I-infernal spiral yodlame lwe-narcissistic pervert

Uzizwa uvaleleke ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi? Uzizwa sengathi uvaleleke hamba ngamagobolondo amaqanda Njalo? Ungase ube yisisulu somhlukumezi othanda ukuzikhukhumeza. Ake sihlole ndawonye ukuthi singayibona kanjani futhi sibalekele kanjani lo mjikelezo omubi wokuhlukunyezwa othanda ukuzikhukhumeza.

Ukuqonda ukugqugquzelwa kodlame lwe-narcissistic pervert

Udlame lwe-narcissistic pervert aluhlali lubonakala ngokushesha. Ingena ngokucashile, njengolwembu lwesicabucabu, ngaphambi kokukumboza ngokuphelele. Lolu dlame luvamise ukulandela umjikelezo ochazwe kahle, ophindaphindayo futhi ushube ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Izigaba zomjikelezo wodlame

Umjikelezo wokuhlukumeza ebudlelwaneni ne-narcissist ngokuvamile ulandela iphethini ebikezelwayo, ehlanganisa izigaba ezine ezihlukene. Ukuqonda lezi zigaba kungakusiza ukuthi ubone umjikelezo futhi uqaphele isimo sakho.

1. Ukwanda kokushuba

Phakathi nalesi sigaba, uzwa sengathi kukhona okungalungile. Umlingani wakho uyacasuka futhi akude. Uzama ngakho konke ongakwenza ukuze ubathulisa, kodwa kubonakala sengathi akukho okusebenzayo. Uzithola uhamba phezu kwamagobolondo amaqanda, ulindele konke ukusabela kwawo. Lesi sikhathi sibonakala ngokukhula kokukhathazeka kanye nomuzwa wokungabi namandla lapho ubhekene nokungenakugwenywa.

2. Ukuqhuma kodlame

Kulapho umfutho oqoqiwe uqhuma khona. Ubudlova bungaba ngamazwi, ingqondo, noma ngokomzimba. Uzizwa ungenakuzisiza futhi ululazekile. Ukuhlaselwa kungahluka ngokuqina, kusukela ekuthukweni kuya ekushayweni. Lesi sigaba, nakuba ngokuvamile sifushane, sishiya izibazi ezingokomzwelo ezijulile nezihlala njalo.

3. Ukulungisiswa kanye Necala

Ngemva kokuqhuma kwentukuthelo, umhlukumezi ozikhukhumezayo uzama ukuzithethelela ngezenzo zakhe. Ukwenza uthwale umthwalo wentukuthelo yakhe. Uqala ukungabaza futhi uzizwe unecala. Usebenzisa amasu okuphatha njengoba ukukhanyisa igesi ukwenza ukholwe ukuthi umbono wakho ngeqiniso ungamanga. Lesi sigaba siqinisa ukudideka kwakho futhi sinciphise ukuzethemba kwakho.

4. Ukubuyisana noma “i-honeymoon”

Ukuzola kuyabuya okwesikhashana. Uzakwenu angase anake, athembise ukuthi lokhu ngeke kuphinde kwenzeke. Uthola ithemba, kodwa ngeshwa, kungokwesikhashana. Lesi sigaba sinobuqili ikakhulukazi ngoba sikwenza ungabaze ubucayi besimo. Kuphinde kuqinisa ukunamathela kwakho ngokomzwelo kumlingani wakho, kwenze isinqumo sokushiya sibe nzima kakhulu.

Izimpawu eziyisixwayiso ukuthi ungazizibi

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela izimpawu eziyisixwayiso zalokhu kwehla kwenyuka. Nazi ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha ezihlanekezelwe yi-narcissistic:

• Ikwehlukanisa nabantu obathandayo
• Uhlala egxeka ukukhetha nezenzo zakho
• Ulawula imizwa yakho
• Uyaphika noma unciphisa izenzo zakhe zobudlova
• Ishintshana phakathi kwezikhathi zobubele nonya

Ungaphunyula kanjani lo mkhuba ononya?

