ethemini i-narcissistic pervert Lokhu kuchaza umuntu okhohlisayo futhi olawula abanye ukuze banelise izidingo zabo zobugovu. Uma lokhu kuguquguquka kuhlanganiswa nokudakwa ngokweqile, imiphumela ingaba mibi, ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane abayizisulu zalolu hlobo lobuhlobo obunobuthi. Lesi sihloko sihlose ukukhanyisela nokuqondisa labo abazithola bekulesi simo.
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Yini i-alcohol narcissistic pervert?
I-narcissistic pervert ngumuntu obonakala ngokuthi a isidingo njalo sokutuswa, a uzwela olulinganiselwe futhi ukuthambekela kokuxhaphaza abanyeLapho kuhileleke utshwala, lezi zici ngokuvamile ziyabhebhetheka. Utshwala bunganciphisa izithiyo, buveze izici ezimbi kakhulu zobuntu be-narcissistic. ukwanda kokucabanga, unyafuthi ukuzidla okuphindwe kashumi.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
Utshwala: kunamiphi imiphumela ku-narcissistic pervert?
Utshwala bungaba nomthelela okhulisayo ikakhulukazi ekuziphatheni komhlukumezi one-narcissistic, kwakheka ubuthi obunamandla nakakhulu ebudlelwaneni babo nabanye abantu. Nakhu ukuhlaziya okuningiliziwe kwale miphumela:
1. Ukukhuliswa kwezici ze-narcissistic
- Ubukhulu obuyihaba Utshwala buvame ukuqinisa umuzwa osuvele ukhona wokuba namandla onke nokuphakama.
- Ukwanda kokulahlekelwa uzwela Ikhono elilinganiselwe kakade lokuqaphela imizwa yabanye liya lincipha nakakhulu
- Ukwanda kokuthatheka Izindlela zokulawula zibuthakathaka, okuvumela ukuthi kulawulwe ukuziphatha okunobuthi
2. Ukuqiniswa kokukhohlisa
- Icala ulaka kakhulu Utshwala bungenza ukumangalela nokuhlambalaza kube kubi nakakhulu.
- I-Amplified gaslighting Ukuhlanekezelwa kweqiniso kuba sobala kakhulu ngaphansi kwethonya lotshwala.
- Ukungathembeki ngokomzwelo Izinsongo kanye ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kungaba sobala kakhulu
3. Umjikelezo wobudlova obungokwengqondo obuphakeme
- Izikhathi eziningi zokungezwani Utshwala bungabangela iziqephu zenhlekelele ngokushesha okukhulu.
- Izikhathi “zokuqhuma kwamabhomu” okunamandla kakhulu Izigaba zokubuyisana zingaphawulwa ngezithembiso ezinkulu ezenziwa ngaphansi kwethonya lotshwala.
- Ushintsho olusheshayo phakathi kwezikhathi zokukhanga kanye nolaka
Izici eziyinhloko ze-narcissist yotshwala
I-alcohol narcissistic pervert ngokuvamile ibonisa izici ezilandelayo:
- Isidingo ngokweqile sokulawula, sikhuliswe yi-utshwala
- Ukubekezelela okuphansi ukugxekwa, okuholela ekuphenduleni okungalingani
- Ukuthambekela kokukhohlisa, ukusebenzisa utshwala njengethuluzi
- Ukuziphatha okungalawuleki kanye nokuzicabangela wena, okubhebhethekiswa ukuphuza utshwala
- Ukuzihlukanisa kancane nomphakathi ngenxa yokuziphatha kwabo okuyinkinga.
Izimpawu okufanele uzibheke
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela izimpawu ze-narcissist yotshwala:
- Ukuziphatha okungalindelekile : Iziqephu zokuphuza ngokweqile zivame ukuphawulwa ukucasuka, ukuthuka kanye nokuziphatha okuhlazisayo emphakathini.
- Ukuphika kanye nokunciphisa : Ngemva kwesigameko, umlutha wotshwala angase aphike noma anciphise izenzo zawo, ngokuvamile asole isisulu ngokuziphatha kwaso.
- Ukuxhaphaza imizwelo Ukusebenzisa utshwala njengezaba zokuthethelela ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo nokudala a ukuncika ngokomzwelo endlini kamufi.
Isishayo esiphindwe kabili: lapho i-narcissism kanye notshwala kuhlangene
Ukuhlalisana kwe-narcissism nokudakwa kotshwala kumzali kudala indawo enobuthi ikakhulukazi:
- Ukuguquguquka kwemizwelo kuyakhula, nokushintshashintsha kwemizwa ye-narcissist kubhebhethekiswa imiphumela yotshwala.
- Ingozi yodlame olungokomzimba iyanda, njengoba utshwala bunciphisa ukuzithiba futhi i-narcissism ibhebhethekisa ukufutheka.
- Ukuphazamiseka okukhulu kwemizwelo kuba yinjwayelo, kudala isimo sokwesaba njalo nokungazethembi.
- Imijikelezo yethemba nokuphelelwa ithemba igqama kakhulu, nezikhathi zokuzola zibhebhezela amathemba angenangqondo.
