zindlela kubalulekile ukuze uzivikele kangcono ngokwezimali. Lesi sihloko sizokuqondisa ekuboneni ukuziphatha okuyinkinga kanye nokulawula kabusha isimo sakho sezezimali.
Izimpawu ezikhombisayo zomuntu ophendukezelwe yi-narcissistic othatheke kakhulu ngemali
I-narcissistic pervert ivamise ukubeka ukubaluleka okungalingani emalini nasezimeni zomphakathi. Nazi ezinye izimpawu ezingase zikuxwayise:
- Uhlala ekhuluma ngemali nangezinto ezibonakalayo
- Uqhosha ngemali engenayo noma ngempahla yakhe
- Wahlulela abanye ngesimo sabo sezimali kuphela
- Uzifela ngokulawula izindleko zasendlini
- Uyakugxeka ukuthenga kwakho noma ukuphatha kwakho imali
- Uyenqaba ukwabelana ngolwazi lwezezimali lombhangqwana
Uma ubona okuningi kwalokhu kuziphatha kumlingani wakho, kungenzeka ukuthi usebenzisa imali njengendlela yokubusa.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
Amasu okukhohlisa ezezimali we-narcissistic pervert
I-narcissistic pervert ingasebenzisa amasu ahlukene ukugcina ukulawula izimali zabashadikazi:
Ukuncishwa ukuzimela kwezezimali
Angase afune ukukuphuca noma yikuphi ukuzimela ngokwezimali ngokuthi:
- Ukuvimbela ukusebenza
- Ukulawula iholo lakho kanye nezindleko
- Inqaba ukukunikeza ukufinyelela kuma-akhawunti asebhange
- Ukukubeka “ephaketheni lemali”
Ukungathembeki ngokomzwelo okuxhunywe nemali
Usebenzisa imali njengendlela yokucindezela ngokomzwelo:
- Ukwenza uzizwe unecala ngokusebenzisa kwakho imali
- Usabisa ngokuthi uzokunqamula uma ningavumelani
- Uyakuqola imali ukuze uthole lokho akufunayo
Isikweletu njengethuluzi lokubusa
Angase afune ukukufaka ezikweletini ukuze akulawule kangcono:
- Kukuphusha ukuthi uthathe izikweletu ngegama lakho
- Uchitha imali eningi ngenkathi ekuvumela ukuthi ukhokhe izikweletu
- Uyenqaba ukukhokha ingxenye yakhe yezikweletu ezivamile
Ukuxhashazwa kwezimali
Abanye abanqikazi ukuphambukisa imali yabashadikazi ukuze bazuze bona:
- Ukufihlwa kwemali engenayo noma impahla
- Ukusebenzisa imali ngokweqile ekusebenziseni komuntu siqu
- Ukusetshenziswa kabi kwemali okuhloselwe izingane
Imiphumela engokwengqondo yokulawulwa kwezimali
Ukuhlupheka ngenxa yokukhohliswa ngokwezimali komuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kungaba nemiphumela emibi kakhulu yengqondo:
- Ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba komuntu siqu namakhono akhe
- Umuzwa wecala unomphela
- Ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka okuhlobene nezinkinga zemali
- Ukucindezeleka ngenxa yokuntuleka kokuzimela
- Ukwesaba ukuphuthelwa futhi uzithole ungenalutho
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi le mizwa iwumphumela wesimo esinobuthi, hhayi ukwehluleka kwakho.
Ungaphinde ulawule kanjani isimo sakho sezezimali
Nazi ezinye izinyathelo ezibalulekile zokuzikhulula ethonyeni lezezimali lomuntu ophendukela ku-narcissistic:
Bheka isimo sakho
- Faka ohlwini iholo lakho, izindleko kanye nezikweletu
- Buyisa wonke amadokhumenti ezezimali abalulekile
- Thola mayelana namalungelo akho (umbuso womshado, njll.)
Vikela impahla yakho
- Vula i-akhawunti yasebhange egameni lakho wedwa
- Beka imali eceleni ngasese uma kungenzeka
- Shintsha amakhodi okufinyelela kuma-akhawunti akho aku-inthanethi
Thola futhi ukuzimela kwakho ngokwezimali
- Funa umsebenzi uma ungenawo
- Ziqeqeshe ukuze uthuthukise amathuba akho ochwepheshe
- Funda ukuphatha ibhajethi
Zizungeze ngokusekela
- Khuluma nabantu obathandayo obathandayo
- Xhumana nenhlangano esekela izisulu
- Thola usizo kummeli oyisipesheli.
Ukuzakha kabusha ngokwezezimali ngemva kobudlelwane obunobuthi
Ukushiya i-narcissistic pervert kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile, kodwa kufanele sizakhe kabusha ngokwezezimali:
Bhekana nezinkinga eziphuthumayo zehadiwe
- Thola indawo yokuhlala entsha uma kunesidingo
- Qiniseka ukuthi uneholo elanele
- Ukuxoxisana ngokuhlukaniswa kwempahla nezikweletu
Funda ukuphatha imali yakho ngomoya ophansi
- Hlela isabelomali esinengqondo
- Chaza imigomo yakho yezezimali
- Yakha ukonga okubalulekile
Sebenza ebuhlotsheni bakho nemali
- Khomba izinkolelo zakho ezinomkhawulo ngemali
- Funda ukusebenzisa imali ngaphandle kwecala
- Yakha I-Abundance Mindset
Faka imali ekusaseni lakho
- Ziqeqeshe ukuze ukhule ngokomsebenzi
- Cabanga ngokuthatha kwakho umhlalaphansi
- Cabangela ukutshala imali ukuze ukhulise imali yakho
Amakhambi asemthethweni okuhlukunyezwa kwezimali
Uma uke waba yisisulu sokuhlukunyezwa ngokwezimali, unezinketho ezimbalwa:
Ngesikhathi sokuqulwa kwesehlukaniso
- Cela imali yesondlo
- Thola amalungelo akho kumpahla evamile
- Ukufuna ukukhokhwa kwezikweletu eziboshelwe ngokuhlanganyela
Uma kwenzeka udlame lwezomnotho
- Faka isikhalazo ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokokuziphatha
- Thola umonakalo
- Qaphela umonakalo owenziwe
Uma owakwakho engayikhokhi isondlo sengane
- Xhumana Nenhlangano Engakhokhelwa Yokutholwa Kwezingane
- Cela ukuhlotshiswa kweholo
- Qala inqubo yokulahla umndeni
Ungangabazi ukuphelezelwa ummeli oyisipesheli ukuze uthole amalungelo akho.
Isiphetho: phinda uthole ukuzethemba nenkululeko yezezimali
Zikhulule kuubambe isimo sezimali somuntu ohlanekezelwe yi-narcissistic inqubo edinga isikhathi nesibindi. Kodwa futhi kuyithuba lokulawula impilo yakho futhi wakhe ikusasa elizolile ngokwezezimali.
Khumbula ukuthi awunacala ngokuhlukunyezwa ohlangabezana nakho. Ngokuzizungezile ngokusekelwa okulungile nokuqhubekela phambili isinyathelo ngesinyathelo, unganqoba lesi silingo futhi uphinde uthole ukuzimela kwakho.
Imali akufanele isaba umthombo wokukhathazeka, kodwa ithuluzi lokubona amaphrojekthi akho futhi uphile ngokuvumelana nezindinganiso zakho. Yiba nethemba ngamakhono akho: ufanelwe ukuphila kwamahhala nokwanelisayo, kude nanoma yikuphi ukukhohlisa okunobuthi.
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