Ukwesaba ukulahlwa ku-narcissistic pervert: Indida yomzwelo

I-narcissistic pervert, evame ukubonwa njengekhohlisayo ebandayo nebalayo, empeleni ifihla ubungozi obujulile: ukwesaba ukulahlwa. Lokhu kwesaba, okusekelwe emaphethini okunamathela ayinkimbinkimbi, kuthonya kakhulu ukuziphatha komuntu kanye nobudlelwano. Ukuqonda lokhu kuguquguquka kubalulekile ekudambiseni i-pathological narcissism kanye nokuhlola izindlela ezingenzeka zokululama.

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I-Narcissistic Relationship Cycle: Imaski Yokuba sengcupheni

Ubudlelwano nomuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza ngokuvamile bulandela iphethini elibikezelwayo: ukwenziwa ngcono, ukwehla kwenani, ukwenqatshwa, kanye nokubuya okunamandla (ukuhovaLo mjikelezo unikeza umbono wokuthi umuntu ozithanda ngokweqile ulawula ngokuphelele. Kodwa-ke, empeleni indlela yokuzivikela kwathuthukiswa ngenxa yokwesaba kokuqala: ukwesaba ukushiywa.

Ubuthakathaka obufihliwe be-narcissist

Ngokuphambene nokubukeka, i-narcissistic pervert isengozini enkulu yokulahlwa. Lokhu kuba sengozini kusekelwe ezindleleni zokunamathisela ezingasebenzi, ngokuvamile ezikhathazayo, ezingahlelekile noma ezigwenywayo. Lawa maphethini okunamathiselwe, akhiwe ngesikhathi sobuntwana, afaka engozini ikhono le-narcissist lokusungula izibopho ezingokomzwelo ezizinzile nezivikelekile.

Ukwesaba kwe-narcissist ukulahlwa kuyindida. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, wesaba ngokujulile ukusondelana ngokomzwelo okungamenza abe sengozini. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, wesaba kakhulu ukuba yedwa futhi waliwe. Lokhu kungqubuzana kwangaphakathi kubhebhezela ukuziphatha kwakhe okuguquguqukayo nokuvame ukuphikisana ebudlelwaneni bakhe.

Ukusabela kwe-narcissist ekulahlekeni

Uma uzakwethu eshiya ubudlelwano be-narcissistic, kubangela uhla lwezimpendulo ezijulile zemizwa ku-narcissistic pervert:

1. Ukufutheka kweNarcissistic: Ukusabela okuqhumayo okuhloselwe ukuthola ukulawula futhi nokujezisa uzakwethu “ngokushiya”.
2. Ukunganaki okuzenzisiwe: Indlela yokuzivikela yokuvikela ukuzicabangela kwakhe okuntekenteke, ngokwenza sengathi ukulahlekelwa akusho lutho.
3. I-Hoovering: Imizamo yobuqili yokubuyisela uzakwethu ebudlelwaneni, ngokuvamile ngezithembiso zoshintsho noma izinsongo ezicashile.
4. Ukuhlukunyezwa: Ukuzethula njengesisulu sokulahlwa ukuze ukhiqize uzwela futhi ugweme umthwalo wemfanelo.
5. Ukwehla kwenani ngokwedlulele: Ukululaza ngokwedlulele ozakwethu wangaphambili ukuze balondoloze ukuzethemba kwabo.

Lokhu kusabela, nakuba kuhlukene, kunomgomo ofanayo: ukuvikela i-narcissist ebuhlungwini bomzwelo bokushiywa.

Inkinga yokulahlwa: Okuhlangenwe nakho okubalulekile

Ithemba lokuhlukana, ngisho nesikhashana, lingabangela inkinga yangempela yokulahlwa ku-narcissistic pervert. Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, ngokuvamile okungalingani nesimo, kuveza ukujula kokwesaba kwakhe. I-narcissist ingase ithukuthele, iphikisane, noma ngokuphambene, ibe nothando olungajwayelekile emzamweni onzima wokugcina ukuxhumana.

Izimpande Zokwesaba: Imibono Yokunamathisela

Ucwaningo mayelana nokunamathiselwe lunikeza ukuqonda okubalulekile ekwesabeni kwe-narcissist ukulahlwa. Izitayela zokunamathisela ezingasebenzi kahle ezibonwa kuma-narcissists ngokuvamile ziwumphumela wokuhlangenwe nakho kwangaphambi kwesikhathi kokunganakwa okungokomzwelo, ukuhlukumeza, noma umzali ongaguquki.

• Theokunamathiselwe kokukhathazeka Lokhu kusunduza umuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza ukuba ahlale esaba ukulahlwa, kuyilapho ngokumangalisayo efuna ukugcina ibanga elingokomzwelo.
• Ukunamathela okungahlelekile kudala ukungaboni ngaso linye phakathi kwesidingo sokusondelana kanye nokwesaba ukusondelana.
• Ukugwema ukunamathela kuholela i-narcissist ukuba igweme ukusondelana ngokomzwelo ukuze izivikele ebuhlungwini obungaba khona bokushiywa.

Lawa maphethini okunamathiselwe angasebenzi abhebhezela umjikelezo wokuziphatha okunobuthi ebudlelwaneni be-narcissist.

