Udlame lwezezimali: isicupho esikhohlisayo sabahlanekezeli be-narcissistic

Udlame lwezezimali luwuhlobo olucashile lokuhlukumeza oluvame ukusetshenziswa abahlanekezeli be-narcissistic ukuze bathole ukubusa kwabo phezu kozakwethu. Ikakhulukazi ngokunyenya ngoba ayibonakali ngaphandle, lolu dlame lwezomnotho luhlose ukuphuca isisulu ukuzimela kwaso kwezezimali kanye nokubagcina belawulwa. Lesi sihloko sizokusiza ukuthi uqonde kangcono izindlela zodlame lwezezimali futhi ukhombe izinsiza ukuze uzivikele.

Qaphela Izimpawu Zokuxhashazwa Kwezezimali Ebudlelwaneni Bakho

Udlame lwezezimali lungathatha izinhlobo eziningi, lucashile kakhulu. Nazi ezinye izimpawu okufanele zikuxwayise:

• Umlingani wakho usebenzisa i ukubusa ngokwezimali womndeni wakho futhi wenqaba ukukunikeza ukufinyelela kuma-akhawunti asebhange
• Ugxeka ngendlela ehlelekile indlela osebenzisa ngayo imali, ngisho nasekuthengeni okubalulekile
• Ikucela ukuthi ulungise noma yikuphi ukuthenga futhi ihlole zonke izitatimende zakho zasebhange
• Uyakwenqabela ukuthi usebenze noma ucekele phansi amathuba akho omsebenzi
• Uthatha izikweletu egameni lakho ngaphandle kwemvume yakho
• Uyenqaba ukufaka isandla ezindlekweni zasendlini bese ushiya wena ukhokhela yonke into
• Udla imali yezithandani esebenzisa budedengu
• Usabisa ngokuthi uzokunqamula uma ungalaleli izimfuno zakhe.

Uma uzibona uziningi kulezi zimo, kungenzeka ukuthi uyisisulu sodlame lwezomnotho. Ungangabazi ukukhuluma ngakho nalabo abaseduze kwakho futhi ufune usizo.

Ukuqonda izindlela ezingokwengqondo zodlame lwezezimali

Udlame lwezezimali luyingxenye yesu lembulunga yonke lokubusa nokulawula umuntu ohlanekezela isisulu sakhe. Ngokukuphuca izinsiza zezimali, ufuna ukukwenza uthembele kuye ngokuphelele futhi akuvimbele ukuba ungamshiyi.

Lolu hlobo lokuphathwa kabi ngokuvamile luhambisana nodlame olungokwengqondo okuhloswe ngalo ukukwenza ungabaze amakhono akho. I-narcissistic pervert izogxeka ngendlela ehlelekile ukuphatha kwakho imali, ikuthathe njengomuntu ongenasibopho noma ongakwazi. Ngokuzwa lezi zinkulumo ezilulazayo, ugcina usufaka le nkulumo ngaphakathi futhi ulahlekelwe ukuzethemba.

Amahloni nomuzwa wecala nakho kudlala indima ebalulekile kulo mshini wokulawula. I-narcissistic pervert ibeka icala kuwe ngezinkinga zezimali zabashadikazi, ikusole ngokusebenzisa imali eningi. Angase futhi akuphoxe esidlangalaleni ngokuveza ukungakwazi kwakho ukwenza imali.

Kancane kancane, uzithola uvaleleke, uncishwa izinsiza kanye nokuzethemba ukuze uphume wedwa. Lona kanye umgomo ofunwa yi-narcissistic pervert.

Imiphumela edabukisayo yodlame lwezezimali kuzisulu

Udlame lwezomnotho lunemiphumela emangazayo kuzo zonke izici zempilo yezisulu:

• Ukulahlekelwa okuphelele kokuzimela kwezezimali kanye nokungakwazi ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zomuntu
• Ukuzihlukanisa emphakathini ngoba akunakwenzeka ukuhlanganyela emisebenzini ekhokhelwayo
• Ukuwohloka kokuzethemba nokuphelelwa ukuzethemba ngamakhono omuntu
• Ukukhathazeka okuqhubekayo okuhlobene nokungavikeleki ngokwezimali
• Ubunzima bokubheka ikusasa nokwenza izinhlelo
• Ukuzizwa unecala namahloni
• Ukungakwazi ukushiya ubudlelwano ngenxa yokushoda kwezinsiza
• Ukuwohloka kwempilo engokomzimba nengokwengqondo

Esikhathini eside, i- imiphumela yezengqondo Imiphumela ingaba mibi kakhulu. Izisulu eziningi ziba nezinkinga zokukhathazeka noma zokucindezeleka. Abanye bangase babe nemicabango yokuzibulala ngenxa yokuntuleka kwamathuba okuthola usizo.

Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthatha isinyathelo ngokushesha ukuze uphume kulesi simo esinobuthi.

