Ukuxhashazwa ngokwengqondo okubangelwa ngumuntu ohlukumezayo othanda ukuzikhukhumeza kungaba yingozi kakhulu kubantu abahlukunyezwayo. Ngokuvamile akubonakali futhi kungabonakali, kushiya izibazi ezihlala isikhathi eside. imiphumela yezengqondo okujulile. Lesi sihloko sihlose ukusiza abesifazane ababhekene nalolu hlobo lokuhlukunyezwa ukuba baqonde kangcono izindlela zokusebenza kanye nokuthola izinsiza zokuphuma kukho.
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Izimpawu ezibonisa ubudlelwano obunobuthi nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic
Ubudlelwano nomuntu ohlanekezelekayo we-narcissistic bubonakala ngezimpawu ezimbalwa ezishaqisayo:
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
- Ukugxeka okuvamile nokungenasisekelo
- Ukuthotshiswa njalo, ngasese noma esidlangalaleni
- Ukuqhuma kwentukuthelo okudlulele nokungalindelekile
- Umona nokulawula ngokweqile
- Izinsongo kanye ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo
- Ukuphathwa kwemizwa okungapheli
- Ukuphika okuhlelekile kwemizwa yakho
Uma ubona okumbalwa kwalokhu kuziphatha kumlingani wakho, kungenzeka ukuthi uyisisulu sodlame lokuziphatha.
Ingabe i-narcissistic pervert iligcina kanjani ithonya layo elingokwengqondo?
Umuntu ophambukayo oziqhenyayo usebenzisa amasu okuphatha amasu angokwengqondo athuthukiswe ukuze kugcinwe ukulawula:
- Ishintshana phakathi kwezigaba zokuyenga kanye nokwehliswa kwenani
- Ikuhlukanisa kancane kancane nabathandekayo bakho
- Ihlala inselele umbono wakho weqiniso
- Ukwenza uzizwe unecala futhi uzingabaze
- Uzenza isisulu sokuvusa ububele bakho
- Uphika ngokuhlelekile noma anciphise amaphutha akhe
Umgomo wayo uwukukwenza ungabi nazinzo futhi ukwenze uncike emoyeni. Kancane kancane, ulahlekelwa ukuzethemba kuwe kanye nokwahlulela kwakho.
Imiphumela edabukisayo yobudlova bokuziphatha kuzisulu
Ukulawula okwenziwa umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kunemiphumela emibi kakhulu empilweni yengqondo nengokomzimba yezisulu:
- Ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba nokuzethemba
- Isimo esingapheli sokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka
- Ukuphazamiseka kokulala nokudla
- Ubunzima bokugxila nokukhumbula
- Ukukhathala ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo
- Ukuhlukaniswa nomphakathi okuqhubekayo
- Imicabango yokuzibulala ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu
Uma ubuhlobo buhlala isikhathi eside, lezi zimpawu ziba zimbi kakhulu. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela lokhu ukuze ukwazi ukusabela.
Kungani kunzima kangaka ukushiya i-narcissistic pervert?
Naphezu kokuhlupheka okubekezelelwe, izisulu eziningi zikuthola kunzima ukuhlukana nomhlukumezi wazo. Izizathu eziningi zichaza lobu bunzima:
- Ukwesaba impindiselo nesizungu
- Umuzwa wecala ugcinwe ngobuciko
- Ithemba lokuthi umlingani uzoshintsha ngelinye ilanga
- Ukuncika ngokomzwelo kanye/noma ngokwezimali
- Ihlazo lokuvuma isimo kwabaseduze kwakho
- Ukuphika ukungathi sína kokuhlukunyezwa okukhona
Umphendukezeli we-narcissistic uyazi ukuthi angasebenzisa kanjani lobu buthakathaka ukuze agcine ukulawula kwakhe. Ukuqaphela lezi zindlela kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esiya enkululekweni.
Izinyathelo ezibalulekile zokuzakha kabusha ngemuva kobudlelwano obunobuthi
Ukuzikhulula ebuhlotsheni nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kuyinqubo ethatha isikhathi nesibindi. Nazi izinyathelo ezibalulekile:
- Qaphela iqiniso lokuhlukunyezwa okuphathelene nakho
- Yephula konke ukuxhumana nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic
- Zizungeze ngabantu abakhathalelayo nabamethembayo
- Xhumana nochwepheshe ukuze uthole ukwesekwa kwezokwelapha
- Ukufunda ukuzinakekela nokuzigomela
- Yakha kabusha ukuzethemba kwakho nokuzethemba
- Kancane kancane thola futhi ukulawula impilo yakho
Lolu hambo lungaba lude futhi lube nzima, kodwa kubalulekile ukuzakha kabusha ngokuqhubekayo.