I-Hoovering: Ukubonakaliswa kokwesaba ukulahlwa

the ” ukuhova“, umkhuba wokuzama ukubuyisela umlingani wangaphambili ebudlelwaneni, kuwukubonakaliswa okuqondile kokwesaba kwe-narcissist ukulahlwa. Nakuba ngokuvamile kubhekwa njengeqhinga lokukhohlisa, ukukhuphuka phezulu kwembula ukwesaba okujulile kwe-narcissist yokulahlekelwa nesizungu.

Okudidayo ukuthi, amanye ama-narcisists akhetha ukushiya ubudlelwano ukuze alondoloze inkohliso yokulawula. Leli su libavumela ukuba bazivikele ebuhlungwini bokushiywa ngokuhola.

Ukunqoba Ukwesaba Ukulahlwa: Inselele Eyinkimbinkimbi

Ukuphulukisa ukwesaba ukulahlwa ku-narcissistic pervert kuyinqubo ende futhi eyinkimbinkimbi. Kudinga ukuqwashisa okujulile kanye nesifiso esiqotho soshintsho, okuyinto ngeshwa eyivelakancane phakathi kwabantu abahlushwa i-pathological narcissism.

Kulabo abahlomule ngokunamathiselwe okunempilo ebuntwaneni, ukunqoba ukwesaba ukulahlwa kungase kufinyeleleke kalula. Kodwa-ke, kumphendukezeli we-narcissistic, lokhu kudinga umsebenzi ojulile wokwelapha kanye nokubuza okuyisisekelo kwamaphethini akhe obudlelwane.

Izindlela zokwelapha zokunciphisa ukwesaba ukulahlwa

1. I-Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Ukukhomba nokuguqula amaphethini wokucabanga nokuziphatha ahlobene nokwesaba ukulahlwa.
2. Ukwelashwa okusekelwe engqondo: Ukuthuthukisa ikhono lokuqonda izimo zengqondo zomuntu siqu nezabanye.
3. I-Schema Therapy: Ukwelapha izikimu ze-maladaptive zakuqala ezisekela i-narcissism kanye nokwesaba ukulahlwa.
4. Zijwayeze ukuzizwela: Ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano obunakekelayo nawe, ngaleyo ndlela unciphise isidingo sokuqinisekisa kwangaphandle.
5. Ukuqaphela: Ukuze ufunde ukuphatha ukukhathazeka kokushiywa futhi uphile esikhathini samanje.
6. Ukwelashwa kweqembu noma ukwelashwa kwemibhangqwana : Ukusebenza ngamakhono okusebenzelana nabantu kanye nozwela endaweni ephephile.

Indlela yokululama inzima futhi idinga ukuzibophezela okujulile. Kubandakanya ukubhekana namanxeba ajulile emizwa kanye nokwakha kabusha isisekelo sokunamathiselwe esivikelekile.

Ireferensi yeBhayibheli ngendikimba ethi “ukwesaba ukulahlwa”

Nazi izikhombo zebhayibheli eziyisikhombisa ezikhuluma ngendikimba yokwesaba ukulahlwa kwe-narcissistic pervert:

1. Miller, J. (2008). Ubuso beqiniso be-narcissism: ukuqonda i-narcissistic pervert. Izinhlobo ze-Eyrolles.
2. U-Simeon, D. & Aboujaoude, E. (2001). I-Narcissism, ukuzethemba, nokwesaba ukulahlwa. I-Journal of Clinical Psychology, 57 (9), 1133-1144.
3. U-Moulin, J. (2012). Ukukhohlisa kwemizwelo: i-narcissistic pervert. Leduc Editions.
4. U-Clerc, M. (2016). I-Narcissistic perverts: qonda futhi wenze. Editions de l’Homme.
5. ULévy, M. (2013). Ukuncika ngokomzwelo: kanjani ukuzikhulula kukho? Izinguqulo ze-la Martinière.
6. Goldberg, G. (2006). I-Narcissism: inganekwane kanye neqiniso. Odile Jacob Editions.
7. U-Friedman, R. (2010). Ubudlelwano obunobuthi: ukugwema isicupho se-narcissistic pervert. Robert Laffont Editions.

Lezi zithenjwa kufanele zikunikeze isiqalo esihle sokuhlola lesi sihloko esiyinkimbinkimbi.

Isiphetho: Ekuqondeni okujulile

Ukwesaba ukulahlwa ku-narcissistic pervert kuyisihluthulelo sokuqonda ubunzima balesi sifo sobuntu. Ngokubona lobu bungozi obuyisisekelo, singathuthukisa umbono ohluke kakhulu ku-pathological narcissism.

Kubantu abasebudlelwaneni ne-narcissist, ukuqonda lokhu kuguquguquka kungasiza ukuzulazula ekuziphatheni kwe-narcissist okudidayo nokuvame ukulimaza. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukugcina imingcele enempilo futhi ubeke phambili inhlalakahle yakho engokomzwelo.

Kuma-narcissists ngokwabo, ukuqaphela lokhu kwesaba ukulahlwa kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekile sokuphulukisa. Nakuba indlela inzima, ngokuzibophezela okuqotho kanye nokwesekwa okufanele kwezokwelapha, kungenzeka ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano obunempilo nokwanelisayo.

Ekugcineni, ukuqonda ukwesaba ukulahlwa kumongo we-narcissism kusikhumbuza inkimbinkimbi yengqondo yomuntu kanye nokubaluleka kozwela, ngisho nalapho sibhekene nokuziphatha okuyinselele kakhulu.