Ukuzimela Kwemizwelo: Ukubuyisela Ukulawula Ngemva Kobudlelwane Obunobuthi

Uma uke waba sebudlelwaneni nomuntu ohlushwa yi-pathological narcissism, uyazi ukuthi kungaba nzima kangakanani ukulawula imizwa yakho. Abaphendukezeli beNarcissistic banobunzima obukhulu bokulawula imizwa yabo ngendlela enempilo. Ukuze uphinde uthole amandla phezu kwempilo yakho yomzwelo, kubalulekile ukuchaza kabusha ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukulawula imizwa enempilo futhi elinganiselayo. Lesi isinyathelo sokuqala sokuzimela ngokomzwelo. Kulesi sihloko, sizohlola izici ezihlukene zalokhu kuphinda kuthathwe umuntu, isinyathelo ngesinyathelo.

Ukuqonda inkinga yokulawula imizwa yama-narcissistic perverts

Abantu abane i-pathological narcissism Banobunzima obukhulu ekulawuleni imizwa yabo ngendlela enempilo nelinganiselayo. Lokhu kungenye yezimbangela eziyinhloko zokungqubuzana nokucindezeleka ebudlelwaneni babo. Njengoba bengakwazi ukulawula imizwa yabo nokuqhuma kwentukuthelo, baphendukela ekuqhumeni kwemizwelo okuhambisana nokumemeza nokusongela, noma ekuthuleni okubandayo kanye nokuhoxa ngokomzwelo okujeziswayo. Lokhu kuguquguquka kudala ibhalansi engaqinisekile, lapho isisulu kufanele sihlale njalo hamba ngamagobolondo amaqanda ukugwema izimbangela zemizwa zomuntu ophambukile ozithanda ngokweqile.

Ngeshwa, uma ukhule nomzali obhuqayo noma uhlala ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi nomuntu one-narcissistic isikhathi eside, awuzange ube nethuba lokufunda amaphethini anempilo okulawula imizwa. Kunalokho, wachayeka ekuziphatheni okweqisayo, kusukela entukuthelweni enobudlova kakhulu kuye ekuthuleni okubandayo okucindezela kakhulu. Lokhu kungaholela ekuthuthukiseni amasu okulawula ngokweqile, lapho uvala khona imizwa yakho ngokuphelele, ngenxa yokwesaba imiphumela elimazayo yokuvezwa kwemizwelo okuzenzakalelayo.

Ukuchaza kabusha ukulawulwa kwemizwa okunempilo

Kodwa siyini isimiso somzwelo esinempilo nesilinganiselayo ngempela? Nazi ezinye izici ezibalulekile okufanele uzikhumbule:

• Veza imizwa yakho ngendlela efanele

Ebudlelwaneni obulinganiselayo, ungakwazi ukukhomba ngokucacile imizwa yakho, uyisho, futhi uphendule ngendlela efanele. Ukhala lapho udabukile, uhleke lapho ujabulile, futhi uzinike isikhathi sokucubungula intukuthelo yakho ngaphandle kokuthusa noma ukusongela umuntu okhuluma naye.

• Yazi ukuthi imizwa yakho ingeyakho

Imizwa yakho ingeyakho, futhi akudingekile ukuba uyiphoqelele kwabanye. Ungaziveza ngaphandle kokulindela ukuthi abanye bazizwe ngendlela efana ncamashi neyakho noma basabele ngendlela ethile.

• Veza imizwa yakho ngendlela eyakhayo

Akukho ukumemeza, izinsongo noma ukucekelwa phansi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ufunda ukuxhumana nemizwa yakho ngendlela ezolile futhi ezolile, ngaphandle kokuhlasela noma ukulimaza umxhumanisi wakho.

• Vumelanisa nomongo

Uyazi futhi ukuthi izimo ezithile azikuniki ukuveza imizwelo okungalawuleki. Uhlala uqaphela imvelo kanye nabantu abakhona ukuze balungise inkulumo yakho ngendlela efanele.

• Thuthukisa amasu okulawula imizwelo

Ukuzindla, ukuphefumula, ukuvivinya umzimba… Ubona amathuluzi akusiza ukuthi uxazulule imizwa yakho ngendlela enempilo neyakhayo.

• Buyela emuva futhi ucabange yomibili le mibono

Uyakwazi ukuzwa imizwa yakho ngokugcwele kuyilapho ukhumbula ukuthi abanye nabo banokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo siqu. Ukwengeza, awuzibheki njengenkaba yendawo yonke.

• Veza imizwa yakho, ungayicindezeli

Ukugcina yonke into kuwe akuwona umthetho. Kuyindlela yokuzihlukanisa nemizwa yakho, okungaba nemiphumela eyingozi empilweni yakho engokomzimba neyengqondo. Umgomo uwukuthola ibhalansi efanele phakathi kokuveza nokulawula imizwa yakho.

Ukwakha kabusha ukuzimela kwakho ngokomzwelo

Ngemva kokuhlala endaweni enobuthi lapho imizwelo yakho ingazange iqinisekiswe, noma inqatshelwe noma ijeziswe, kubalulekile ukuthi uphinde ukwazi ukulawula impilo yakho yomzwelo. Nazi ezinye izindlela zokufeza lokhu:

• Khomba futhi uveze imizwa yakho

Qala ngokuqaphela indlela ozizwa ngayo ngempela. Yisho imizwa yakho, ngaphandle kokuyihlulela. Thola izindlela ezinempilo zokuziveza, kungaba kujenali, nabantu obathandayo obathandayo, noma endaweni yokwelapha.

• Bonisa umusa kuwena

Yeka ukuzigxeka ngemizwa yakho. Zisemthethweni futhi zemvelo. Fundani ukukhuluma omunye komunye ngobumnene nangokuqonda, njengoba ubungenza kumngane.

• Misa imingcele enempilo

Isibindi sokuthi cha, ziqhelelanise uma kunesidingo. Akudingekile ukuba ubekezele ukuze ugcine ukuthula. Inhlalakahle yakho nokuvikeleka ngokomzwelo kuza kuqala.

• Thuthukisa eyakho ukuzihlonipha

Gxila ezimfanelweni zakho, impumelelo yakho, izindinganiso zakho. Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe ukuhlonishwa nokunakwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uziphatha kanjani i-narcissistic pervert.

• Zizungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo

Yakha inethiwekhi yosekelo enempilo nabantu abazisa ukuhluka kwakho nobuntu. Kancane kancane qhela ezintweni ezinobuthi kanye nobudlelwano obungenampilo.

• Yiba nesineke futhi uphikelele

Ukwakha kabusha ukuzimela kwakho ngokomzwelo kuyinqubo ende futhi ngezinye izikhathi ebuhlungu. Yiba nomusa kuwe. Sonke isinyathelo esincane sibalulekile, futhi ungaziqhenya ngakho konke ukunqoba, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuncane kangakanani.

Ngokusebenzela ukulawula imizwelo yakho, kancane kancane uphinde ukwazi ukulawula ukuphila kwakho. Awusekho emseni wemizwa kanye nezifiso ze-narcissistic pervert. Uba uchwepheshe wemizwa yakho, ukwazi ukuyamukela ngomusa futhi uyiveze ngendlela eyakhayo. Kuyisiqalo senkathi entsha yokukhula komuntu siqu nenkululeko yomzwelo.

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