Amanxeba Angabonakali: Indlela Yokuphulukisa Ukugula Okungokomoya?

Theukuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic Kushiya izibazi ezijulile, hhayi nje kuphela ezingeni lomzimba nelomzwelo, kodwa nakwelingokomoya, okuholela ezifweni zangempela ezingokomoya. Lawa manxeba angabonakali, abangelwa ngumuntu ohlukumezayo othanda ukuzikhukhumeza, anyakazisa umphefumulo kanye nengqikithi yokuba khona. Lesi sihloko sihlola lezi zimo ezivame ukunganakwa futhi sinikeza izindlela zokuphulukiswa.

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Izimbangela eziyinhloko zokulimala okungabonakali

Izilonda ezingabonakali, ezibuye zibizwe ngokuthi ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo, zingaba nemithelela ejulile nehlala njalo empilweni nasengqondweni yomuntu. Nazi izimbangela eziyinhloko zalokhu kulimala okuvame ukunganakwa:

1. Ukuhlukumezeka kwasebuntwaneni
   • Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo noma ngokocansi
   • Ukunganakwa kwabazali
   • Ukuchayeka odlameni lwasekhaya
   • Ukushonelwa umzali noma othandekayo kusenesikhathi
2. Udlame phakathi kwabantu
   • Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba noma ngokocansi
   • Ukuhlukunyezwa isikhathi eside (ukuxhashazwa)
   • Udlame lwasekhaya
   • Ukwesabisa noma izinsongo eziqhubekayo
3. Ukukhohlisa kwengqondo
   • Ukukhanyisa igesi (ukukhohlisa kwengqondo)
   • Ithonya lamahlelo
   • Ubudlelwano nozakwethu we-narcissistic noma we-psychopathic

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi la manxeba angabonakali, nakuba engabonakali ngokomzimba, angaba nemiphumela emibi kakhulu empilweni yengqondo, ubudlelwano kanye nezinga lempilo yalabo abathintekile. Ukwelashwa nokusekelwa ngokwengqondo kubalulekile ukusiza ukwelapha kulokhu kuhlukumezeka.

Izifo Ezi-4 Zomoya Ezibangelwa Ukuhlukunyezwa Kwe-Narcissistic

Umthelela wokuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic udlula kude amanxeba angokomzwelo abonakalayo. Ifinyelela ekujuleni komphefumulo, idale umonakalo ocashile kodwa ojulile.

1.Umphefumulo Ophukile: Lapho Ukukhathala Kufika Emgogodleni Wobuntu Bakho

Ukuhlukunyezwa kweNarcissistic kuqeda amandla. Ngaphandle kokukhathala ngokomzimba, yiwona kanye umongo wakho ozizwa ukhathele. Uzizwa sengathi unikele ngakho konke ngaphandle kokuthola lutho olubuyiselayo, ushiya umphefumulo wakho ukhathele futhi ulimele.

Ukukhashelwa okuphindaphindiwe kushiya izibazi ezijulile ezingathatha isikhathi ukuphola. Leli nxeba emphefumulweni livame ukubonakala njengomzwelo wokuthi ingaphakathi elingenalutho ephikelelayo.

2. Ukucasuka nokucasuka: Izibazi ezishiywa ukukhashelwa

Intukuthelo efanelekile ngenxa yokungabi nabulungisa okuphathekayo ingase iphenduke inkani. Lo muzwa wokuthi usetshenzisiwe futhi ukhashiwe ushiya ukunambitheka okubabayo okuhlala isikhathi eside ngemva kokuphela kobudlelwane obunobuthi.

Ukuphelelwa ithemba okuba khona ngemva kweminyaka eminingi yemizamo eyize kungase kubonakale kungenakunqotshwa. Kuthinta ingqikithi yobuntu bakho, kungabaza umbono wakho ngomhlaba nendawo yakho kuwo.

3. Ukuphelelwa ithemba nokunganeliseki: Lapho ithemba seliphelile

Ngemva kweminyaka yokuzama “ukusindisa” ubuhlobo, uzithola unganelisekile ngokujulile. Ukuphelelwa ithemba kuvela ngenxa yamathuba alahlekile namaphupho ashabalele.

