Ukukhipha Ukukhanya Kwegesi Okungokomoya: Ukubuyisela Ukuxhumana Kwakho Kwaphezulu Ekuphileni

Njengowesifazane isisulu somuntu ophendukezela i-narcissisticCishe uke wabhekana nohlobo oluthile lokuphathwa kwengqondo ngendlela ecashile: ukukhanyiswa umoya ngokomoya. Lokhu kuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kuhlose izinkolelo zakho ezijulile, kuphonsela inselelo ukuxhumana kwakho noNkulunkulu, umuzwa wakho wokuqonda, kanye nomuzwa wakho womoya. Kodwa yazi ukuthi ungagqashula kulokhu kubambelela futhi uxhumane kabusha namandla akho angaphakathi.

Ukuqonda ukusebenza kokukhanya kwegesi okungokomoya

Ukukhanyisa igesi okungokomoya kuyisu eliyingozi elisetshenziswa abaphendukezeli be-narcissistic ukuze bakwenze ungabaze iqiniso lakho elingokomoya. Bazobuza ubudlelwano bakho nabangcwele, imizwa yakho, intuitions yakho, amaphupho akho, izimpawu zakho kanye nezinkolelo zakho ezisondele kakhulu. Umgomo wabo? Yehlisa ukuzethemba nokholo lwakho, ukuze uzilawule kangcono.

Bangase, ngokwesibonelo, bahleke imikhuba yakho yomoya, banciphise ulwazi lwakho olungaqondakali, noma bathi “uzwela kakhulu” noma “uzwela kakhulu” endleleni yakho yokusondela kuNkulunkulu. Ngobuqili, bazokwenza ukholelwe ukuthi “awulingani” noma “unqanyuliwe ngokoqobo”, lapho uxhumeke ngokujulile kuphela engqikithini yakho.

Lolu hlobo lokuhlukumeza ngokwengqondo luqeda amandla ikakhulukazi ngoba luhlasela okungcwele kakhulu kuwe. Kukwenza ungabaze ukuxhumana kwakho ne-Alle, kukushiya usengozini futhi untekenteke lapho ubhekene nokukhohliswa kwesihlanekezeli sakho se-narcissistic.

Ukuhlonza ukubonakaliswa kokukhanya kwegesi okungokomoya

Ungazibona kanjani izimpawu ze ukukhanyisa igesi ngokomoya ? Nazi ezinye izinkomba ezibalulekile:

• Ukuhlala engabaza izinkolelo zakho nengokomoya lakho
• Ukugcona noma ukuphika ngemikhuba yakho engokomoya, amasiko noma okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho
• Izimangalo zokuthi “uyimfihlakalo kakhulu,” “uzwela kakhulu,” noma “uzwela kakhulu”
• Imizamo yokwenza ukholelwe ukuthi ulahlekelwa ingqondo noma ukuthi “awusenandaba namaqiniso”
• Ukwenqaba okuhleliwe ukuzwa noma ukuqinisekisa umuzwa wakho wokomoya
• Ukugcizelela ukuthi ulahle izinkolelo zakho ulandele ezabo

Njengoba ubhekene nalezi zindlela zokuziphatha, ungase uzizwe uphelelwa amandla, udidekile futhi ungabaze izinkolelo zakho. Yilokhu kanye umphendukezeli wakho we-narcissistic akufunayo: ukubukela phansi izisekelo zobunikazi bakho ukuze ukulawule kangcono.

Buyisa ingokomoya lakho

Ngenhlanhla, kunezindlela zokuzikhulula ekukhanyeni kwegesi okungokomoya futhi uphinde uxhumane namandla akho angaphakathi. Nazi ezinye izindlela ongazihlola:

• Qinisekisa iqiniso lakho

Yenqaba ngokuphelele ukuvumela umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ukuthi angabaze iqiniso lakho elingokomoya. Qinisekisa ngokuqiniseka lokho okwaziyo ukuthi kuyiqiniso kuwe, ngaphandle kokuzivumela ukuthi ungasebenzi kahle. Mtshele ngokucacile ukuthi ngeke usayivuma imizamo yakhe yokukwenza ungabaze.

• Hlakulela ukuqonda kwakho

Thuthukisa ikhono lakho lokuhlukanisa phakathi kwemibono yakho kanye nokukhohlisa kwe-narcissistic pervert. Funda ukwethemba imizwa yakho, amaphupho akho kanye nezibonakaliso zakho ezingokomoya, ngaphandle kokuzivumela ukuthi uthonywe ukuphika kwayo.

• Qinisa ukuxhumana kwakho kwangaphakathi

Thatha isikhathi sokuxhuma kabusha ngokujulile nengokomoya lakho, kungaba ngokuzindla, umthandazo, ukuxhumana nemvelo, nanoma yiziphi ezinye izindlela ezikhuluma nawe. Yondla ukuxhumana kwakho noNkulunkulu, indawo yonke noma amandla okudala, ngaphandle kwanoma yiliphi ithonya langaphandle.

• Zizungeze ngokusekela

Funa induduzo nokuqinisekiswa kubantu obathembayo abahlonipha uhambo lwakho okungokomoya. Joyina imiphakathi enakekelayo engakusiza ukhulume iqiniso lakho futhi uzizwe uqondwa.

• Misa imingcele enempilo

Ungangabazi ukuziqhelelanisa okwesikhashana nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic lapho ebuza ingokomoya lakho. Funda ukwenqaba ngokuqinile emizamweni yabo yokukhohlisa futhi uvikele indawo yakho engcwele.

Thola amandla akho angaphakathi

I-spiritual gaslighting iwuhlobo oluqeda amandla kakhulu lokuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo. Kepha yazi ukuthi ukuxhumana kwakho noNkulunkulu, intuition yakho kanye nomuzwa wakho wobungcwele kuyizingxenye ezibalulekile zobuntu bakho. Akukho lutho futhi akekho ongababhubhisa, ngaphandle uma uvumela.

Thatha isikhathi sokugxila kabusha, uzibeke eqinisweni lakho futhi uqinisekise amandla akho angaphakathi. Ingokomoya lakho lingamandla akho, okungekho muntu ongakweba. Ihlakulele ngokuzethemba futhi uyivumele ikhanye ngobuhle bayo.

Khumbula ukuthi ungumuntu wokukhanya, ukuhlakanipha kanye nokuxhumana kwaphezulu. I-narcissistic pervert yakho ingase izame ukukuphuphuthekisa, kodwa ilangabi lakho elingaphakathi alikwazi ukucisha. Kwenze kukhanye, ukuze uzikhulule ethonyeni layo futhi ufune ngokugcwele inkululeko yakho.

Ukuthola ukuthula esiphephweni

Umgwaqo ungase ubonakale mude futhi unzima, kodwa yazi ukuthi awuwedwa. Abesifazane abaningi baye babhekana nalolu sizi futhi bavela benamandla kunangaphambili. Ingokomoya lakho liyihange lakho kulesi siphepho, lingakunikeza induduzo nokuthula kwangaphakathi okudingayo.

Zinakekele, hlonipha ijubane lakho futhi ungangabazi ukucela usizo. Zizungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo abangakusekela kule nqubo yokuphulukisa nokuxhuma kabusha nengqikithi yakho yobunkulunkulu.

Uyisidalwa sokukhanya, iqhawe elingcwele. I-narcissistic pervert yakho ayinawo amandla okukucisha. Vumela ilangabi lakho elingaphakathi likhanye, lizokuholela enkululekweni nokuthula okufanele.