I-cognitive dissonance: Isicupho sama-narcissists

Wake wezwa sengathi kukhona okungahambi kahle ebudlelwaneni benu, kodwa wehluleka nokubeka umunwe kukho? I-dissonance kwengqondo ingaba ukhiye wokuqonda lesi simo esikhathazayo. Ake sihlole ndawonye lo mqondo wezengqondo kanye nomthelela wawo ebudlelwaneni nabantu abane-narcissistic.

Iyini i-cognitive dissonance?

I-cognitive dissonance yisimo sokungezwani kwengqondo okwenzeka lapho izinkolelo zethu, ukuziphatha kanye nolwazi esilutholayo kungahambisani. Ukunciphisa lokhu kungezwani okungaphatheki kahle, sivame ukushintsha enye yalezi zici, ngokuvamile singazi.

I-cognitive dissonance isenzakalo esibangela ukuba sithethelele ukuziphatha okuphikisanayo ukuze silondoloze ukunethezeka kwengqondo yethu. Ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi, lokhu kungase kuhumushe emicabangweni efana nokuthi, “Ubemuhle kule mpelasonto, ukucasuka kwakhe akukubi kangako.” Kuyindlela yokuzivikela yemvelo, kodwa ingasigcina sisesimweni esiyingozi.

I-cognitive dissonance: isicupho sengqondo

Ukungezwani kwengqondo ukungqubuzana kwangaphakathi esikuzwayo lapho izinkolelo zethu zingafani neqiniso. Ebudlelwaneni nomuntu olalayo, singase sibe nenkinga yokwamukela ukuthi umuntu esimthandayo uyasilimaza. Lokhu kungqubuzana kudala ukungakhululeki ngokwengqondo esifuna ukukuxazulula, ngezinye izikhathi ngokuhlala ebudlelwaneni naphezu kobunzima.

Isidingo sokuqiniseka: isithiyo sokushintsha

Kungokwemvelo ukufuna ukuqiniseka ngo-100% ngaphambi kokwenza isinqumo esibalulekile. Nokho, lesi sidingo sokuqiniseka singasenza sihlale esimweni esinobuthi isikhathi eside kakhulu. Siyaqhubeka nokubheka ubufakazi, sinethemba loshintsho, lapho izimpawu sezivele zikhona.

Imiphumela yokulinda isikhathi eside

Ngeshwa, uma sihlala isikhathi eside ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi, kungaba mkhulu umonakalo wokuzethemba nenhlalakahle yethu. Nansi eminye imiphumela engaba khona:

• Ukungabaza okuqhubekayo mayelana nokwahlulela kwethu
• Ubunzima bokwethemba
• Yehlisa ukuzethemba
• Ukuthambekela kokuhlala uzibuza

Kungani sihlala ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi ne-narcissist?

Kungenzeka ukuthi uyazibuza ukuthi kungani uhlala ebudlelwaneni obunzima nomuntu ophuza utshwala, naphezu kwazo zonke izimpawu eziyisixwayiso. I-cognitive dissonance ngokuvamile idlala indima ebalulekile kulesi simo. Ake sihlole le nto ndawonye futhi sithole ukuthi ungabuyisela kanjani ukulawula impilo yakho.

I-cognitive dissonance ibonakala kanjani ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi?

Ebudlelwaneni nozakwethu we-narcissistic, i-cognitive dissonance ingabonakala ngezindlela eziningana:

1. Ukuthethelelwa kokuziphatha okuhlukumezayo
2. Ukunciphisa izici ezingezinhle zobudlelwano
3. Ukuqagela okudlulele kozakwethu
4. Ukuphika iqiniso elingajabulisi

Kungani sihlala ku-deflation enobuthi?

I-cognitive dissonance idlala indima enkulu ekuthambekeni kwethu kokuhlala ubudlelwano obunobuthi. Nazi ezinye izizathu:

• Ukwesaba okungaziwa noshintsho
• Ngethemba ukuthi umlingani uzoshintsha
• Ukunamathela ngokomzwelo kanye ukuncika okuthintekayo
• Ukuzenyeza

Ungayibona kanjani i-cognitive dissonance empilweni yakho?

Nazi ezinye zezimpawu zokuthi ungase ube ne-cognitive dissonance:

• Uzithola usubeka izaba ngokuziphatha komlingani wakho
• Ubukela phansi izinkinga ebudlelwaneni bakho
• Ugxila ezikhathini ezinhle kuphela futhi ungazinaki ezimbi
• Unobunzima bokuvuma ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho abuhambi ngendlela obungathanda ngayo

Indlela yokunqoba i-cognitive dissonance?

Ukunqoba i-dissonance engqondweni akulula, kodwa kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile ekuphumeni ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi. Nawa amanye amathiphu:

1. Qaphela imicabango nemizwa yakho
2. Qaphela ukuziphatha okuyinkinga kozakwenu
3. Khuluma nabantu obathembayo
4. Bona uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo
5. Funda ukuthemba intuition yakho

Ukubaluleka kokuqinisekisa enqubweni yokwelapha

Ukuqinisekisa okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho nemizwelo kubalulekile ukuze unqobe i-dissonance kwengqondo. Ungangabazi ukufuna ukwesekwa kobathandayo noma umelaphi ongakusiza ubone isimo ngokucacile.

Sengiphetha, ukuqonda indima ye-cognitive dissonance ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile ekuphulukiseni nasekukhuleni komuntu siqu. Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe ubuhlobo obunempilo nobulinganiselayo, nokuthi iqiniso, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ukulamukela, liyisihluthulelo senkululeko yakho.

Izimpawu zobudlelwano be-narcissistic

Nazi ezinye izinkomba ezingakuxwayisa:

• Ukushintshashintsha kwemizwa okungalindelekile
• Izikhathi zobubele zilandelwa yizikhathi zokubanda
• Ukusola njalo nokuntula uzwelo
• Ukuphathwa kwemizwa okucashile

Uma uzibona ukulezi zimo, kubalulekile ukuthi ungakunciphisi lokhu kuziphatha.

Izikhombo ze-bibliographic mayelana ne-cognitive dissonance

Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibhiliyografi endikimbeni ye-cognitive dissonance:

1. UFestinger, uL. (1957). Ithiyori ye-cognitive dissonance. I-Press Universitaires de France.
2. Beauvois, J.-L., & Joule, R.-V. (1996). Ukuhanjiswa Kokuzithandela: Ubathola Kanjani Abantu Ukuba Bakwenze Ngokukhululeka Lokho Okufanele Bakwenze. I-Press Universitaires de France.
3. Joule, R.-V., & Beauvois, J.-L. (1998). I-cognitive dissonance: Lapho izenzo ziphikisana nezinkolelo. e Ukwelapha nge-psychology yezenhlalo (amakhasi 201-225). I-Press Universitaires de Grenoble.
4. Monteil, J.-M. (1989). I-cognitive dissonance kanye nemithelela yayo kwezemfundo. I-French Journal of Pedagogy, I-89, i-45-56.
5. Moscow, S. (1984). I-psychology yezenhlalo. I-Press Universitaires de France.
6. Beauvois, J.-L. (2001). I-cognitive dissonance: Ithiyori esekhona namanje. L’Année Psychologique, 101 (1), 123-165.
7. Joule, R.-V. (2004). I-cognitive dissonance kanye ne-rationalization yokuziphatha. e Imibono enengqondo (amakhasi 75-92). Odile Jacob Editions.

Lezi zincwadi nezindatshana zinikeza umbono ojulile mayelana nethiyori ye-cognitive dissonance kanye nokusetshenziswa kwayo emikhakheni eyahlukene.

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