Ukuphuma kulesi simo akulula, kodwa kungenzeka. Nazi izinyathelo zokukusiza:

1. Vuma isimo: Vuma ukuthi uyisisulu udlame
2. Khuluma ngakho: thulula isifuba sakho kobathandayo noma ochwepheshe
3. Zivikele: beka uhlelo lokuvikela endaweni
4. Funa usizo: xhumana nezinhlangano ezikhethekile
5. Zakhe kabusha: zinakekele futhi uphinde uthole ukuzethemba kwakho.

Ukubaluleka kokwesekwa ohambweni lwakho

Khumbula, awuwedwa. Abesifazane abaningi baye babhekana nezimo ezifanayo futhi basinda. Ukusekelwa obathandayo, ochwepheshe, nabanye abasindile kungenza umehluko endleleni yakho yenkululeko.

Kubalulekile ukuzungeza abantu abakhathalelayo abazokulalela ngaphandle kokwahlulela futhi basekele izinqumo zakho. Amaqembu okusekela ama-Narcissist nawo angaba usizo olukhulu, akuvumele ukuthi wabelane ngolwazi lwakho futhi uzizwe unesizungu kancane.

Imiphumela yesikhathi eside yodlame olungokwengqondo

La ubuhlobo obunobuthi Ukuba nomuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza kungakushiya… imiphumela yezengqondo kubalulekile, ngisho nangemva kokuhlukana. Kuvamile ukuzizwa:

• Ukwehla kokuzethemba
• Izimpawu zokucindezeleka kwangemva kokuhlukumezeka
• Ukukhathazeka novalo
• Ukucindezeleka
• Ubunzima bokuthembela ebuhlotsheni obusha

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela lezi zimpawu futhi ufune usizo lochwepheshe ukuze uzinqobe. Ukwelapha, ikakhulukazi izindlela ezifana ne-EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) noma i-CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), ingasebenza kahle kakhulu ekwelapheni lolu hlobo lokuhlukumezeka.

Ireferensi yezincwadi ngodlame lwe-narcissistic pervert

Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibheli endikimbeni yodlame oluhlobene nama-narcissistic perverts:

1. ULévy, M. (2016). I-Narcissistic Pervert: Ukuqonda Nokugqamisa Izindlela Zakhe Ezikhohlisayo. I-Paris: Editions Albin Michel.
2. Menard, M. (2011). Ukuxhaphaza Imizwelo kubabhangqwana: Ukuqonda Kangcono Ukusiza Kangcono. I-Paris: Éditions Eyrolles.
3. Grosjean, A. (2014). Ubudlelwano Obunobuthi: Ukuqonda Izindlela Zokukhohlisa. I-Paris: Editions de l’Homme.
4. Cohen, E. (2013). Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokokuziphatha: Ukukuqonda nokukunqanda. EParis: Editions L’Harmattan.
5. Béguin, A. (2015). I-Narcissistic perverts: ububi besimanje. Paris: Éditions Dunod.
6. UDelaunay, S. (2012). I-Narcissistic Perverts: Ukukhipha ubuthi. I-Paris: I-J’ai lu Editions.
7. Kern, L. (2017). Ubudlelwano obunobuthi kanye ne-Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Ukubuyekezwa KwePsychology Yomtholampilo, 23(1), 45-60.

Lezi zithenjwa zizokuvumela ukuthi ujulise ukuqonda kwakho udlame oluhlotshaniswa nama-narcissistic perverts, ngokomcabango nangokungokoqobo.

Ngasohlangothini lwekusasa elisha kude nodlame lwe-narcissistic pervert

Ukugqashula kumjikelezo ononya wokuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic kuyinqubo edinga isibindi nokubekezela. Kodwa zonke izinyathelo zikusondeza empilweni engcono, lapho ekugcineni ungaba nguwe futhi uchume.

Khumbula: Ufanelwe inhlonipho, uthando, nokuphepha. Ungangabazi ukucela usizo. Injabulo nenhlalakahle yakho iyigugu.