Ubungane be-narcissistic obuhlanekezelwe – Ukubona ubungane obunobuthi

Nakuba izimfanelo zabahlanekezeli be-narcissistic ebunganini zingahlali zisobala ekuqaleni (ungaze ubathole bezidela futhi bethopha), lobu bungane buvame ukuba uhlangothi olulodwa, ukungqubuzana, indawo futhi ngezinye izikhathi kube nolaka. Abangane abangamaNarcissistic bafuna ukudunyiswa njalo, babeka izidingo zabo kuqala, abanalo uzwela, balindele lukhulu kubangane babo, futhi ngokuvamile baqeda ubungane babo lapho bengasabakhonza.

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Ukulawula ubungane – Kuyini?

Umngane we-narcissistic uzibona ephakeme, “ekhethekile” uma eqhathaniswa nabanye. Ukuze alondoloze lesi sikhundla esiphakeme, uvame ukubukela phansi abanye futhi azame ngenkuthalo ukubenza bazizwe bengelutho.

I-NP imvamisa ifuna ukuthi ibe yisizinda sokunakwa futhi izizwa ikhashelwe uma abangani bayo bengalandeli ukuhola noma izinhlelo zayo. Umngane omubi onama-narcissistic uzolindela ukuthi ube nemibono efana neyakhe futhi ungaphikisani. Yilapho-ke ukubamba ubungane kuqala khona. Ngoba, ngokusho kwakhe, kufanele uhlale unemibono efanayo kuzo zonke izifundo.

Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi i-narcissist ivamise ukuba nokuzethemba okuphansi abazama ukukufihla emhlabeni. Lokhu kuzibonakalisa ngobunzima bokwamukela ukugxekwa, ngokuba nomuzwa wokuphoxeka noma ukuhlazeka ngokuphathelene nezici ezithile zomuntu wakhe, ngokuthi ulimele kalula futhi uzizwa enqatshwa kakhulu. Umngane onama-narcissistic ongazibonisi lezi zimpawu ngaphandle angase abonakale njengomuntu ongenamizwa noma ozimele.

Yini i-narcissistic pervert?

I-narcissistic pervert ngumuntu onenkinga yobuntu ebonakala ngokuthi:

• Ukuxhaphaza abanye ngokwengqondo
• Ukuntula uzwela
• Ukuzizwa uphakeme nokuba namandla onke
• Ukusebenzisa abanye ukufeza izinhloso zakho
• Ukushintshana phakathi kokuyenga nokwehliswa kwezisulu zakho

Lo muntu ufuna ukusungula ukubamba ngokwengqondo kwabathandekayo babo, okuvame ukubangela ukukhathazeka, ukungabaza kanye nokuthembela ngokomzwelo ezisulwini zabo.

Ukuziphatha kokuhlanekezela kwe-narcissistic ebunganini – izimpawu ezi-5

Abangane be-Narcissistic bavame ukuba nezinkinga ebudlelwaneni babo kanye nokusebenzisana kwabantu. Lokhu kungase kungabonakali lapho uqala ukuhlangana nabo, njengoba abahlukumezi be-narcissistic basebenzisa amaqhinga, njengokuthi “ thanda amabhomu“, ukuze abonakale ekhanga futhi ebukekayo. Uzothola ukuthi umngane wakho omusha ubonakala ehilelekile, enakisisa, futhi esekela ezigabeni zokuqala zobudlelwano.

Abangane be-Narcissistic bangabonisa izici ezilandelayo ebunganeni:

1. Bafuna ukudunyiswa nokutuswa: Ngenxa yokuthi abazi ukuthi bangaziqinisekisa kanjani noma bathole ukubaluleka kwabo, abangani abangama-narcissistic bafuna, balindele, futhi bafuna ukutuswa nokutuswa ukuze bakhulise ukuzethemba kwabo.
2. Babeka izidingo zabo kuqala: Ngenxa yokuthi abahlukumezi be-narcissistic bazibheka “njengabaphakeme” noma abangcono kunabanye, bavame ukuba matasa ngokuzanelisa kwabo futhi bangabi nozwela ngezidingo zabangane babo.
3. Izingxoxo zihlala zikha phezulu: Ama-NP angase aqale abonwe abangani bawo njengangenalwazi noma ayimfihlo. Eqinisweni, bagcina izingxoxo zikha phezulu ngomzamo wokugwema ukusondelana.
4. Azikho lapho uzidinga ngempela: Ama-Narcissists anobunzima bokubona izidingo zabanye, ukuqonda imizwa yabo, kanye nokunikeza ukuqinisekiswa ngaphandle kwalapho kubonakala kuhlobene noma kunenzuzo kubo siqu.
5. Bacabanga ukuthi isikhathi sakho ngesabo: Abakwa-FN balindele ukuthola abakufunayo futhi ngokuvamile bakholelwa ukuthi bayakweleta noma bafanelwe ukuchitha isikhathi nabangane babo. Angase akufunele ukuba uchithe isikhathi naye, ucasuke, noma uthukuthele ugane unwabu uma ukhansela izinhlelo.