Le nhlanganisela ingaholela ekuhlukumezekeni okuyinkimbinkimbi ezinganeni nakubalingani, ngokuvamile okudinga ukwelashwa okujulile kwesikhathi eside.
Izinselelo eziyingqayizivele zobudlelwane nomuntu odakwa utshwala
Ukuba sebudlelwaneni ne-narcissist edakayo kuveza izinselelo eziqondile neziyinkimbinkimbi:
- Ukudideka phakathi kokuziphatha okuhlobene notshwala nalokho okuhlobene ne-narcissism kwenza kube nzima ukukhomba isimo sangempela senkinga.
- Izikhathi zokuzola zingakhuthaza amathemba amanga, njengoba i-narcissism eyisisekelo iqhubeka ngisho nalapho utshwala bungekho.
- Ukuhlonza umthombo wangempela wezinkinga zobudlelwano kuba nzima ukuxhumana phakathi kwalezi ziphazamiso ezimbili.
Lokhu kuguquguquka kungandisa ubudlelwano obunobuthi ngoba izisulu zinethemba loshintsho olungasoze lwafika ngaphandle kokungenelela kochwepheshe okujulile.
Imithelela yengqondo kumuntu ohlukumezekile we-narcissistic personality disorder
Abesifazane abayizisulu zotshwala be-narcissistic bahlushwa umonakalo ojulile ongokwengqondo :
- Ukukhathazeka nokudangala Ukuhlala notshwala benarcissistic kungaholela ukucindezeleka okungapheli futhi ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba.
- Ukuhlukumezeka nokuhlukana Ukuhlukumeza njalo kungabangela ukucindezeleka kwangemva kwenhlekelele (TSPT) kanye nezindlela zokuhlukanisa njengendlela yokusinda.
Amasu okubhekana nalesi simo esinzima
Lapho usebenzisana ne-narcissist yotshwala, amasu ambalwa angasiza esikhathini esifushane:
- Misa imingcele ecacile futhi uyisebenzise ngokuzolile.
- Gwema ukungqubuzana ngokuqondile, ikakhulukazi lapho umuntu ephuze utshwala.
- Hlala uqinile lapho ubhekene nemizamo yokukhohlisa
- Gwema izimo eziyingozi
- Khuthaza ukusesha usizo lochwepheshe
Amasu okubuyisela kanye nokwelapha
Ngemuva kokushiya i-narcissist edakayo, kubalulekile ukugxila ekwelapheni kwakho:
- Ukwelashwa komuntu ngamunye Umelaphi angakusiza ukuze yakha kabusha eyakho ukuzihlonipha kanye nokwelapha i ukuhlukumezeka wabekezela.
- Amaqembu okusekela Ukujoyina amaqembu okusekela izisulu zokudakwa nokudakwa utshwala kunganikeza indawo ephephile yokwabelana nokufunda kulokho okuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye.
- Ukuzinakekela nokuzitholela kabusha Ukuzinakekela ngezenzo ezilethayo injabulo et ukuthulaImisebenzi efana nezemidlalo, ubuciko, noma ukuzindla ibalulekile ukuze ululame.
Ireferensi yebhayibheli yokuqonda ama-alcohol narcissistic perverts
Nakhu okukhethiwe kwezinkomba zebhayibhiliyografi ezikhuluma ngetimu yabahlanekezeli be-narcissistic kanye nokudakwa kotshwala:
- Gauthier, D. (2013). Abantu be-Narcissistic: Ukuqonda nokuhlala nabo. Leduc Editions.
- Hirigoyen, M.-F. (2001). Ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo: Udlame oluhlanekezelwe empilweni yansuku zonke. I-Discovery.
- Cloarec, A. (2015). I-Psychology yokudakwa nokulutha. Izinhlobo ze-ESF.
- Bénisty, P. (2010). Izindlela zokukhohlisa: I-Psychology kanye ne-psychopathology. Izinhlobo ze-Eyrolles.
- Leonard, J. (2017). Imilutha kanye nobuntu: Indlela yokusebenza kwengqondo neyomtholampilo. I-Press Universitaires de France.
- U-Coulon, M. (2018). Ukulutha kwezidakamizwa nemiphumela yako: Ukuqonda ukuziphatha okuyingozi. I-Observatory Publishing.
- UBianchi, M. (2020). I-Psychopathology yokudakwa ngokweqile: phakathi kokulutha kanye nobuntu. Editions L’Harmattan.
Lezi zithenjwa zizokunikeza ukubuka konke kwezixhumanisi phakathi kobuntu be-narcissistic kanye nokudakwa, kanye nemibono yomtholampilo ngale ndaba eyinkimbinkimbi.
Isiphetho
Ukuqonda nokuhlonza izici ze-narcissist ewumlutha wotshwala isinyathelo sokuqala sokuzivikela kanye nokugqashula kulobu budlelwano obunobuthi. Abesifazane abayizisulu zalolu hlobo lokuhlukunyezwa kumele bafune izinsiza. Kufanele futhi bafune ukwesekwa okufanele ukuze balulame futhi baphinde balawule izimpilo zabo.
Ndawonye, singakha indawo lapho wonke umuntu ehlonishwa futhi ehlonishwa khona, kude nokubanjelwa ukuziphatha okulimazayo.
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