Izinsiza ezitholakalayo zezisulu zodlame lokuziphatha
Izakhiwo eziningi zingakusiza uma uyisisulu sodlame lokuziphatha:
- Izinhlangano ezigxile ekusizeni izisulu
- Imigqa yenkinga yocingo yamahhala nengaziwa
- Amaqembu ezingxoxo phakathi kwezisulu
- Ukubonisana kwamahhala ngokwengqondo
- Indawo yokuhlala ephuthumayo uma kunesidingo
- Usizo lwezomthetho ukuze uthole amalungelo akho
Ungangabazi ukucela lezi zinsiza, awuwedwa kulesi simo.
Ukwakha kabusha impilo yakho yothando ngemuva kobudlelwano obunobuthi
Ngemva kobudlelwane nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, kuvamile ukuba nobunzima bokwethembana. Nawa amanye amathiphu okufunda ukuthanda ngendlela enempilo futhi:
- Zinike isikhathi sokuzakha kabusha ngaphambi kobudlelwano obusha
- Funda ukubona izimpawu zobudlelwano obunempilo
- Xhumana ngokucacile ngezidingo zakho kanye nemikhawulo yakho
- Naka izimpawu zokuqala ze ukuxhaphaza
- Zithembe futhi ulalele intuition yakho
- Ungangabazi ukucela usizo uma kudingeka.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nokusebenza ngokwakho, kungenzeka ngokuphelele ukuthola impilo yothando eyanelisayo futhi.
Ungamsiza kanjani othandekayo oyisisulu sobudlova ngokokuziphatha?
Uma usola ukuthi othile osondelene nawe uyisisulu se-narcissistic pervert, nansi indlela yokubasiza:
- Mlalele ngaphandle kokumahlulela noma ukumjaha
- Qinisekisa imizwa yabo nolwazi lwabo
- Mazise mayelana nezindlela zodlame lokuziphatha
- Msize abuyise ukuzethemba
- Mdlulisele kochwepheshe abanekhono
- Hlala ukhona futhi ubekezele, ngisho noma engakakulungeli ukuhamba
- Msize alungiselele icebo lokuphuma uma kudingeka
Ukwesekwa kwakho kungenza umehluko omkhulu ekumsizeni agqashule.
Ireferensi yezincwadi ngodlame lokuziphatha
Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibhili ngendikimba yodlame lokuziphatha:
- Dejours, C. (1998). Ukuhlupheka eFrance: ukwakhiwa kwento yezempilo yomsebenzi. I-Paris: I-Editions La Découverte.
- Fouques, D. (2005). Udlame lokuziphatha emsebenzini: ukuqonda ukuze wenze okuthile. EParis: L’Harmattan.
- Fournier, G. (2012). Udlame lokuziphatha: indlela ye-psychoanalytic. I-Paris: Éditions Eyrolles.
- Leroy, A. (2010). Udlame olungokwengqondo: ukuhlaziya nokuvimbela. Toulouse: Éditions Erès.
- Lecoq, B. (2016). Ukuhlupheka emsebenzini: udlame lwesikhungo?. EParis: Editions L’Harmattan.
- Menard, J. (2019). Izisulu zodlame lokuziphatha: uhambo nokuqina. I-Lyon: I-Press Universitaires de Lyon.
- Tafin, E. (2008). IPsychology of violence: phakathi kodlame olungokomzimba nodlame lokuziphatha. EBrussels: De Boeck Supérieur.
Lezi zithenjwa kufanele zikunikeze isiqalo esihle sokuhlola isihloko sodlame lokuziphatha.
Isiphetho: thola kabusha amandla phezu kwempilo yakho
Udlame lokuziphatha olwenziwa umuntu ohlanekezela u-narcissistic lushiya izibazi ezijulile, kodwa kungenzeka ukubaleka. Ngokuqaphela izindlela zokusebenza, ezizungezile futhi uthole usizo, ungazikhulula kuleli thonya elinobuthi. Umgwaqo ungase ube mude, kodwa uholela ekuphileni okuzolile nokwanelisayo. Khumbula njalo ukuthi ufanelwe ukuhlonishwa nokuthandwa. Unamandla ngaphakathi kuwe okuzakha kabusha futhi uphinde ukwazi ukulawula impilo yakho.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.