Indlela yokubona ubungane obunobuthi?

Ubungane buyizindlela ezimbili, lapho sinikela khona futhi samukela; kusekelwe ekwethembaneni, ekwethembekeni nasekuzwelaneni. Ngokwencazelo, ama-narcissists antula uzwela futhi awavamile ukwethembeka noma ukwethembeka, ngakho-ke awakwazi ukuba umngane weqiniso. Ngakho-ke nawu umbono wokwazi ukuthi unobungane obunobuthi (ubuhlobo obunobuthi):

• Bangase bakhathaze ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo. Isibonelo, badinga ukuqinisekiswa njalo, bafuna ukunakwa kwakho, bephula imingcele yobungane, bakubeke phansi, njll. ukuze bondle i-narcissistic reserve yabo.
• Abakwazi ukuzibeka endaweni yakho, abazi ukuthi balalela kanjani futhi bakhuluma ngabo kuphela. Angase aphendule ekugxekeni kwakho ngokuthile, “Phenduka, konke kuzolunga.” Ngakho ake ngikutshele mayelana nosuku lwami! »
• Ngokuvamile bazizwa benelungelo, basizakala ngawe, futhi balindele izinto ezingenangqondo. Isibonelo, badinga isevisi “ephuthumayo” futhi balindele ukuthi ulahle yonke into ukuze ubasize.
• Abakuthathi kahle ukugxekwa. Esikhundleni salokho, bavame ukukuvulela futhi basho into efana nokuthi, “Usho ukuthini ukuthi ngidinga ukuthuthukisa amakhono ami okubhala? Ngicabanga ukuthi uyaphrojusa! »
• Umuntu angase athukuthele noma athukuthele lapho ekhungathekile. Lokhu kuvame ukwenzeka lapho bengakutholi abakufunayo noma lapho bethola ukulimala kwe-narcissistic.

Ireferensi yezincwadi zobungane nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic

Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibheli ngendikimba yobungane obunobuthi:

1. Gérard, A. (2018). Ubudlelwano obunobuthi: Ukuqonda nokuzikhulula ebunganeni obuyingozi. EParis: Editions L’Harmattan.
2. Bouchard, S., & Boulanger, A. (2019). I-Psychology yobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu. I-Montreal: I-Press de l’Université du Québec.
3. Dupont, M. (2020). Ubungane obunobuthi: Lapho omunye uba umthwalo. Lyon: Éditions Eyrolles.
4. U-Bélanger, L., & Gagnon, M. (2021). Impilo yengqondo nobudlelwano bomphakathi: Iqhaza lobungane obunempilo nobunobuthi. Ijenali yeSocial Psychology, 36(2), 45-62.
5. Laforge, L. (2022). Ubungane nokuncika ngokomzwelo: Lapho ubudlelwano buba nobuthi. EParis: Editions Odile Jacob.
6. Martinez, C. (2021). Ubungane obunobuthi: Ungazikhulula kanjani kubo? I-Psychologies Magazine, 66(3), 34-38.
7. Perrot, C. (2023). Umthelela wobungane obunobuthi enhlalakahleni engokwengqondo. Ijenali ye-Clinical Psychology, 40(1), 12-25.

Lezi zithenjwa zizokunikeza isiqalo esihle sokuhlola isihloko sobungane obunobuthi ngezindlela ezahlukene.

Ubungane Nempetha YeNarcissistic – Ingabe Kungenzeka Ukuphuma Kubo?

Ukuba nomngane omubi we-narcissistic kungaba into ekhohlisayo futhi ngokuvamile kungabangela izinkinga empilweni yakho yomuntu siqu nasenhlalakahleni yakho. Kubalulekile ukuhlonza izimpawu zomngane we-narcissistic ukuze ubhekane nalezi zinkinga zokuziphatha. Lesi isinyathelo sokuqala sokuthuthukisa amakhono afanele okuphatha i-narcissism yomuntu, okuhlanganisa ukuhlela kabusha ubudlelwano bakho, izinhlobo ezahlukene zokuzinakekela kanye nokumodela ukuziphatha okunempilo, kanye nokufuna usizo lochwepheshe.

Khumbula ukuthi unakho ukukhetha nokuthi kunezindlela ezinempilo zokuqhubekela phambili, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unquma ukuqhubeka nobungane noma cha.