Ukucindezelwa okungokomoya mhlawumbe inxeba elicashe kakhulu elibangelwaukuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic. Kuthinta ingqikithi yakho, kuvimbe ukukhanya kwakho kwangaphakathi.

4. Ingcindezelo Engokomoya: Lapho ingqikithi yakho icindezelekile

Ngokwehliswa nokusetshenziswa, ingqondo yakho izizwa icindezelwe. Izinkolelo zakho, izindinganiso zakho, kanye nokuthi ungubani kuye kwangabazeka, okushiya umuzwa wokucindezelwa ngokomoya. Lokhu kuyingxenye yezifo ezingokomoya.

Ukuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic kuwuthinta kanjani umzimba nengqondo?

Ukuchayeka isikhathi eside ekucindezelekeni ngokomzwelo nasekuguleni ngokomoya okubangelwa umlingani othanda ukubhuqa kungase kubangele ukusabela okuhlukahlukene emzimbeni. Isimiso sezinzwa sihlala siqaphile, sikhipha amahomoni okucindezeleka njenge-cortisol ne-adrenaline. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lokhu kungaholela ezinkingeni ezinkulu zempilo:

• Ukuphazamiseka kokugaya ukudla kanye namathumbu
• Izinkinga zenhliziyo
• Ubuhlungu bekhanda obungapheli
• Ubuhlungu bemisipha
• Ukuphazamiseka kokulala
• Ukukhathazeka nokudangala
• Ukungasebenzi kahle kwamasosha omzimba.

Ibheke ekuzalweni kabusha okungokomoya

Ukubuyiselwa ekuhlukunyezweni kwe-narcissistic kuyindlela ende futhi kwesinye isikhathi enzima. Nokho, abesifazane abaningi bafakaza ukuthi ngale kobuhlungu, lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kungaholela ekuzalweni kabusha okungokomoya kwangempela. Ngokubhekana nala manxeba ajulile, ungathola kabusha amandla akho angaphakathi nokuqina.

Nakuba imiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic ingase ibonakale ingenakunqotshwa, ukululama kungenzeka. Abesifazane abaningi babika ukuthuthuka okumangalisayo empilweni yabo ngemva kokuzikhulula ebuhlotsheni obunobuthi.

Izikhombo zezincwadi zokuphulukisa amanxeba angabonakali

Nalu uhlu lwezikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibhili ngamanxeba angabonakali:

1. Racamier, uPaul-Claude (1986). Ukuguqulwa kweNarcissistic.
2. Ama-Editions Ellipses (2020). Izisulu zama-narcissistic perverts: ukuphulukisa ukuhlukumezeka.
3. Cabanga futhi Wenze (2019). Ukulimala kweNarcissistic: izimbangela, imiphumela kanye nezixazululo zokukulungisa.
4. Umama oNgcwele (2020). Imiphumela yengqondo ebangelwa ama-narcissistic perverts.
5. Enye I-Universe (2021). Ungazikhulula kanjani ekuhlukumezekeni okwenziwa umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic.
6. radio France (2019). Ama-Perverts nama-narcisists: izindlela zokulawula kwengqondo.
7. Ukusekelwa Kwe-Psychic ku-inthanethi (2022). Ukusabela oku-3 kwengcindezi enkulu kuzisulu zama-narcissistic perverts.

Lezi zithenjwa zinikeza ukubuka konke okuhle kwemiphumela yengqondo engabonakali ebangelwa ama-narcissistic perverts, kuyilapho futhi inikeza izindlela zokwelapha zokwelapha.

Isiphetho

Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe inhlonipho, uthando nokuthula. Ngokusekelwa nokuzimisela, ungazakha kabusha futhi ubuyele ekuphileni okwanelisayo, ngaphandle kokuhlukunyezwa. Zonke izinyathelo ezincane eziya ekwelapheni ziwukunqoba. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukubekezela kanye nokwesekwa okufanele, kuyenzeka ukwedlulele ukugula okungokomoya okubangelwa ukuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic futhi kuchume futhi, kunamandla futhi kuhlakaniphe kunakuqala.