Amakhambi omthetho lapho kubhekene nodlame lwezomnotho

Udlame lwezomnotho lubonwa ngumthetho njengohlobo lodlame lwasekhaya ngokwalo. Ngakho-ke unendlela yomthetho yokuzivikela:

• Ungafaka isikhalazo ngomlingani wakho womshado ngodlame olungokwengqondo. Udlame lwezezimali lungena kulolu hlaka.
• Ijaji lenkantolo yomndeni lingakhipha incwadi yokuvikela ekuvumela ukuthi uhlale ekhaya lomndeni futhi edinga owakwakho ukuthi anikele ezindlekweni.
• Esimeni sesehlukaniso, udlame lwezomnotho luzocatshangelwa esahlulelweni futhi lungathonya inani lenzuzo yesinxephezelo.
• Uma oshade naye enenkontileka yezikweletu egameni lakho ngaphandle kwemvume yakho, ungacela ukwesulwa kwazo.
• Ungacela ukuthi kususwe imfihlo yasebhange ebhange lakho ukuze uthole ulwazi kuma-akhawunti oshade naye.

Ungangabazi ukufuna usizo kummeli okhethekile ukuze uthole amalungelo akho. Ezinye izinhlangano zinikeza iseluleko samahhala sezomthetho.

Ukwakha kabusha ukuzimela kwakho kwezezimali ngemuva kobudlelwano obunobuthi

Phuma ku-a ubuhlobo obunobuthi okuphawulwa ngodlame lwezomnotho akulula, kodwa kungenzeka. Nazi ezinye izindlela zokuthola kancane kancane ukuzimela kwakho ngokwezimali:

• Yenza ukuhlola okuphelele kwesimo sakho (iholo, izindleko, izikweletu okungenzeka) ukuze ubone izinto ngokucacile.
• Yakha isabelomali esinengqondo futhi ufunde ukuphatha izimali zakho ngokuzimela. Izinhlangano zinikeza ama-workshops ngale timu.
• Uma kunesidingo, cela ukwesekwa komphakathi ukuze ukusize ngezinqubo zakho zokuphatha.
• Ziqeqeshe ekuphathweni kwezimali ukuze uthole ukuzethemba namakhono.
• Zibekele imigomo yezezimali efinyelelekayo esikhathini esifushane nesimaphakathi.
• Funda ukuphatha impilo yakho ngemali, ngaphandle kwecala.
• Zizungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo abakukhuthazayo ohambweni lwakho lokuzithuthukisa.

Ukwakha kabusha kuthatha isikhathi, yiba nesineke futhi ube nomusa kuwe. Zonke izinyathelo ezincane zibalulekile!

Ungalutholaphi usizo uma kwenzeka uhlukumeza ngokwezimali?

Uma uyisisulu sodlame lwezomnotho, ungahlali wedwa. Izakhiwo eziningi zingakusiza:

• 3919: inombolo yocingo kazwelonke yabesifazane abayizisulu zodlame
• Izinhlangano ezikhethekile ezifana ne-FNSF noma i-CIDFF
• Osonhlalakahle bomkhakha
• Izikhungo Zolwazi Ngamalungelo Abesifazane Nemindeni (CIDFF)
• Izindlu Zabesifazane
• Iseluleko samahhala sezomthetho emahholo edolobha
• Udokotela wakho okhona ozokwazi ukukuqondisa
• Ongoti bengqondo abasebenza ngodlame lwasekhaya

Ungangabazi ukuxhumana nezinhlaka ezimbalwa ukuze uthole leyo ozizwa uqiniseka ngayo kakhulu.

Ireferensi yezincwadi ngodlame lwezezimali

Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibhili ngetimu yodlame lwezezimali:

1. U-Vanderlinden, A. (2016). Udlame lwezezimali: izinkinga nemiphumela. I-Press Universitaires de France.
2. U-Goupil, A., & Huet, M. (2019). Ukuqonda udlame lwezezimali: indlela ehlukahlukene. Editions L’Harmattan.
3. U-Cohen, M. (2020). Udlame lomnotho kanye nemiphumela yako ebudlelwaneni bamandla. Revue française de sociologie, 61(2), 245-268.
4. Ménard, F., & Thibault, M. (2018). Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokwezimali: uhlobo olusha lodlame. Amarekhodi Ezemfundo, 23(1), 87-102.
5. I-Lemoine, C. (2021). Udlame lwezezimali nokuncika kwezomnotho: izindaba zabesifazane. Ubulili, Ezocansi Nomphakathi, 18, 45-63.
6. Bourguignon, F. (2017). Ukungalingani kwezezimali nodlame: isixhumanisi okufanele sihlolwe. Ezomnotho Nezibalo, 500(3), 15-30.
7. U-Renaud, J. (2015). Udlame olungokomfanekiso kanye nezezimali: lapho imali iba yithuluzi lokubusa. Ijenali yeSociology yezinhlangano, 42, 67-82.

Lezi zithenjwa zinikeza isisekelo esiqinile sokuhlola itimu yodlame lwezezimali ngama-engeli ahlukene.

Isiphetho

Ukuxhashazwa ngokwezimali kuwuhlobo lokuhlukumeza okungathi sína olungaba nemiphumela elimazayo. Ukuqaphela kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuphuma kukho. Unamalungelo nezisetshenziswa ezikhona zokukusiza. Ungabi wedwa kulesi simo, ulinge ukukhuluma ngakho futhi ucele usizo. Kancane kancane, uzokwazi ukulawula impilo yakho kanye nezezimali zakho. Indlela ayilula kodwa inkululeko isisekupheleni. Unamandla ngaphakathi kuwe okufika lapho!

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